soon to be former mayor kilpatrick with mistress christine beatty, the patron saint of light-skinned points
i received this email a couple of weeks ago from ashley “the fireman” johnson (aka “hood bradley“), a friend of vsb.com
IS THERE A FAITHFUL POLITICIAN OUT THERE…ANYWHERE?
If we just go w/ the big scandals…we first heard about JFK and Marilyn, then Bill and Monica, most recently Elliot Spitzer and the Miami pro, now John Edwards.(Oh, and lets not forget Thomas J. and Sally Hemmings — who started it ALL…)
What is it w/ these fellas and their inability to stay faithful. The power? The prestige? The young, fresh intern-quality @$$ just lying around D.C.?
And what is is about their wives, who be standing right next to ‘em at the “blow up ya’ spot press conference”?
Lastly…Barack. Will he fall victim too, if he assumes the throne? ‘Cause you can imagine that Michelle would box-cutter that playa.
ashley could have very easily substituted “powerful/popular man“ for “politician” in the title, and the theme would have remained the same. as reluctant as i am to admit that any particular gender has the edge in the cheating sweepstakes, history has shown us that men with elevated social status seem to be more likely to sidestep faithfulness and monogamy more than anyone else.
from the theory that the type of competitive and borderline compulsive personalities that high achieving men typically possess usually extends to the way they view the opposite sex to the fact that this same hyper-assertion and aggression is an aphrodisiac for many women, there are myraid possible reasons for this dynamic…but maybe chris rock is right. maybe we’re truly only as faithful as our options.
as much as i love to get on my ivory tower and bray about the fundamental selfishness and weakness exhibited in habitual cheating, maybe every guy (including the champ), regardless of how moral they claim to be, has a “breaking point”, a p**sy point of no return. maybe the only thing separating me from kwame kilpatrick (other than the fact that i would have at least picked a chick who didn’t look like the mulatto version of bea arthur) is that i just haven’t reached mine…yet.
honestly, i’m stumped. people of vsb.com, how would you answer ashley’s questions?
—the champ
Firstly, Kwame’s mistress looks like Cruella Deville from 101 Dalmatians. She got them SHARP features!!
And yes, Michelle would “cut a b*tch” if they touch Barack. Don’t let the classy fool you. (DOLPHINS STAND UP!! Michelle and I went to the same high school).
And me!
“And me!”
you’ll “cut a b*tch” too?
Me too! Dolphins unite!
LMAO!
So the day after future President Obama delivered his acceptance speech I was talking to one of my girls and jokingly said “makes me want to intern at the white house just so I can have an affair” my girl got all quiet and said, “b*tch I will cut you” I was like Dayum!
Then we got into the conversation about how we are sure there are women that cannot wait til he gets in to try to sidle up to him and give him the business. Power is a powerful thing **confused look on my face**
Where did yall go Chicago’s Whitney Young? Yall killin me.
YOU KNO IT, WuDa!!
I had some friends who went there. **two thumbs up**
I think the inability of men to stay faithful reveals who is the true “weaker” sex. I also think society grants men too many passes. And within the confines of Negronia, we celebrate the player culture so much that even wives and girlfriends have been heard complaining that “jump-offs need to know their role”. It’s like a given with us.
Not me.
I also think when you add power and money to the already permissive culture these men develop a God complex. They arent being sloppy they dont give a sh!t. They control so much and so many people fall at their feet that they start to feel above the rules and laws of society.
“And within the confines of Negronia, we celebrate the player culture so much that even wives and girlfriends have been heard complaining that “jump-offs need to know their role”. It’s like a given with us.
Not me.”
Nor me…
“who is the true “weaker” sex.”
If by weaker you refer to the inability to stay faithful whilst in the confinements of a relationship (for guys i.e. sex with added obligations such as listening, remembering B-days, pulling down the toilet seat, going down on her, calling her, asking her what’s wrong when she seems to be crieng etc.)….i don’t think we can argue with tthat, aren’t you a genius.
what defines weakness differs from person to person and can be attributed to both sides of the argument. Is the man weak for giving in to who knows how much pu$$ being tossed his way..,is his wife weak for standing with him…is the mistress weak for even being a mistress…there is weakness from every angle if you wanna take that road.
what defines weakness differs from person to person and can be attributed to both sides of the argument. Is the man weak for giving in to who knows how much pu$$ being tossed his way..,is his wife weak for standing with him…is the mistress weak for even being a mistress…there is weakness from every angle if you wanna take that road.
that’s the real-est sh1t eer typed right there! when the betrayed wife stands by her man, is she weak for not being strong enough to leave? or if she leaves, is she being weak for not being strong enough to stay? The JO is weak for falling for the okee doke that led her to bed someone else’s man? or is she strong for recognizing that if she could take him, he never belonged to anyone?
With the exception of the dishonesty involved (which we are all agreed is some weak punk type sh1t) the entire premise of cheating is a gray area when it comes to who is preying on whom…deep sh1t!
“I think the inability of men to stay faithful reveals who is the true “weaker” sex.”
inability to stay faithful? are you referring to all men or just the type of men i referenced in the entry?
I think the inability of men to stay faithful reveals who is the true “weaker” sex
This line is a blanket statement. It has no meaning and should be stricken from the record
Because no one makes blanket statements on blogs, right?
Champ- not ALL men, but the broke AND the powerful infidels! Yes.
Yes there is a lot of weakness played out in affairs, but the brunt of it falls on the shoulders of the one who strays. If you are a mom (or dad) with three kids and a morgage, are you really weak for staying or making a decision to protect your kids and your lifestyle.
If you are a mom (or dad) with three kids and a morgage, are you really weak for staying or making a decision to protect your kids and your lifestyle.
Having grown up with a stayer? the answer to this is yes, you are weak for staying and the truth is its not about the mortgage or the kids its always purely selfish. I love my mom and dad to death but it took me a long time to get past the shyt my dad did to my mom. I remember the fights late at night, the women calling my dad’s phone, I really wish she would have left. She used to say all the time she did it for us? but really she did it for herself as do most women.
Lemme learns ya. I’ve never made a blanket statement. Everything I have said is 100% accurate. You can print my words in textbooks and hand them out to the seeds and young earths cause its The Truf. Thousands of years from now I will be considered one of the top thinkers of my era right up there with ODB.
“If you are a mom (or dad) with three kids and a morgage, are you really weak for staying or making a decision to protect your kids and your lifestyle.”
absolutely. there is no excuse for a lack of self respect…if anything you have more of a responsibility to leave when you have kids. i mean, what exactly are you trying to teach them?? what does a little girl learn from a mother that stays in an unhealthy situation with an unfaithful man? what does a little boy learn from that mother about how women are to be treated?
staying and making excuses is much easier (read: weaker) than having the courage to get up and go, kids and all, IMO
I almost shed a tear… preach Shatani
Shay D I can’t speak for your situation but you really have to consider the financial side of things. Check out this link about the financial effect of divorce on women http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/LoveAndMoney/GetRealMarriageIsABusiness.aspx. It’s really easy to say what your mom should have done and assume that everything would have worked out okay financially. But the numbers back up the fact the women who are divorced have a high rate of bankruptcy. Again I don’t know your situation but did your parents help pay for your colle, private school, summer programs, etc. that really benefited you in the long run. I don’t know if they did these things if it would outweigh the emotional stress but it is a major factor to consider.
I can tell you this.. I slept with a light on until I was 21 years old, even today if I am asleep and my husband is on the phone talking loudly it wakes me up instantly, I love my husband to death but it took me so long to trust him and I still struggle with being too strong and not allowing him to take the lead. A child dosent know bankruptcy, a child dosent know about bad credit. These things can be easily repaired but the emotional distress and turmoil of constant fighting, (physically and mentally) can not be. A lot of the mental scars I developed from growing up with this, will be with me for life.
I would also like to say I think many women dont understand what the true meaning of “strong enough to stay” means. Most marriages break up over financial difficulties, not infidelity. So a women will stay through that but when the money gets tight they leave. The vows state for richer or poorer, through sickness and health. Most men and women are not strong enough to stay through those types of tribulations. The minute the rent is late or someone is laid off and times get hard they bounce but if the money right and the bills paid they will stay and take the disrespect…..
tell em! tell em!!
First…Christine Beatty is not cute. I mean, she looks…old. Is she 60? If so, she’s aight. If she’s 40, she needs a deep chemical peel stat.
Secondly…I think it is hard for anyone who has tail tossed at them on the regular to say no. Not impossible. Just hard. And powerful people – politicians, music, movie and sports stars, Djs, bartenders and door guys/girls, get a lot of tail tossed at them.
I think powerful women cheat as much as powerful men do: Jackie O had rumored affairs. Eleanor Roosevelt had a rumored affair, a lesbian one, but an affair nonetheless. Men are just sometimes (often) dumb as hell and get caught. Prostitutes? IMing? Texting? Leaving a trail??? An intern with a big mouth???? Yeah…a woman would never slip like that.
Hillary Clinton’s rumored lover ended up dead, a victim of an apparent suicide. That’s how we do.
LOL @ Hillary Clinton’s rumored lover ended up dead, a victim of an apparent suicide. That’s how we do.
Yep old Vince Foster, I remember that.
Billy used his presidential priveledge and had him offed like Deangelo on The Wire.
Yep. The Clintons have a more than a few questionable deaths of people who were once close to them.
Just like Avon Barksdale
Dont forget Ron Brown
I did forget about him. This list just keeps going…lol
“LOL @ Hillary Clinton’s rumored lover ended up dead, a victim of an apparent suicide. That’s how we do.”
yeah…this made me laugh too. there’s a term some conservatives use to describe the numerous “unexplained” deaths people affiliated with the clintons: arkansaside
lmao @ thats how we do! thats funny though, my girl was talkin about how men cant do nothin right…they cant lie right, cant cheat right. they just stupid! she had me ctfu with that….
“Men are just sometimes (often) dumb as hell and get caught. Prostitutes? IMing? Texting? Leaving a trail??? An intern with a big mouth???? Yeah…a woman would never slip like that.”
Co-signage…
women do it too. They arent without fault. Men just dont go around talking about how they got or are getting cheated on. Its along the same lines as talking about how you got sexually harassed by a woman at work.
its not that women dont do it…the idea is, women are smarter about it.
thats got nothing to do with it. You dont think men have the same intution that tells them when their girl is bangin someone else? A man just wont speak on it. He will just break up with the girl and say it didnt work out. Men bottle that stuff up and move on if they can. Its not often (in my experiece) that you see some dude whining about how his girl cheated on him. His friends will just tell him to man up and move on.
“women are smarter about it.”
and they have “dyck” points of no return. I find that once a woman cheats that relationship has been over a real long time and just needed a more “ceremonious” ending.
women don’t like to end things generally. they wait until all the writing is on the wall, the next door neighbors wall, they done prayed to allah/buddah, traveled to tibet, fasted 29 days.
cheating is one thing a man (who doesn’t want you but doesn’t anyone else to have you either) can’t forgive. And for a man who won’t go, sometimes the cheat is a woman’s last option for the final exit.
I think powerful women cheat as much as powerful men do: Jackie O had rumored affairs.
nah…I think that successful women don’t even get wrapped up in a committed relationship, therefore they don’t cheat cuz there is nothing to cheat on (a la Oprah)…I think more powerful men should adopt that practice, just stay single ni99a…then you ain’t cheating on anyone!! duh!
how many single men of power and promence (sp?) do you see out there? I think having a wife is part of the image of having power. There arent any Bruce Waynes in real life that I can think of.
“Prominence”…lol…and good point DEV…I guess the whole illusion of stability is created within the context of the nuclear family and we want stable leaders, right?…adversely, female politicians are seen as “doing too much” when they have a family…because bein a wife, mother, and an effective policy maker is a hard row to ho3…I feel like this about Palin…toddlers don’t belong in the White House…they will color on the walls!
not justa toddler – a baby with down syndrome
y’all are wrong. lol.
not justa toddler – a baby with down syndrome
The mother in me dosent understand how she can attempt to run a country when she has a small child with down sydrome. I would not be able to let someone else take primary responsiblity for my childs care….
From what I understand her husband is a stay at home dad so I guess it has been his thing to take care of the baby. Thats probly why she feels she can do this.
I honestly dont know why men cheat but I have an idea of why women stay. A lot of women get caught up in the winning. What do they really have to win? thats not the point. The point is that some chick is trying to get in on the ninja whose papers you wrote in college, whose dirty draws you washed, the ninja that before you, was wearing flat front ankle beater dress pants and plaid shirts with ties. The ninja for whom you borrowed money from your mama and worked 2 jobs to support through college and while he was working that weak a$$ internship. Now you made it to the big leagues, getting your piece of the pie and some new chick wants to reap the benefits of your hard work (even though if you would have put that hard work into your own career you could have been happy and successful on your own). She has called the house, she pages him when she knows you are around etc. you have told her that she aint nothing but a side piece and you mighta had him once but I got him all the time so they stick around, through all the embarrassment and shame just to prove that he aint going nowhere and also they have brainwashed themselves into thinking that he-ll all men cheat so why trade in a trade show puppy for one of them joints from the bad news dog kennel…….
so are you one of the “stayers”?
I admit that I am, I am a stayer. Say what you will but I stayed when my SO was and infidel and later kicked him to the curb, only when I was no longer happy in the situation and honestly had outgrown him.
I thought I could be a stayer…but I ain’t! I know that my love is unonditional but my trust and respect are not…so once you have f*cked my trust up…I get tired of looking over my shoulder, second guessing everything you say, and replaying every time you had to “work late” or “went out with the boys” trying to see if there was something I was missing…I am not willing to drive myself crazy (or catch a case) behind not narry ni99a…so I bounce like a rent check the day before payday!
