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***Today’s post is an updated version of “Wild Cherry Flags.” Enjoy, and have a good weekend***
A woman with a pink phone and a messy apartment is usually a dealbreaker, but I guess I can make a rare exception
So, at my Madame Noire column this week, the first question was from a guy who ruined a seemingly good relationship by being too pressed. (What exactly is too pressed? Well, traveling across state lines to see someone who specifically told you not to come seems to meet the “too pressed” distinction)
As I pointed out in my response, if this guy would have just read VSB, he would have realized that “being too f*cking” pressed” might just be the only universal red flag; the one thing that everybody regards as a total no-no. We all hate super clingy people, and this hate is more intense than the white-hot heat of 1,000 pairs of Delta panties.
Actually, lemme rephrase that. Everybody hates super clingy potential mates…except me.
Now obviously, being with a Clingon wouldn’t be my optimum choice. Although I’m not a space Nazi, I do appreciate some alone time for writing, “pastor racing“, “nothing doing” (Which is slowly becoming my favorite hobby. Seriously, you haven’t lived until you’ve marked off some time in your schedule to do… absolutely nothing. It’s a blast), and other leisurely independant activities.
But, if I were forced to choose between dating a “clingy” chick and a “cold” chick, “clingy” would win every time. Personally, i’d much rather be bombarded with attention than be in a romantic relationship devoid of it.
Again, I’m not saying that I’d prefer it, but there are worse qualities a women can have — “smoker’s laugh,” “being from Texas,” etc — and I can live with clingy.
Anyway, people of VSB.com, I’m curious: Can you think of any attributes and/or personal characteristics that are red flags and/or dealbreakers for pretty much everyone…except you?
Are you cool with cats who call 50 times a day? Willing to work with women who don’t go give head? Down to date dudes who aren’t tall enough to ride Ferris wheels?
The carpet is yours.
—The Champ
SPECIAL DELIVERY: One last reminder that tomorrow, Sep 3, from 10pm-3am, VSB (along with Shine On Me and Just Cause) is throwing the second installment of #Reminisce at Liv Nightclub in DC. It’s all 90s music and we get in. Come hang with VSB P and have a shot or twelve. It’s free b4 11pm ($10 after), OPEN BAR FROM 10-11 and no dress code. Just a good damn time. See you Sat!
Damn! That’s a nice ass!
i didn’t notice she had a phone (much less a pink one)…nor a messy apartment.
It took me awhile to notice the phone, the messiness of the apartment, or the fact that there is a person lying in the bed. That is the power of um… assets.
i saw the extra set of legs in bed…but that might’ve just been my spidey-sense.
It’s almost a Katt Stacks moment.
Gotdamn! I didn’t see that person on the bed either! The ass….it’s a thing of great power.
SEE!!!!!
I told yall yesterday!!!!!!!
The booty is mesmerizing!!!!! The booty can make EVERYTHING else disappear. She be a 1 in the face. But if her booty on 10, she might get approached like a 7.
I thought your comment yesterday after I read the post…LOL
Speaking of…did anyone notice that her face is actually not in the picture? Took me a while.
@The Other Side- Good point. I forgot there was supposed to be a face there. Man, it took me all of 10 minutes just to scroll down to the article and the comments section. Lawd have mercy! I need a moment before I make a comment
I think the booty does make everything disappear…. Including a guys interest in anything not associated with the booty.
Huh? You said something shawty?
Truer words have never been spoken, my brotha….
meant for MicTheMessenger
…and apparantly no one seemed to notice she’s in a hotel room which means you all have a shot (no pun)! Not sure that would make a difference from noticing the obvious. :-/
she was holding a phone???
Much hate to my Non-Eastern Standard Time VBS & VSS for being able to post before midnight.
It truly is. The donk gods have truly smiled at her. Hell, they beamed.
Umm… there’s a dude on the bed.
That’s the first thing I noticed
A white dude at that!
He just light skin-ded
But but … the pink phone is so sparkly!
