Comments on: “emotional” cheating. the ultimate oxymoron

By: Mello Kitteh

Mello Kitteh — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 21:05:07 +0000

THANK YOU!!!! If both of you are mature, rational adults that can communicate without playing games, then you should have no problems with lunch dates or even if your S.O. is venting. Some of us spend as much time at work as we do at home and these work relationships develop into longterm friendships.
I concentrate on being the best wife for my husband I can be and if I do that correctly (and vice versa), cheating shouldn’t be a problem.
The only women I have a problem with are the ones that actively try to take your man and the ones that look like they might steal blank checks or some bull like that.

By: d.raywilliams

d.raywilliams — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 22:18:14 +0000

Right on…Champ, its the act. Emotional cheating is the absolutely ignorant creation of a very insecure woman. I would argue that, thinking, imagining, and evening secretly wanting, another woman, for a man, is not only common and harmless, but actually helpful to the relationship. Men are wired to want what they see. I’ve tried, with everyone I’ve dated, to get over it, but I can’t, its not possible. But I’ve found that having a woman secure enough to know, even the type of girl I’m attracted to, and who will say, “you think she’s sexy don’t you?” withough feeling challenged, actually makes me love her more and respect her more…thereby decreasing the possibility that the “braint F^@k” because anything more than that.

By: RICK

RICK — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:29:30 +0000

There are too many comments I hold an opposing argument to. I presume that The Champ made reference to such a scene like the one in “Closer” because it represents the perspective of most men, however skewed it might be in the eyes of women.

From a woman’s perspective it is likely that she would see cheating even in the form of emotional intimacy, because women mostly view relationships from an intimate and emotional standpoint. Men mostly view relationships with the opposite sex mostly on the physical first, and if anything impedes that relationship we are likely to assume that there is something physically which is impeding it.

In the awe inspiring words of Ron Burgundy, “It’s Science!”

As far as those that ascribe sharing intimate details with someone else besides your significant other as being emotional cheating, what if the guy shares the fact that he has jock itch or irritable bowel syndrome with a friend of his, whether it be a man or woman? Is he still emotionally cheating then?

It’s just my opinion, I could be wrong….

By: calina

calina — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:44:09 +0000

I agree…Man, it is hurtful to read a letter your man wrote to another girl where he is all “sensitive and shit”…especially when he has never sent you letters like that, OUCH…I will take a random ho slobbing the knob any day!

By: calina

calina — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:38:27 +0000

hahahahaha, classic…silly men..stop thinking!

By: calina

calina — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:34:35 +0000

I really think you have to have it happen to you…ya can’t conjure up this scenario… I’m an “emotionally cheater” and it is bad….I’ll put it like this…if your stance is, men are “cool” with it, then you would not have a problem if your girl said a guy’s name (an attainable guy or one of your friend’s name) if you were having sex with her? What if she needed to imagine the other guy to get off and let you know that…that would suck…

By: calina

calina — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:29:09 +0000

YES!!!! I’m a fucking Cavewoman!!!!

By: ChocolateGirlWonder

ChocolateGirlWonder — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 20:47:42 +0000

That particular scene is DEFINITELY rewatchable…

I love the part where he screams “I’m a fucking caveman!”

By: Onye

Onye — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 10:48:08 +0000

Yep, I know the words to that song by heart.
I’m a geek, yes. Sue me. But I *can* sing.

P: when was she in your house? I had to ask. So you’re saying that picturing her (however/whatever u said) isn’t cheating if you are in a relationship with another female? Not being confrontational, just want to get a gauge of your opinion/response…

Ree: I think the ocean analogy came from Titanic, I believe (but… who knows?)

By: D*stroy

D*stroy — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 19:46:59 +0000

I define cheating simply as behavior (opposite sex-related) that you wouldn�t do in front of your significant other. With that said, is a relationship even worth having if you can�t even �look� (I am using �look� as a synonym for lust) at another person? Hell No! I am just going to throw this out there but�I honestly can�t imagine a world without cheating (in some form or another). The very fabric of the world would unravel without it. Just imagine the psychological trauma that so many of us would undergo. For example many find that The Club is the perfect place to establish their self-worth(lol). But, there is nothing like being (as the fellas can attest) in the clutches of some talented twirker (ie someone who has carefully honed their ability to �get low� in stilettos). This is an opportunity for us to reaffirm our swagger and desirability. Not to mention that after being in a relationship for years your significant other is not going to drop that thang to the floor� nor would you want her to. But that doesn�t mean that you have lost interest in big thangs droppin� or that your loins no longer yearn for it! How else do you get what you want while keeping what you love without venturing into the cheating spectrum? I am not saying that a person should have extramarital sex (health concerns alone have proven that to be a bad idea) but to get a little affection may just be healthy for your relationship. NOTE: I don�t know if I buy this sh*t either but its worth thinking about.