“I get tired of looking over my shoulder, second guessing everything you say”
this is what finally did me in too, and though I may say I would never do it again, Love is a strong drug and who is to say that I wouldn’t.
“Love is a strong drug”
Yes, Love is like crack. You’re walking around in a daze, you make no sense, you sometimes lose the ones you love b/c u forget how to act, and you can lose ur teeth (you know. when ur man’s mistress comes at u wrong and yall duke it out). It’s DANGEROUS out in them love streets.
thought I could be a stayer…but I ain’t! I know that my love is unonditional but my trust and respect are not!!!
Say that Shyt Goodness!! I am not going to let you turn me into a crazy biatch. I am not the jealous type, I dont trip about going out, your phone, etc however if you betray that trust I gotta bounce because I cant stay with you and still be me…. I would have to be eye spy private eye and thats not who I am
im so feelin this, goodie! it sounds bad, but i dont forgive. if i were to stay, i would make BOTH our lives miserable on some Movin Mountains ish…nah, i will spare myself such insanity.
im so feelin this, goodie! it sounds bad, but i dont forgive
I do forgive.. but that dosent mean I have to stay with you. I have no anger in my heart against any of my ex’s.. forgiving and learning from my past mistakes (a person only treats you as good as you make them so the bad relationships werent all their faults either) has made finding love with my husband that much sweeter…..queue the violins……
WORD…I have been cheated on a few times… I forgive and move on…not instantly, of course, but I know I will block my blessings and make myself less happy in the future if I can’t grow through it…just let the sh1t go!
so are you one of the “stayers”?
No, but I come from a family of stayers..I have grown up watching my grown ass mother and aunts fist fight, break up, scream holler, cry time after time expecting their men to just straighten up to become something other than what they were. I got caught up in college and It was the one time in my life I can truly say I forgot who “I” was. I then became so hardcore zero tolerance against men I wasnt accepting even the tiniest mistake, for fear of ending up like all the other women in my fam. I think I am comfortably in the middle now.
“I got caught up in college and It was the one time in my life I can truly say I forgot who “I” was. I then became so hardcore zero tolerance against men I wasnt accepting even the tiniest mistake, for fear of ending up like all the other women in my fam. I think I am comfortably in the middle now.”
I FEEEEEEEL it.
nah, im not a stayer at all…i will be the first to tell you that i am not your “ride or die”….i have a low tolerance for drama and a reluctance to suffer even for a little bit. the pain allergy will make me walk it out.
i remember talkin with some of my girls about cheating and they were really surprised that i had never cheated on a SO, not once. im a leaver, not a cheater….if im at the point that im considering cheating, then i left emotionally a long time ago anyway.
“even though if you would have put that hard work into your own career you could have been happy and successful on your own”
^^Key words – On your Own.
Many, if not most, career successful black women are doing it by themselves.
Stats don’t lie.
What’s the point of having a big house and yard, if there’s no man to harass to mow it?
“What’s the point of having a big house and yard, if there’s no man to harass to mow it?”
This is why single women should buy condos.
This is exactly why I’m looking into a condo.
I know how to do yardwork, but I’m not tryna do it myself, and I’m too cheap to pay a landscaper.
say it twice!
*high five and a wooohoo!*
i love a good condo/townhouse…all the joys of home ownership without the messy yardwork.
“What’s the point of having a big house and yard, if there’s no man to harass to mow it?”
I guess so you can compromise your need to have a man mow said lawn at all costs apparently, your sanity, self-respect and such…just to say, I got a man, he may not be ALL mine but at least he mows the lawn.
“I got a man, he may not be ALL mine but at least he mows the lawn.”
sadly, there are women in the world right now sayin this ish and proud of it.
has anyone ever heard of a “yard man” I mean come on… of course if I had a choice between being alone and being with a guy I loved that loved me back I would not chose to be alone.. but to chose to be with a guy that continuously degraded me, disrespected me, consistently takes me for granted.. Then I would be on my own, with a big house, and a yard man. I mean how can one argue women are the stronger sex if being dependant on someone to pay the bills and someone to mow the yard is keeping you in an unhealthy, unhappy relationship….
girl my yard man got deported and I didn’t know what I was going to do! lol… I am on the fence now about another house or a warehouse downtown to fufill my home-ownership jones…LOL
i am so hurt by “the mulatto version of bea arthur”!!! i mean seriously, i cant even form a coherent thought right now…choking on my midnight s’mores and sh*t!
She does kinda look like a cafe au lait Maude. I mean Dorothy Zbornak. I mean Bea Arthur.
so mad, that not only do you know dorothy’s last name, but you know how to spell dorothy’s last name! LMAO
i loves me some bea arthur
“i am so hurt by “the mulatto version of bea arthur”!!! ”
I spit out my Wild Pepsi Cherry Vanilla when I saw this. HOT MESS!!
Umm… Bea Arthur’s voice made Barry White’s sound like a falsetto. Now THAT is how one “mans up”
“Now THAT is how one “mans up””
i am so mad at you
*innocently* What I do, Shay??
“the mulatto version of bea arthur”
man! Golden Girls was my joint! RIP Estelle Getty!
Kilpatrick’s wife is very attractive. At some point when you get over the cheating you do question his level of taste. If you gonna sneak, do it with someone hotter and badder, don’t just half @ss wit the shyt.
Other than that, i think if cheating was ever excusable at the political level-this kind of cheating might be it. Its never about the woman REALLY.
He certainly left her hanging, i mean you’re losing your job AND you have compromised your family’s legacy. SO WHY NOT KEEP HER @ss!!! it won’t happen. Why??? cause it wasn’t about her. It was about the chase. The science of cheating really explores the adrenal high that a man can’t get anywhere else.
“Kilpatrick’s wife is very attractive. At some point when you get over the cheating you do question his level of taste. If you gonna sneak, do it with someone hotter and badder, don’t just half @ss wit the shyt.”
Agreed. lol. I mean, if you are gonna cheat, cheat with the Halle or Nia lookalike. Not THIS chick. If you are gonna potentially destroy your family, why go after some a$$ ANYBODY can get?
i think she gave great text se@x, this is why I disconnected my shyt.
LMAO!!!
girl them TEXTUAL relationships will get you!
texual seduuuctioooon, hayyyy!
Sorry, I had a Snoop/James Brown moment.
glad im not alone on that one
“Kilpatrick’s wife is very attractive. At some point when you get over the cheating you do question his level of taste. If you gonna sneak, do it with someone hotter and badder, don’t just half @ss wit the shyt.”
His wife was more attractive, but clearly he found the other woman more interesting.
I have this theory that men date attractive women for the approval of others, but sometimes deep down inside they really like the not so cute chick who is clearly able to capture his “attention” too.
“I have this theory that men date attractive women for the approval of others, but sometimes deep down inside they really like the not so cute chick who is clearly able to capture his “attention” too.”
Naw every man wants an attractive woman who is witty and who can screw his brains out. And who can, preferably, whip him up a good meal. Doubt any guy thinks “let me find the not so cute chick who can keep my attention”. lol.
After said cute chick stops screwing him as frequently as she used to or stops cooking or her wit turns to nagging, he may look elsewhere. And that elsewhere may just be an average chick who rides him like her life depends on it and sends him home with a hot plate.
“Naw every man wants an attractive woman who is witty and who can screw his brains out”
“After said cute chick stops screwing him as frequently as she used to or stops cooking or her wit turns to nagging, he may look elsewhere.”
Woman you speak my soul, that’s the truth right there!!!!
Motto to the cute gals: Not only work harder on your head-game, develop stamina and sustainability, for everyones wellbeing.
“develop stamina and sustainability, for everyones wellbeing.”
***mt. zion christian academy***
Didn’t Kilpatrick and Bea Arthur go to high school together? If so, that explains alot. They were probably banging then and continued the love affair. Or she was extra banging in high school, played him to the left and now he wanted to lay the pipe to show her what she missed out on.
“Naw every man wants an attractive woman who is witty and who can screw his brains out. And who can, preferably, whip him up a good meal. Doubt any guy thinks “let me find the not so cute chick who can keep my attention”. lol.
After said cute chick stops screwing him as frequently as she used to or stops cooking or her wit turns to nagging, he may look elsewhere. And that elsewhere may just be an average chick who rides him like her life depends on it and sends him home with a hot plate.”
i can’t argue with any of this
“After said cute chick stops screwing him as frequently as she used to or stops cooking or her wit turns to nagging, he may look elsewhere. And that elsewhere may just be an average chick who rides him like her life depends on it and sends him home with a hot plate.”
say word! dudes have told me that ugly girls are much less work too. they are appreciative of the attention you give them and they aim to please! where your fly chick will be like, you aint called me in two days! the ugly chick might be like, wow, two calls in a week?!?! men like isht to be easy…the less work the better and nothing is easier than a ugly jumpoff.
V dot says something like;
ride me hard and send me home wit a hot plate.
now i would wear this t-shirt if it were not for the thought that the funboys would become dellusional. …in which case i’d have to bust some craniums to the white meat. it wouldn’t be pretty.
…but for the girls. hell yeah ride me like a show pony.
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whooooooo!
“but sometimes deep down inside they really like the not so cute chick who is clearly able to capture his “attention” too.”
doubtful…I think my next door neighbor’s poodle (that is some kind of crazy mix), that don’t mean Im tryna hook up when I’m feeling frisky.
I found some of the text transcripts floating around and she appealed to his nasty ghetto butt trollopness (workcited bscott). Soon after they had something in common, their secrets. I don’t think it got any deeper than that.
if so, why isn’t he still with her? Men don’t risk their family’s name for “interesting” im sorry.
LOVE B Scott!!
“I have this theory that men date attractive women for the approval of others, but sometimes deep down inside they really like the not so cute chick who is clearly able to capture his “attention” too.”
I feel that…my brother’s best friend is in love with me! (he is 19, so it’s a non-issue) but he is always Duncan Hines-ing me…so one day I asked why he liked me so much…he said “because you are fuggin gorgeous but you have the personality of an ugly chick!” and I must say…I was impressed at his rationale…lol…just 10 years too late! LOL
“I have this theory that men date attractive women for the approval of others, but sometimes deep down inside they really like the not so cute chick who is clearly able to capture his “attention” too.”
In my circle we call this “arm piece vs. side piece” (would you like a biscuit with that?)
Cheating ain’t about looks or brains… (well depends on which brains ya talking about…. lol) , almost always the ‘mistress’ looks swamp-donkey-ish or real hellnawish, it is about something new or just that power or feeling of conquest….
I find that the less physically attractive a chick is to me, the more bold her sexual comments will be. With that being the case, it makes perfect sense that these politicians have extra-marital affairs…not that I think it’s ok. How is a man to resist something like “I’ll make your toes curl. I been wantin some of your peni colada since I saw you.” or “You wanna skeet ? Meet me in 1o minutes.”
“How is a man to resist something like “I’ll make your toes curl. I been wantin some of your peni colada since I saw you.” or “You wanna skeet ? Meet me in 1o minutes.”
So true. Back in the day, a guy I dumped for another guy (afterwards, he spent the better part of a year acting like he didn’t know me, lol) was in a bar. Being intoxicated my friend dared me to go to him and say something ‘dirty’. I, also intoxicated, took the bate. hey…$10 was on the line…I couldn’t turn it down.
When I walked up, he looked at me like I had the plague. But when I said “I wanna see that big black stick (the cheesiest ish EVA)” he immediately said “when?”
Spent the rest of the night calling me. And I thought he’d deleted my number. lol. I did not answer, just for the record.
He also no longer looks in my direction.
And, lastly, last year a guy I was dating didn’t want to leave the sports bar we were at until the game was over. I was ready to go so I whispered in his ear that I wanted to blow him. He drug me outta that bad boy.
so, so wrong
did you actually blow him? cuz if not, thats effed up!
Yes, I did. lol.
V dot said:
“I whispered in his ear that I wanted to blow him. He drug me outta that bad boy.”
and that bet sh*t was uncalled for. i see u like to play. mmm hmmm.
…something 4 ur lil azzz.
It was. But in my defense, we were inebriated.
“You wanna skeet ? Meet me in 1o minutes.”
I am ROFL at this! But it’s true what you said. It’s always the lesser attractive woman/man who is more bold sexually only because I guess they figure they have nothing else to offer. So they might as well be the biggest freaks so they can score. So sad.
–Sasha Two Pistols
You wanna skeet ? Meet me in 1o minutes.”
this right here is damn near a marriage proposal in the hood!
dayum that means I am a true bigamist.
ooooh, IH is you a hussy??? lol
“You wanna skeet? Meet me in 1o minutes.”
sidenote: this is the working title of bristol palin’s upcoming autobiography
lmao
i’d read it
LMAO!! Champ, u KNO u ain’t right.
I agree with what you said. I think cheating is about boosting that ego and kind of proving that you “still got it” or that you are invincible. Because if you assess most cheating cases, you will find the majority of the time they “mistress” is not more attractive than the wife/girlfriend. But they’re probably more of a freak though.
–Sasha Two Pistols
real hellnawish
oh yeah…gonna assign that to a few folks!
“Kilpatrick’s wife is very attractive. At some point when you get over the cheating you do question his level of taste. If you gonna sneak, do it with someone hotter and badder, don’t just half @ss wit the shyt.”
I question this all the time. The side piece usually is NEVER as cute as the wife, which really makes you question the ninjas judgment. I ain’t met a WOMAN yet who cheated with a lesser man than what she already has…real talk.
I don’t think they are looking at physical attributes, just how easy the hole is for them to stick.
and that’s the sad part…
“I ain’t met a WOMAN yet who cheated with a lesser man than what she already has…real talk.”
