The kind of men I like want to lead and be in charge. I have met some real sweethearts who are shy and timid, but make no mistake – they will pull it together if they want you!

The reason for my lamenting is that even though I prefer to be in a traditional woman’s role, I do not have a traditional woman’s life. When I meet a kind hearted brother who is very interested, he gets a whiff of my lifestyle and wants to lay back and have me run the show. I’m great at running my own show, but I dont want my relationship to be another project. I’ve found that grown men joyfully pursue, pamper, and prepare you. They know they have to if they really want you.

I think if the woman puts the pants on, men really dont know what to do. I use to think it was bitchassness, now I believe that many men have been so aggressively pursued that their experiences have put them into neutral when it comes to pursuit. They only go after who they REALLY REALLY want and they will let you entetain the hell out of them in the meantime.

Back in my wilder days (about 3 years ago), I would walk up to a hot guy at a bar/party/concert/etc. and whisper in his ear “What would you say if I told you I wanted to fuck you right now?” And from that line, I had a lot of wild times… and several serious relationships.

I found that guys wanted me (initially) because I didn’t have the time or patience to stay longer than it took for me to achieve orgasm. For whatever reason, after more than a year of being together*, a few of em stuck around and asked me to quit my wild ways.

These days, I stay with the track shoes on, even if I’m decidedly more tame…

*We’d have sex, have “real” conversations, meet each others’ friends and family, etc. It was like being in a relationship, only we didn’t label each other and we didn’t have official authority or priority.

was that sister souljah or shaharazad ali? i know i probably didn’t spell that right either.