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Dear Men Who Very Obviously Hate Women: Do Yourselves A Favor And Just Admit It!

The idea that overt and unambiguous racism is preferable to subtler forms of prejudice is not a terribly uncommon one among Black people. Of course, like Tyga’s music and soft chicken wings, all racism is really bad. But if given the choice between clear racism and concealed and/or confusing racism, many of us (myself included) would choose the clarity. I also consider it to be, well, more honorable. As a person clearly stating that they don’t fuck with you and your kind under any circumstances is quite a bit more honest and respect worthy than one who weasels and dog whistles around it. I can also imagine that it’s quite liberating for the racist. Which is why I’ve always believed more racists should embrace their racism, like how my dog right now is embracing an empty suitcase that he believes is attracted to him.

Seriously, think about how much easier life would be for them if that happened. Instead of regurgitating some bullshit about why a Black family moving into your neighborhood upsets you, imagine the freedom felt when exclaiming “I just don’t want to inhale any nigger air on my deck.” Think of the unshackling power of a politician coming out and saying “I just really, really, really don’t want Black people to vote” when questioned about voter ID laws. Of course, there are some very obvious social incentives for staying in the racism closet. But doesn’t a clear conscience supersede that? Plus, it’s not like people don’t already know that a racist is a racist. Everyone who knows Jack already knows not to invite Jack over to watch the NBA Finals. Imagine how much more sleep Jack would get at night if he changed his wifi network to “Coon Free Zone”?

Anyway, if you happen to be a man who carries a very obvious animus towards women and you happen to be reading this, I believe you should do the same thing! Instead of doing things like pursuing very public PhDs in Social Media Rape Apologia — and leaving everyone confused about why you’ve decided to cape so hard for that cause — why not just come out and embrace the misogyny? Lift your head, bare your chest, and exclaim to the universe that you’re just not that into things like “women having agency” and “women feeling safe” and “women possessing thoughts that are not the thoughts I happen to possess” and “women working at Home Depot.” Stop using “females” as a substitute for “bitches” and just come out and let your bitch spouting flag fly. And while that flag is flapping in the wind — naked and free — admit that while you do enjoy “fucking bitches” (and very much wish to continue to do that), you “don’t really fuck with bitches all like that.” Instead of tuning your bat signal to a specific frequency that only lets you know when and where a man is being criticized by a woman or accused of something by a woman so you can rush to blindly defend him, just say “I don’t care about — or even know about — what he did. I just don’t want bitches to win.”

Of course, like with racists, I’m aware there are quite a few incentives to attempt to conceal your hate. I imagine it may be more difficult to sleep with, marry, have children with, garner support from, eat food cooked by, accept car loan cosigns from, “borrow” Netflix passwords off of, and go to movies and shit with women if you make it plain that you hate them. But alas, doing this will help you identify yourselves to your sisters-in-arms — women who kinda, sorta hate women too. Which will now give them the confidence and the freedom to freely admit that they kinda, sorta hate women instead of leaving everyone confused about why they feel the need to do so much to support and defend men accused of doing shitty-ass shit to women. And then you can live happy ever after, and do things like “go to R. Kelly concerts in 2016” and “eat cheese dogs from Sheetz” together.

I know what I’m suggesting is difficult and counter-intuitive. But I’m just going to need you to trust me. And then, when you’re done trusting me and you’re ready to be free, come upstairs from your aunt’s basement, because your Pop Tarts are getting cold.

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a columnist for GQ.com And he's working on a book of essays to be published by Ecco (HarperCollins). Damon is busy. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't. Whatever.

  • Kae

    I fully support ain’t schytt misogynist men getting with ain’t schytt misogynist women. Let them be together and leave the rest of us free to have healthy loving relationships with men and women who respect each other.

    • brothaskeeper

      They’re always the most fertile, tho.

  • cakes_and_pies

    The isht I see on my timeline…

    • miss t-lee

      You tryna get us fired too, hanh?

      • cakes_and_pies

        My bad!

        • miss t-lee

          C’mon…we can’t have dycks willy nilly on the page mayne…lol

          • AnswerMe

            Maybe one day…wishful dreaming.

            • miss t-lee

              I mean…

      • QueenRaven23

        Listen, this is my first time on my work computer. Let me go back to my phone before someone walks by lol

      • Lisa Necole

        I had to quick scroll.

