Comments on: equal? ha! you’re funny

By: suga

suga — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:16:13 +0000

I think the saying is being misconstrued here. She wasn’t saying, “deal with a man who you dont love”. She was saying that we should be involved with men who love us just a little bit more that we love him. This would cut down on us having to chase down a man or compromising our wants and needs…or whatever.

I personally, can’t deal with a man if I dont like him or i’m not attracted to him. I’ve never been able to grow to like a man who I wasn’t initially attracted to or interested in. Believe me, if I knew how to grow to love someone, i’d probably be married and be somebody’s mama by now.

By: SouthernGirl

SouthernGirl — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:18:05 +0000

lmao…it’s something my little brother used to say and i have no idea where he got it from but it stuck in my head. the d*ck (rhymes with rick) look is just that stupid, oh-you meant me, am I supposed to be doing something look. a d*ck look by any other name is still…the d*ck look.

By: MsSula

MsSula — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:12:08 +0000

I kind of think of them like a jigsaw puzzle. Right when you have an inward dip, your partner has an outward one that just fits and connects.

Beautiful imagery and sh!t.

By: MsSula

MsSula — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:00:15 +0000

further, i actually think its easier for a woman to �grow to love� a man than it is for a man to �grow to love� a woman. i�ve never grown into love with a chick i was lukewarm on initially�can�t make a fire if there�s no spark

And that’s exactly why this point was made in the first place.

My grandma (RIP), in her ever loving wisdom told us the same thing. Her argument (which corrobores Panama’s point) was that men are visual so they will like you or not from jump. Women tend to look for other qualities that are not displayed on first meet (i.e safety, strength of character, etc…) A woman can therefore “learn” to love her man once he displays those very qualities she’s seeking.

*returns Comeback Girl’s wet blanket and thanks her for letting me use it*

By: MsSula

MsSula — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:36:13 +0000

I am pretty damn sure it was mentionned prior as I haven’t taken the time to read even the first comment, but I think it’s more cyclical. Or ideally it should be more cyclical.

Some days, Samia Safenut loves 70% and Tony Tastytongue 30%. On other days, Tony will be the one all enamored with Samia. And vice versa ad nauseam.

Cyclical is key. or should I add, to me?

By: 8th Wonder

8th Wonder — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 21:24:35 +0000

And to go even deeper with that, its not just forcing someone else by being deceptive, its also being deceptive with yourself. And if you’re decieving yourself, than nah, sleep ain’t coming easily.

Why try to make that puzzle piece to fit when you know it doesn’t?

Stoopid.

By: Muse

Muse — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 21:09:30 +0000

My mother along with other women have always advised me that the man should love me more than I love him. The other way around will lead to disaster. The women in my family believe that the perfect ratio is 55-45 as in the man should be 55% more invested in the relationship. Any thoughts?

By: shay-d-lady

shay-d-lady — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 21:03:30 +0000

yes but a paradox is a contradiction that can be and often times is proven true? so while my logic is contradictory in nature it is something that in under the right circumstances, could be proven true

By: Intellectual Hedonist

Intellectual Hedonist — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:58:16 +0000

@Naturally Alise~Champ may not have been hurt by a past AKA but I already told him what this AKA is going to do to his achilles if this AKA bashing continues.

By: Intellectual Hedonist

Intellectual Hedonist — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:53:43 +0000

I HATE YOU!

**shaking a fist with extended finger and walking away**