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Fighting Crime With Chicken Little: Why things aren’t nearly as bad as they seem

More common than you think

Although the rapture turned out to be a JaMarcusesque bust, a quick glance at the evening news and the hundreds of thousands of stabbings, shootings, muggings, murders, and animal rapes occurring in every city every day makes it seem like the end is definitely near.

And, when you consider that more and more recession-induced frustrations are going to make people lash out even more at their (bastard) children and the fact that the upcoming NBA and NFL lockouts are going to fill the streets with a bunch of unemployed and uneducated Robocop thugs wandering the streets with nowhere to go after they’ve used up their Strokers credit lines, things aren’t looking up.

It’s a war going on outside, no one is safe, son, it don’t matter if you’re 3 feet or 8’1”, and sh*t is just getting worse and worse and worse.

Or not.

From “FBI: 5.5 percent drop in violent crime”

Crime levels fell across the board last year, extending a multiyear downward trend with a 5.5 percent drop in 2010 in the number of violent crimes and a 2.8 percent decline in the number of property crimes.

Year-to-year changes the FBI released Monday in its preliminary figures on crimes reported to police also showed declines in all four categories of violent crime in 2010. All categories for property crime went down as well.

“In a word, remarkable,” said Northeastern University criminologist James Alan Fox. In his view, the declines signify success for aggressive law enforcement and corrections programs and comprehensive crime prevention efforts. He said the crime levels could easily rise if the current environment of state and local budget cutting extends to law enforcement measures that are working.

Wait, what??? I thought this was the end of the days!!! I thought things were getting worse!!! I visited my old elementary school last month and saw a 5th grader in a ninja costume chasing a lunch lady with a giant tampon!!! I personally know three 28 year old grandmothers who still gang-bang, and one of them is my accountant!!! A Nigerian nun broke into my house last night and shot me in the knee!!! It was a non-lethal wound, but still!!!

Nope.

The FBI reported that violent crime fell in all four regions of the country last year — 7.5 percent in the South, 5.9 in the Midwest, 5.8 percent in the West and 0.4 percent in the Northeast. The bureau’s preliminary statistics for 2010 are based on data from more than 13,000 law enforcement agencies nationwide.

Nationally, murder and non-negligent manslaughter declined 4.4 percent, forcible rape decreased 4.2 percent, robbery declined 9.5 percent, and aggravated assault was down 3.6 percent.

Yikes! Cold hard facts have a funny way of quelling hyperbolic anecdotal hysteria.

Still, even with these numbers, I know there are still going to be people who refuse to believe that crime is actually getting better. People whose notions and fears and misplaced nostalgias will make them maintain that each and every hood is a carbon facsimile of the first 15 minutes of “Saving Private Ryan.” Chicken Littles who refuse to believe that there’s actually hope, actually room to go outside and inhale, and actual proof that the sky is staying right where it’s always been.

As I read that report, I couldn’t help but draw a parallel between how our perceptions about crime don’t quite fit the reality and how our perceptions about love and relationships don’t quite fit those realities either. Everywhere I turn (including here) I read more and more proof that we’re a bunch of relationship retards, getting picked last for coitus kickball, destined to eternally ride the short bus of romance. We’re stupid, fat, ugly, undateable, DBR, and…did I mention already that we’re stupid, fat, and ugly?

And, while I’m sure there are people out there experiencing real dating and relationship acrimony, the reality is that things aren’t nearly as bad as they seem. The vast majority of black men are still completely enthralled with black women. Black women are still the baddest and bangingest beings on Earth (even if they don’t quite believe it yet).

We’re still getting giddy when we meet someone who makes us smile, we’re still saving voicemails left by that person so we can listen to them later, we’re still asking our dudes and homegirls for the “hook-up,” we’re still on dates taking up all the damn booth space at the Cheesecake Factory, and we’re still getting invites to weddings that’ll definitely be so hood that they’ll be hilarious. (“Wow. I’ve never been to a wedding reception with a breakfast buffet”) And, speaking of hilarious, Jet magazine still hasn’t run out of their seemingly never-ending supply of pictures and unintentionally hilarious bios of just-married n*ggas.

