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four completely practical and non-racist reasons why i never have and most likely never will date a white woman

this was so unexpected, jamal. how did you know i always wanted the 'good times' dvd boxset?
this was so unexpected, jamal. how did you know i always wanted the ‘good times’ dvd boxset?

6.  as of monday, november 30th, 2009, i’ve officially filed “since i’m not a billionaire, i don’t think i’d have any chance of getting the benefit of the doubt if any random legal mess occurred” as reason #137 on the champ’s list of “137 completely practical and non-racist reasons why i never have and most likely never will date a white woman

—the last random thought listed in yesterdays ‘six things i’ve thought about tiger woods, elin nordegren, and golfgate’.

although the tone of my writing might occasionally paint a different picture, i actually don’t dislike white women at all, and i really appreciate a few of their unique talents.

they gave us natalie portman and the best teacher i ever had (r.i.p., sister roberta). they also usually make for great senators, copy-editors, and baristas, and no one is better at running “corporate game” (the ability to use office politics and mores to their benefit) than a professional white woman. in fact, some of my best friends have friends who know people who have married them.

despite this, i wasn’t using any hyperbole yesterday when i mentioned having “137 completely practical and non-racist reasons why i never have and most likely never will date one”. although actually having 137 reasons why you havent dated someone of a different race seemingly contradicts the whole “non-racist” thing, this list is comprised of more personal quirks and odd idiosyncrasies than anything else

while time and space and liz prevent me from naming all 137, i’ve decided to share four of them today.

reason #37: i’m a context snob

everybody is allowed at least one somewhat shallow relationship deal-breaker. for me, it’s a woman not understanding certain simple pop cultural references and allusions, because that forces me to either always provide context or just completely shutter like 40 percent of my daily lexicon

since this is true, i can’t even imagine how turned off i’d be if i always had to explain why i never learned how to swim or why none of us know the second verse of “lift ev’ry voice and sing” or why grape kool-aid goes better with steak and fries than red. 

reason #71: the approaching conundrum, part 1

a bi-product of my belief that women shouldn’t romantically pursue men is the dozens of “random things to say to spark interest” bagging techniques i’ve picked up over the years.

thing is, these techniques were learned through 15-18 years of exclusively approaching sistas, and i’m not sure how well they would translate. i mean, how would tried and true conversation starters like “damn. that dress really complements your skin” or “hey, didnt i see you on the alpha boat ride last month?” or “f*ck beyonce” work with a white woman? i’d have absolutely nothing left to say

but, what if an attractive white woman actually approaches you?“, i hear you asking, a question that leads us to…

reason #72: the approaching conundrum, part 2

from what i’ve seen, the type of white woman who is bold enough to publicly approach and romantically pursue a black man usually isn’t attracted to black guys like me. while i’m plenty pretty and definitely black, they tend to go for guys who are either a bit “blacker” (ie: cent, 50 or jackson, panama), or prettier (ie: moore, shemar or williams, wendy)

reason #106: i can be a bit of an over-neurotic b*tch

basically, if you’re the type of guy who’d stress about giving your seat on the bus to a standing young white woman because you didn’t want to rest of the predominately black bus to think that you were a “only giving seats to pretty white women ass” n*gga, publicly dating and sporting one probably isn’t the best idea for you

anyway, people of vsb, we’ve talked before about interracial dating and whether we’ve done it, are currently doing it, or wouldn’t mind eventually doing it, but we’ve never really explored the why.

im curious: what has shaped your personal feelings regarding interracial couplings, and why exactly do you feel that way?

we’re all family and sh*t. don’t be scared to share

—the champ

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't.

  • http://www.twitter.com/Bryant_the_HNIC Bwill

    O_O Alpha boat rides!? #wheredeydodatat….Somebody sign a brotha up

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Bwill,

      i thought the yearly alpha boat ride was a ubiquitous event. who knew?

      welcome and sh*t, btw

      • http://cookinwitgrease.com chasdizz

        @The Champ,
        in my neck of the woods it’s a kappa boat ride. interesting….

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @chasdizz, where i live the drug dealers do the big one in honor of Rayful Edmonds.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @chasdizz, where i live the drug dealers do the big one in honor of Rayful Edmonds.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @chasdizz, where i live the drug dealers do the big one in honor of Rayful Edmunds.