+1 I was thinking…. um, I like that cover… dayum I’ma be written off simply for phone covers now? *looks at sky blue with bubbles iPhone cover* #shrug
lol I wish I had a phone cover. Maybe then I wouldn’t feel so bad about dropping my phone and breaking the screen. UGH! LOL
@Nell- Me too! I should’ve listened when they kept telling me to get a phone cover..smh, now I’m ashamed to pull my phone out in front of ppl
Not if your hindparts bear any resemblance to those.
lol… there are plenty of women with those hindparts, it’s really the combo of the long, thin waist with it that makes boys O_O.
Me likey!!
um yeah, all of you do, lol
Not the fun size guys!!
OMG. At first I didn’t get it… and then I realized. Yeah, yeah, I’m slow today. But that’s so funny and so true, lol.
I bet if a dude wrote her off for the pink phone cover, she probably woulda responded with, “WHY YOU PAYIN ATTENTION TO IT ANYWAY? YOU LIKE DUDES OR SOMETHIN?!”
And she would have been justified. #IJS
And I would agree with her!!!!! lol
All I seent was tits and ass. And I hate pink. I’m such a ungirly girl. lol
Ungirly girls are not an issue either.
My Bi friend dresses like a man one day, and a girl the next, and either way she gets MUCH play.
I was told (by a lesbian) that studs are more likely to smash a dude than femmes. I have no empirical evidence to support this but she gets more tang than me so I’ll allow it.
I can believe it.
@#$% I have been sitting here for the last 10 minutes trying to think of one and I can’t… I can’t think of one thing that’s considered a red flag that I’m ok with. I feel prejudiced all of a sudden.
Right?!?
Ok wait I think I thought of a couple.
A WOMAN WHO CURSES:
I think (maybe) for some people that would be a red flag that she is uncultured or ghetto… but it doesn’t bother me. A well timed “muthaf#cka” or “what the f#ck” during an intellectual conversation and used in context actually gets you bonus points.
A WOMAN WHO CAN DANCE LIKE A STRIPPER:
You might end up with some ones in your waist line to tell the truth. I know the knee jerk speculation is that she must have been a stripper, but really, I think there’s been enough pole dancing classes out there that the “booty shake” skill set is no longer exclusive to the Playas club.
Aight that’s all I got.
see DQ that’s why your my e-boo (today)…. i got you on that?hon
And I got you too Friday e-boo
*Has the DJ play Outkast “Funky Ride” and tips Yolesy some dinero*
[$ ( ) $]
See, this is why I fcks with DQ.
ISWYDT
You popular today, but I see why! I’ve taken a pole-dance class and it was definitely challenging and quite a work out… and curse words… well I’m waitin for somebody to ban me for the number of times I say “shyt” in my comments. I’m actually working on my curbing my cursing in real life though, cuz it’s a bit wild… but it always has been… I mean me and my mama use all the words when talkin to each other… so you *know* if you say it with ya mama, well… sigh. There’s probably no hope.
2 groups of people who are entertainers, whose athleticism is overshadowed by their performance…
…Professional Wrestlers
…Strippers
I appreciate the latter more…
…especially if they cuss.
So there is hope for women like me! lol
The prospects are good
Good to know!
Yeah, I’m with DQ about those two. Especially the cursing part. Makes me feel better about my potty mouth. The stripper dancing is cool too. I hate it when a girl gets on top and doesn’t know what she’s doin. Smh @ the images/memories of stiff arse unathletic chicks thinking they were doin somethin. I’ve been saying for years that (talented) strippers are the most athletic women I’ve seen (outside of olympic athletes).
Hmmm, let me see if I can think of anymore.
For those of you who had majors in school that were STEM related, there is nothing like knowing the chick dropping it like it’s hot and cussing knows how to use Cauchy Integral Theorem or can properly arrange a Free Body Diagram of a system of pulleys. Smart chicks that have a common touch just win. They just do.
*looks over there since DQ knows how my Twitter timeline looks*
Hee. My mouf is so potty, I need a plumber.
Straight up, you are one of THE best follows ever… one of my favorite phrases of yours is when you’re describing “entire f#cks”. #Classic
*beams* Thanks, mister.
