Damn…this is also a damn good way for us men to treat yall women. Good stuff.

All I gotta say is…our attitudes towards each other are killing us. Women and men are competing to see who is the most “white collar/corporate” person. I know this won’t be easy to communicate to folks that won’t examine themselves…everybody with a degree has a need to live like “educated African Americans”. And there is no foundation to the class they’re trying to belong to. Bottom line…it’s based on trying to be white…you want the american dream…and it is not a reality. This lifestyle that so many desire is based on lies, deception, and manipulation. And you can’t stop that corporate bullshat from spilling over into your personal life. You want me to use “proper” english and 30 seconds into the conversation…you ask…”and what do you do”? Come on lady…can we laugh at something first? Yeah…I got two degrees and a good job…but we ain’t about to start paying each other’s bills? WTF?

Anyway…been through the whole black woman spectrum. From high school drop outs to phd’s. Honestly…no really…all bullshit aside…some of yall “educated” sisters need to pay attention to your working class sisters. The majority of them do not have the same issues that you have…AND they do not allow themselves to be disrespected. They do shat becasue they enjoy doing it…and they don’t feel “pressure” to get behind some damm american dream. Hell…they left corporate america to get rid of that stress. (I’m on my way out this batch too come June) They are having a ball and want to laugh uncontrollably…know exactly where to find the strongest cheapest drinks and gooood food…they are in the gym…they are fine as hell…and they don’t give a damn about a stranger’s resume and how much money he makes. They are too concerned with enjoying life to be worried about that. I’m getting pissed off the more I type…and I’m scared to listen to old girl responsible for this topic…i might come back and act a damm monkey.

Perhaps some of the problems these women have is not realizing when they have a good man.

A good man may be between jobs.
Translation: He can hang in there when things get tough, and will support you when one day you are between jobs.

A good man may have had a previous relationship that resulted in a few kids that he loves to death and would move the Earth for.
Translation: He will love the kids you have or the kids you will have.

A good man may have a little baggage.
Translation: He can accept your baggage and you can help each other move forward from that baggage.

A good man may not look like Idris.
Translation: When he looks at you and you know he loves you and would do anything for you….He will look better than Idris.

A good man may not be perfect….
Translation: YOU ARE NOT PERFECT!!!!

Morale of this post….
YOUR ASS IS NOT PERFECT!

How do I know?
I am divorced, have a few extra pounds to lose, did not finish my degree (working on it online after work) have three children (one from my first serious relationship, two from my marriage) and have my share of baggage. I love the black man with my heart and soul. I have a good man!
My man loves and care for my kids like his own. He loves, respects and cares for me like I am his world. I love him for all of this and I treat him like a king. I am loving, considerate, and enjoy cooking. I am attentive to the needs of my man simply because I love him and want him to be happy. I AM DEFINITELY NOT PERFECT and I knew this….so, I never expected my man to be perfect.

*getting of my soapbox now, sorry if I was rambling, thanks for listening*

I’ve actually stopped speaking to a friend of mine because of this attitude because it carried into our friendship.

and one on 20 reasons Black women avoid interracial dating: http://crazygirlnation.com/2009/12/why-black-women-avoid-interracial-dating/

no disrespect fam – I was really tryin to add to the convo. thanks for the welcome.