I don’t think I could ever be compelled to cheat, cause if Im thinking about someone else enough to want to leave, Its a wrap. Why go through all the drama. But if I was gonna cheat, Im going down in a blaze of glory, not a yugo.
Comeback, V dot and whomever else, men cheating is not always about trying to get a replacement for what you already have, or about who looks the best and pretty aint shit if it aint pretty inside, fat a$$ turns to flab, big titties turn to pancakes.
…and yes women cheat with men who are not as physically attractive as their husbands and S.O’s. someone else said they didn’t earlier but thats just bullsh*t.
some astute lady commenter mentioned that the woman who is not as pretty as the wife may have that better more pliable submissive attitude and she probably rides him until the cows cum home. when ur in a formal relationship their are so many real and contrived dynamics and responsibilities that much of the desire and appeal can be lost. i’m not trying to make cheating sound good but it is what it is.
“yes women cheat with men who are not as physically attractive as their husbands and S.O’s. someone else said they didn’t earlier but thats just bullsh*t.”
Will co-sign this. Know a chick who cheated on her husband with an unemployed dude who is less attractive than her husband.
There is a lot that goes into cheating. And I wholeheartedly believe women are just as guilty as men on the cheating tip but don’t get caught as often. And to agree with another poster, men don’t go around telling everyone they got cheated on.
” men don’t go around telling everyone they got cheated on.”
its a matter of pride. most dudes would rather say they got beat up than they got cheated on.
“men don’t go around telling everyone they got cheated on.”
What’s crazy is that some women do wear the fact that they were cheated on as some kind of butter badge of honor. Wearing that ish on ur sleeve and carrying it with you is counterproductive. He came, he saw, and he conquered another wench. Go get a BANG of ur own.
hehe. im just… serious. maybe. who knows?
I agree too. I also think that in some instances cheating may be forgivable…but 10,000 texts, trips, and screwing later you’ve commenced a serious relationship. And she’s probably doing more to “keep him”. But at what costs.
Now he’s lost everything so whatever they had wasn’t enough to “sustain” him.
i also agree that women cheat too. but for obviously different reasons. I think many men check out of relationships very early on. And a woman will cheat just to statisfy really basic needs.
. maybe we’re truly only as faithful as our options.
This is totally not the case because in the majority of these cases the “other woman” is not extrodinarily attractive. Most times she is just a RN so to me its more about the power and high they get from the shameless adoration these chicks are showing and the extent that they are willing to go to show it….
i agree. i also think that women need to be very careful with what men show us while they’re courting. I don’t think men just BAM start cheating. Liars are cheaters too. And she may have had some stars in her eyes over his mama/daddy and nem (family political connectedness).
Mm hmm…preach! And something tells me that this probably isn’t the first time Kwame pulled something like this. It might just not have been when he was in the public eye like he is now.
sure wasn’t I was kind of fascinated at the events that lead up to this text scandal and reportedly Mrs. Kilpatrick beat some chicks butt at the mayor’s mansion. Maybe they both deserve each other. But I know men just don’t come out the gate acting stupid.
thats absolutely true…the signs show themselves from the very beginning if youre paying attention.
Throws Shayd:
“…to me its more about the power and high they get from the shameless adoration these chicks are showing and the extent that they are willing to go to show it….”
yeah power can be an intoxicating and motivating force when it cums to cheating. i guess women have less of a taste for power but i can’t tell.
The Champ says, “as reluctant as i am to admit that any particular gender has the edge in the cheating sweepstakes, history has shown us that men with elevated social status seem to be more likely to sidestep faithfulness and monogamy more than anyone else.”
Women who stand something to lose are less likely to cheat, but I think that women cheat as much as men, they just don’t get caught.
The coniving-ness of a woman is remarkable. The trickery is commendable, but I will call a chick out.
I do the same thing with guys who pretentiously use their status/
“Women who stand something to lose are less likely to cheat, but I think that women cheat as much as men, they just don’t get caught.”
Agreed.
Women who stand something to lose are less likely to cheat, but I think that women cheat as much as men, they just don’t get caught.
But if they are less likely to cheat when they have something to lose, wouldnt that by default mean that they cheat less than men,since most women define “something to lose” objectively?
Women who stand something to lose are less likely to cheat, but I think that women cheat as much as men, they just don’t get caught.
**shouldaboughtahondafuhroshunda!!**
**shouldaboughtahondafuhroshunda!!**
So…how are things going over there in the corner?
**shouldaboughtahondafuhroshunda!!**
If there was a corner FOR the corner, GOODENess would be in it. But if we enter any more corner dimensions, we gon get lost in some weird space-time continuum.
you know miss goodie got the roped off VIP section of the corner….i think youre on the list though luvvie!
They’re just as likely to cheat?
I have to disagree my brother.
Most women have been offered free !#@$ since she hit puberty. And it ain’t just obvious dance floor hollers, but insidious “friends” with ulterior motives.
“Beset on all sides by the tyranny of evil men”
When she gives in, she gives into something that is not only just physically invasive, but often times emotionally/mentally invasive.
This is not to say that she’s “emo” over very Tom, Dick, and Harry – her internal world *can* be very disconnected to the antics of Jamal n’nem. But there is an inner dialogue, before the act, during the act, and undoubtedly after the act.
And throw in the fact that a woman can never really be sure of her physical safety in the company of men, and throw in social conditioning…
That has to be counter-balanced by the fact her toes curl, legs shake, and eyes roll back during the highest of the heights.
So on the one hand she weighs the mere possibility of carnal bliss, and on the other hand she has to deal with the physical, mental, and emotional ramifications.
For many, given the # of offers, she’s likely to say no, 99% of the time.
Reverse the situation, put the man in the driver’s seat, and he does not hesistate.
As a side note, most women do live in carnal abundance, but most men do not. And to add insult to injury, most women are only after the few men who do.
If Barack gets caught out there for sliding off, it’s a wrap for the world. Riots and flash floods. Simple as that. He’d also join the league of womanizing Presidents. They all had side bunz.
As for the wives standing there a la Spitzer, they might as well stand by him one more time before they take half.
I wrote about Kwame Kilpatrick a couple weeks back. His biggest downfall is that he was dumb enough to be a texting machine when it came to his indiscretions. He didn’t learn a damn thing from Kobe Bryant. He also didn’t recognize that all black politicians have a natural bullseye on their foreheads.
http://slimjackson.wordpress.com/2008/08/19/how-text-messages-can-ruin-your-life/
The texting thing is what got me? what the he!!.
Did he not know the FBI can dump that ish?
Leave no trail. Leave no trail.
“Leave no trail. Leave no trail.”
This has been my mantra for years…lol
And that should be common sense…sometimes I truly believe men TRY to get caught.
word up, memorize the number, dotn save it with a name in ur fone. dont keep or send any text messages. when you call, dont refer to me by name. this is why i no longer have my voice on my voicemail and i dont answer my phone for “Unavailable Caller,” lol
I mean, basically. That ninja got made cocky thinking he couldn’t be touched…probably thought mama would use her influence to help him out if anything popped off.
i think what happened was that he thought he had a chick mesmerized by the dack (a common misconception)…it probably never crossed his mind that this chick would blow up his spot, he was in his own little world thinkin about how he put it on her so good she gone do whatever he says…
But what made him even MORE dumb, is that he was using the CITY’S CELL PHONE to do his dirty texting. Fool, they have access to those records. I mean if you’re gonna be “sexting”, how bout you get a pre-paid phone or something they can’t trace. He was just stupid and careless, hell he might have wanted to get caught!
-Sasha Two Pistols
“I mean if you’re gonna be “sexting”, how bout you get a pre-paid phone or something they can’t trace. ”
obviously, you haven’t seen season three of “the wire”, because those can be traced too.
just ask avon
as long as there is no Lester Freamon or Prez around its cool
Yeah, I’m sure he wishes he’d cranked dat boost mobile for all the trouble it ended up causing him.
“Yeah, I’m sure he wishes he’d cranked dat boost mobile for all the trouble it ended up causing him.”
Yeah and he wouldn’t have to answer the question “Where U at?” with “Under Bubba in Cellblock D”
“Fool, they have access to those records. I mean if you’re gonna be “sexting”, how bout you get a pre-paid phone or something they can’t trace”
Exactly! He was the mayor, so I know he knew any phone activity could be pulled as a public records request. The fact that he used his cell to text, so explicitly and frequently, has me thinking he did this on purpose. He must have been tryna get caught. I refuse to believe that anyone is that dumb.
maybe just exceedingly arrogant?
Barack has too much to lose…If he gets caught cheating, there will never be another Black POTUS! There will be all kinds of mud-slinging and character asassination as a result of willy nily willy-ing!!
And what about MARTIN? didn’t he have a lot to loose yet and still the FBI got him on record talking dirty to some Hoo Ah! (threw in the New England Accent for ya)
True.
true…but he was already gone when they came out with it…it was unspoken, though…I’m sure Coretta knew the deal! but that was different time…we free nah…we got options!
and also Kwame’s mistress? Him looka lika man……
No you didn’t Ms. Swan up in here…lmao!!!!
“and also Kwame’s mistress? Him looka lika man……”
***laughs unti she has a seizure/heart attack combo***
the services for the GOOD one will be held at the Mount Zion Community Mosque-agog at 4.30pm CST! Instead of flower arrangements, the family asks that you make donations to the “This ni99a Was Ignit As Hell!!” Scholarship Fund
this is almost too easy. my VSB sisters have already spoken thoroughly on the varying rationales behind cheating, so no need to repeat. i’d rather comment on the probability of BHO cheating.
firstly, i doubt he would do it at all (too much to lose. and he might make history AGAIN by getting himself impeached fih true)…but if he DID, he wouldn’t be some local tail á la kwame. it would be some off-the chain type of drama, with an internationally-known model. this would go on for a year, THEN she would go missing. and no one would be the wiser, except for michelle, who would of course have dispatched the special execution force, like the sister who was ejected from the plane over the Congo in The Good Shepherd…
I think if BHO went down for cheating it would be in the most triflin’ manner imaginable. lol. We’d all be like “wtf?”. Maybe a chubby white chick or a really ghetto chick who likes to fight, a la Lisa Raye or something similarly ridiculous. He’s so perfect now that his big indiscretion would leave us scratching our heads wondering “what was he thinking?”
ok, i’m sorry i started this line of thinking…it makes me
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…actually, i blame the Champ.
“ok, i’m sorry i started this line of thinking…it makes me
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…actually, i blame the Champ.”
hey!! i take offense to that and sh*t
please don’t!
: )
BTW devessel, i dont think that Brotha Kwame is that bright to think of something that good lol
Mi dos pesos:
Men cheat because depending on which head their thinking with at the time. Doesnt really matter if they are powerful or some brotha who works at mcdonalds. Logic and reason is just that…logic and reason. When the lil head gets stimulated..all that logic and rational thought goes out the window..lol
If a man sees some cute lil chick with a bubble walking up to him..telling him what he likes to hear…making him feel like the man he is or wants to be.. of course his other “head” is going to take over and control his thought processes.
” Maybe ill hit it just this once..no one will find out…yada yada” PLEASE!
And most women know that men cant hide their cheating ways properly…he will eventually get caught.
@aja: thanks, you just made my point for me. i was not at all referring to bro. kwame.
*if* BHO actually broke all of our hearts and did it, i would hope that at least it would be some james bond type of thang. we are owed.
this is really a depressing line of thought though…all the black women sighing and chanting *black love! black love!* will be devastated! i predict it will be the end of the black nuclear family….he carries the future of the race in his pants.
Look…I’ve been preaching this sh*t for years, If you’ve watched Chris Rock, South Park and Boondocks then you have the answers to all of lifes questions (sounds like a joke at first, but it will hit you eventually)
Chris: “It’s easy for woman to give up free D*ck cause they’ve been trieng to get f**kd since they were twelve. Us men, when we getting chased by p*ssy, we just can’t run that fast”
South Park: “Cheating is not a choice, it’s actually a desease, and i am not irresponsible, selfish, and uncaring I’m sick”
Boondocks: “Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, just cause you don’t have proof that your wife isn’t cheating, doesn’t mean she is not” and ofcourse “B*tches love the smiley face”
I rest my case.
P.S Would all the ladies quit with the yapping about men are this and men are that…regergitating some sh*t you heard on Ricky Lake/Dr. Phil 100 times don’t make you smart at all, infact if anything it makes you more vulnerable to falling prey to that injustice since you feel you know men. {so homo}
“P.S Would all the ladies quit with the yapping about men are this and men are that…regergitating some sh*t you heard on Ricky Lake/Dr. Phil 100 times don’t make you smart at all, infact if anything it makes you more vulnerable to falling prey to that injustice since you feel you know men. {so homo}”
well I’m not 12 or 21 or 31 so I suppose I could fall prey for the shyt at like 51 or hell 61….there’s always 100. I could be someone’s jump off flunky with a wiki entry of “text scandal” at 100. Mama McCain is holding up pretty damn well….
ahhh..now that’s something to aspire to, ladies.
Boondocks: “Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, just cause you don’t have proof that your wife isn’t cheating, doesn’t mean she is not” and ofcourse “B*tches love the smiley face”
I rest my case.
P.S Would all the ladies quit with the yapping about men are this and men are that…regergitating some sh*t you heard on Ricky Lake/Dr. Phil 100 times don’t make you smart at all, infact if anything it makes you more vulnerable to falling prey to that injustice since you feel you know men. {so homo}
SISANDA…can you go any harder?? huh? huh? can you? I e-heart you!! and I have a passport!
I’m on award tour w/ SISANDA my man, going each and every place with a MIC in my hand…
sisanda spits fire:
“…Would all the ladies quit with the yapping about men are this and men are that…regergitating some sh*t you heard on Ricky Lake/Dr. Phil …”
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooooo!
I do think that there are two points that really illuminate some key facts.