*giggles* Cheekie *beaming* is one of my words! lol
Me too! I think it’s the best way to smile in the history of jaw muscles. It’s the happiest form of smiling, IMO. Like, your entire body is smiling when you beam. Heck, I just smiled thinking of the idea of beaming.
+1
I’m a cusser, so I approve this message. Fcuk yeah!
I don’t know about this one. Are these things that we like that no one else likes or things we’ll live with? I’m not good at imagining what I’d settle for. Not to say that I demand perfection, but I don’t exactly go to bed thinking “I could def deal with a guy who was 5’6.” (I’m 5’10)
This is my long winded way of saying I’m not sure how to answer this question and I’ll come back after some more folks have responded.
Girl why did I think you were like 5’3” or something? LOL, for some reason, your avi makes me feel like you’re short. *shrugs*
+1.
+2- Yeah, I thought she was all small and dainty too. Wow, 5’10″??? That’s like Tyra Banks status. How come you’re not a model? lol
um I am gonna need for so many people not to think I’m short!!! I am a proud Amazon. I’ve been taller than my peers since Kindergarten. It’s def affected my world view (literally) and personality. Hard to have a little personality when you can never blend in.
And to answer your question I just always had other priorities. A lot of folks don’t realize modeling is a b@lls to the wall full time career. I kind of wanted to do this thing called school, then grad school, then career…
But thanks for the compliment
” And to answer your question I just always had other priorities. A lot of folks don’t realize modeling is a b@lls to the wall full time career. I kind of wanted to do this thing called school, then grad school, then career…”
La verdad. I guess that’s like asking a 6’5″ dude why he isn’t in the NBA lol
Girl why did I think you were like 5’3” or something?
O_O
No.
Just. No.
Apparently I need a new avi. The funny thing is I cropped two people to make that avi and I’m towering over them. Love you munchkins
I’ll work on an Amazon avi this weekend.
but we still see eye to eye…;)
but we still see eye to eye…;)
umm where have you been?!?
Not that I missed you or nothin….
a brief high ate us…that’s not an answer per se–but i’ve always wanted to type it. missed you too lambchop…;)
How do you create an avi? I’ve been trying to figure that ish out for a minute.
Gravatar.com and when u comment here use the same email address
Oh, so that’s the problem. I was using a diff email address. Thanks Love!
OMG me too!! Andi, you TOWER over me. I just KNEW you were cute. See, always interesting how folks imagine you to be in real life versus eLife. Kinda like a certain twigga thought my gubment name was Belinda. -_-
Belinda lol?! #Wheretheydothatat?
Andi – please, go here for the full story: http://bit.ly/oKl9wx
Hilarity.
Oh, and just realized I just put cute… I mean to say cute and short. lol But yeah, the first one is true at least. 1 outta two ain’t bad. lol
Me too!!
Hmm.
1.) Sports heads. We can watch the game together. Especially if it’s football
FALCONS!
2.) Gamers. But only if you let me watch. And I get to ask questions.
3.) Geeks. 8)
4.) Men who are incredibly busy because they’re neck deep in the professional grind. Because I am too. And it would be nice not to feel guilty about only being able to hit him up once every other week.
5.) Men who having opposing political or philosophical views as long as they can back them up intelligently and respectfully while demonstrating that they posses human decency. (Tea party members need not apply). This doesn’t extend to religious views. Not being on Team Jesus is a deal breaker. #yeshrug
You’re a southern gal? It’s too hot in GA right now.
Yes am I a Southern girl. Not there at the moment, I live in another city for work. But I hold very strongly to my Southern roots!
Well, I was in with the libertarian thing (like the Tea Party, but with sense
), but I’m not on Team Jesus. I’m a Deist in fact. Damn. No Andi for me…and I like tall women. 
ain’t you married….?
s/n I can understand where Deists are coming from. I always thought it was an interesting take. Still Team JC though
Yes I am married. Doesn’t mean I can’t dream, right?
“and I like tall women.”