        • miss t-lee

          Chile…

      • Vanity in Peril

        They took the wenus pic down but the racist pics were there for days…

        • miss t-lee

          Ooopsie.

    • Sweet Potato Kai

      **slow blinks **

    • brothaskeeper

      I was…….unprepared.

      • Brass Tacks

        Cuz…Science?!?

        • miss t-lee

          Junk science.

          • Kas

            I see what you did there.

            • miss t-lee

              *cackling*

          • Ess Tee

            HA!

          • MsSula

            Literally. *snickers*

        • brothaskeeper

          Who did THAT research?

          • Brass Tacks

            I don’t know… I seen what looked to be scientific reasoning attached to the er…post. And was just trying to find a way to be an adult and not say there’s a D I C K on my office computer.

      • ALM247

        Me too…I already had this page open in my browser, so the picture didn’t load at first. When I reloaded the page, though……Boom! LOL!!!! I keep scrolling past the picture really quickly in case someone passes by.

    • MsSula

      What the what? I quit this b*tch!

  • I think he’s writing about men who hate women, in general, and dudes who showed their azzes in the Nate Parker thread who were quick to put a cape on to defend dude but showed no expediency to do so for the victim, specifically.

    Media is reporting that the victim committed suicide, by the way. Though I’ve no idea how to verify it due to sexual assault victims names being private. Anyone got a source?

    • ALM247
    • miss t-lee

      It’s been on variety.
      They spoke with her brother.
      They’ve researched death certificates and everything.

      • Her entire situation makes me so dang sad.

        • miss t-lee

          Very.

    • Other_guy13

      True…but to automatically assume they hate women is a bit much…esp. in my case. There’s a difference between blindly defending and not really knowing how to feel when you don’t have the facts…esp. when personal experience is entered into the equation. Sometimes it’s as easy as removing ones personal experience from the situation and actually getting the facts before you form an opinion.

      • cyanic

        I tried to stay neutral because pile ons are automatic these days. I wanted to believe his acquittal meant innocence. I knew the conversation would be white supremacist hypocrisy in Hollywood.

        • Other_guy13

          I fell into that trap I will admit…I also took the time to read the story and continue to research what happened. Nate is a bad guy plain and simple and what we as men (myself mainly) need to do is actually gather facts before forming an opinion. Simply asking “why now” without having true context leads one down the wrong path and is a slap in the face to real victims.

      • RaeNBow

        this. right here. i’m just not comfortable with assigning men the title of “woman hater” from their opinions on an event that 1) NONE OF US has enough facts on, 2) Has been adjudicated in favor of the alleged perpetrator (so the 12 people out there with the most facts were on his side!!!!)…and 3) is murky as heck from the info that has been widely released

        • Other_guy13

          I’m not gone call you a woman hater…but you really need to check the info on the subject. If you come to that same conclusion that’s on you…just picture your mother, wife, daughter, cousin etc in her situation and try to see it from the other side.

          • RaeNBow

            i did read the 3 pages of the phone call transcript that were released. but that doesn’t give me enough to even opine on the situation at all, really. and i empathize AND sympathize with the victim. but to watch the automatic vilification play out with limited facts, is weird to me.

            ***i’m not opining on Nate. Or arguing what did or did not happen in the situation from 17 years ago.***

            I am opining on the automatic classification of those who would say ‘we don’t know’ or those who would not move to decide his character off of this situation, singularly, as “woman-haters”. that’s it. I just thinks its awful to classify someone in such a manner for having an opinion that is logical.

            • MsSula

              But we are not talking about those who say “we don’t know”, we are talking about those who are capping HARD for the rape apology. It shouldn’t be that hard to distinguish, unless the ones “who don’t know” are in fact closeted apologists?

              • RaeNBow

                i completely understand that. and my comment was stemming from OG’s reply to mortalman (that was less to the original article damon posted, than the portion of the comment that talked about automatic assumption). but in the macro sense, i do agree with your comment. those who were legit Caping for the rape apology are probably more like likely to hate women as a general stance

            • Other_guy13

              “I am opining on the automatic classification of those who would say ‘we don’t know’ or those who would not move to decide his character off of this situation, singularly, as “woman-haters”. that’s it. I just thinks its awful to classify someone in such a manner for having an opinion that is logical.” this….I do agree with…but again… a label is just a label to me. I know who I am and where I stand…It’s easier to label than it is to listen to another opinion. Conversations go two ways….if not its just preaching and I don’t have time for that.
              Interesting take though…does this apply to the cops who say “we don’t know the facts” when they are clearly laid out. I think that’s the argument here…we need to gather facts before we comment. My opinion only though.

