Comment courtesy of Ana B from the Vindication post:
“somebody (a man) once told me “Stroke a man’s d*ck you have him for the night, Stroke his ego and you have him for life” I have found this to be true, even with the men that I have not been physically involved with. It truly is all about EGO”
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No time like the present to share some truth and dispel some non-sense. Thanks Ana for the inspiration.
The male ego is a monster, similar to Thing from the Fantastic Four. Our ego makes us largely hardcore on the outside and conflicted and emotional on the inside.
True.
And what of the female ego? Well, that’s an 8-headed hydra that spits venom and eats midget children and poodles. It appears out of nowhere and then retreats into the night as quickly as it came, leaving a trail of destruction rivaled only by the government’s cockup in the wake of Hurricane Katrina…plus the Tuskegee Experiment.
I think that about sums it up.
I’ve always found it funny that women constantly refer to the male ego. Now sometimes it’s men’s fault. See comment above. And that’s well and good but if you want to see an actual fragile ego, just tell a woman “no” when she wants some stickball.
Actually, I don’t recommend it.
And why wouldn’t I recommend it? Good question.
Women are insane and a rejected woman really doesn’t know what the hell just happened to her, causing her to act out…insanely. You see, a woman’s guile and sexuality are her power, and she knows this. According to one of Aesop’s Unpublished Fables and her mama, “no man can resist the power of the woman.” So if a man rejects a woman’s sexual advances (which let’s face it, isn’t normal), women are forced into unfamiliar territory causing all kinds of trouble. Trust me. I’ve seen it.
I’ve said “no” to a woman who hadn’t earned the right to rip the runway. Her face morphed into an ugly version of Grace Jones. Of course, she then proceeded to tell me that I was gay and wasn’t ready for her while managing to gloss over the fact that she looked like a hyena.
See, even ugly heffas have fragile egos and they shouldn’t even have expectations in life. Bottom line is that the male ego may be fragile, but we’ve had practice in rejection so we learn to adjust. Men don’t like hearing “no” but its just part of the game to us. We like the chase anyway. The female ego on the other hand hasn’t had so much practice, rendering it worse and more easily afflicted with b*tcha*sness.
And like Puffy says, there’s no room for b*tcha*sness around here.
It was written.
-PANAMA
I just want you to know…I got your back for the impending onslaught….
You can’t write about the fragile female ego all the while throwing body blows and headbutts at it!!
Still and yet though, I ummmm….*ahem*….agree…with every single word!!!
*ducks for cover*
yeah killa, i’m anxiously awaiting the responses with this. it feels like christmas eve and shit
Panama is right! We as women feel that our sexuality is our power and if a man rejects us sexually then we feel like “WTF just happened???”, “Is this Negro gay, an alien or just crazy”, but at the same time we know that we can get another man to accept our sexual advances, so our ego may be hurt, but not for too long.
I don’t know about that “not for too long thing.” I got a chick I rejected years ago that still takes jabs at me for saying no. Not that she’s any longer interested it’s just that her pride is still holding on to the fact that a man actually said “no” to her.
I had to chime in on this, and reluctantly agree with P (as I’m sitting on an estrogen sensitive time-bomb!) that once you hit them {women} with the one syllable “N” word, especially when they just KNOW they are undeniable, the pain is like a throbbing inflamation in the tonsils…you can’t see it…but you KNOW it’s there! Cuz it’s so hard too….ahem….swallow LOOK see!
love the pun… LMAO!
*flips hair*
I wouldnt know. ha!
No.. honestly, I wouldnt know. Most women tend to wait for visual signs of reciprocation before making a move. We also tend to do most of the choosing. I haven’t really gotten my ego shot down like that yet, because I just kind of accept.
Male ego is tender because men spend their entire lives struggling to uphold a universal image. Male ego is especially tender when they have insecurities they don’t allow themselves to confront.
Women are ALWAYS forced to confront their insecurities. Matter fact, most traits that are “female” are simply traits OF insecurity — proven when said bitchassness reveals itself in the men we date. (The traits that make a man quick to be called “bitch.” Any woman that’s been in the dominant role of a relationship will agree to this.) I can see why most men view the most women as one huge ego trip, because most women are raised insecure. It’s not really our faults.
We’re used to not being allowed to have an ego. While our ego is universally fragile in concentrated sectors — our sexuality, for instance — the male ego is an all-encompassing presence. Every day they’re faced with a standard, and every day they suppress “feminine” methods of self-confrontation so they can’t break free of their insecurities.
And you guys may deny it all you want
But every woman knows
that the BEST WAY to keep a man
is to continue to let him FEEL like a man.
It’s usually done in secret. But we let you get away with a lot of shit, because we love you.
Sorry, left one part out
Because if we dont, it’s so important to them that they will go to someone else to reclaim it.
“…we let you get away with a lot of shit, because we love you.”
That is complete truth if I’ve ever read it.
That goes both way toots.
I second that: “…we let you get away with a lot of shit, because we love you”. PREACH!
Yes, women do have strong egos…but a lot of us won’t show you just how bruised our egos are when “rejected”.
panama that is really your picture
I ain’t saying it is, but I ain’t saying it ain’t.
Hahahaha I hope it is. I heart it. Nice chain.