The first being that both men and women do cheat. Just because men happen to get caught more often does not make it any less wrong for women. Just because OJ Simpson got the sentence not guilty from our judicial system does not mean that what he did is any less wrong in the eyes of God. As such, I don’t think its a logical thing to say, “if you’re going to cheat, don’t get caught”. Getting caught morally has little to do with the discussion in my opinion.
This still applies, even though in this society we like to preach ‘innocent until proven guilty’.
Secondly, I think men may be more predisposed to cheat because we as males are genetically hardwired. You’d find it more than difficult to train a Saluki *not* to chase a squirrel. That dog was made to run and hunt, and it’s innate desires lead it to do just that. (A Saluki is one of the ancient dog breeds).
Similarly, I think men have been ‘built’ to be promiscuous, and this idea is also somewhat ingrained in their heads. Biologically, men can impregnate as many women as they want at any given time for as long as they choose (or not choose). Women have 9 month pregnancy terms, and thus aren’t built to sleep around as much (discounting the fairly recent advances in society when it comes to plan A and plan B contraception).
With that being said, I think that often times men that do cheat do so not because they don’t care about their wives. I think the fact that women listen to Dr. Phil and read Cosmopolitan articles about what men ‘really’ want is what frustrates them to step out.
Men usually just say what they want, but its not really what women want to hear and doesn’t really coincide with what they’d like to do or give to us. I feel like for either sex, if someone doesn’t feel like they’re having their concerns heard, even if they don’t actively stray, it certainly opens the door for someone else to come into the mix…
“Men usually just say what they want, but its not really what women want to hear and doesn’t really coincide with what they’d like to do or give to us. I feel like for either sex, if someone doesn’t feel like they’re having their concerns heard, even if they don’t actively stray, it certainly opens the door for someone else to come into the mix…”
*oxtail and stew peas for sunday dinner*
ppl think im crazy when i say if i find out my man is cheating ill blame myself for not giving him what he wanted then leave because obviously i fell short. 9 times out of 10, your mate lets you know what they need and either you’re too selfish or whatever to give it to them. of course theres always that one that is getting everything at home and still steps out, and i think at that point its a matter of options. i know i only say im celibate when i have no one to sleep with, lol
“ppl think im crazy when i say if i find out my man is cheating ill blame myself for not giving him what he wanted then leave because obviously i fell short.”
actually, i agree with you. even if it wasn’t the case, and i WAS giving that dude all he needed and THEN SOME, i’d still use this on a whole reverse psych level, to make his arse feel worse as i’m leaving.
LOL. Just throw salt in the wound.
“The first being that both men and women do cheat. Just because men happen to get caught more often does not make it any less wrong for women. Just because OJ Simpson got the sentence not guilty from our judicial system does not mean that what he did is any less wrong in the eyes of God. As such, I don’t think its a logical thing to say, “if you’re going to cheat, don’t get caught”. Getting caught morally has little to do with the discussion in my opinion.”
good point
WTF Hell to the Naw.. this is some bullshyt. MEN and WOMEN cheat because they want to. I dont care how much a woman falls short the decision to cheat instead of leave is totally in the cheaters hands. It dosent justify, or give a free pass. If my husband chose to leave because of BAC head then thats my fault if he chose to cheat because of it..that’s his. If you are genetically hard wired to be promiscuous then dont commit. When you make the decision to enter into a committed relationship you are deciding that regardless of how hard it is, this person is the one you are willing to make that sacrifice for. If the person is not then leave, cheating however is a selfish thing. You are trying to have your nookie and eat it too…. I refuse to take the blame for someone else’s inability to control themselves. I dont care how wack my head game is, how dirty my house, how much nagging I do etc. because (and I cant stress it enough) you can try to work it out or you can leave but cheating? GET THE F*ck outta here
I think it depends. If either party gets so comfortable that they think their significant other should just learn to live with their flaws and such, that is selfish of them. Just because *you* may be dirty doesn’t mean I should be content with it just because I’m with you.
I’m of the train of thought that people in relationships will put forth the effort to make sure the other is never in wanting. And even if someone is left in wanting, the effort is greatly appreciated and the relationship is all the stronger because of it.
No one is perfect, but if its clear that the other person wants something, you can put forth a *sincere* effort to try and appease whatever grievance they have (especially if you truly care about them). I may not be the perfect husband for some woman some day, but I’ll try my hardest, and have no problem working to change whatever bad/annoying habits of mine to do so.
If you’re fine with someone leaving the relationship altogether because of your stubbornness, then you probably didn’t care about them that much in the first place.
Maybe people cheat and don’t elect to end a relationship because they hope that better days and change is coming. I don’t know, I can’t speak on behalf of them. I do understand why hope might prevent a clean ‘breaking’ of the relationship and put someone into an intermediary state of affairs (pun intended).
there is nothing you can say to justify cheating. If you dont like my ways and I am not willing to change then you need to decide to deal with it or leave. If I am unwilling to change I have to deal with the fact that you will leave. Cheating, regardless of how clever, lengthy and articulate the response is still a selfish decision.
Dang slim. I’m not trying to justfiy or anything like that. I’m just saying, I can see why someone might. I feel you in that right is right, and wrong is wrong, which cheating certainly is. Just saying that I see where someone might fall into certain traps because they’re too scared to leave the relationship.
I don’t think that people are that mean-spirited and selfish to cheat (in marriages anyway), but then again, I’m probably being overly idealistic. In which case, if I were a victim of cheating, I’d rather learn the reason why I was cheated on be to an inability for us to communicate and get on the same page, as opposed to ‘I dunno, I just wanted a nut and you were’nt around and he looked really good too’ or something like that.
At least that way I wouldn’t be questioning why I even got with the jawn in the first place. *knock on wood* lol
my bad first let me apologize.. this is a very personal subject to me (see posts above) and I am also typing my responses from my phone so I didnt have time “nice it down” but I did say you were articulate!!!
This is my thing about wondering why they cheat. There is no reason. They cheated because their needs became more important than the relationship at that moment regardless to what was going on. Questioning why he cheated is totally different from wanting to know what is wrong with the relationship. Cheating is easy, working it out, telling people not only what you want and how you feel but when they are not living up to those things and hearing the same is what’s hard. How the he-ll will cheating ever make a relationship better? If you get caught and it doesn’t end the relationship right then, you add trust issues to whatever else was going on.
“Mulatto version of Bea Arthur”
This description is so apt.
thanks and sh*t
As a Detroiter, I can say that Kwame is very cocky and arrogant. He thought that he would actually get away with cheating on his wife (whom we RARELY saw with him, even before all the drama). He thinks he can have any woman he wants because he’s “Kwame Kilpatrick.” He has tried to get with both my sister and my co-worker, all while he was married!
I could go with the argument that politicians are always in the spotlight. They have power, money, and fame, to a certain extent. With those characteristics, a politician could find women throwing themselves at them! And if they’re arrogant enough to believe that they’ll get away with it, they just might do it. But then, what’s the story with Tyrone around the corner? He has 5 kids by 3 different women, engaged to the 3rd BM, broke as hell, with no power. Why are women throwing themselves at him, knowing he has nothing to really offer? And yet, he still cheats because…hell, why not? LOL!
(***note: Tyrone is a fictional character, made up to prove a point, but everyone knows at least one Tyrone…lol)
“But then, what’s the story with Tyrone around the corner? He has 5 kids by 3 different women, engaged to the 3rd BM, broke as hell, with no power. Why are women throwing themselves at him, knowing he has nothing to really offer?”
i blame this on jim jones. i blame everything on jim jones
By the way, the best way to piss off Jim Jones (And get him back for all the pain he’s caused your ears) is to ask him a random ass question like, “Where’s Freaky Zekey?”
I did that when I met him in ATL, and he sneered at me.
It was the proudest moment of my life.
By the way, the best way to piss off Jim Jones (And get him back for all the pain he’s caused your ears) is to ask him a random ass question like, “Where’s Freaky Zekey?”
I did that when I met him in ATL, and he sneered at me.
I wish you woulda had video of that, it sounds hilarious!!!
He really didn’t understand how someone could totally overlook the fact that he’s Jim Jones to ask about someone like FZ, which is what made it so beautiful.
The sun shined a little brighter after that.
Love it Mayne!
t-lee asked Jim Jones:
“Where’s Freaky Zekey?”
mmm proud of u too.
Salute!
my bad i meant 8th instead of t-lee
i’m proud luv. next time ask Jones where’s J.R. Writer too.
Salute!
As Is u ask why do women cheat with do nothing have nothing Tyrone aroung the corner? probably for the same resason you assume Tyrone cheats. why not?
the real essence of the matter is not why men cheat but why men and women cheat? …and why is it made out to be that male infidelity is the bigger issue? men are by and large cheating with other women who are themselves, by definition, cheaters as well.
Male infedelity is probably seen as the bigger issue because for the most part, they seem to be the ones getting caught.
I’m not a cheater, I’ll just tell you I don’t want your ass no mo’.
Waddup GK, nice to see you on Earth today!
hey wondermous. how r u? fresh back from the astral plane. good to be back on earth. that black hole was silky sooth today. *winks*
I am about to head to happy hour, therefore, I am fabulous.
thanks for asking.
Hug yourself.
on male infidelity being the bigger issue…
I always wonder why we question the morals of men in the public eye who cheat while not saying anything about the woman who knowingly sleeps with a married man.
I always wonder why we question the morals of men in the public eye who cheat while not saying anything about the woman who knowingly sleeps with a married man.
I dont know..I think in the public eye we question it because these men have so much to loose but in everyday life we most often villianize the woman in the situation and let the man off with a “he couldnt help himself she was throwing it at him” pass.
the way i see it, theres always gonna be triflin hussies that will push up on a married man…she dont owe that woman (his wife) a damn thing (other than the basic respect that women owe each other, but many dont really care about)…shes not cheating on anyone if shes single. HE is the infidel, the adulterer, scumbag….he made a promise that he is breaking…he is the one that owes his wife something.
thats why i never understood the women who fight other women over a cheating man…especially when the other woman didnt know he wasnt single. that makes no sense to me…that issue is between you and your so-called man.
Kilpatrick’s mistress has a hard face like that girl from the “Flashing Lights video.” You can’t tell on that video, but look out her outside the cameras…. nice body, STONE FACE.
Back to the siuation at hand: From my experiences and what I’ve observed, men are the weaker sex when it comes to faithfulness (I don’t know any triflin women!) ..
Knowing this, I still refuse to make excuses because I expect greatness and I will CUT A NEGRO!!!!
There are two enablers here: the wife who accepts it AND the other woman. If they stop accepting it, you will leave men no choice.
Back to the siuation at hand: From my experiences and what I’ve observed, men are the weaker sex when it comes to faithfulness (I don’t know any triflin women!) ..
ummm…so who exactly are these ‘triflin” men sleeping around with then?
Nicki says:
“There are two enablers here: the wife who accepts it AND the other woman. If they stop accepting it, you will leave men no choice.”
this statement implies that men are less in control of themselves sexually than women. …although ur statement does highlight my point which is that IF women are more in control of their sexuality than men why don’t they decide not to cheat with “spoken for” men by keeping their pu**y in their pocket? maybe women are not any less perverted than men or any more disciplined in their fidelity.
hmmmm
I have heard this idea that a guy is only alowed so much success in his life. And the success is derived from two areas his career and his home life. By this ‘rule’ the guy kinda has to choose or the choice is made for him. Either 1 make your home your castle or 2 be the revered of the community. These guys just happen to be able to make that name for them selves in the streets. N these women are in love w/ that (his abilaty to make the masses [his job] happy). I think that they are attracted to that part of the guy and wish he could comand the castle like that. But he is prolly spent tapped out matte uncle no mas. or maybe this is a chicken and egg observation idea. Cuz the guy who keeps getting fired keeps his woman in permagrin status?
“And the success is derived from two areas his career and his home life. By this ‘rule’ the guy kinda has to choose or the choice is made for him. Either 1 make your home your castle or 2 be the revered of the community.”
i think this actually applied more to women than men, but i could be wrong
I see where your coming from and that’s not where I’m going. Yes in our social constructs women choose career or family life. I’m saying that men’s efforts are concentrated in one area more than others. It’s like he has a power pellet and it may burn out before he gets to spend it eating the ghosts @ home but does what he can while on the clock. A man has to set up his home so that he can come to it and it is that for him Home.
I say dudes who cheat are lazy. Lazy for not trying to get out of that original woman that they chose what they want and need. Not willing or able to use what they got to get what they want @ home.
I say dudes who cheat are lazy. Lazy for not trying to get out of that original woman that they chose what they want and need. Not willing or able to use what they got to get what they want @ home.
Wu.. I think I love you… but I wanna know for sure……LMAO
We may just find out. Uhm if you could get me some hot new local M-Town rap.. Oh wait D.J. Spiderman already hiped me to that new new. I think it is still on for turkey day. Me the cousins and a whooooolllleeeee lot of alcohol it will be on.
“Lastly…Barack. Will he fall victim too, if he assumes the throne? ‘Cause you can imagine that Michelle would box-cutter that playa.”
Michelle is from that South Side—she looks like she don’t play!!!!
I hope Barack doesn’t fall victim. She’s no Carlita Kilpatrick.
Did you just call that Beatty a Black Bea Arthur? *logs the fluck off* You’re killing me dawg, but let’s face it Kwame is no catch, I mean sure he’s the mayor (for I don’t know how long) of a major city, if you go for that whole power thing, but he’s lacking the physical dept around his headeal region…lol. His wife is a better woman than me, as most of those politician’s wives are. Sitting next to your man at a press conference after he apologizes for cheating on you with his secretary/intern/a man/call girl. Smiling and nodding as he apologizes publicly to you and your city/country and vowing that you will stand by him…yada, yada, yada.