Can things be better? Definitely. Our main problem continues to be the fact that there’s a bit of a communication disconnect between us, but our increasing willingness to have open conversations proves this is a problem that can (and will) be solved.

I understand that sometimes the barometric pressure makes it so damn tight that we’re convinced the sky is definitely falling. But, when you’re done reading this, take a look out your window. I bet you it’s still there.

—The Champ

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Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes.

  • BlackGirlWhoReads

    I was expecting to laugh, but I guess fighting crime with stupid love is good too.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      who doesn’t like a surprise?

      • rnic

        People love to panic, and then they love to get other people to panic, overreact and exaggerate with them…..and then Fox News gets a hold of the panic in a box….and it’s all down hill from there. Good to read a post that fosters the opposite. Hopefully it’ll be contagious :-)

    • Jhane Sez

      What’s so funny about peace, love and understanding ~JS

  • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/category/laughs Naturally Alise

    I think the whole getting married situation is portrayed a bit skewed, but most of my friends are married now. A mixture of all complexions and sizes. In fact most of the married off ones are full figured dark skinned women…. the media/general perception is that the are mateless and aren’t marriage material. #shruglife

    • chanelle

      Your right. Most of the black people I know are married or at least dating so I never believed this rumor about black women being unable to find mates – where does the “media” get these “statistics” from anyway

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “where does the “media” get these “statistics” from anyway”

        madia.

        • http://www.twitter.com/drrdb TWIsM

          From the school of “Sensationalism Wins Ratings and Begins Frivolous Chatter and Circular Logic.”

          • tgtaggie

            Or the “Wolf Blitzer School of Sensationalism Wins Ratings and Begins Frivolous Chatter and Circular Logic.”

            • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/category/laughs Naturally Alise

              LOL!

        • chanelle

          lmao! or maybe from life jennings

      • CJ

        We can find mates…it’s quality not quantity that I’m looking for though. Sure, I get ‘hit on’ and asked out all the time by the brothas but mostly they don’t have jobs and they are hangin on the corner or out of a car window…just sayin. I’m college educated, tennis player, well-traveled, whatever, etc…but I have to say, the college educated brothas that I’ve met want white women. They think the sistas have attitudes and are materialistic and have their priorities wrong. Yes, this is what some guys I’ve graduated from college with told me…sad but…..

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

    Hmmm…

    • keisha brown

      who will be the first vsb dude to accuse this of being a pandering to women after our chicken feathers got ruffled a couple of days ago?

      wait. i mean to say hmmm…right along with TAC.
      oops.

      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

        ;)

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “who will be the first vsb dude to accuse this of being a pandering to women after our chicken feathers got ruffled a couple of days ago?”

        i’m pandering to the population, not y’all broads in particular

        • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

          So now we broads and chit huh…

          • naturalista88

            Apparently, ole rude arse ninja *lol*.

        • Jhane Sez

          “i’m pandering to the population, not y’all broads in particular”

          (dons retro 40′s dress with the big shoulders)

          Who are you calling a broad… Mister I’m a dame ~JS

        • Jhane Sez

          “i’m pandering to the population, not y’all broads in particular”

          (dons retro 40′s dress with the big shoulders)

          Who are you calling a broad mister… I’m a dame ~JS

        • Yeah…So

          Oh my!

        • keisha brown

          im not saying you are. at all.
          i was just wondering out loud.

      • Mo-VSS

        SMH…you know it’s coming

  • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

    First off, lemme have a moment to swoon super hard at that picture!!!

    *swoonage break*

    Ok.

    “And, speaking of hilarious, Jet magazine hasn’t even run out of their seemingly never-ending supply of pictures and unintentionally hilarious bios of just-married n*ggas.”

    Aahahahaaaaa! I’m starting to believe they’ve featured every ninja that has ever gotten married… in the history of brooms.

    Anyway, this was a great read. Making me keep hope alive. Kinda like what I have to do after this dayum game my heart just suffered…

    *kicks errant squirrel*

    • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/category/laughs Naturally Alise

      Who runs the world? SQUIRRELS! (so stop kicking them)

      • AfroPetite

        LMAO I can’t with you Naturally Alise

      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

        (chortles)

        You so silly…

        But seriously, squirrels are just bushy-tailed rats. Kick away.

        • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/category/laughs Naturally Alise

          as Carrie from SATC said, “It’s just a rat in a cuter outfit.”

          • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            Exactly! If squirrels end up taking over the world, I’m moving to
            Canada!! … Wait, what?

            • keisha brown

              we have squirrels here too. black and grey ones!
              and look, we’re tired of being your backup plan. move to mexico! LOL.

              • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

                I refuse to believe anywhere with universal healthcare has squirrels. #ThisMakesSense

                • keisha brown

                  *other things to add to the T3 weekend schedule of events. show cheekie a squirrel. LOL

                  • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

                    Do you hate me? And love?

                    • keisha brown

                      yes.

      • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

        Who runs the world? SQUIRRELS! (so stop kicking them)

        extremely well played

      • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        Y’all don’t understand how much I hate Alise…

        • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/category/laughs Naturally Alise

          Liar, you love me. But now I don’t like you anymore bc you are a liar. Hmph.

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            You’re lying about not loving me anymore because I’m a liar. How you gone lie about your loving me whilst calling me a liar? Lying heathen.

            • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/2011/05/19/chatty-cathies/ Naturally Alise

              this is confusing, lets jsut be friends again… if not for the sake of friendship, at least for the sake of our gchats #shamelessplug

              • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

                #gSwag

      • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com wild cougar

        Laugh of the day

    • WeGottaDoBetter

      Did you see that Tosh.0 tonight with the little girl with the squirrel?

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Yes! Ewwww

      • Yeah…So

        gross.

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        I didn’t… Judging by the responses… uh, I shouldn’t? lol

        • Yeah…So

          Shouldn’t? No, you definitely should. lol

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            Whatever comes from this viewing… I’mma blame you. lol

            • Yeah…So

              *dead squirrel head nod* understood.

    • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

      is the girl in the pic still wit’ the dude tho’!? uhmmm, ’cause my friend was askin’…so yeah, just let me know–a’ight.

      • Corey

        *Waits patiently to put in sneak bid with pissed off e-boo*

      • http://tdlove.wordpress.com Tonya

        STOP .. lol

        • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

          EXACTLY…contributing to downfall of the (apparently already fragile) black family.

          • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com wild cougar

            Ooh, nice pic. You lookin mighty tasty, Mr. Kane

            • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

              i knew, at some point, i’d have to put my face in it…WAIT–you know what i’m sayin’. [sits patiently...ponders the struggle.]

              • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com wild cougar

                you go right ahead and do that….LOL

      • Andi

        word…? well alright.

        *walks away whistling*

        • Corey

          Need a ride? I just got some new rims put on the whip! :D

          • http://thatdamnafrican.wordpress.com/ That Damn African

            Smoooooooooth

          • http://twitter.com/fixedwater fixedwater

            bol

          • Andi

            I have always depended on the kindness of strangers. ;)

            • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

              this sh!t right here…nah.

            • Corey

              This that good southern gentleman ish here bruh! I’ll even open your door for you (one time offer only tho).

              • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

                Does it have an EXIT sign above it? :lol:

                • Corey

                  Sorry. That door has been padlocked.

                • Corey

                  Sorry. THAT particular door has been padlocked.

                  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

                    So you locking Evan and Andi in with you?

                    #Kinky

                    • Parkway Goonin

                      Hey I survived tha Rapture. I figure I may well live a little. You’re welcome too…..right after I wand you with this metal detector…..

                    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

                      You want to “wand” me with a “metal detector” ay…

                      I see your game, what you’re about.

                      #ExtraKinky

          • Around the Way Girl

            Lol confession: I have always loved those hoodmobiles with the candy paint and rims and all that. Just once in my life I want to drive one and blast UGK and Snoop Dogg/Dr. Dre songs.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Anyway, this was a great read. Making me keep hope alive. Kinda like what I have to do after this dayum game my heart just suffered”

      sorry about that. i truly am.

      really

      • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        Oh yeah?! Sorry dee –

        Aw, thanks Champ! *sobs into Harolds four piece wing with hot and mild sauce*

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Yeah I’m sorry too. *snort* No I’m not. I’m sorry Derrick Rose sexy self did all that charged running for nothing.