I concur…
Idk i think a red flag would be a guy who didnt like sports…if ya man rather watch basketball wives than Monday Night Football #donttrusthim lol
LOL
This is very true. But some how there are still chicks out there who want to whine whenever there man wants to watch the game or go to a sports bar.
GTFOOH
Take me to the bar with you. We can get beer and wings!!!!
#myguiltypleasure
I have mentioned that before. I picture no sports guy as the one black guy out with his colleagues at the Indian restaurant, wearing velcro strap sandals and carrying a tote bag made from hemp.
There is literally no way to back up political views that oppose mine.
LOL Meech!
Expound!
Well most people get caught up in politics like it’s a team sport and root for their side creating false dichotomies between the options available. Politics shouldn’t either the democrats lose or the republicans lose, it should be take the best option available for the best outcome of the people.
Take the most contentious political issue out there, abortion. Do I like abortions? No. Most people would stop there and say I’m not for it so it should be illegal. I’m not for it so I think think that means that we should try to have as few as possible. Is criminalization the most expedient way to get that to happen? No. Much like with prohibition, the toll for making abortion illegal is steep, it is very hard to force a woman to carry a child to term if she wants to and the damage she will do to herself and the baby if safe and effective means to do so aren’t available is horrific. Effective education and having available, affordable contraception is best way to lower the number.
If criminalizing abortion is more important to you than the number of babies loss and lives altered by doing so then how can we have a conversation? If someone wants to argue about the rightness or wrongness of their way of thinking at the expense of what they claim to care about then how can they justify it other than saying their rightness is more important than anything else?
I think I love you.
+1
If I only I didn’t know it was my politically progressive world view that you actually loved. Sigh.
“If someone wants to argue about the rightness or wrongness of their way of thinking at the expense of what they claim to care about then how can they justify it other than saying their rightness is more important than anything else?”
This is the best question to have ever been asked… ever.
Like, it summarizes about 97.9% of politically-charged debates.
Lao Tzu stated, “One can never truly understand without first seeing what they question from opposite of where they are, but can not get there unless they are sure of their present place, thought, and emotion. Only from the honesty of the subjective can the objective every be understood. If you cant be honset about where you are, you always lie to yourself as you try to understand others.”
i don’t have a problem with women who bite their toe nails.
Even though you should.
Why would you? Wouldn’t that mean she’s flexible.
That was the EXACT same thing I was thinking.
i mean some people might have a problem with women who literally put their foot in their mouth.
Fortunately this revelation didn’t happen in a relationship of mine, but “not being born male” is a deal breaker (no, you don’t want to know the story, but I learned not to go hoo-riding/when keeping it real goes wrong in college)
****no, you don’t want to know the story****
Beg to differ… I ABSOLUTELY want to know the story
exactly… how many times have i said on VSB that i am NOSY… i want to know the whole, entire, complete unabridged story!!!!! keep all the dirty parts in pls & thx
All of it.
Now
You can’t just leave us hanging like that.
You are now M. Night Shylaman until we get this damn story.
Noooooooooooooooo with M. Night Shylaman. I actually think I mentioned this before on another thread. Let’s just say I’m not in jail since I chose not to get in the car to ride on his?/her? apartment with some folks I went to school with. It’s a Googleable incident and I don’t want to be the “Suzie” of the crew, mostly since I know fear those cats now.
But I AM salty that you can get your birth certificate changed to reflect your new gender. I get your licence, but your birth certificate?
the only “Suzie” i know is a glove filled with hot water that is used to engage in “relations” with when a man is incarcerated…
that being said… whatever you wrote above is NOT the story… maybe i wasn’t clear…
I was talking about loose lipped Suzie from Basketball Wives, but as to your explanation…do tell…
So VSB ate my post (sorry if this shows up twice)
Suzie on Basketball Wives is the one who spreads gossip like wildfire. You can’t tell her ANYTHING. But what, pray tell, is you Suzie?
listen up sister… there will be NO exchange of information/story without the details of yours!!!
so ante up
Ok I was teasing. I’m pretty sure this is a very intricate story and personally, I think I understand how you feel. Plastic surgery is getting better and better these days, and I have found myself questioning my own standards after realizing some fine ass women I’ve seen in life were actually schlong holders.