Throat punch igga.
(If you ask me Beatty really lost on that one. She lost her husband, her job, her thang-thang on the side, and is facing years all behind Kilpatrick. Epic Fail!!!
Don’t get dyckmatized ladies.)
(If you ask me Beatty really lost on that one. She lost her husband, her job, her thang-thang on the side, and is facing years all behind Kilpatrick. Epic Fail!!!
Don’t get dyckmatized ladies.)
You know, when it first hit, I actually felt bad for her. I’m sure that ninja had her thinking he would leave his wife for her, which is why she may have left HER dayum family. I bet she’s kicking herself in the arse now, cause that ninja left her hanging in the wind. Moral of the story…ain’t NO dyck/cooch that good to risk your happiness AND livelihood y’all!
JB00gie you’re right. I kinda felt bad for her too at first, until I heard the whole story.
She fell for the okey-doke big time, all behind the peen. Dayum shame…lol
She fell for the okey-doke big time
classic thirsty b*tch behavior…she thought the grass was greener, when she should just been watering her own d@mn grass!
I just realized you made me think of that skit on Chronic 2001. lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfPJ65YOfz0
My Daddy always says “If the grass looks greener on the other side, it’s probably cuz it’s full of sh!t.”
Exactly.
thirsty broadism is runnin wild in these streets…dont get caught up!
“If you ask me Beatty really lost on that one. She lost her husband, her job, her thang-thang on the side, and is facing years all behind Kilpatrick. Epic Fail!!!”
lol…damn. sucks for her
um…i was just asking my boy if its wrong of me to think that kwame k is sexay. lol…he’s just my type (minus the wedding ring and lack of the sense God gave a chipmunk)
that alone makes him off limits…lol
im willing to make him the new recipient of the “Dont Talk, Just Listen” award!
I still have yet to understand the fascination of lying with the rich infamous dizzle. I have had rich dizzle. It doesn’t feel any better than well off and/or poor man dizzle.
What is it? Does having a famous powerful name stamped on your cashmere kitty make it more banging? LOL I doubt it.
I just do not get it. I have said it many times. Other than the scandal of getting 18 years of child support from a powerful icon, what’s the attraction?
“Guuurrrrllll Jason Taylor blew my back out.” Okay that only makes you another notch carved into a sl ut post.
‘Okay that only makes you another notch carved into a sl ut post.’
Trollop totem-pole…. lol
HA!! The word “trollop” makes me cackle.
I still have yet to understand the fascination of lying with the rich infamous dizzle. I have had rich dizzle. It doesn’t feel any better than well off and/or poor man dizzle.
actually, I have a theory that poor man dizzle is the best dizzle, cuz they don’t have anything else going for them and see eh D as a way to endear you to them…they got a point to prove!
i believe you have a point there, sista goody…the financially less than able ones seem to put a lil extra sumthin’ sumthin’ into it lol…
word! they tryna get you sprung so you’ll share them goodazz dental bennies and 401k wit a nig…
I will use the term Cashmere Kitty forevermore.
Thank you.
“I will use the term Cashmere Kitty forevermore.”
me too…if you got a kitty…a cashmere one would be the BEST one to have. lol love it.
I dont know.. it sounds itchy to me and thats never a good thing
itchy? naaaah! i mean, if she said Mohair Kitty, then that would be different….but Cashmere, its like butta baby! lol
Men are going to do what the ladies allow them to do. If you know women are so hard up and hell bent on getting and keeping a man, any man, sh**, why not cheat. Her a** aint going anywhere. I’ve spent many a night consoling a homegirl because her man cheated on her. And no matter how much evidence she has, no matter how many times he does it, she still stays…So my question is what the heck is wrong with the women who put up with it? Because its very clear why so many guys cheat (like children in a candystore, they wont stop til their teeth rot out of their wee lil heads).
…and then they’ll still cheat with their gums all out and sh*t, teeth are for suckas! lol
“teeth are for suckas!”
my screen hates you right now!
“teeth are for suckas!”
ok the first thing I thought was…that makes them better suckas…lol…Alise…I think you are trying to get in the corner…
It looks like I’d have plenty of company!
“teeth are for suckas!”
That is a crackhead’s mantra. And taking a page from the Champ’s book, it is the working title of Whitney Houston’s autobiography.
Ash wants to know:
IS THERE A FAITHFUL POLITICIAN OUT THERE…ANYWHERE?
by faithful Politician i’m fairly certain u mean “male” politician particularly. …and generally you probably mean “men” generally by and large. …just so happens politicians and people in leadership and power positions are the ones that have more fame and celebrity (which are mostly men) and are the ones being reported on by mass media. don’t worry ladies as you gain more power and “equality” you will get ur turn in the debacle spotlight. i know u can’t wait.
the answer to ur question Ash is Yes, i’m sure there are faithful politicians (in terms of their lack of acting on desires) however i do find that many politicians, attorneys, religious leaders and used/new car salesmen to be a slippery lot.
as it were, this is what chokes my solar plexus, the fact that women folk attempt to put the onus on men when it comes to cheating and bemoan, decry and yell “FOUL” as they drive scores of men to a guilt complex about their “cheating ways” and attempt to jump off the bus themselves before it crashes.
well i’m not coming to the pity party ladies and the greatest transfer of guilt since the beginning of the ages WILL NOT blind me. if women are so concerned about a man cheating it seems they would keep their pu**y in their pocket. …because several times out of 100, its another woman whom he is cheating with. oh i get it, you didn’t know he was married right? …my azz! …but you didn’t know he had a girlfriend until you were already sucking him in, right? bollix! sometimes women don’t know that a man is spoken for but i’m willing to bet that most of the time they do. many times the woman is married as well. what? married women don’t cheat? …and pig pu**y aint pork. (not likely)
until recently female teachers that sleep with their male students was seldom being reported. does that mean it was not happening. not hardly. the reason we see and hear so much about mens cheating debacles is because most of the leaders and powerful people in this country are men and thats what makes the news. if the news reported all the Glendas and Pauls next door and their sexual indiscretions, nothing else would have time to make the news cast.
many Paulas, Christines, Sheilas, (adfu*kingnauseum) cheat on their spouses too and we hear about it every day but it doesn’t make the news it makes the beauty shop herald and the barber shop gazette.
hey but here’s some new science for you folks who want to delve more into the cheating ways of men. they say it’s nature and nurture just published by The National Academy of Science. I know how many of you think that “nature” is just a poor lazy explanation/excuse for infidelity but it appears to increasingly and scientifically become a factor. (that’s if u buy into the science)
wonder who all is defecient in allele 334 or abundant in vasopressin?
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2008/09/02/male-female-gene.html
The Black Bea Arthur Champ?
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooooo!
Mr Magoo face azzz…
once again…i SO e-love you, hon…
love u too boogz.
touch urself.
Great post GK.
“until recently female teachers that sleep with their male students was seldom being reported.”
this happened to my Dad. Dude was shaving in Jr. High and datin em too. I always wonder what would have become of him if he wouldn’t have grown up in the hood. Because he loves to read.
Haven’t had a chance to check the website. But did they talk about the study from England that showed the bigger the balls the more promiscuous the guy?
Wu i hadn’t heard about the study that reports, bigger balls make u more promiscuous.
lol!
that’s dripped out… they drippin.
rofl man yeah they was all put your balls on the scale like this son. Made me wonder if they heated up the scale. hahaahahaah I’ll give them credit they took a biochemical enzyme typed approach. Where form = function.
@ GK~ wooo Lawd you know how to talk a woman out her… (**wiping my brow**)
“if women are so concerned about a man cheating it seems they would keep their pu**y in their pocket”
so true!
Hedo u seem so moist.
do ur slppery lips a flavor and tell me how it feels privately one day.
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooooo!
“Hedo u seem so moist.
do ur slppery lips a flavor and tell me how it feels privately one day.
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooooo!”
ROTFLMAO!! GK, you lack GOOD sense!
and pig pu**y aint pork.
I haven’t heard this in years!! I’m putting it in my file…right nest to “f*ck ‘em and feed ‘em cake!”
Goody Good Good Good…
pig dizzle too. u know what it is.
the pseudoscience of the Allele 334 gene aside, you cant fight both sides of the war GK. You cant argue that women cheat just as much as men in one breath and then argue that men are biologically/naturally disposed to cheating as opposed to women. So either you believe that women are more faithful and cheat less and that the reason behind this is some sort of male genetic predisposition or men and women are equally faithful but infidelity by men is more widely reported.
I don’t like to call other women ugly. So I will just say that I find Ms. Beatty to be aesthetically unpleasing. Y’all don’t know, she may give BOMB head. And really … who doesn’t have an appreciation for bomb head?
Men with position get snatch thrown at them. Why? Because some women are slores. I don’t think one gender cheats more than then other, I just think one gender gets caught more than the other because they don’t think THEY will get caught. If history is any indication, if you stick your stick in a hole that doesn’t belong to you, if might get bit.
“aesthetically unpleasing”
You’re so PC Cheryl.
Kudos.
I mean who wants to read they are the black bea arthur? Thats enough to inflict dents on ones self-esteem.
“Y’all don’t know, she may give BOMB head”
i get the feeling that she’s on some next level, belladonna type of ish.
oh yeah?
::snicker::
Belladonna is the true Superhead
She be on some crazy ish, for real…lol
I’m thinking she can suck the chrome off a trailer hitch.
miss beatty is facially inadequate?
She is beautiful-challenged.
I will say he could have done wayyy better. I really think it’s a matter of whose going to be nastier and I think by default when you look transgender *raise eyesbrow at Kwame* then you might be more adventurous. Seriously…politicians have got to do better. And to whoever said it above Michelle would definitely cut you over Barack and furthermore she asked him already is it going to come out you cheated.
And his answer was NO.
Better stay that way too.
“I really think it’s a matter of whose going to be nastier and I think by default when you look transgender *raise eyesbrow at Kwame* then you might be more adventurous.”
oh damn, lol. i think this is the first comment in the history of vsb.com that mentioned “transgender”. does this mean we’ve jumped the shark?
Hey, if Puffy and Tyra are doing it….
i think michelle is too classy to cut a chick…she will cut B-Rock
Too many comments already…Woulda said this last night but I had to go to bed…
Christine isn’t some randoms chick he just happened to meet. They went to HS together. Cass Tech–to be specific. I’m thinking class of 89 or 90. She was cuter when she was young but got about two light-skinned points–particularly from dark men. Further, her ex-husband, or so I hear–but I ain’t one to gossip–was a friend/associate of Kwame’s. This is all mess.
AND, he hasn’t messed up his family legacy any more than his FATHER did. Word on the street is that the father cheated so much that he could NOT be the mayor–which is what Carolyn really wanted. But she knew he couldn’t get thrust into the limelight to run for the mayor’s office because all his side-hoes would be paraded out and she’d be officially embarrassed. Again, I ain’t one to gossip, but I am one to listen to grown folks’ discussions and remember years later. LOL Cus see, my momma ‘nem don’t gossip either.
Lastly, when you marry certain men, you, on some level, know what’s going down. Please don’t think Christine was the FIRST or only woman Kwame cheated on his with with. He didn’t wait to start this behavior after the wedding either. So his wife, she stays cus she knew the deal before the reception space was reserved!
Again, I ain’t one to gossip, but I am one to listen to grown folks’ discussions and remember years later. LOL Cus see, my momma ‘nem don’t gossip either.
Thank you Miss Benita…lmao!!!
LMAO!! Oh no!! Not Ms. Benita. U STOOPID! lol
*Sigh* I miss Living Color
**Mt. Moriah**
“He didn’t wait to start this behavior after the wedding either. So his wife, she stays cus she knew the deal before the reception space was reserved!”
I agree. All these men who cheat have wives who know about it, or at least an inkling.
Are there any faithful politicians out there?
Few and far between I believe. When will they realize that they are being monitored and looked at closely by people waiting for them to screw up. Just goes to show you that you can be intelligent but lack common sense.
Problem is, nobody EVER calls them out the first 5-7 times they do it. So they develop a certain level of confidence that they will continue to get away with it. They get careless.
As for Obama and Michelle, if someone tries to get at him, trust it won’t be a Black woman. Why?? Because we can see through Michelle’s ‘polish’. We all know that on some level, she’s not above going all vaseline and razor-blade on Obama and whatever chick tries to get at him! Hell, I’m even considering stepping up my long-skirt game just in case I walk past the White House. I don’t want Michelle thinking I’m tryna do nothing. She’s a tall woman and my arms are to short to box with God and her ass!!
Oh but Becky?? Becky’s ass doesn’t know to look beyond Michelle’s appearance. Becky doesn’t know that just because Michelle doesn’t wag her fingers and twist her neck, she will still woop-a-b*tch’s ass, figuratively and I suspect, LITERALLY. Becky will try it.
Oh trust, a Beck will TRY. You can bet the farm on that one…let Michelle not be with him on a trip…
MO was a charter member of the Chicago Chapter of the Beat A B*tch Association (BABA for short!) I don’t even think “Becky” will test that sister she is American and knows that sisters don’t even play like that…but MinLao, Esperanza, and Rupal might try to put that global dome on him! BHO has an international appeal!
If a Black woman can put three sentences together, doesn’t roll her neck and eyes, Becky thinks she’s ‘special’ and less likely to push a b*tch down the steps. I will bet you three Popsicles that the first chick we hear that MO has chin-checked is Becky. Becky will be real passive aggressive about it through.
Hey there Hostess! I see that we are on the same page, yet again…co-sign!
