I’m not sure how I didn’t hear about this until this morning (and I’m guessing amidst the bigger hubbub of Donald Sterling, many others missed it too), but last week D.L. Hughley went all renegade on the estranged wife of Columbus Short, Tanee McCall-Short. Effectively, Hughley thinks that Mrs. McCall-Short is a “dizzy a** broad” and a “thirsty b*tch” who acted against her best interest by stating in any way, shape, or form that Columbus (allegedly) threatened to kill her (even if its true). She should have “shut the f*ck up” because by ruining Columbus Short’s reputation, she is directly affecting her own pockets. He also doubts that Mr. Short threatened her in any capacity and chalks it all up to the on-going divorce proceedings; in short (no pun intended), she’s just trying to take him for what he’s worth without realizing that he is the hand that feeds her.
You should listen for yourself to come to your own conclusion. DL is a comedian but he wasn’t joking. He meant everything he said. And his premise all rests on “women will say stupid sh*t at the most inopportune time because they’re mad and regret it later” especially women who are financially dependent on the men they married. To his credit, he does think that if what has been alleged is true – or if she was dead – that he’d think Short was a bad guy. Not much credit here. Like on the credit score ledger, he’s at like 400.I’m not even sure if you can get a 400, but let’s assume you can.
There’s so much wrong with his assertions and this ain’t so much about Hughley as it is about a mentality that I’m sad to say I’ve heard from more than enough people to notice.
1. She’s probably lying about domestic violence.
2. She shouldn’t bite the hand that feeds her. Or at least keep it to herself to not ruin the reputation of the hand that feeds her.
3. Don’t ruin the reputation of the person who still needs to get work.
I’ve never been a huge fan of DL Hughley so this helps cement that. And for a few reasons. But before we get to that, let me veer to the left real quick.
This is a very male-centric viewpoint, but is also sahred by many women too. I believe the smart people refer to it as patriarchal. Either way, as a man. I’ve definitely fallen victim to that first one. In fact, I remember years ago on the post that shall not be named, explaining how I used to view, well most things that fall in this category with skepticism. It’s not that I didn’t believe anybody who told me that they’d been abused in some capacity, I was just always skeptical. And I’m not even sure why. Hell, given the numbers of women who have informed me that they’ve been victims of SOME type of abuse I think the benefit of the doubt should always rest squarely with the women. Of course, there are high profile cases of women lying (Duke lax, for instance) that feed the skepticism and that’s sad but if my homegirl tells me some dude put his hands on her, the fact that my first inclination was often is one of questioning its veracity is a problem.
Problem for some of us is that when you add in experiences that many of us (men and women) have had with women who will ABSOLUTELY take things too far (I’ve got fully corroborated stories for days, a few involve authorities) for the sake of proving a point or seeking attention…I get why skepticism occurs. And again, that makes it harder on those who have truly suffered. Which feeds the “non-reported” statistical category. At the same time, and the comments here on DV and rape, have actually made me say “wow” and realize the error of that thinking. So it’s a hard line to tow. I’ve got sisters and mothers and daughters and well you get the point. So I never want to be one of those folks who doesn’t trust what he’s hearing JUST because of what I’ve experienced, but humanity is a b*tch. Working on it.
Now all of that has to do with that first bullet. Even admidst my humanity, I think its ri-damn-diculous to NOT take a person’s history into account. And whose history do we have to take into account in this case?
Columbus Short is a known hot head. It was in NO way surprising what his wife alleged he did. Not even a little. He’s got anger issues. He broke the nose of somebody who said that he did something with his wife. Which, I’m not saying isn’t understandable under certain circumstances, but if HE doesn’t give a sh*t about ruining his rep and money, why should she be worried about ruining his rep and money. Which leads to the second point. Don’t bite the hand that feeds you? Until when? It kills you? That’s the stupidest logic I’ve ever heard. Yeah, if you’re being petty, sure. You’re mad at somebody…then yes it is dumb to not be forward thinking enough to NOT jeopardize a good thing over some petty argument.
If folks are holding knives to your throat threatening to kill you and themselves and they are clearly of historically terrible temperament (we’re talking restraining orders, etc), perhaps you may want to bite the f*ck out of that hand. Or ransacking your home! (Guess he took the stomp the yard thing personal). Nobody is thinking about money and stability when you have a crazy motherf*cker running roughshod. And once that fool is gone…you don’t do a pro-con list to see if its worth it to see if you all either work it out or you die? And you definitely don’t keep that sh*t to yourself and shut the f*ck up JUST for the sake of their ability to help take care of you in the future. F*ck them. You do for you. And reputation? What reputation. Columbus Short does a good enough job of ruining that on his own. His wife doesn’t have to do anything.
It’s entirely possible that you may listen to DL’s words and completely agree. I won’t say I understand why but I’ve learned that there’s an audience and viewpoint for everybody. I personally think his comments are non-sense.
I guess the most important take away here is this: n*ggas gon’ nig. Perhaps Columbus and DL should tour together. At least we know if Columbus punched DL in the mouth, DL wouldn’t talk. And that’s ultimately what love is to DL right?
Taking it on the chin until the lawyers get paid?
Bye felicia. -
VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka MR. BYE FELICIA aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3