Do What You’re Supposed To Do So You Don’t Have To “Do What I Gotta” Do
[***Today’s post is a guest post from VSB commenter, Breazy Hale. He blogs at the site Corner Politics. Spread love it’s the Brooklyn way. Clap for him.***]
Through out my short 33 years on this earth, IĂ˘â‚¬â„˘ve heard theĂ‚Â Ă˘â‚¬ÂťI gotta do what I gotta doĂ˘â‚¬Âť excuseĂ‚Â from menĂ‚Â countless times. Normally the person sayingĂ‚Â this has found himself in a desperateĂ‚Â situation – back against the wall – and ends up doing something he otherwise wouldnĂ˘â‚¬â„˘t do to get out of the situation.Ă‚Â While IĂ˘â‚¬â„˘m not knocking the next manĂ˘â‚¬â„˘s hustle or coping skills, IĂ˘â‚¬â„˘ve come to realize that these Ă˘â‚¬Ĺ“back against the wall situationsĂ˘â‚¬Âť could have been prevented 9 times out of 10.
For some reason, us menfolk like to make things harder on ourselves than they have to be. Cutting corners?Ă‚Â That, along with taking the easy way out, is our norm. Because of the Ă˘â‚¬Ĺ“do what I gotta doĂ˘â‚¬ÂťĂ‚Â excuse some of us men have, we’ve removed all accountability outĂ‚Â of the equation in order to not be held to standards of mandomĂ‚Â and to justify things like Ă‚Â dropping out of school, selling dope or being an absentee father.
Ă˘â‚¬Ĺ“I gotta do what I gotta doĂ˘â‚¬Âť isnĂ˘â‚¬â„˘t limited to the youngins wearing skinny jeans, dreads andĂ‚Â listening to LilĂ˘â‚¬â„˘ Wayne, either -Ă‚Â even though you would think so due to the influence that rap andĂ‚Â YouTubeĂ‚Â has on this generation and the “I gotta get mine” attitude that is displayed.Ă‚Â NowĂ‚Â some of our elders have used this excuse, probably as long as theyĂ˘â‚¬â„˘ve been alive,Ă‚Â and you see them -Ă‚Â grown men old enough to be our uncles and fathers -Ă‚Â standing outside of liquor storesĂ‚Â at 8:00 in the morning waiting for it to open. Or you see the old man playing scratch offs still waiting for his ship to come in. All becauseĂ‚Â at some point in their lives they didnĂ˘â‚¬â„˘t take care of business like they should have andĂ‚Â decided to go the easy route.Ă‚Â This cancerous idea is learned and is no doubt passed down from generation to generation.
This attitude arises when we as menĂ‚Â fail toĂ‚Â reach our full potentialĂ‚Â and realize some of the fundamentals of manhood, so we start to justify our short comings.Ă‚Â Mainly we fail to realize one of the fundamentals of manhood; a manĂ˘â‚¬â„˘s gotta do what a man is supposed to do.Ă‚Â You see, if a man takes care of business and does the things that he is supposed to do, then he wonĂ˘â‚¬â„˘t be forced to compromise himself and his beliefs by doing what heĂ˘â‚¬â„˘s gotta do.Ă‚Â I repeat:Ă‚Â if a man takes care of businessĂ‚Â and does the things that he is supposed to do he then wonĂ˘â‚¬â„˘t be forced to compromise himself and his beliefs by doing what heĂ˘â‚¬â„˘s gotta do.
Doing what is supposed to be done may take a little longer or involve more steps but the reward is worth it. The certificate or degree that you earn fromĂ‚Â staying in school instead of dropping outĂ‚Â to chase the fast buck will be yours and no one can take that from you, just like the sense of pride that you will have from being involved in your childĂ˘â‚¬â„˘s life as opposed toĂ‚Â skipping out.Ă‚Â So man up, take care of business like youĂ˘â‚¬â„˘re supposed to, and reap all the benefits that you will gain as you travel down the road to becoming a better man.
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