Do What You’re Supposed To Do So You Don’t Have To “Do What I Gotta” Do
[***Today’s post is a guest post from VSB commenter, Breazy Hale. He blogs at the site Corner Politics. Spread love it’s the Brooklyn way. Clap for him.***]
Through out my short 33 years on this earth, Iâ€™ve heard theÂ â€I gotta do what I gotta doâ€ excuseÂ from menÂ countless times. Normally the person sayingÂ this has found himself in a desperateÂ situation – back against the wall – and ends up doing something he otherwise wouldnâ€™t do to get out of the situation.Â While Iâ€™m not knocking the next manâ€™s hustle or coping skills, Iâ€™ve come to realize that these â€œback against the wall situationsâ€ could have been prevented 9 times out of 10.
For some reason, us menfolk like to make things harder on ourselves than they have to be. Cutting corners?Â That, along with taking the easy way out, is our norm. Because of the â€œdo what I gotta doâ€Â excuse some of us men have, we’ve removed all accountability outÂ of the equation in order to not be held to standards of mandomÂ and to justify things like Â dropping out of school, selling dope or being an absentee father.
â€œI gotta do what I gotta doâ€ isnâ€™t limited to the youngins wearing skinny jeans, dreads andÂ listening to Lilâ€™ Wayne, either -Â even though you would think so due to the influence that rap andÂ YouTubeÂ has on this generation and the “I gotta get mine” attitude that is displayed.Â NowÂ some of our elders have used this excuse, probably as long as theyâ€™ve been alive,Â and you see them -Â grown men old enough to be our uncles and fathers -Â standing outside of liquor storesÂ at 8:00 in the morning waiting for it to open. Or you see the old man playing scratch offs still waiting for his ship to come in. All becauseÂ at some point in their lives they didnâ€™t take care of business like they should have andÂ decided to go the easy route.Â This cancerous idea is learned and is no doubt passed down from generation to generation.
This attitude arises when we as menÂ fail toÂ reach our full potentialÂ and realize some of the fundamentals of manhood, so we start to justify our short comings.Â Mainly we fail to realize one of the fundamentals of manhood; a manâ€™s gotta do what a man is supposed to do.Â You see, if a man takes care of business and does the things that he is supposed to do, then he wonâ€™t be forced to compromise himself and his beliefs by doing what heâ€™s gotta do.Â I repeat:Â if a man takes care of businessÂ and does the things that he is supposed to do he then wonâ€™t be forced to compromise himself and his beliefs by doing what heâ€™s gotta do.
Doing what is supposed to be done may take a little longer or involve more steps but the reward is worth it. The certificate or degree that you earn fromÂ staying in school instead of dropping outÂ to chase the fast buck will be yours and no one can take that from you, just like the sense of pride that you will have from being involved in your childâ€™s life as opposed toÂ skipping out.Â So man up, take care of business like youâ€™re supposed to, and reap all the benefits that you will gain as you travel down the road to becoming a better man.
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