**slowly lifts sleeve to reveal a BABA tattoo**
Hosty says:
“As for Obama and Michelle, if someone tries to get at him, trust it won’t be a Black woman.”
i don’t buy that. u can tell urself that lie if u want to. i hope Michelle doesn’t think that a black woman won’t get at Barak because she’s all big bad and willing to get gangster. i know black chicks who will do it for the bragging rights alone not to mention the potential perks. i’m audaciuos enuf to hope it doesn’t happen but ur line of thinking certainly won’t help.
bet it up…
OK. Two Popsicles bet with you! He’s flanked by Black women right now and none of them have tried. Or that’s the word on the street. But I ain’t one to gossip.
None of have tried? Don’t believe that at all. B.O. was on the board of an org I used to work at and trust, women were swooning. Swooning. I’m sure at least one offered him panties.
I think sistas are more afraid of hurting the ‘legacy’ than they are of Michelle. To piggyback on another poster, I too once made a joke about getting some of that BO and a cleaning lady who was in earshot stopped and looked as if she was gonna fcku me up just for thinking it.
” cleaning lady who was in earshot stopped and looked as if she was gonna fcku me up just for thinking it.”
It’s so cold in the D.
lol
OMG throat punch yourself t-lee throat punch
That’s my theme song for the month man.
And, I will not throat punch myself, thank you.
I’m just saying that song should never venture beyond hot ghetto mess .com lol
I’m going to make it my ringtone…lmao!!!
ooooh, girl you wrong for that one! your ringtone? oh, so wrong! i just spent three minutes laughin at that ish…what a great way to wake up from my nap! lmao
“and a cleaning lady who was in earshot stopped and looked as if she was gonna fcku me up just for thinking it.”
thats cuz she was fingering for her box cutter in her apron pocket and it was just out of reach.
“I think sistas are more afraid of hurting the ‘legacy’ than they are of Michelle.”
I totally agree with this, I think we will respect the legacy greater than respecting Michelle, sad but prolly true
Hedo thinks:
“I totally agree with this, I think we will respect the legacy greater than respecting Michelle, sad but prolly true”
Hedo soooo many ho’s dont give a sh*t. …but soooo many ho’s wont get close enuf to try although some will and they wont care trust me. too many ho’s out here that don’t give a shit about his legacy and want to cum up. …and some others who would say: i never intended it to happen but it just happened. (if given the chance) i’m hoping Barak wont but to think that some black women b wont attempt if they have a chance is ludicrous. (and im not talking about the rapper neither)
alright this popcicle talk is killing me. Got me searchin for orange creamcicles on lunch hour. OMG
Hosty it’s a bet. …and i’ll see ur two titsicles and raise u a diksicle. now lick that.
…whooooooo!
Hostess, you ROCK MY SOCKS!!
Don’t let the classy fool you!! Michelle O will whoop a b*tch’s ass, get up AND fix her hair in the shiner she gave the person in the eye. It would be AWESOME!
One more thing, then I’m gonna do some work…
Technology is nobody’s friend. Particularly, current technology! When will criminals and adulterers understand this? Had Kwame and Christine been old school and used pagers, none of this would have happened!!! Matter of fact, isn’t texting one of the laziest methods of romantic communication?? These idiots didn’t even have the decency to use code words. Even drug dealers know better. I’m disgusted all over again.
For all the people who might be reading this and living in Detroit–damn. Be safe. But y’all also need to be grooming candidates to run for the office in the next election. Don’t focus too much on Kwame’s sinking ship. Focus on getting someone in office who will honestly work for the city. If you don’t you and your families will be ‘gentrified’ the hell out. Trust!
“Matter of fact, isn’t texting one of the laziest methods of romantic communication?? These idiots didn’t even have the decency to use code words.”
Exactly, when read those texts I was like dang, they didn’t even try to be discreet about it. Crazy!!!
t-lee and Hosty agree:
” “Matter of fact, isn’t texting one of the laziest methods of romantic communication??”
texting in Christine Beattys’ circumstances was certainly stupid but all sexual communication is not about romance or love or emotional attachment.
…and maybe Kwame and Christine are romantic with each other and maybe u were just finding a nice way to say “meet me at the mo mo and ima slip stiff d*k in ur wetness till it bubbles and pops, by saying “romantic communication”
dam* i wanna fu*k just talking like that…
yall said Bytches love a smiley face? Well ninja’s love nasty a$$ text messages in the middle of the day.
i can get down with some dirty text messages in the middle of the day too!
I think that was the stupidest part of the whole deal for me…using city issued cellies. Really, ninjas? Reminds me of a phrase my granny used to use, they were “so smart they were stupid”. People need to really stay low tech if they trying to do dirt…everything you do electronically leaves a trail.
I know what that was about. Alot of those texts were from 2002 and 2003. Texting was still kind of new then and those two prolly never thought that stuff was traceable. We all know very well at this point that textx are traceable, but they didn’t. Plus he never thought he’d get caught.
“For all the people who might be reading this and living in Detroit–damn. Be safe. But y’all also need to be grooming candidates to run for the office in the next election. Don’t focus too much on Kwame’s sinking ship. Focus on getting someone in office who will honestly work for the city. If you don’t you and your families will be ‘gentrified’ the hell out. Trust!”
this sounds like a PSA
I said it all over Freep.com. But nobody wants to listen. Too many of the Blacks wanna support Kwame because he’s Black. They haven’t bothered to do any research on the case. They see a big Black man, whose mother they love, being brought down. Never mind his ass has been HABITUALLY stupid.
“I said it all over Freep.com. But nobody wants to listen. Too many of the Blacks wanna support Kwame because he’s Black. They haven’t bothered to do any research on the case. They see a big Black man, whose mother they love, being brought down. Never mind his ass has been HABITUALLY stupid.”
Here. Here. it’s not like the dude has been rail roaded on some trumped up charges. Let that ship sink and start prepping another one.
“this sounds like a PSA”
*The More You Effin’ KNOW!* *shooting star behind C-List celeb*
Here’s my take on the whole thing. We know the so-called reasons women cheat, we know the so-called reasons men cheat. But it always boils down to…cheaters cheat because they can…and as long as they’ve got options. There always be a pressed azz skeezer waiting to hop on and ride. There will always be some wack azz dude ready to stick and move. For powerful folk…the temptation and head rush can be intoxicating. Cheating is the ultimate challenge…to see if they can get away with it. If it happens once, and the spouse stays…that’s carte blanche to keep it up (see any of the patron saints…the Kennedys…or Bill Clinton).
I seriously doubt B-Rock would cheat on Michelle at this point. He knows that everybody is waiting for him to slip. Michelle probably has drummed the fear of God into him too…and showed him “Waiting to Exhale” several times to drive the point home LOL. Anybody he could even THINK of messing with on the side…would be a downgrade in the extreme.
“I seriously doubt B-Rock would cheat on Michelle at this point. He knows that everybody is waiting for him to slip”
i agree. i really can’t fathom that happening now
Wow y’all really do think dude is Jesus
perish the thought…not hardly. we just know that he knows that he is the FIRST to get this far…so folk will be laying dead waiting him to even sneeze wrong. why would he risk it all for some ol random stank azz cooch?
Exactly. I don’t think anyone compared him to Jesus.
Not anyone on this site, but you can’t point out one lil Obama flaw without ni99as wanting to fight you.
It is our jobs as citizens to critique all politicians but in the Black America, saying anything negative about BHO is like asking for a fight.
I guess some people are like that.
Bottom line as an Obama supporter I realize that he is still a politician and a mortal man, not a saviour.
I tell everyone we’re looking for a President, nothing more, nothing less.
I already have a saviour.
Dorian a lot of people have placed the responsibility of Jesus on Barak (in many ways) but i do have audacity to hope that he doesn’t cheat on his wife. however he will face the mounting temptation a trillion fold as he ascends to power.
THIS – when they reach the pinnacle – is when mofos usually mess up…
yeah V people can be lured to slip at the most inopportune times.
V dot have u reached ur pinnacle? my ex used to say: “khan stop, u gon make me make a mess.”
heh heh heh…
i replied: gon and make one then.
heh, heh, heh…
You are ridiculous, mayne.
I have a theory on why men cheat with less attractive women. It’s because they love their wives. I know some of you are thinking “if a ninja really loved his wife, he wouldn’t cheat in the first place.” That’s fine and dandy, but I think the wife would be more pissed if the husband cheated with a woman with the bigger butt, slimmer waist, cute face, etc? And woman always bring this up in the argument too, with lines like “well at least if could have got you a better lookin b!tch than that” . . .oh really. If we did this, I don’t think alot of female could handle that. There self esteem is already effed up because of the cheating in general. IF you add Halle Berry lookin chick into the mix, I think that would make ish worse.
But than again some black woman would find an imperfection on the Halle Berry lookin chick to throw in the husband’s face.
Also the less attractive chick have to work harder to get in said husband’s pants, so that might also be a factor too.
“I have a theory on why men cheat with less attractive women. It’s because they love their wives.”
lol…i’m sure at least 2 million different men in the history of mankind have tried to convince their wives that this is true
“I have a theory on why men cheat with less attractive women. It’s because they love their wives”
are you kidding me???
“I have a theory on why men cheat with less attractive women. It’s because they love their wives.”
Aye, Dios mios!
…and I’m not even Latina.
Honestly, I think men cheat out of ego and to feel better about themselves, as if they’re doing something untraceable. And I think women are much more emotional cheaters, they actually fall “in love” with the other person and begin to develop deep feelings. It’s not so much as the sex is incredible, as they feel connected emotionally to the other person.
But as always, there are exceptions to every rule. So there may be slight variations with this hypothesis.
–Sasha Two Pistols
“Honestly, I think men cheat out of ego and to feel better about themselves, as if they’re doing something untraceable.”
what do you mean by “untraceable”?
I think dudes cheat cuz they aren’t getting some need met. Sort of like a stress eater or a substance abuser.
I agree on what you have to say about emotionally cheating women. Sally Jesse Raphael would put it like “when yo girl is out there talkin about ‘he don’t… he won’t… I wish he would…’” she is handing over her dance card to her date @ club creep.
Ultimately everyone is trying to get their needs met. The way they want them met. When they want them met.
Wu say:
“Ultimately everyone is trying to get their needs met. The way they want them met. When they want them met.”
let the choir sang: *a charge to keep i have*
This made me do the holy dance all the way to the cafeteria. lol
Has anyone ever heard the Steve Harvey show when he said his wife could catch him mid-thrusts a$$ in the air SSN tattoed on it and he would swear it wasn’t him. I just bet Kwame still telling her but baby it wasn’t me someone was using my phone. I really think he loves his wife…he just wanted some freaky sh*t on the side.
I haven’t even read this post past the photo and its caption. I just want to say that since you all introduced the terminology of Lightskinned Points, I can’t get it out of my head. It’s literally “struck” (ha!, Freudian slip.) I walk around and observe the black women I see and I try to figure out what any given lightskinned woman’s LSP quotient probably is. Like, I went to the Labor Day Carnival Parade in Brooklyn and I was like “oh schnappz, her LSP quotient is mad high – she prolly gets dumped after the firt 3 full weeks of giving it up.”
“history has shown us that men with elevated social status seem to be more likely to sidestep faithfulness and monogamy more than anyone else.”
Is that really true? Or is it just that when they cheat its broadcasted all over CNN and when the rest of the male populuation cheats it keyed in to the side of their effin honda?
“Is that really true? Or is it just that when they cheat its broadcasted all over CNN and when the rest of the male populuation cheats it keyed in to the side of their effin honda?”
lol…i have no empirical evidence, salty b!t*h, just a hunch and sh*t
empirical evidence = more people
salty b!t*h writes:
“…or is it just that when they cheat its broadcasted all over CNN and and when the rest of the male populuation cheats it keyed in to the side of their effin honda?”
u taking me back. it was a maxima and it was her dumb azz that was married and when i quit fu*king wit her she snapped. she still will genuflect for me till this day.
dayyyuuuummm use a salty lil ol b!t*h. u passionate aint ya. u would do some sh*t like key a niccas car wouldn’t u. i bet u got some good na. shut up! the questions are rhetorical.
my heart and hard is becoming lustful.
squeeze something u salty lil…
salty, you rock! i love your name and your point! i know my aunt is QUICK to key a car…she only need the slightest evidence too. she like the picasso of keyin cars.
About Barack, do any of my DC people remember back during the Black Congressional Caucus a couple years ago (post 2004 speech lol) Obama was disgusted at the way professional women, many of whom were elected and trying to be elected officials were throwing themselves at men of power, including himself. I remember when I first heard his comments on that, I was like yeah its clear ole boy didn’t go to a black school (HBCU’s and a few select urban universities…i see you Temple) because them same ho*s who were running student gov’t and got on their knees for athletes/greeks are the same ones who grow up to get elected to city/state/fed positions lol. The game doesn’t have a pause button.
I hear what you are saying but its not just the sistahs… trust me when I tell you, I see it every day at this PWI, a lot of these young women (and older women, colleagues) here know how to use their “womanly ways” to beguile.
Like we have talked about (in previous posts) some of us learn that we can use our “womanly ways” to advance, however do not understand the repercussions until it is too late.
“a lot of these young women (and older women, colleagues) here know how to use their “womanly ways” to beguile.”
checkmate Hedo.
it has been an easier way for women to usurp power.
“it has been an easier way for women to uslurp power.”
ahhhh ha ha ha ha
…uslurp power
nice twist, u stupid WIA
to quote you (GK) quoting Douglass
“without struggle their is no progress”
people’s struggles are different and ish
Hedo says:
“people’s struggles are different and ish” (in regard to women using their femeninity to uslurp mens power)
i aint mad at ya. i understand but don’t tun around and just blame me (the man) for that sh*t. where’s the ladies accountability. ya know.
if a woman is trying to seduce and manipulate then that’s premeditated with malicious intent. they gotta take some responsibility too and maybe more in that case. but in any case we shouldn’t be getting in a finger pointing contest as spectators saying the men are to blame and victimizing the women. f*ck is that?