          • Me fail english?

            @Panama Jackson,

            lol. ghetto ass…

          • Me fail english?

            @Panama Jackson,

            lol. ghetto ass…

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @chasdizz, where i live the drug dealers do the big one in honor of Rayful Edmunds.

        • http://musicmakesmehigh.wordpress.com Reecie

          @chasdizz, and where I’m from its the Que Boat Ride. lol.

        • http://musicmakesmehigh.wordpress.com Reecie

          @chasdizz, and where I’m from its the Que Boat Ride. lol.

      • http://cookinwitgrease.com chasdizz

        @The Champ,
        in my neck of the woods it’s a kappa boat ride. interesting….

      • Me fail english?

        @The Champ,

        I’m still tryna figure out how the Alpha boat ride always manages a 15:1 female:male ratio. Are there any actual Alphas on the boats?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Me fail english?,

          ive never actually been on one, so i dont know. but, considering the usual male/female ratios at other black greek events ive been at, its not surprising

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Me fail english?,

          ive never actually been on one, so i dont know. but, considering the usual male/female ratios at other black greek events ive been at, its not surprising

      • Me fail english?

        @The Champ,

        I’m still tryna figure out how the Alpha boat ride always manages a 15:1 female:male ratio. Are there any actual Alphas on the boats?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Bwill,

      i thought the yearly alpha boat ride was a ubiquitous event. who knew?

      welcome and sh*t, btw

    • Caballeroso

      @Bwill,

      When I was on the yard @ SU in Baton Rouge, we did an Alpha boat ride together with the AKA’s to honor our newly crowned Ms. Black & Gold. Don’t know if this phenomenon still occurs or not.

      • ComicBookGuy

        @Caballeroso,

        What up, 6? An Alpha boat ride sounds like a joyous occasion.

        • Caballeroso

          @ComicBookGuy,

          Indeed, 6. Indeed!

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            @Caballeroso,

            hey, there will be no “inside lingo that the champ doesnt understand” on vsb

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            @Caballeroso,

            hey, there will be no “inside lingo that the champ doesnt understand” on vsb

          • ComicBookGuy

            @The Champ,

            LOL

          • ComicBookGuy

            @The Champ,

            LOL

        • Caballeroso

          @ComicBookGuy,

          Indeed, 6. Indeed!

      • ComicBookGuy

        @Caballeroso,

        What up, 6? An Alpha boat ride sounds like a joyous occasion.

    • Caballeroso

      @Bwill,

      When I was on the yard @ SU in Baton Rouge, we did an Alpha boat ride together with the AKA’s to honor our newly crowned Ms. Black & Gold. Don’t know if this phenomenon still occurs or not.

  • http://www.twitter.com/Bryant_the_HNIC Bwill

    O_O Alpha boat rides!? #wheredeydodatat….Somebody sign a brotha up

  • http://thismayconcernyou.com thismayconcernyou

    Reason No. 37 is all-encompassing.

    I can’t spend my life trying to catch someone up on what I’ve spent my life learning. That’s like trying to teach a woman who doesn’t know who Tom Brady is about football. No can do.

    And I’m glad I’m not the only one who believes Wendy Williams is a man.

    • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com selah

      @thismayconcernyou,

      Who doesn’t believe that? lol

      • bittersweet’s baby

        @selah,

        I was bout to say! She points the fanga at errybody else, but she’s 99.9% ‘How u doin'” her d@mn self…

        • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com selah

          @bittersweet’s baby,

          okay!? I won’t be surprised if the truff comes out in a few years. lol

        • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com selah

          @bittersweet’s baby,

          okay!? I won’t be surprised if the truff comes out in a few years. lol

      • bittersweet’s baby

        @selah,

        I was bout to say! She points the fanga at errybody else, but she’s 99.9% ‘How u doin'” her d@mn self…

      • http://www.sistersoundoff.blogspot.com Cheekie

        @selah,

        “Who doesn’t believe that? lol”

        LMFAO. I betcha even Wendy believes it! I bet my last red Skittle that she done accidentally walked into the men’s bathroom at least once.

      • http://www.sistersoundoff.blogspot.com Cheekie

        @selah,

        “Who doesn’t believe that? lol”

        LMFAO. I betcha even Wendy believes it! I bet my last red Skittle that she done accidentally walked into the men’s bathroom at least once.

    • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com selah

      @thismayconcernyou,

      Who doesn’t believe that? lol

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @thismayconcernyou, I can’t spend my life trying to catch someone up on what I’ve spent my life learning. That’s like trying to teach a woman who doesn’t know who Tom Brady is about football. No can do.

      i kind of wonder if you all aren’t just talking about the whites of white people, like sarah palin white. i think some of the current pop culture stuff is as common as we think. i know just as many white folks watching the wire as black folks. now, if you’re talking coming to america, then yeah. but chances are, the becky’s who dont know that would end up dating a square ass black cat anyway.

      seems to me that the kind of white chicks most black dudes end up dating (well the ones i’m familiar with, trophyism aside) know all the black stuff too. then again, i’m from the south where we all eat the same collard greens and hogmaws.

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        “then again, i’m from the south where we all eat the same collard greens and hogmaws.”

        Don’t forget the cornbread.

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        “then again, i’m from the south where we all eat the same collard greens and hogmaws.”

        Don’t forget the cornbread.

      • V Renee

        @Panama Jackson,

        if you’re talking coming to america, then yeah. .

        My boss quotes Coming to America TO ME. He’s as white as they come. It cracks me up every.single.time.

      • V Renee

        @Panama Jackson,

        if you’re talking coming to america, then yeah. .

        My boss quotes Coming to America TO ME. He’s as white as they come. It cracks me up every.single.time.

      • Sula

        @Panama Jackson,

        Agreed.

        Reason #37 will work for any woman not raised in America… even a Black American not raised in America (I have a friend like that. :))

      • Sula

        @Panama Jackson,

        Agreed.

        Reason #37 will work for any woman not raised in America… even a Black American not raised in America (I have a friend like that. :))

      • Scipio Africanus

        @Panama Jackson,

        The standard I always use is this: if we get seated by the kicthen at a restaurant, and I make my usual, tired, yet favorite thinking-out-loud crack that “they’re seating us in the Rosa Parks section again, I see”, and she doesn’t really get it instantly, then that’s too much of a gap for me.

        Check that.

        It’s too much of a gap for me if she’s black – she was raised around no black people other than her family, she’s adopted, etc.

        Thinking about it a little more, I don’t think I’d expect a non-black-American woman to get my little inside blackety-black references.

      • Scipio Africanus

        @Panama Jackson,

        The standard I always use is this: if we get seated by the kicthen at a restaurant, and I make my usual, tired, yet favorite thinking-out-loud crack that “they’re seating us in the Rosa Parks section again, I see”, and she doesn’t really get it instantly, then that’s too much of a gap for me.

        Check that.

        It’s too much of a gap for me if she’s black – she was raised around no black people other than her family, she’s adopted, etc.

        Thinking about it a little more, I don’t think I’d expect a non-black-American woman to get my little inside blackety-black references.

      • E

        seems to me that the kind of white chicks most black dudes end up dating (well the ones i’m familiar with, trophyism aside) know all the black stuff too.

        I was interested to read this post. I’m a White woman so I was curious to see your reasons to be apprehensive to date a woman outside of your race. I agree with what Panama said above. I’ve dated outside of my race moreso than I have dated in it and, although I’ve run into a few uncomfortable issues, I haven’t had any real significant problems with it. I, however, along with my friends wouldny describe myself as a typical “Becky” anyway. I obviously don’t know about all of the “Black stuff” as Panama calls it but I know enough to make dating a man outside of my race less difficult.. (and I found it funny that you mentioned the Alpha boat ride because I happen to be a memeber of the NPHC so if I WAS ever approached with that line, I’d have some clue about what you were talking about)

        Anyway nice post, just thought I’d share my 22 cents! ;-)

      • E

        seems to me that the kind of white chicks most black dudes end up dating (well the ones i’m familiar with, trophyism aside) know all the black stuff too.