That kind of smack in the face is not pretty at all.
Sharing is caring
Details please and thank you!
“(no, you don’t want to know the story, but I learned not to go hoo-riding/when keeping it real goes wrong in college)”
You ain’t BLOG about this yet? THAT is the question. lol
1. Being illiterate: The Waka Flocka School of Grammar is a no go. Anti-Irene.
2. Disrespect: I’m not a gangster but don’t push me; something will pop off for disrespect. #respectmyminigangster
3. Touching when I say “don’t touch” : I’m a “bubble” sort of person, but I can be very flexible with everything except hand-holding
and sex obviouslywhich is very sacred to me.4. Non-drive: Like a car without a steering wheel, if you ain’t goin’ nowhere, then neither are we homeboy.
5. Lack of creativity: I find almost everything creative in one way or another so if dude is just coming up dry? Well…I guess so will I.
These sound more like deal breakers than pseudo deal breakers lol.
Well I’m pretty cool with everything else
so I had to do the opposite lol
I don’t mind if my man goes to the strip club every now and then with the fellas. I think a lot of women take issue with that but I don’t…hey, maybe we can even go together.
This instantly makes you awesome.
I honestly hate trying to live my life while dealing with a woman’s insecurity caused by men who ARE NOT ME.
Seeing a naked woman dance around is no threat to the person I’m going home to.
Me? Awesome? Ur far too kind, lol.
In my mind, when he comes home he’ll be REEEAAADDDDYYYYYY and thats my cue to make it do what it do. So, in my eyes everybody wins.
PLUS YOLES
I see me and you are going to have to a serious conversation or two Yoles
@Rewind…
am i in trouble???
Only if you’re naughty at playing nice
i really liked that… too cute…
I aim to please
Word. It’s amazing how few women see this. It’s the strip club, not the wh0re house. He can only touch the merchandise but so much. LOL
+1
Exactly. Only sad unrealistic dudes go to strip clubs pretending they have a mistress there. The rest of us know the deal.
Besides, when she comes to dance, she don’t give a damn about you no matter how close she gets up in your face while grinding on you. So no woman should take this false attention as a threat…it’s all just a ploy for money.
Agreed!!
I have no qualms with the Mr. Hittin up a skrip club HELL I sometimes roll too. With and Without him.
Shooooot if it’s like that, I’d just go to the bodega, get me some singles, and throw them at you when I got home, who needs the strip club?
+1
Recycle that money!!!!
Hell yea, she might play lotto the next day and hit it big!
Ayyyyeeeee I ilke that!! I don’t mind playing the role either, get dressed up and everything….red beans and gravy, I ain’t too lazy!
I’ll make the playlist for you, tip you good, and then reclaim the money I rained on you so the kids can get ice cream from the ice cream truck the next day
See, thats team work. I love it!
Nasty but nice. I likes.
Its only nasty if the kids touch the money. As long as it goes directly from SS93 to the ice cream man, its all good. LOL
What’s the difference between this money and sweaty breast money or sweaty stripper money??? Just don’t smell the money!!!
When it’s me, who knows where the money would have ended up. I just ask that the kids not have to touch the money that was possibly in mommy’s *insert body part*. Thats all.
+1
E-twin… I HAVE FOUND YOU!!!
“Got a lake in the backyard, the catfish are delicious”… Drops mic.
E-twins UNITE!!
DID YA MISS ME?!
See that’s when you know your bedroom is getting it’s just dues with an attitude like that
seeing a woman (or women) naked is no threat…it could very well be an asset (pun unintended–no really).
No threat to a woman w/o insecurities…but to a woman w/insecurities?! Merely entertaining the thought makes you as guilty.
[pours "yes sauce" all over you]
This is why I visit this here page. It provides my early morning laugh.
Have you met my wife?
