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Guest Blog: A Job Ain’t Nothin’ But Work.

**Admin. note:  Today,  Harold Clemens from Ghetto Uprising, is going to take over for the Panamanian one.  Make sure you go check out his spot. Enjoy. **

Anyone else notice getting a job is alot like getting some ass?

When you’re young, you hit the mall or whatever nearby shopping center and pass out your “application” to whomever will take it.  You’d like to “work” somewhere nice, but you don’t really care that much who “employs” you as long as you “get paid.”  Your presentation is awkward and you don’t really know what you’re supposed to say to impress your audience, but you hope you’ll get lucky because it seems like everyone else has found work. On top of that, you’re getting older now, so it’s about time you “worked.”

As you gain maturity and “work experience,” you get more selective about whom you’ll apply with.  You won’t just “do anything” or maybe you will, but if you do something below your standards, you never intend to stay with it long.  And if you do stay with it too long, ya ass is sad and frustrated telling yourself, “I could be doing better than this shit.  I shouldn’t have even fugged with this.  I’m finna leave soon as…”

Assuming you stick and move right and don’t get stuck in such a “working relationship” that you can’t stand, by the time you reach early adulthood, you know how the game works a lil better.  By now you’ve realized that meeting “employers” in intimate spaces like school, cookouts, get-togethers, socials, conventions, and conferences is really how you “get in.”  Sharing mutual acquaintances or being a part of some network also helps big.  You understand that the picky employers screen their candidates, so gatherings like these put you in an exclusive pool by default.  Randomly passing your number on to a stranger without any prior connection is for losers or the lucky.

Once a grown man, you’re pretty certain where you want to “put in your labor.”  You’ve had enough jobs that you’ve left either amicably or in turmoil that you know the prizes and pitfalls of working with different types of people.  And, now, since you feel a bit confident about what you’re worth, you’re not desperate.  You search for jobs online and send your “resume’” to those you’d like to toil for, or you attend specific events where potential hires and “staffers” go to meet.

If you gain someone’s initial interest, you get excited at the prospect of an “interview.”  You, sometimes literally, pray to get the chance to impress the employer one-on-one in a more personal setting than a noisy room or from behind a computer screen.  Jah know when you get a call to “set a date” later in the week (or month or two), ya ass is runnin’ around tellin’ all your friends that you might “got something.”

If you’re in the opposite position and never hear back from the company, you wonder what was wrong with your approach, spiel, credentials, etc. and what the cat who got the job must look/be like.  If you go too long without getting any calls, you start to feel like a loser; like nobody likes you.  You begin to feel young and desperate and resolve that you’ll take whomever comes along first.

Returning to the original scenario though: suppose you do get an interview.  You’re nervous as hell the night before and might sleep uneasily.  The morning of the big day, you get fresh to deff in your best fits and anxiously leave the house.  If you suspect you might be late, you dang near sh%t your pants on the drive there for fear the interviewer will write you off on sheer tardiness.  Everyone knows tardy nickas ain’t that serious.

*Phew* You arrive just on time.  They’re not even ready for you yet (as usually is the case, you’ve learned.)  While waiting, you pray you don’t fugg this up.  You try to prepare for whatever questions will be asked.  You plan to be honest because you have principles and demands in adulthood, but it’s still game.  It’s still delivery.  You still have to “tell ‘em what they wanna hear” to some degree.

During the actual interview, you smile, feign to be heavily engrossed in the conversation, and laugh nervously when appropriate.  You mask or downplay your weaknesses well and play up your strengths.  Even though this may not be “the one,” you want the option.  You’re far more amicable and gregarious than you usually are.  You even try to show off your intellect when you have opportunities too.

The minute you leave the venue you begin to wonder what the employer thought of you and what impression you made.  Could you really “get it”?  If you’re confident, you grin and congratulate yourself, “It’s just a matter of time.”  You expect a call soon inviting you “on board.”   If you sense you didn’t do too well, you soothe yourself by saying, “Something else will come along.”  You cheer yourself up however you can.  Weed, alcohol, or flirting with another less attractive (sometimes ex) employer often helps. You’ll get back on the grind as soon as you can.  You’ll “be aight.”

Every time your phone rings you hope it’s good news.  If too much time elapses and it becomes evident that you’re not going to be invited back, you go through the obligatory rejected, defensive tirade: “Fugg them!  I ain’t like ‘em that much no way.  They got better issh out there.”