    • http://www.twitter.com/SCSilk Silk!

      And 50yrold brooms, too.

  • ShardeMarie

    Hmm that kinda made me smile and gave me a glimmer of hope. But then I got a text from this negro who’s been dogging me apologizing for not saying hi when I saw him out with that white girl on Friday. -_-

    • ShardeMarie

      But honestly, I still have hope, I know black men adore me, I have 4 weddings to attend this summer (all black on black), a young black man held a door for me today, and I was on a date alst night and didn’t have to give up the goods..lol. :-)

      • Mr SoBo -aka- SoBonafide

        Since when do you ever HAVE to give up the goods?
        Anyway, one can certainly appreciate that you remain optmistic about the types of meaningful and loving relationships you can most assuredly attain with your fellow black brothas. Keep hope alive.

        • ShardeMarie

          Never HAVE to but a lot of times it’s expected

    • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

      OUCH.

    • Corey

      LMAO!! Why she gotta be the “white” girl tho??

      • ShardeMarie

        lol it was a joke, but it has happened before. Especially in my town. Something in the water makes ninjas allergic to chocolate.

        • Corey

          Yeah I’m seeing a lot of that where I’m living too. I think the worst part is looking around incredulously daily and repeating to myself, “Man, ninjas will talk to ANYTHING up here!”.

          • ShardeMarie

            Its not the fact that the chicks are below average in the looks department. I just don’t get how a so many black men can overlook so many black women. I don’t hate on interracial love, lust, hook-ups, whatever. It just troubles me that I see more black men in my town in public with white girls than with black girls. Like huh??? Its an epidemic. I’ve lived all over the country and it’s just horrible here.

            • Corey

              Oh that “talk to anything” was in reference to the black ones here too. The majority of the female population here looks very…shall we say…vagabond-ish…..

              • ShardeMarie

                lol smh that’s too bad. Yeah folks up here look a mess. Not many have a good sense of fashion either. And the city is littered with hoodrats, trailer trash, and weird azz hemp wearing hippies…lol

                • Corey

                  Lol. Same here minus the hippies. They cool, just a tad bit tart from bathing quarterly. At least you live in a real city. I feel like I’m stuck in a time warp. I keep looking for the colored milkman in the mornings.

                  • ShardeMarie

                    Have you seen the web show Portlandia? The theme song goes “the dream of the 90′s is alive in Portland” Our unofficial motto is “Keep Portland weird” They have annual naked bike rides. Portland is…..yeah. lol

                    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

                      yeah, my homegirl showed me one of those shorts a couple months ago, and that was the funniest thing ive ever seen

                      (edit)

                      here it goes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVmq9dq6Nsg

                    • ShardeMarie

                      @The Champ and that’s not an exaggeration. Those are actual Portlanders. Our Mayor was really on there. Portland is freaking weird as heck.

                    • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

                      “portland is the city where young people go to retire…”
                      THIS WAS HILARIOUS…and yet, culturally informative. lol

                    • MsEvaHoney!

                      That was hilarious! My only question is since the 90′s are alive in Portland, do “the blacks” wear jodeci boots and overalls with one strap hanging?

                    • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

                      when i first told my labmates about my potential move to portland, one of them showed me that clip from portlandia. and i have to say–i cant WAIT to experience it first hand LOL

                    • ShardeMarie

                      @MsEvaHoney yes a handful do lol

                      @Gem Jones It actually can be fun at times. But a lot of it is frustrating. Especially with all the gentrification going on. ugh

                  • nillalatte

                    I see all types of mixed couples here… not just white girls/black guys, but black, white, asian, hispanic mixed all different ways (black/hispanic, black/asian, white/asian, hispanic/white, etc) It’s pretty interesting actually. A lot of my friends are no less than 2 races and sometimes more. Wondering what they claimed on the census? ;)

                    • Yoles

                      i check off each box… keep them guessing…

                      #polyethnicforreal

                    • ShardeMarie

                      Yeah I’m a mutt myself but I always claim Black. *shrug* I mean when people look at me they don’t say “look at that black, white, native, jamaican, mongolian chick” lol But yes there are a lot of mixed couples here. But it wasn’t possible for the longest. The year before my grandma (white) married my grandpa (black) her best friend (phillipino) and her husband (white) had to go to another state for their wedding.