        I was interested to read this post. I’m a White woman so I was curious to see your reasons to be apprehensive to date a woman outside of your race. I agree with what Panama said above. I’ve dated outside of my race moreso than I have dated in it and, although I’ve run into a few uncomfortable issues, I haven’t had any real significant problems with it. I, however, along with my friends wouldny describe myself as a typical “Becky” anyway. I obviously don’t know about all of the “Black stuff” as Panama calls it but I know enough to make dating a man outside of my race less difficult.. (and I found it funny that you mentioned the Alpha boat ride because I happen to be a memeber of the NPHC so if I WAS ever approached with that line, I’d have some clue about what you were talking about)

        Anyway nice post, just thought I’d share my 22 cents! ;-)

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @thismayconcernyou, I can’t spend my life trying to catch someone up on what I’ve spent my life learning. That’s like trying to teach a woman who doesn’t know who Tom Brady is about football. No can do.

      i kind of wonder if you all aren’t just talking about the whites of white people, like sarah palin white. i think some of the current pop culture stuff is as common as we think. i know just as many white folks watching the wire as black folks. now, if you’re talking coming to america, then yeah. but chances are, the becky’s who dont know that would end up dating a square ass black cat anyway.

      seems to me that the kind of white chicks most black dudes end up dating (well the ones i’m familiar with, trophyism aside) know all the black stuff too. then again, i’m from the south where we all eat the same collard greens and hogmaws.

  • http://thismayconcernyou.com thismayconcernyou

    Reason No. 37 is all-encompassing.

    I can’t spend my life trying to catch someone up on what I’ve spent my life learning. That’s like trying to teach a woman who doesn’t know who Tom Brady is about football. No can do.

    And I’m glad I’m not the only one who believes Wendy Williams is a man.

  • http://fromselahwithlove@Hotmail.com selah

    What has shaped my personal feelings? I guess my environment. Interracial dating is like the thing to do round these parts, so I’ve never seen anything wrong with it. H*ll ,my dad just married a colombian.

    As for me, hot men are hot men, d*mn their race. lol…. never mind the fact that my mom would probably beat me if I brought home a 2520 and started talkin bout marrying him tho. LOL

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @selah,

      my dad just married a colombian.

      this sounds like the title to a really corny sitcom on abc

      • IVR

        @The Champ, “this sounds like the title to a really corny sitcom on abc”

        Would that be modern family? (I actually like that show)

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @IVR, i tried to watch an episode of that show. i just couldn’t get into it.

          what i did notice is the fashion in which all news shows are operating, kind of like “the office”. i cant really describe it, but that, and “community parks” are all shows that seem to be the same in the way they script and direct them.

          • IVR

            @Panama Jackson, ” i tried to watch an episode of that show. i just couldn’t get into it.”

            Well I watch it at work so my boredom could lead to the show being better to me than it actually is . . . plus I’ve always been in love with Sofia Vergara.

            I feel you on “the office” vibe from the new shows though. It’s like everyone is trying to narrate in this b!tch.

          • IVR

            @Panama Jackson, ” i tried to watch an episode of that show. i just couldn’t get into it.”

            Well I watch it at work so my boredom could lead to the show being better to me than it actually is . . . plus I’ve always been in love with Sofia Vergara.

            I feel you on “the office” vibe from the new shows though. It’s like everyone is trying to narrate in this b!tch.

          • Me fail english?

            @Panama Jackson,

            That mockumentary, single camera thing? I only watch The Office but I could imagine this getting old. That’s why everyone should watch Glee.

          • Me fail english?

            @Panama Jackson,

            That mockumentary, single camera thing? I only watch The Office but I could imagine this getting old. That’s why everyone should watch Glee.

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            “That mockumentary, single camera thing?”

            yeah, i think thats what he’s referring to. still, i prefer that style of comedy to sh*t with laugh tracks and no jokes (ie: “the game”)

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            “That mockumentary, single camera thing?”

            yeah, i think thats what he’s referring to. still, i prefer that style of comedy to sh*t with laugh tracks and no jokes (ie: “the game”)

          • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

            @Panama Jackson, yeah, The Office, Parks & Recreation, and Modern Family need to be the last three sitcoms with confessionals.

            But I wonder did people hate Bernie Mac’s confessionals on his show?

          • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

            @Panama Jackson, yeah, The Office, Parks & Recreation, and Modern Family need to be the last three sitcoms with confessionals.

            But I wonder did people hate Bernie Mac’s confessionals on his show?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @IVR, i tried to watch an episode of that show. i just couldn’t get into it.

          what i did notice is the fashion in which all news shows are operating, kind of like “the office”. i cant really describe it, but that, and “community parks” are all shows that seem to be the same in the way they script and direct them.