If “the call” does come, you nod your head proudly and strut like a mack, “I’m bout to get it!”  If you’re used to getting such calls, you’re not that excited, but happy nonetheless.  Your ego is well stroked.  You might be impatient though if the call is for a “second interview” instead of the actual “position”: “Sh%t, this better be it.  Not going through all that twice for nothing.  Fugg that!  I better get it after all this.”

Luckily, you’re usually right, but when you’re wrong, you reason that the company is on some next sh%t anyway or maybe the other cat, who you know exists but isn’t spoken of, fits their tastes just a lil better than you.  It’s disappointing, but you can live with that.  If you made it that far, someone else is sure to like you soon.

And on the rare occasions when you breeze through two interviews, when you get a call to third, you don’t even want the dang job no more: “Frontin’ ass ain’t even that hot!  You know you like me!”


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  • http://myspace...iguess An Uninspired Muse


    You get some serious props for carrying the whole “job” aspect all the way to the end.

    • shatani

      @An Uninspired Muse,

      i agree! way to hold a metaphor!

  • iloVEGrits

    Second! lol.

    I’ve always thought that jobs were like relationships: you want one but often, when you get one, you ask yourself “what the hell am I doing?”

    I’ve had a lot of relationships and a lot of jobs. I’ve had career successes and engagements. But something that a much admired co-worker told me a couple of years ago sticks in my mind: “You treat men and jobs just the same. You flit back and forth, going on to the next challenge as soon as you can. One day the time will come when you realize you need to stick to something.” Paraphrasing, of course.

    She was right…I do flit back and forth – with one exception, in both the job world and relationship world, 2 years is my limit (in both, I have a four year stick to it record) and despite the job hopping, I am still “desirable” to both potential mates and potential employers. I have, I think, a special talent that allows me to learn just enough so that I can move on to the next ‘big’ thing…and the next ‘assignment’ is always better.

    I am waiting for the day that I feel comfortable and secure enough to stick with both.

    • Pretty Please


      “I’ve always thought that jobs were like relationships: you want one but often, when you get one, you ask yourself “what the hell am I doing?””

      Word to muvva!

    • Ms. Sula


      My longest track time at a company has been 2 years and a half to date… I’m always moving to something better and more challenging….

      But like your coworker says (and my daddy too), one day I’ll have to anchor somewhere… just not now! :)

  • superwoman

    welcome, harold! and thanx for a hilarious, on point blog!! i’m off to check out ghettouprising now..

  • maximillian

    I get this.

    But why is it almost always easier to find a new job when you have one? Is “unemployed” synonymous with “undesirable”?

    • Cornell Westside


      “But why is it almost always easier to find a new job when you have one? Is “unemployed” synonymous with “undesirable”?”

      when you’re “gainfully employed” your essence of “job security” is sensed by the “employer” making them think that you must be a good “employee” and thus, they will further inquire

      • ESQuared

        @Cornell Westside, Thats absolutely correct. The other truth to it is your not pressed. Its really easy to be calm and composed when you have nothing to loose. Your not taken over with that initial nervousness, so you can kind of play the subitlely aloof “wow he has it all together” type.

        • Toussaintthefree


          I agree; do to the fact that I’m currently “unemployed” and when an “employer” ask for my “availblity”, I feel like lying because they will put an offer on the table(a**) quicker if I had a job already!

          • Cornell Westside


            as backwards as it sounds, even though I’m currently unemployed, i tell potential employers that i’m happily employed. i usually get a job offer shortly afterwards…clockwork.

            • Ms. Sula

              @Cornell Westside,

              And I did that too. It’s working with what works. :)

      • CreoleInDC

        @Cornell Westside,

        I just wanted to say to you that I think your name is the BEST.NAME.EVER! ROFL!

  • N.I.A. fabuloussinceconception….

    Welcome Harold!! :) I checked out your blog, and it’s really good stuff!

  • Dope Fiend

    Its the same as when dudes flock to you like cooked food when you have a man. B0ut when you don’t.

    Boy! Aint no one even glancing your way.

    • WuDaMan

      @Dope Fiend,

      Bandwaggon theory…

  • Dom

    This was funy and true! Great Post!

  • Saule Wright

    “It’s funny cause it’s true!”

    • Lili

      @Saule Wright,
      lol, Family Guy?

      • Saule Wright


        *looks around*
        DON’T JUDGE ME

      • shatani


        the simpsons

  • Blue Skyez

    when you’re “gainfully employed” your essence of “job security” is sensed by the “employer” making them think that you must be a good “employee” and thus, they will further inquire

    Junk is unfair.

  • Monk

    Great analogy and very much on point.