Lol@Todd…..I haven’t met your wife, but as a wife myself….the strip club is a no-go. It’s not really about insecurity, it’s about protecting the sanctity of marriage and filling your relationship with wholesome things…..strip clubs, pron, the club ect. may seem like innocent things but little by little they can unravel the fabric of a relationship. Banning these things from a marriage might seem radical, but if you look at the divorce rate it’s clear that you have to do radical things to stay in the marriage game…..now if people are just dating for fun, these ideas may not apply….but for people thinking about a lifetime commitment together, you have to consider the impact of the little things.
Women have danced naked since the beginning of time.
So, I respectfully disagree, not that you asked my opinion. : ) The increase in divorce is related to the shift in social position for women, the di-stigmatization of divorce, and the fact that we (women) no longer have to remain married to a man. We have options.
But that a different post.
Not only that, I think people get married for the wrong reasons. I have several friends who have accepted proposals knowing good and well it was a bad move.. I have a cousin who let his wife strong arm him down the isle because he has low self esteem and he thought she was as good as it was going to get. People just need to stop fooling themselves. I’m not married but when I do get married, I certainly hope that he is the one person I can truely let me hair down with and vice versa. So, if he wants to hit the strip club every now and then, hey babe do your thing, enjoy.
Honestly, the strip club isn’t my thing, and the last time I set foot in one was 4 years ago at my wife’s request. That said, unless dude is being obsessive about strip clubs or porn, or if it’s effecting your love life, let it rock. If the man is taking care of business at home and not being obsessive about it, he’s proven that he can partake without going to excess. Any resulting insecurities aren’t because of the club or the porn, but whatever other issues between the two of you.
Don’t blame outside issues for problems within a relationship.
@ Kayjaye
While I agree we must take some radical steps to ensure marriage lasts, being too radical can work against you too. If things (besides the obious) become off limits, people will engage simply because they are being told they can’t.
My wife knows I’m too cheap for the strip club (recylcle strip club money post upthread) and knows that porn (despite the fact we may watch a flck or 2 together) does not have a hold over me and I’m not off chaging $9.95 descreetly to our credit cards.
That’s why you got to play some Erkyah Badu – Bag Lady when you find a girl like that.
i didn’t know that men going to the strip club is a deal breaker… well then:
plus me and add to that.. i don’t mind him watching copious amount of adult erotic cinema and doing whatever he feels to do during and after whether i am in the vicinity or not…
For some women it is a deal breaker. My friend was all up in arms because her man gotta lap dance on his bday. It all boils down to trust issues though. If I can’t trust you in a strip club then i can’t trust you anywhere.
Honestly I agree with your last sentence Kidsister. I mean, the strip club can be every bit like the regular club and if I don’t want you at one, then I don’t want you at the other.
As it stands, I don’t care if my dude goes to either. If he doesn’t come home…that’s something else.
OMG, if he doesn’t come home, he should probably find a new one.
I don’t get the big deal about the strip club either, but then again I’ve been a few times with a guy. Seems more like a waste of money to me. Of course this shouldn’t be a regular thing.
It is a waste of money. I had fun with it back when I was a teenager because me and my boys were just learning about sex and the youngest people at the clubs. I’m 27 now. I dare someone to ask me about going to a strip club and I will proceed to go into a Steve Harvey-like rant for 20 minutes
ROTFLMAO! My wife gets mad at me when she THINKS I’ve been looking at…ahem, adult independent cinema. (‘Cause bruhman doesn’t do Vivid or Wicked.
) Seriously though, my wife thinks the second I look at that, I won’t look at her or touch her again. I could go in on that, but that’s another story. 
Too funny. You’ve got to involve her in the “fun” so that the stag reels are no longer a threat.
Cosign. Ask her to watch with you. I was never a adult film person, then I met someone who was, and now I’m game. But I’m picky about it.
My wife is all retro when there were storylines; none of this hey what’s your name *casio keyboard starts playing* pants drop.
I like good story lines…. If I could find something like “9 Songs” but with brown people, or “A Good Day to be Black and Sexy” but with actual sex scenes, I’d be in heaven!
I love story lines! I need to know why they are fcuking.