Male ego, female ego… The ONLY difference between the two is that society promotes one over the other.
It’s thanks to societal conditioning that
“… a woman’s guile and sexuality are her power, and she knows [actually, I'd argue, has been taught] this.
…So if a man rejects a woman’s sexual advances (which let’s face it, isn’t normal [or so we've been taught]), women are forced into unfamiliar territory causing all kinds of trouble.”
To say that women have no practice of rejection is a joke, right…? Like Ana said, “We’re used to not being allowed to have an ego” unless, of course, it comes to sex. And even then, it’s quite easily used against us… Girls and women through the ages have been called all variations on the word ‘whore’ for even daring to give in to her ‘ego’ in any situation deemed inappropriate by wider society.
So yes, when it comes to sex, the only realm in which we’re made to believe we have the power, the withholding or refusal of it tends to leave us feeling rejected. I mean, shit, take that away, and what the hell have we got…!!??
And even though I’m not one myself, I’m pretty certain that even “ugly heffers” have egos too.
I think women get plenty of practice with rejection in life, just not sexually b/c like Jess said, most women are doing the choosing anyway. Short of a crime, very rarely is a man saying I’m going to sleep with you and it comes to fruition all willy nilly.
That lends credence to my point. Because women do the choosing they’re usually going off two assumptions: 1) the man won’t say no; and 2) the man actually is interested in her. When a woman chooses a man for which to show her special places and he says “no, i’m good”, it’s a slap in the face to her sexuality and her logic. She’s let down her guard for this fellow and he’d rather watch Oprah. Dare I say that it’s embarassing?
For men, there’s no real calculus there. We want, y’all don’t. LOL. We keep trying and you keep shooting us down. It’s the order of things. Only thru perserverance do we get to see your nether regions usually. So we’re used to it.
“Girls and women through the ages have been called all variations on the word ‘whore’ for even daring to give in to her ‘ego’ in any situation deemed inappropriate by wider society.”
Not only that, but god forbid we take that ego out of our vaginas and into our appearances or our assets, both sexes — especially women — will be quick to put her “in her place” for being vain, cocky, bougie, etc. And let’s forget what happens if we SHOW our pride in our pussies. Show our pride in game. Men immediately narrow their eyes at you with a new interest, and you shift into an oversexual being. It’s hard.
Women give everything they have in the beginning. Sex is rarely a conquest or a simple need to spill the urge as it is an acceptance or invasion into our worlds. Most, if not all, of the women I know have learned to hold onto their guard as tightly as they could. Is ego and protection/self-preservation the same thing (for both sexes)?
oh, i’m 100 percent certain that ugly heffas have egos too. i blame jim jones and reagan for this.
I can co-sign. Ugly heffas have egos. But I blame men who will climb on top of just about anything human and female.
Egos of ugly heffas stem from insecurity. The more insecure, the more tender the ego…
often times, ugly heffas have the worst egos. especially when it comes to any type of sexual events. i’m going to assume its because all they ever get is just ass, since few would wife out a bootleg version of grace jones….
and to think all this time i thought keeping a man’s stomach full and balls empty was how you had him for life.
woe is me
Ugly, FAT heffas have the WORST egos.
TRUE, TRUE & TRUE! Fat & ugly chicks are usually the most agressive ones out there and the most vocal when they get turned down!
“And that’s well and good but if you want to see an actual fragile ego, just tell a woman “no” when she wants some stickball.
Actually, I don’t recommend it.”
WOW. Too true. Just last night I was out with this chick, hanging with friends at the bar. She asked for a kiss on the cheeck and I said no, just to erouse a reaction. She basically didn’t speak to me the rest of the night.
JH-thats because you have a godly ego…and i can sooooo see you doing something just to piss a piece of chocha off
You know I understand that UFH’s (Ugly Fat Heffas) have no other choice but to have inflated egos. Their egos are probably carefully contrived in an effort to over compensate for their Ugly-Fat-Heffaness. I get that… but it is still difficult to swallow seeing a UFH who looks like Quasimodo but is strutting like she just stepped off the set of the “Excuse me miss” video.
I once was rejected by a UFH (although I wasn’t trying to kick it to her). She dropped her phone on the floor of a club and I tapped her arm to let her know. This walrus had the audacity to yank her arm away and attitudinally scream out “No!” (just that one word) and briskly took off dragging her Ugly Fat wing-heffa (the UFH version of a wingman) with her. So, I kicked her phone. But, from that day forth I have carried the burden of this awful memory. UFH’s, I HATE YOU! *one tear falls*
Thank you for providing me with laughter this Wednesday morning. I am dying laughing because you kicked her phone. Can’t say I blame you.
Thanks Queen. I’m glad you understand me. I thought it may have been a bit childish but…I had to do something.
LOL! UFH??!! I’m using that from today going forward if you don’t mind. Did you actually kick the phone?
Yes, kicked it real good, too. UFH is all your’s. Lol
LMAO!!!! You kicked her phone at her….
She deserved to have her phone kicked!!! I needed that laugh this morning.
This walrus had the audacity to yank her arm away and attitudinally scream out “No!” (just that one word)
Oh Shit, my mascara is fucked up…I just pictured that shit
“No!”
LMao