As far as I’m concerned, Temple *is* and HBCU at this point. I’m from Philly, adn I visited my friend there a few years ago while I was home. I felt like I was at Hillman.
Puh-leeze. I’m in DC and it is NOT just the BLACK women. The nastiness is evenly distributed across races. He just happened to be there during CBC so that’s why race came in to play. Plus, the simple numbers say that there are more white women on the Hill than there are Black ones.
One of the problems is that hoes talk too much. Remember Washingtonienne or whatever? She was the blogger who wrote about her Hill whoring. She was a whore because she got PAID. We might all know that _____’s side piece (who he eventually married) followed him here from Michigan and went to UDC law. But her Black ass wasn’t talking about it. There was no texting or public displays. As a result, it never made it to the news–as it remained the known word on the street! I’m not saying it’s right. But damn, be discrete.
Hosty points out:
“But her Black a$$ wasn’t talking about it. There was no texting or public displays. As a result, it never made it to the news–as it remained the known word on the street! I’m not saying it’s right. But damn, be discrete.”
that’s right. if ur gonna do it try to be smart and stealth wit it. …and stop selling the person that’s helping u out and just make sure u are properly compensated for the risk. all risks don’t pan out so if shit go bad blame urself too. …that’s life, grow up.
H*eness knows no color…trust and believe that son.
“H*eness knows no color…trust and believe that son.”
Yes. Hoe-ology is a science that is studied by ALL types of peoples. Rich or poor, broke vs. loaded, Lil Kim vs. Joss Stone.
One more thing about Kwame Kwam and his cheating boo. As soon as this candal broke I immediately just assumed she’s related to Jelly Roll Morton. I mean c’mon! Look at teh resemblance:
http://images.encarta.msn.com/xrefmedia/sharemed/targets/images/pho/t043/T043177A.jpg
http://a3.vox.com/6a00c22524bc0a549d00c2252938038fdb-320pi
“I mean sure he’s the mayor (for I don’t know how long) of a major city, if you go for that whole power thing, but he’s lacking the physical dept around his headeal region…”
I don’t think looks have nothing to do with the old power and cheating thing. Just a few weeks ago some of the ladies admitted that they would sleep with the likes of Jay-Z & Rick Ross. If those type of ninjas was averages Joes, they wouldn’t get that type of play from the opposite sex. I think alot of woman are attracted to money, power, respect, and swag (<—I really hate that word)
“I don’t think looks have nothing to do with the old power and cheating thing”
nothing at all, lol
“swag (<—I really hate that word)”
Its also a new fragrance of old spice deodorant
I just think men of power, no matter how insignificant their power is, cant handle being in that limelight. I was in a relationship for a year with the son of a congresswoman and after we broke up (because of his
infidelity) I wanted to get a little bit of insight on our failed relationship. For the most part, because of who his mom is, it opened up a lot of doors for him to be out in the public eye with other politicians daughters throwing their drawls at him. Traveling was an everyday thing for him, from going to several superbowls, to the DNC…
everything was readily available for him. I guess it made him feel like a superstar of sorts… whatev…. he had a big d*ck so maybe he just wanted to sow his royal oats in every fertile chick around the country….
Traveling was an everyday thing for him, from going to several superbowls, to the DNC…
I’m just mad they were referring to ol’ boy as the hip-hop mayor.
pretty much… lol
Let’s list the damages here:
-6mos in jail
-five years probation
-no law license
-former mayor
-cannot hold office for five year
-wife should kick is @$$
-1 million dollars restitution
AND this negro stood there smiling and acting stupid. This is not the romper room. This is your life.
“Romper Room”
Except his Romper Room will will be the penitentiary…(y’all old heads remember the Romper Room show?) I see Bubba, I see Toss Salad Man, I see Kwame…..
I see the corner where Goody Good reigns and you should start walking in that direction.
He’s gonna write a book. He’ll be alright.
“Let’s list the damages here:
-6mos in jail
-five years probation
-no law license
-former mayor
-cannot hold office for five year
-wife should kick is @$$
-1 million dollars restitution
AND this negro stood there smiling and acting stupid. This is not the romper room. This is your life.”
I hope that Cruelle Deville *$$ was worth losing ALL of that. AND gaining a big c*ck diesel boyfriend named “Petite” in Cellblock D.
First, let me say that I finally understand light-skinned points (I just needed Kwame’s ladyfriend’s picture as a reference.)
Now to my point: All people, men and women, will do as much as they think they can get away with. It follows that a politician, or any moderately powerful, successful person will be more susceptible to lying and cheating, simply because they can. It’s just human nature.
This is compounded by the fact that the panties tend to drop on cue when a man (or woman) has a little bit of power/money/position. Can you blame them for partaking in what is handed to them on a silver platter/office desk/hotel/backseat?
Furthermore, women tend to be more attracted to a man with power, money, (something to offer). Men pretty much are attracted to women. That’s just genetics.
“Can you blame them for partaking in what is handed to them on a silver platter/office desk/hotel/backseat?”
um..yes. if i believed that all men cheat and it was just a matter of time, i might be able to buy the “well, it was there!” logic. but i know too many good (and good lookin) dudes that DONT cheat to ever give men that kind of free pass. if you expect that little of men, they will certainly rise to the occasion! or sink, i suppose…
the bottom line is that a cheater is a cheater. i dont believe in reformed cheaters, not really….its a character flaw thats either there or it aint.
Monica, I co-sign that. Money and power=a busy man away from home. The minute I step outta my door, it’s room to flirt and eventually cheat. ALL men have the capacity to cheat, its just that each one of us have a different p*ssy point. If the right opportunity presents itself, a man or woman is gonna take it. Has nothing to do with looks, and thats why you have an instance like Kwame Kilpatrick and Cruella.
love the “handle”, DirtyJerz.
reminding me of one of my way back “laybacks”
shout to Nork, Patterson and lizbet NJ.
I think they do it because they can, and are all too often allowed to do it. It’s almost expected, no? And honestly, women are attracted to power and status. It’s biological. He-ll, I have what I believe to be a TOTALLY irrational crush on the fictional Tony Soprano. He’s dumb as a brick, has a speech impediment AND mother issues, not to mention criminally inclined. The only thing he even remotely has going for him in my PlayBook is his physical status as “A Big Man”. But he could totally get it from The PBG. It’s the power and organaztional status he holds that both attracts me to him and leads him to believe it’s perfectly OK to carry on w/me (he’d have to do that in secret of course) or anybody else he felt like making his coumare’.
PBG i don’t know about this:
“Tony Soprano. He’s dumb as a brick…”
that charachter is not dumb. we’ve all done some dumb sh*t but that charachter is not drawn dumb.
1 black mans opinion
I knew one you smart folks would come along and disagree w/me on something. That’s why I like this blog. I mean “like, like”. *wink*
I guess I should’ve qualified it by saying “book dumb”, like the opposite of “book smart”.
Either way, I still love him. *swoon*
PBG i don’t know how booksmart Tony Soprano’s characher is supposed to be. i don’t think the show has given us any real clues. stereotypically made men are not rhodes scholars although some maybe classically trained idk. if u got a 2.0 gpa in english and the degree to go along with it does that me u booksmart. i mean what constitutes booksmart?
i feel u though, ur turned on by his authority and take charge attitude. well we know what makes u soft and dewey.
heh heh heh…
Softy n’ dewey indeed.
I mentioned Mr. Soprano’s dumbness just to juxtapose my attraction to him [in fantasy] to what usually lights my fire in the real world, which is a dude w/some book learnin’.
Besides, he’d only be my side piece. Who gives an eff if he’s not smart??
Teee-heeee!
Ok, so here are my two.five cents and after completing an extensive survey of a few friends in five seconds it all comes down to this:
men cheat because of opportunity
women cheat because their man isn’t getting it done (this can be emotional or physical)
men feel bad for getting caught, because if you never found out they would be fine with that
women feel bad because they actually love you and would rather get it from you, but alas you weren’t getting it done
men go with what is available
women find someone ridiculously hot and/or comfortable in another city or at least outside of the immediate radius
men tend to get caught, mostly because the other woman wants someone to know
women just get in an argument so we can “break-up” for a few days and then when we get back together it technically isn’t cheating…
but that’s all I got in five seconds, more later…
ps – I heart vsb and would never cheat on ya’ll
This is a great list.
Scary stuff.
According to most women: there’s no excuse for cheating. Well at least that’s what I’ve been told by several chicks
F-Yo scratches head:
“According to most women: there’s no excuse for cheating. Well at least that’s what I’ve been told by several chicks”
lemme see F-Yo ur probably in ur mid to late 20′s huh?
see F-Yo what u may not understand is that womens rules, disciplines, beliefs, standards etc. as it relates to other men change based on what’s convienent for her at the moment. …wether that’s independence or chivalry, job responsibility and pay or entitlement, our money (husband and wife) or her money…
keep livin and fu*k what they told u.
“womens rules, disciplines, beliefs, standards etc. as it relates to other men change based on what’s convienent for her at the moment. …”
I think I read a post on VSB that touched on this subject. It was phrased “Woman’s logic” correct?
“womans logic” was a provocative post F-Yo and it proved to be filled with pssionate and adroit comments.
yessir….
HaHa!Kamilah, men cheat because -aint no p*ssy line NEW p*ssy, no matter what you have at home! and there’s nothing beats new hand in ya’ boxers
Men don’t leave because the side piece can’t do jack sh*t else but f*ck
Why do I feel like you’re the fiesty cousin that comes over and takes the conversation to an entirely new level…lol! Oh, and welcome to the Chi, “home of the hipster”…and the intellectual.
LOL !! girl, uze crazy…home of the Hipster? yes….home of the intellectual?….um,….um….maybe, we’ll see!Ha!
Well, as the of this ENTIRE D*#% THREAD today (who’da thunk P and Champ would put my idea on put me on…whoa!), let me offer my piece to the puzzle…
For the men, I think it simply comes down to being intoxicated with the attraction from women (of many kinds) and admiration (of everybody) that develops from their titles. You have enough plaques, titles, comp drinks/dinners, and juice bestowed on you…and something snaps. For just that split moment of forgetting the committment/covenant you’ve made with wifey. And and next thing you know, you’re just a text message/tabloid report/late night phone call/paternity suit waiting to happen. The crazy thing, like Kamilah said, is the lack of remorse men feel UNTIL they get caught? Some with consciences eventually crack or just leave when it gets out-of-hand, but many, MANY will stay and keep their something on the side, and if it last long enough…may d*#% -near feel that they are entitled to it. As for availability/opportunity, those are rhetorical factors. Women are attracted to title, power and authority like men are attracted to the outfits Meagan Good seems to ALWAYS wear in movies…sad, but true. I don’t know what it is about low-rise jeans and men, but it was our undoing.
As for women, Kamilah right to a degree on all counts, but what it all adds up to is 1) loneliness, 2) refusal to relinquish time vested.
These women who “stand by their adulterer” boggle my mind, but then again, after you’ve been made a public spectacle, many of them think, “who’s gonna want me now” Lord willing their still attractive, but if all your hot years have been used up on one guy, and your buying stock in Ulta3 to maintain (ask ‘em fellas), your pilot light is then dimming. As to the refusal, one of the most envied (if not hated) women in the Diaspora is “the next chick” — you KNOW who I’m talking about ladies — the beneficiary of ALL THE WORK you’ve done to bone up, clean up, dress up, hook up, and “booty up” the gentleman you call your husband/boo/mate, only to have it passed on to someone who may NEVA KNOW what kind of a Urkel he was when you met him, but like the many other who have thought likewise, you saw “potential in him”.
Can you blame ‘em for being a little pissed? Given the spiritual nature of many, most just choose to cope with ice cream and Kleenex, but there’s also some who “don’t go gentle into that good night”…key’n cars, breakin’ isht, having public fights, throwin Cab & Merlot on people at social functions, and all-around changin’ the Evite list for e’rebody in town…’cause him & her CANNOT be at the same house party.
Oh, I could go on…but I think so many of you have already said so much. Let me just close by saying…YES, the men seem on the surface to be the scale-tippers in this case of political fidelity.
BUT I’d be careful, because it seems even Sarah “Norma Rae” Palin is being called to the mat about her undying love for her high school sweetheart. (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/09/03/mccain-camp-battles-natio_n_123696.html)
I ain’t saying it’s for true…but I’m just sayin’.
At the risk of sounding horrible:
Fidelity is a construct. As such, it isn’t “natural.”
Tyler while i agree to a greater extent that:
“Fidelity is a construct. As such, it isn’t “natural.””
some would say this is a lazy excuse for cheating. …lazy like Shaqs’ mouth full of peanutbutter giving an acceptance speech at Devry University for an honorary doctorate. …recorded then chopped and screwed.
anyways read this
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2008/09/02/male-female-gene.html
“lazy like Shaqs’ mouth full of peanutbutter giving an acceptance speech at Devry University for an honorary doctorate. …recorded then chopped and screwed.”
oh my GOD LOL….i fell out my chair.
Aight now I have read the article. They are actually saying that these guys are mildly autistic. Relationship retards no offense intended. But really if you don’t have enough of the receptors you just don’t have the receptors. (this is like having all the corn liquor in the world n belthazar is your best friend) I’d be curious to know if they checked for oxytocin receptors also. I have heard that vasopresin and oxytocin are released both upon orgasm and when first seeing newborns (by both baby n parents).
Wu reports:
“I’d be curious to know if they checked for oxytocin receptors also. I have heard that vasopresin and oxytocin are released both upon orgasm and when first seeing newborns (by both baby n parents).”
da*m Wu are you a research scientist or something. i thought this was relatively new info that i happened to read. u adding all kind of other studies to it an sh*t. ima have to read up on this oxytocin dude. ur killing me all Professor Wu and sh*t the abbot.