Tried that, didn’t work. She was the stereotype of the chick that looks at porn and points out the cellulite and the C-section scar. Plus she somehow ended up MORE jealous. The only exception to her hatred is Belladonna…and that’s because she hasn’t seen her do Black guys. LOL
Yeah I like Belladonna, she’s cute when her hair isn’t buzz cut. I’m definitely critical while watching… but not in a bad “oh she’s ugly/has stretch marks” kind of way- I actually like ‘em less perfect, more average.
But I’m more like, “um ok, that right there don’t feel _that_ good” (I hate when the sounds they make don’t match the work being put it…) It’d only make me jealous if a guy were more interested in watching it, than doing it… I definitely don’t need us to be finishing the whole dayum flick… I will side eye that- unless you walk in on me watching it and were never really in the mood in the first place.
co-sign, i’d only care if it was interfering with our chex life. if it’s benefiting it or not doing anything to it, i’ont even care.
Chunk.. my e-sister wife… i lubs you… BELLLDONNA is the GOAT!!!!!! she taught me so many things.. and to date i have yet to see a scene with her that wasn’t hot even if she was doing things i give the major side eye to, i still end up
liking itwatchingon that note… Everyone please join me in welcoming Chunk… my e-sisterwife although late still great
?BIG?UPS? to ??????CHUNK??????
Much ??? BLESSINGS ??? sent your way ?? Please stay and continue to ?
Awwwwwwwwww I wish I remembered my fancy HTML cause I would give all of this back to you doll! (((hug))) <—— that's all I got! LOL
Thank you, Yoles…. I's officially welcomed and shyt!
This would be me except for the jealousy part.
I prefer “erotic fiction” to “skin flicks” anyway.
Awww man, thats terrible. I hope one days she surprises you and watches ur fav flick with you.
I agree…that has never made sense to me. Once I went with my bf and she and I gave him a double lap dance (I kept my clothes on though).
I’m with you on this one! Doesn’t bother me either and I would go as well. Hell, I’ll pay for your lap dance. Go watch her drop it babe, just come home and put it on me afterwards.
I have no interest in going with a guy, but I wouldn’t mind if my man goes.
The ladies I’ve dated most recently have all stated some version of “How often do you go to strip clubs?” and “Can I go with you?”. This is much better that the ladies I’ve dated who would get upset if I suggest she and I go to Hooters for lunch. I only go to strip clubs on special occasions like when a friend comes to town who wants to go; otherwise, I’d rather use the money on more productive pursuits….a new handgun or something.
Now thats a place, I’d like to hang out with my man…the range.
plus me
you’re not the only one. I’m totally cool with it and would not mind attending with my man myself. I don’t see what the big deal is anyway
“hey, maybe we can even go together.”
I agree, in fact, I WANT us to go together at least once. These are the types of fun memories you should accumulate with your man. Other that, I can’t have my dude going crazy because he doesn’t get to man-stuff with his boys. Same thing with me wanting some girl-time.
Back in my eager-to-please days, I’d also say that I’d go with my man to a strip club. Now in my don’t-give-a-ish days, I’m not trying to go someplace pretending to be enjoying seeing men gaze all goofy-eyed at some sweaty skanks dancing on poles and such (I’ve been to a ‘nice’ strip club before…exciting at first, then the pathetic nature of the whole scene started becoming apparent). I wouldn’t mind if he went, just as long as he doesn’t expect me to go with him.
I’d judge a criminal record. On that note, is it true T.I. is back in jail? He got out less than 24 hrs ago
For me, it depends on what he was convicted of, time passed, and if his current life reflects changes from his past…
I haven’t heard anything on twitter about him going back to jail. Not sure if you tweet, but if you do, you know word spreads super fast so Im assuming he’s still a free man.
My understanding is that he went to a halfway house.
+me
Multiple felonies are not attractive to me.
What if it’s white collar crime?
To me, that says something about your integrity or lack there of.
I’d probably be more against white collar crime.
White collar crime probably just means you violated/hurt people on a larger scale than the burglar or the dope boy.
Those kind of crimes also usually require a lot more deceit and deliberate deviousness which is worse than than the average random street crime to me.