            • WIP

              Central Florida perhaps?

        • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

          damn them allergies…you need a new town.

          • ShardeMarie

            Who you tellin? lol I want to leave like yesterday.

          • kid video

            @ Yoles
            “I check off each box”

            @ShardeMarie
            “mean when people look at me they don’t say “look at that black, white, native, jamaican, mongolian chick”

            We need to do an ad for Benniton.

        • Andi

          What town do you live in? We might be in the same city lol!

          • ShardeMarie

            ha I live in Portland, OR (I think I lost cool points just typing that)

            • Corey

              LMAO!!! You must be like 1 of 22 black people there.

              • ShardeMarie

                There’s enough of us here to perpetuate stereotypes and such. lol

              • http://twitter.com/ronbronson Ron

                Portland > Denver
                Portland > Wyoming

                #justsayingyesivelivedinallthreeasanonnative

            • Andi

              lol I’m in LALA Land. I feel your pain but probably not to that degree. You gotta be hurtin’ something fierce up there. *smh* west coast life…

              • ShardeMarie

                It’s terrible. The black community in Portland has like 1 degree of separation. You can never meet anyone new cuz you’ve heard about them already. Doesn’t help that I went to the ONLY predominately black school in town. The same one my mom and her 6 siblings went to as well. We all know each other. And each other’s business

                • http://tdlove.wordpress.com Tonya

                  I lived in Beaverton and graduated high school from Tigard. Portland was my oasis!! Left while the getting was good, though! Oakland is HEAVEN in comparison. Good luck with that.

                  • ShardeMarie

                    Yeah I spent the first years of my life in Fullerton, CA and Beaverton, OR and then I was hurled into predominately black school. Super culture shock, but now its all just as white as the rest of Portland to me.

            • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

              awww i might be moving to portland next year!

              • ShardeMarie

                DON’T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

                • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

                  lol if the job i want still wants me, its a go.

                  the social scene cant be much worse than pittsburgh (despite portland being like the whitest place in the states).

                  besides, i believe that wherever i go, love will follow…

                  • ShardeMarie

                    Well let me know if ya do. I’ll pray for ya…lol
                    But Portland is interesting. You’ll probably find yourself in a very mixed crowd in order to avoid the ignorant black folk and racist azz white folks. Beware, we have those sneaky shake your hand, let your kids stay the night, be your BFF racists up here.

                    • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com wild cougar

                      Sounds like Boulder Colorado, where I had the unfortunate “opportunity” to go to college.
                      When people found out I was there, they say “Its must be so pretty, with the mountains and all”. I say, Yeah, its pretty, but the people are ugly.

                    • ShardeMarie

                      Most definitely. Portland is a beautiful city. The city of roses. Everything is always so green. Emphasis on the GREEN. But yeah the people I can do without.

                  • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

                    “besides, i believe that wherever i go, love will follow…”

                    i know this is feel good day and all, but this was gay

                    • http://twitter.com/fixedwater fixedwater

                      you started it!

                    • Corey

                      Not all the way. Only about 99.769842% by my calculations.

                    • Girl Kanyeshrug

                      lol!!!

                    • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

                      well, i did have a bday bash just last year that had GAY in the title, thanks to you. so gayness is just a part of me :)

                  • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

                    Awwww Gemmie. Yes it will girl, yes it will.

                    • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

                      :)

                • keisha brown

                  everytime i see this
                  international players anthem plays in my head.
                  LOL

            • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

              my jewish friend was just talkin’ about movin’ to portland wit’ some white people…but i lived in tucson for 3 years so i feel yo’ pain.

              • ShardeMarie

                lol yeah, similar

              • JodzSE

                Yeah, I live in a suburb of Phoenix, and there are appx 526 black folks here. I think we were about 10 black folks in my high school graduating class of 984. I swear I saw more black people when I lived in Sweden than I do here. And almost all of the good (educated, employed, homeowners, etc) black men are with white women. I’m guessing it because there’s more of them to choose from? Although a recent date told me I wasn’t black because I’m not dark enough. Uh, ok.