        • ComicBookGuy

          @IVR,

          That show is hilarious. Ed O’Neil still is channeling Al Bundy in the show. I can’t lie, those gay dudes be killing me.

          • Sula

            @ComicBookGuy,

            It is hilarious!

            But I do agree with Me Fail though: everybody should watch Glee. It rawks!!!

          • Sula

            @ComicBookGuy,

            It is hilarious!

            But I do agree with Me Fail though: everybody should watch Glee. It rawks!!!

        • ComicBookGuy

          @IVR,

          That show is hilarious. Ed O’Neil still is channeling Al Bundy in the show. I can’t lie, those gay dudes be killing me.

      • IVR

        @The Champ, “this sounds like the title to a really corny sitcom on abc”

        Would that be modern family? (I actually like that show)

      • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com Selah

        @The Champ,

        iLove Modern Family :) … The only difference between that show and my family is my dad isn’t 2520. or rich. lol

      • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com Selah

        @The Champ,

        iLove Modern Family :) … The only difference between that show and my family is my dad isn’t 2520. or rich. lol

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @selah,

      my dad just married a colombian.

      this sounds like the title to a really corny sitcom on abc

    • Sula

      @selah,
      As for me, hot men are hot men, d*mn their race.

      Say word. :)

      • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com Selah

        @Sula,

        can i get a witness?! lol

      • http://fromselahwithlove.blogspot.com Selah

        @Sula,

        can i get a witness?! lol

    • Sula

      @selah,
      As for me, hot men are hot men, d*mn their race.

      Say word. :)

  • http://fromselahwithlove@Hotmail.com selah

    What has shaped my personal feelings? I guess my environment. Interracial dating is like the thing to do round these parts, so I’ve never seen anything wrong with it. H*ll ,my dad just married a colombian.

    As for me, hot men are hot men, d*mn their race. lol…. never mind the fact that my mom would probably beat me if I brought home a 2520 and started talkin bout marrying him tho. LOL

  • shay-d-lady

    I dated a white guy…it was cool until he actually wanted to kiss and do “boyfriend” stuff..lol I actually did date a guy later that was fine enough to get over that hurdle but he was a liberal conservative and I hated having to explain the jokes, the music, and most of all why “black people” find so many things offensive. lastly trying to get him to understand the difference between his poor and mine and why he still had an advantage…..

    • sisanda

      @shay-d-lady,

      hahahaha

      “When you’re poor, you drive a hundyai and have a two bedroom apartment. When we’re poor we drive the Socila welfare department crazy, and have a ten member family sleeping on two beds in a room “apartment”…that’s the difference”

      Sorry, just had to share.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @sisanda,

        “When you’re poor, you drive a hundyai and have a two bedroom apartment. When we’re poor we drive the Socila welfare department crazy, and have a ten member family sleeping on two beds in a room “apartment”…that’s the difference”

        is that from a stand-up routine?

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @sisanda,

        “When you’re poor, you drive a hundyai and have a two bedroom apartment. When we’re poor we drive the Socila welfare department crazy, and have a ten member family sleeping on two beds in a room “apartment”…that’s the difference”

        is that from a stand-up routine?

    • sisanda

      @shay-d-lady,

      hahahaha

      “When you’re poor, you drive a hundyai and have a two bedroom apartment. When we’re poor we drive the Socila welfare department crazy, and have a ten member family sleeping on two beds in a room “apartment”…that’s the difference”

      Sorry, just had to share.

    • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

      @shay-d-lady, “liberal conservative?” You do know what you just said right?

    • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

      @shay-d-lady, “liberal conservative?” You do know what you just said right?

  • shay-d-lady

    I dated a white guy…it was cool until he actually wanted to kiss and do “boyfriend” stuff..lol I actually did date a guy later that was fine enough to get over that hurdle but he was a liberal conservative and I hated having to explain the jokes, the music, and most of all why “black people” find so many things offensive. lastly trying to get him to understand the difference between his poor and mine and why he still had an advantage…..

  • RunBabyRun

    I also grew up around inter-racial dating and in some case it doesn’t urk me and in other cases it does urk me…call it situational, I guess.