Yes, he is back in jail! Why? He decided to charter a luxury bus from the jail to the halfway house! SMH
My post was about T.I.
Why is that worthy of being sent back to jail, any idea?
I’m pretty he was getting high on the bus if that’s the case and this jail talk is even true… But, don’t quote me.
Why? Cause he’s a dumbass surrounded by dumbasses that won’t/can’t tell him any better. That’s a nigg@ that they never should gave money to.
He’s not back in jail. He was being moved from jail to a halfway house anyway. The only difference is that he has been moved to an undisclosed location at this point. He used a tourbus and had an entourage come get him in Arkansas to take him back to Atlanta where he was supposed to finish out the rest of his sentence. Now he’s being moved from Atlanta.
I blame his lawyer for that. No two ways about it. T.I. is also somewhat of an idiot apparently. Even Avon only had his boys pick him up in a SUV when he got out of Jessup.
According to the bureau of prisons website, T.I. is incarcerated at the U.S. federal prison in Atlanta and his new release date is September 29. So it looks like he will do all of his halfway house time locked up.
Like I said, dumbass.
yeah i read that as of recently. originally, the sh*t i read said that he wasn’t going to be placed back in jail.
again, i blame his lawyer. and the ninjas up in Arkansas. i mean i suppose he should just know better. like…just…dont try to big time it out of there.
d’oh well.
Answering the question oppositely: Dating Military Officers is a deal breaker for me however women swoon over men in uniforms who are in charge. I’ve had my fair share of military men and no longer interested in what an entire group of men have to offer men anymore. Yes all 4 branches of the military are off limits.
I agree. I bent my rule on that, and then had to promptly re-establish it. Done with them…ALL
Add dating cops to that for me. And, for some unknown reason I attract them too.
oh lord.. the cops and me don’t agree… i will NOT date one EVER again
Talk about a new way to say Fck the Police! LOL
It’s fun to get pretend arrested by one, though. But I kinda have a cop fetish. They’re fun for play, maybe not for keeps.
I never even tried.
Nor would I. I grew up in the hood and, while I respect those that do their job as honestly as their positions allow, cops hold no attraction to for that reason.
Exactly. Plus, now that we know what kinda guys I tend to end up with… well, we know I’m kinda on the whole opposite side of the spectrum, lol.
And, I was thinking about this… I think I’d get clowned more for bringing a cop home than I would for bringing a white guy home. I mean, they’d eventually love whoever I brought home, but I think the cop would have a harder time… a much, much harder time.
Yeah, actually, I never would. It’s official because just thinking about it has me messed up.
God forbid he’d be white and a cop! LMAO! Sorry, I was just thinking the worst of the worst situations and that popped in my head.
Girl. That right there is impossible. I mean like entirely all the way no can do never will happen impossible. LMAO. Yeah, that’s the worse.
Man I need to go listen to We Are the World or something. Just terrible.
LOL me either. I mean, I have a certain thang for men in Navy suits (dad was in it), but it’s just that… physical. It’s a whole ‘nother thing actually getting to know the person. I’ve heard horror stories from women who dated men serving the country in various fields. Alcoholism was number one in the Navy, particularly.
Alcoholism, abuse, cheating, cheating, cheating and more cheating.
Did I mention cheating…cuz that’s offense number one for them
Yep. I’ve been Navy and I’ll never go back.
It’s actually really sad to me, but I won’t even give a cop a chance… I met a nice guy once, and in the first hour of the convo found out he was the po po and that ended the whole chance, every ounce, no takebacks. I swear “you are the enemy” kept going through my head in rapid succession like I was robot programmed to disengage on “I’m a police officer.”
Later I wrote about that cuz I was kind of mad at myself, but still. I can’t. I just can’t.
I take offense to this.
It was a decision I had to make for myself. The military men I’ve dated are successful black men, great manners, late 20s, educated, charming, and great to be around. I use to love military officers but I personally think they dangle their “status” in the air and want women to jump and crawl at them.
some of them do, some don’t.
that generalization could be made about a lot of really successful people.