                I’m unmarried and unemployed, and wondering which is going to happen first- a new man or a new job. LOL At this point it’s anyone’s guess.

                • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

                  at least there’s sh!t to do in PHX (hell, portland too apparently)…only things to do tucson (<4% black–and most of 'em military) is get high or go to church–or both.

            • Corey

              Yall complaining huh? I’m crushin ALL yall. At least you can name the city and people know where you talking about. I’m in New London. One million points to whoever can figure out where that is!

              • ShardeMarie

                hahahah OMG wow. sorry.

              • naturalista88

                Umm, can I use a lifeline?

                • Corey

                  Lol. You can use all three but I seriously doubt it would help! When the job told me I was getting sent here instead of DC all I kept saying was “Wait. Where?”.

                  • Yoles

                    so where is new london or do i have to google it?!?!!?

                  • naturalista88

                    Well, I just added a new one called “Just Google It,” and it states that New London is in Connecticut. Figures….

                    • Parkway Goonin

                      And we have a winner! Southeast middle of nowhere @ss Connecticut. There are three types of people here:
                      1. Old people
                      2. Navy people
                      3. Old @ss Navy people

              • Corey

                And to make it worse I’m from Memphis so this REALLY isn’t my speed at all.

                • nillalatte

                  OMG… I knew I knew you from some where! LOL…

                  Not really, just messing with you. :P But, it’s nice to see another TN’en on here tho I ain’t there anymore either.

                  • Parkway Goonin

                    What part of TN you from?

                    • nillalatte

                      Nastyville. :) okay, you might not know that’s a nickname for Nashville. Wouldn’t want to give the wrong impression to the youngsters. :D

                    • Corey

                      Of course I know where that is. AKA:Cashville. Home of TSU and all of its wonderful ratchetness!

                    • nillalatte

                      I attended TSU. Don’t talk ’bout my dawgs like that! ;)

                    • Corey

                      Oh no shots on that. Some of my family and a bunch of high school classmates from Chatt went there. I especially love how campus overlooks the sh!tty part of the city!

                    • Corey

                      Oh no shots on that one. I have a bunch of family and high school classmates from Chatt that went there. I especially love how campus overlooks the sh!tty part of the city. As long as you didn’t go to Haters Lane you all good with me!

                    • nillalatte

                      Ha!, “haters lane”… LOL… Nah dawg, I went to Whites Creek aka “da creek”… tho my parents live really close to haters lane. I used to run track down there. Ain’t nothing like breaking a sweat in 90% humidity! :D

                      As for TSU campus, it is a pretty interesting location. One side is the river, the other side cross the bridge is the bricks, and a little on down is the prison! Not many other choices for recreation. LOL Hadley Park was a favorite hang out and the step competitions were fierce.

                    • MsEvaHoney!

                      Super late on this but I am TSU alum! I loved nashville

              • niksmit

                Connecticut? Somewhere else in New England?

                • Parkway Goonin

                  Very nice

              • Ivy St.

                CT. I lived there for 2 summers while working at Pfizer. I didn’t suffer as bad since there were 4 brothers in my program to kick it with. If I lived there full time, i’d die.

              • http://www.twitter.com/SCSilk Silk!

                I was just in New London….didn’t see you….

                • Corey

                  Lol. I ain’t that hard to spot. I haven’t been here long enough to be all extra known anyway. Kinda like that part of it.

                  • http://www.twitter.com/SCSilk Silk!

                    Heh, I was there for only two hours, but I’ll be back. A friend from school lives in Mystic.

                    • Corey

                      Yeah i’m familiar with Mystic. Plenty of old white paper there. Actually thats most of the state.

            • Maria

              Yeah, I figured from ur description you gotta be talking about Portland or some other hipster city. To you they look a mess but to each other they are the epitome of fashion and irony. SMH. I lived for a summer in hipster Brooklyn and it was more than enough! Greasy ass hair.

  • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

    but like i said…somebody still stole my damn book.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      but, on the bright side, they probably gave it to a homeless person

      • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

        or SOLD it to a homeless person…OR a homeless person stole it. sh!t is real out here in the city…DC has it’s own morally corrupted code.

      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

        To use as toilet paper?*

        *Kidding, loved the book. But I just couldn’t resist. :D

      • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        I just pictured a homeless person quoting gospel from “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You Warm At Night” in order to get a little spare change, and that made me like America a little bit more…

        • WIP

          And his request will end with “because that money won’t keep you warm at night.”

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            POW!

  • Corey

    Its folks from all walks of life that look like all kinda whatever getting married daily. Granted it may be a little later than previous generations but it ain’t like we’re still living on farms and needing the extra bodies to get ish accomplished. People really need to chill with all the negative talk. It ain’t that serious. Good things happen when you relax and live your life.

    • naturalista88

      Agreed.

    • Simba.Africanna

      >People really need to chill with all the negative talk. It ain’t that serious. Good things happen when you relax and live your life.
      Apparently that akat042001 (Ethiopian Youtube chick) didn’t get the memo

    • Andi

      “Good things happen when you relax and live your life.”

      *LIKE*

      • http://jouromeo.blogspot.com Sagey Bear

        you feel better about yourself. Can love your self more. Appreciate the smell of the roses and it ain’t just boo boo boo.

    • WIP

      OK, have y’all seen Say Yes to the Dress lately or Big Redneck Wedding? Those shows give me hope.

      • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

        I haven’t watch Say Yes to the Dress in a minute. I loooooove that show!! It definitely does give hope that love and marriage and weddings are possible.

        • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

          indeed!!

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        YES, I’ve seen Yes to the Dress! Hee.

        That show is definitely one that has my eyes gleaming oh so wistfully.

  • http://panamaenrique.wordpress.com Malik

    All hail King James!

    As for this, it’s not surprising. We were given far too much access to information too fast so we’ve never had the chance to properly accumulate ourselves to the new technological world in steps. We were just pushed into the vast weberverse of constant news stories that only exist to gather the most attention rather than reporting actual news.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

      All hail King James!

      Boo and hiss to this.

    • Andi

      The internet and the 24 hour news cycle do play a pretty primary role in all this. Good point!

      • http://panamaenrique.wordpress.com Malik

        It’s also just far easier to believe the sky is falling. Because it doesn’t involve any actual intellectual vigor, it gives someone the higher ground (be it morally, intellectually, etc.) and it is plays very well into narcissism because you’re suddenly more important, more informed and more enlightened than everyone else without any of the hard work that’s involved in it.

        That isn’t to suggest of course that we shouldn’t remain ever vigilant in whatever the pursuits or obstacles may be.

        • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

          I was not planning to participate in today’s discussions, as I have a deadline to meet; however, I had to let you know that I love the term “intellectual vigor.” My husband and I enjoy using a similar term, “mental agility.” Please consider your verbage jacked. Good day to you, Sir.

          • http://panamaenrique.wordpress.com Malik

            You are very welcome.

    • WeGottaDoBetter

      Eff Lebron and his thick a$$ headband.

      • naturalista88

        +1

      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

        +10

      • WIP

        LOL, I could sworn that was gonna be his “thick a$$ head.”

        • Yeah…So

          smh. lol

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      King James!!! and that snowflake Miller! Dallas is up next. They big tho

      • http://panamaenrique.wordpress.com Malik

        See, this is why you’re one of my favorites.

    • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

      Real talk…is that a rash on Lebron’s face? Like what are those dark spots on his face located at his temples and two spots above his brow?

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        I wasn’t looking that close. Derrick’s lips got all my attention.

      • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

        They look like the marks football players get from their helmet pads rubbing on their faces. Thing is, he never played football. just bad skin, I guess…

        • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

          The way it angles across his forehead I thought he wore a face mask and it left an imprint. The ish is just not cute at all. He need a dermatologist

  • AfroPetite

    Black love is on another level of awesome =)

    So crime rates have really dropped 5.5%? Really though? *leaves car door unlocked & leaps with joy*

    • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

      [jumps in car undetected...steals radio and sneaks three peeks.]