    It’s simple for me: I RARELY fine white men or women attractive. I hate answering dumb questions about my hair. I don’t want to hear things like, “no, really, what are grits/chitllins/collards”. I don’t want to explain why my dad is darker than my mom, I’m darker than my dad, and my brother is darker than me but we are all still black and in the same family. I don’t want explain why “THEY do this that or the other”.

    I guess it’s like you said, champ, too much context for me to go through while courting or once he and his people get comfortable.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @RunBabyRun,

      I also grew up around inter-racial dating and in some case it doesn’t urk me and in other cases it does urk me…call it situational, I guess.

      do you know what causes the difference?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @RunBabyRun,

      I also grew up around inter-racial dating and in some case it doesn’t urk me and in other cases it does urk me…call it situational, I guess.

      do you know what causes the difference?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @RunBabyRun, “no, really, what are grits/chitllins/collards”.

      we don’t have this problem down south.

      • http://ecstaticfreshness.wordpress.com AkShone

        Word.

      • http://ecstaticfreshness.wordpress.com AkShone

        Word.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @Panama Jackson,

        we don’t have this problem down south.

        “the differences between northern and southern white people.” sounds like a potential vsb entry

        • IVR

          @The Champ, ““the differences between northern and southern white people.””

          I’d say a difference is that northern white folks know not to be public with their racism (I-talians excluded). The stories I’ve heard about white folks down south is crazy . . . Although I think someone on this site mentioned seeing a klan rally in NYC . . . .they prolly planned that during the million man march.

        • IVR

          @The Champ, ““the differences between northern and southern white people.””

          I’d say a difference is that northern white folks know not to be public with their racism (I-talians excluded). The stories I’ve heard about white folks down south is crazy . . . Although I think someone on this site mentioned seeing a klan rally in NYC . . . .they prolly planned that during the million man march.

        • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

          @The Champ, would west coast whites count as “northern?”

          • http://mysixcents.wordpress.com klysha

            @Stuff Ghetto People Like, I think they could warrant their own category

          • http://mysixcents.wordpress.com klysha

            @Stuff Ghetto People Like, I think they could warrant their own category

        • http://stuffghettopeoplelike.wordpress.com Stuff Ghetto People Like

          @The Champ, would west coast whites count as “northern?”

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @Panama Jackson,

        we don’t have this problem down south.

        “the differences between northern and southern white people.” sounds like a potential vsb entry

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        Sure don’t.

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        Sure don’t.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @RunBabyRun, “no, really, what are grits/chitllins/collards”.

      we don’t have this problem down south.

    • Vnss

      @RunBabyRun, as a non-American, specifically non-southern black woman, you’d have to explain the chitlins/ collard difference to me too. Would it bother you to explain the difference to me?

      Just as your feelings towards interracial dating is situational, so too are peoples experiences. It all depends on where you lived, how you lived and everything else that surrounds you.

      There is nothing wrong with interacial dating, just as there is nothing wrong with dating within your race. People have difference preferences and that’s fair. But I’d appreciate if we said that instead of coming up with overarching stereotypes as to why it won’t work with ANY white boy/girl. You don’t stop dating black men just because you’ve had a bad experience with one would you?

    • Vnss

      @RunBabyRun, as a non-American, specifically non-southern black woman, you’d have to explain the chitlins/ collard difference to me too. Would it bother you to explain the difference to me?

      Just as your feelings towards interracial dating is situational, so too are peoples experiences. It all depends on where you lived, how you lived and everything else that surrounds you.

      There is nothing wrong with interacial dating, just as there is nothing wrong with dating within your race. People have difference preferences and that’s fair. But I’d appreciate if we said that instead of coming up with overarching stereotypes as to why it won’t work with ANY white boy/girl. You don’t stop dating black men just because you’ve had a bad experience with one would you?

  • RunBabyRun

    I also grew up around inter-racial dating and in some case it doesn’t urk me and in other cases it does urk me…call it situational, I guess.

    It’s simple for me: I RARELY fine white men or women attractive. I hate answering dumb questions about my hair. I don’t want to hear things like, “no, really, what are grits/chitllins/collards”. I don’t want to explain why my dad is darker than my mom, I’m darker than my dad, and my brother is darker than me but we are all still black and in the same family. I don’t want explain why “THEY do this that or the other”.

    I guess it’s like you said, champ, too much context for me to go through while courting or once he and his people get comfortable.

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