‘Tis true…oxytocin is what sets off labor n’ delivery AND it is released in both Mama and baby during breastfeeding, that’s why its such a pleasurable experience to both parties involved. It is the bonding hormone, so to speak. Its how nature tries to ensure that our genes are continuously passed on…reproduction and survival of the young.
Why no but I did stay @ a holiday in last night. lol just playin. Yeah I’m a chemical eng. w/ emphasis in biomedical by education. And I saw a discovery channel documentary once. been searchin for the right vasopressin oxytocin (both of which are neurotransmitting chemicals) symbiosis ever since (She’s the Mama I’m the Daddy we some crazy nikuhs in the ally) gettin high like 2 gorillaz in the jungle makin luv. And this is the envy of all barbershop shaves. The mappin of allele 334. Shoot geno -> pheno type relationships regulating personalities. Man shoot this here is GATACA in the making.
“some would say this is a lazy excuse for cheating. …lazy like Shaqs’ mouth full of peanutbutter giving an acceptance speech at Devry University for an honorary doctorate. …recorded then chopped and screwed.”
nuff said
I think it could be used as a lazy excuse, sure. But I don’t think its mere existence as probably true means its automatically a lazy excuse.
I think if you subscribe to conventional ideas about fidelity, then you screw up…sure, you don’t get to be “well it ain’t natural.” But if you don’t subscribe to such ideas, then shit should be out in the open from jump (or find a like-minded shawty).
I just sometimes think that we spend way too much time intellectualizing stuff that is really about, in essence, a disconnect between what we want and what is societally acceptable.
Last night on the news there was a story about men having a gene that links them to infidelity….. it sounds like a complete crock to me….
as horrible as it may sound tyler, fidelity is not natural but at some point there should be some type of control that one has over right and wrong…
why cant people just keep whatever is in between their legs, there with out any outside company!?!?!? lol
1. Women are attracted to powerful men (.) Temptresses that offer a free ride on the duty free express. Forbidden fruit that will screw up everything from here on out, only this time we know the consequence, but….
2. I think that alot of guys get caught up thinking that their creep is “safe” and that they won’t get found out…that *this* one is completely down with a purely sexual relationship (best believe the men believe that these woman have been screened and its a sure bet!). No fuss, no work like with the wife, just sex with no repercussion. Problem is, it NEVER happens that way and then you’re caught hoping it stays low, FOREVER.
Forever.
Teech says:
“that *this* one is completely down with a purely sexual relationship (best believe the men believe that these woman have been screened and its a sure bet!). No fuss, no work like with the wife, just sex with no repercussion. Problem is, it NEVER happens that way and then you’re caught hoping it stays low, FOREVER.”
Teech i’m sure some woman somewhere has gotten away with cheating on her husband without loss of job etc and minus the big debacle. …and even though prostitutes turn on there janes sometimes, wouldn’t they be a safer bet than a full on steady situationship.
Never huh? next you’ll be telling me ur gonna put negative information on my highschool “permanent record.”
ohhhhhh
Never Never land right next to Peter Pan…
not condoning just saying. yes there is always repurcussions of some kind if only mental spiritual but i do believe some have gotten away otherwise unscathed.
Yes. Forever.
Forever explained: I step out on the wife and skeet scott free. 10 years later she finds out. My marriage is potentially over due to a Jones a had ten years ago, even though right now, I’m oat free and a changed man.
That skeleton never dies, male or female. You can play the odds, but if you are in a position of power (and these are the folks this post is about) your chances of keeping it quiet are next to none, especially in a world full of camera phones and one click publication.
So, become and infidel…cover it up forever.
“women just get in an argument so we can “break-up” for a few days and then when we get back together it technically isn’t cheating…”
That’s the oldest trick in the book. I did that once and I still had to hear old girl’s nagging, even though we wasn’t “technically” together. I thought I did a good job cutting off the side chick, but she still thought it was okay to call me 2 in the morning.
It only works when women do it…we invented it so we know when ya’ll are trying to pull a “woman move” on us….lol!
“why cant people just keep whatever is in between their legs, there with out any outside company!?!?!? lol”
I blame Jim Jones and the Summer season.
jim jones is also the cause of global warming, the break up of the Fat Boys, and rising gas prices…. i wonder what his child hood was like..
Okay, so I’m dying as I just heard Kwame has FINALLY resigned…I wonder if he asks himself if it was worth it?
It can’t be, it just can’t be…lol
i do think chris rock was right… men are only as faithful as their options. i have a “friend” who was dating a guy when they were in college. the guy was popular, many girls wanted him because he was an athlete, he was good looking and could actually carry a conversation. this guy started up the romance with the girl… he thought she was so fly, which she was, especially in comparison to the other chicks that attended their university. he graduated and hung onto to her a little bit while she was still in school. after receiving a job with a very popular sporting goods company and coming into contact with many other women, many of which were beautiful… the guy dropped the girl like a bad habit. stopped calling, stopped texting… blamed his lack of communication with the girl on his busy new life. why did he do this? because he now had tons of options. options that he never had before.
true story guys, true story.
laylah this sounds like a young guy who found that he had a lot in life to experience at such a young age and regardless of how pretty or good one woman was he wasn ready to cash it all in. she probably shouldn’t have been either.
i do agree, and everything does happen for a reason. both were really young and still have a lot of life to experience… but the options things mos def does apply.
Champ, you repeated what you said a few weeks ago: “maybe we’re truly only as faithful as our options.”
I’ll throw out a theory based on evolutionary psychology and how mankind came as far as we did.
Humans are not born equal in strength, smarts, speed or stealth. In small tribes and villages for hundreds of thousands of years, the most gifted males had the best chance of rising to the top of the social hierarchy, and an abundance of willing women was one of the perks. The result was a stronger gene pool since they had more children who were more likely to inherit those qualities.
The downside was if the tribe was too small, recessive genes would kick in and compromise the collective health. Mother Nature solved this gene problem by making males 1) more polygamous, and 2) more likely to want to wander and explore far distances, where they would meet and mate females in other tribes either through friendship or conquering by war.
The females didn’t have the luxury to be as polygamous. She was burdened with pregnancies and raising a child until it was old enough to fend for itself. She needed protection by a male who had some degree respect by other tribe members and hunting or farming talents. Without this, she and her infant would be vulnerable. Thus, it was in her best interest to somehow prove to the male that she was monogamous to him only, whether or not this was true. Virginity was highly valued historically because it was to the disadvantage of a male to tie up his resources taking care of another male’s child for years. When females cheated, they had to be much smarter about it too since they had more to lose.
Even though females were and are more prone to monogamy, they would trade up with a ‘better’ male if it was in their best interest. Males would have a harem either openly or on the sly when they could.
Although none of this seems relevant in contemporary life and there have always been plenty of exceptions to this, ie, couples who love each other and are loyal even with legitimate options, we have only been living like this for less than one hundred years out of 1/3 of a million years we’ve stood upright and called ourselves human. I touched on all of this in an older post of mine, Hard Rocks Love, Lesson 1 – Evolution is a B*tch.
In summary, we are the products of our ancestors, and their ways are hardwired into our brains. Our culture is merely the software, and often the two conflict.
Champ, you repeated what you said a few weeks ago: “maybe we’re truly only as faithful as our options.”
I’ll throw out a theory based on evolutionary psychology and how mankind came as far as we did.
Humans are not born equal in strength, smarts, speed or stealth. In small tribes and villages for hundreds of thousands of years, the most gifted males had the best chance of rising to the top of the social hierarchy, and an abundance of willing women was one of the perks. The result was a stronger gene pool since they had more children who were more likely to inherit those qualities.
The downside was if the tribe was too small, recessive genes would kick in and compromise the collective health. Mother Nature solved this gene problem by making males 1) more polygamous, and 2) more likely to want to wander and explore far distances, where they would meet and mate females in other tribes either through friendship or conquering by war.
The females didn’t have the luxury to be as polygamous. She was burdened with pregnancies and raising a child until it was old enough to fend for itself. She needed protection by a male who had some degree respect by other tribe members and hunting or farming talents. Without this, she and her infant would be vulnerable. Thus, it was in her best interest to somehow prove to the male that she was monogamous to him only, whether or not this was true. Virginity was highly valued historically because it was to the disadvantage of a male to tie up his resources taking care of another male’s child for years. When females cheated, they had to be much smarter about it too since they had more to lose.
Even though females were and are more prone to monogamy, they would trade up with a ‘better’ male if it was in their best interest. Males would have a harem either openly or on the sly when they could.
Although none of this seems relevant in contemporary life and there have always been plenty of exceptions to this, ie, couples who love each other and are loyal even with legitimate options, we have only been living like this for less than one hundred years out of 1/3 of a million years we’ve stood upright and called ourselves human. I touched on all of this in an older post of mine, Hard Rocks Love, Lesson 1 – Evolution is a B*tch.
In summary, we are the products of our ancestors, and their ways are hardwired into our brains. Our culture is merely the software, and often the two conflict.
The culture must be Window’s Vista….. it explains a lot
Trill that’s a great and plausible theory with the culture of evolutionary psych from our distant past being hardwired in our brains still today etc. (provided u believe evolution a possibility)
in-scre-scring…
…although many don’t believe in evolution but believe in creation instead and that man was created already standing upright and so forth. many believe that God, thru men penning the Bible would have described the evolutionary process if it were so. …and thus if it’s not in the book it didn’t happen that way. (evolution)
i find it all very in-scre-scring.
I find it very telling that the women of VSB are going in on how “unattractive” the sidepiece is.
Telling indeed.
“I find it very telling that the women of VSB are going in on how “unattractive” the sidepiece is.”
WIA, I think we’re just insulted that Kwame put errthang on the line for a woman who looks like a cartoon villain. He coulda cheated w/ his wife with, you know, a Stacey Dash lookalike. Shoot. (Yes homo. SAY SUMTIN!!)
lmao! gone luvvie and ya “no hetero”!
It’s all about options. Men will be as faithful as their options, and women will be as loyal as theirs.
All things being equal in a relationship (status, money, etc.), if a guy decides to exercise one of his options and cheats then his SO can choose to exercise one of her options and move on.
However when things are not equal the loyalty options diminish on the part of the “lesser” (less money, less status etc.) person/the woman. They have to face the reality that they may not find anything “better” than what they currently have and in this day and age money, status, and power mean more to many women and they will stay loyal to the paycheck and perks if not the person.
The primary reason why men cheat is because they can get away with it. Women tend to be very forgiving when it comes to infidelity especially when children are involved and/or when the couple has built a nice nest egg. Although I’ve always been adamant about leaving a man who cheats, I honestly wonder how if I would take the same hard stance if my husband cheated and we had children. Am I willing to give up years of marriage, children, and a wonderful life for a piece of ass? On the flip side if a woman were to forgive a man once, what would deter him from cheating again? I wish people would think of the consequences of cheating. Busting a nut really isn’t worth all the pain, embarrassment, or the potential exposure to STDs. I do tell my friend that if their man cheats, they should leave because obviously his so selfish that her feelings are irrelevant. The irony is that men are very intolerant to cheating. I would say that 90% of the men out there would leave their girls high and dry if they found out she had another dick inside of her.
Not sure if you caught it, but Kwame just resigned.
Ha! It took him AND his family to get dragged through the mud for him to finally throw in the towel? Stoopid!… trust me because of his sloppy moves, dudes all over the country is puttin our side piece on the pre-paid phone!
GAME RULE #4080- NO side snatch is worth losing your job and family over!
SO I WOULD LOVE LOVE LOVE to place the blame on brothers. I would love to say it is their accute inability to be faithful, that men with power and ego are never satisfied, and that ALL MEN (esp. those with money and clout) ARE DOGS!!! (ON a sidenote: as I type that the song “Why must I be like that why must Iiiiiii chase the cat, nothing but the dog in me!” plays on repeat inside my third eye)
BUT I have to be honest, and honestly it’s not *all* men’s fault. Women are definitly attracted to power and status. But we have a deeper problem….. I call it POP. Power of the Pu$$Y. It is the irreversible and undisputed thought that our stuff is soooo good, that once we put it on you…. you will leave whateva’ you had behind…. just for some of our behind!
Women sleep with married and taken men all the time, not because they wanna be the other woman, spending holidays, vacays, and Sunday’s with other lonley or single chica’s. NO! It is because somewhere at some point we were taught the value of POP. We belive it is enuff to make you men folk call home and say “Put yo mama on the phone!….. Sweetheart, I AINT NEVER COMING HOME!” (Direct quote from HARLEM NIGHT”S) If in bed and you ask….. “Babay, is my loving, sweet, tight and warm” What man says no? And when you say “Baby, am I the BEST you ever had?” what man has ever said no?
Have you?
“Chucking em duces” & Blessings
‘zactly, im_the_sweetest…no man is gonna tell a woman (his wife, main girl, or side piece) that her p*ssy is sub-par. And as much as a woman thinks that they prefer honesty, thats some honesty that men KNOW will f*ck everything up, so we don’t. Yall have self esteem, we have the same thing, and its called an ego. Both are fragile
Why is it when some men cheat the woman they cheat with is uglier than their wife or girlfriend?
You will never know . . .
unless you want to find out first handJefferson’s wife was dead at the time. I think people have also claimed his brother might have been the father of Hemming’s kids.
I think that it is pointless to say who is weak and who is strong. If the situation is pointless then why strive to find the inermost doubt of a person. In my opinion women and men are equally strong. It just matters what role they play in society. Either they choose to be weak or they choose to be strong. It all depends on what you think. Your self. You should always follow your heart and if you think you are being weak. Be strong.