      • AfroPetite

        *face palm* Lord I live my life right, I pray on occasion, I buy homeless people those nutritious Double Down sammiches from KFC, why me?! *flings self against wall*

        • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem Jones

          NOT nutritious double downs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao

        • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

          [comes back...steals wall.]

          • http://twitter.com/fixedwater fixedwater

            really, really doe?! the wall

          • AfroPetite

            *falls on the ground and begins to sob*

            • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

              My cold, cynical heart no longer allows me to cry so…
              (ducks in to steal your tears)

              • Corey

                Now that’s gangsta

              • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

                We stealin tears now?! THIS is why we can’t have nice things.

                • keisha brown

                  DEAD

          • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

            DEAD!!!

        • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          LMFAO @ you buying homeless people nutritious Double Downs. You probably thinkin’ that 50-lem calorie thang would set them for life, huh? SMH…

      • Andi

        [Comes in after Evan, hot wires car and drives it to the chop shop] 8)

        2011 E-Bonnie and E-Clyde

        • AfroPetite

          Damn you all!
          *begins to plot revenge RIP Betsie*
          *pours out Riesling and takes a sip*

          • Corey

            *black masked up*
            Uh excuse me Miss? I’ma need to get that bottle up off ya. ‘Preciate it!

            • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5FR1LGsT7E TheAnti-Cool

              My gangsta wants to be like your gangsta when it grows up.

          • http://twitter.com/fixedwater fixedwater

            Poll: Who else names their car betsie/betsy? I hear it a lot, and haven’t name one of mine betsy yet

            • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

              It seem like everybody do. But not I! I named my baby Rosemarie for her burgundy interior. I miss my car….
              *plays Dead and Gone….pours out a lil Old E and cry goon tears*

              • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

                Suck it up, goon…

            • http://twitter.com/#!/legitimate_soul legitimate_soul

              My Mom (RIP) named her cars Betsy Lou Bugg. It was never a “bug” vehicle either. I had Betsy Juniors, and then I changed it up.

        • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

          can i make hearts!? if not…assume this (less-than three) is one. <3

    • http://twitter.com/sweetdivalove Mia

      don’t believe the hype. *closes your door* I think they forgot about Columbus, OH because there is always a homicide or something violent going on.

    • Corey

      *comes right behind Evan and pulls the speakers and navi*

      DAMMIT!! Forgot the 4 way. I’ll be back…….

      • Corey

        Ok…I’m back
        *pulls off all the rims*
        What are these anyway? 10′s? Ah well.
        *remembers to tuck nice thank you card under windshield wiper*

        • naturalista88

          Just petty *lol*.

        • AfroPetite

          not you Corey…..noooooooo *puts Corey on hit list*

          • Corey

            Hey at least I had the decency to leave a thank you card. My mama raised me right!

            • AfroPetite

              -____- *loads e-gun*

              • http://www.twitter.com/makinghisstory Evan McAuthur Kane (Shruggie Low-down)

                is that thing registered!? now you’re just part of the problem…[adds another statistic to Dwight Mann's list.]

    • http://twitter.com/fixedwater fixedwater

      “Black love is on another level of awesome =)”

      Isn’t it though, I mean just look at the reaction to the Obama’s affectionate displays, folks don’t know what to do with it. Has there been any other politician so documented for his love for his wife!?! Even the way they look at each other is awesome!

      • AfroPetite

        I pray that I have a love as pure as this to just pour over me.

      • WIP

        I think Reagan and Mrs. were; did they have a book of love letters or something? Maybe I’m making that up, anyway, yes when I say the Obamas’ interview with Barbara Walters I loved them.

      • keisha brown

        cosign.
        love love LOVE how they look at each other.
        that’s my dude. that’s my chick.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ChristiKennedy Christi

      lol

  • http://twitter.com/#!/legitimate_soul legitimate_soul

    Yesss! Love it! So glad to see the focus on the positive and yes, I have my Pollyanna tendencies. Love the pic and that sistah’s skin in the pic is awesome!

    • Girl Kanyeshrug

      Where did you get your black girl super hero avatar???

      • http://twitter.com/#!/legitimate_soul legitimate_soul

        I google image search for them. Sometimes I do a general search and I am able to find something :)