          • Val

            No offense, Og, but I really hate the rational behind someone having to imagine the victim is their mother or sister, etc. How about women are human and just imagine that particular woman being in that situation. That should be enough.

            • Other_guy13

              No offense taken. I agree but some people need a personal visualization to get the point. I personally don’t want to imagine anyone I know and love go through that. Her experience is good enough for me. But some people truly only care about themselves and those like them or in their circle (not saying that’s you Rae).

            • Epsilonicus

              I dislike it too but sadly enough, it is effective. It actually fits how human learning works. We learn most effectively by connecting new info to old, scaffolding as it is called. And because almost every human society ever has placed importance on kin, connecting the idea about treating women to that is effective because it makes something abstract become very practical and because the emotional ties we have to family literally makes the neurons tingle.

              Now should people do something just because it is the right thing to do? Of course. But most won’t because of some abstract notion of justice and right/wrong. So making it practical, accessible, and using that emotional tie is absolutely necessary.

        • Ess Tee

          I’m always curious about the thoughts behind your second item (in general. You aren’t the first person to expression such an opinion).

          Do we pick and choose when to say “Well, the jury decided…” and that somehow it means the end of the story? That we no longer discuss what occurred? The jury decided that Zimmerman wasn’t guilty. A jury decided that the officers who beat Rodney King were not guilty. So, that’s it? End of story?

          • Other_guy13

            Not guilty is not innocence.

            • Kas

              Certainly not in this comment section, bunch of heathens.

              • brothaskeeper

                ^^^^pure as the driven snow on the highest mountaintop.

                • Kas

                  Slush on the side of the road 2 weeks after a major snowstorm.

          • RaeNBow

            valid question. and i used that point to show how someone could logically come to the opinion that what happened is not so cut and dry.

            its the ability of someone to get to the conclusion that “we don’t know” logically… that baffles me about classifying a person who may think that, as a woman-hater.

            but in regard to jury verdicts as a whole: sometime juries are just plain WRONG! and we should always feel free to scrutinize jury verdicts. i think we even have a duty to. it is definitely not the end of the story. it is our imperfect justice system that leads to verdicts that seem or could be, just plain old wrong. but we don’t get there apart from the prosecutor, or the defense attorney or the judge, etc.

            in this particular instance though, i’m taking issue with how we assign people with the term “woman-hater” based on a logical opinion. to me, it logically follows that if a jury was confused enough 17 years ago to make a finding of not guilty (and they were presented with a lot more facts and testimony than we have)… then how can you condemn a person and call them a woman-hater who today (or yesterday) takes the position of {gee, they really don’t know what happened, and without enough facts, they choose not to vilify nate parker or decide his character based on things they really don’t know}

            • Ess Tee

              I guess that determination is based on repeat behavior?

              Nate Parker isn’t the first man for whom the capes were freshly laundered and doffed. My sense of Damon’s post (and a lot of frustration from a number of commenters and users of social media) is that there’s an element of picking and choosing when to wait for the facts.

              A lot of times the same people who are demanding facts when it comes to the Nate Parkers and ARuhs and Cosbys are not asking for or waiting for facts in the latest news of a Black person killed by an officer.

              • RaeNBow

                Nah, we don’t have to wait for a r-A-pist to become a repeat offender to deem them as such. But because of the nature of the allegation (usually boiling down to he-said/she-said) i like to try and start at a point where both people are at 0 neutral in my mind. i don’t believe one person more than the other, and that is hard. Cause naturally, i am biased in favor of the woman. I tend toward believing a woman’s accusations over a man’s defense. and i probably overcompensate for that bias too. sigh.

                i completely understand you. when we say “wait for the facts” in one case and not the other, we can look disingenuous and hypocritical. personally, i’m a wait for the facts kinda person in every case unless there is one or more pieces of evidence that eliminates the controversy in fact (like a video or audio recording that is pretty uncontested). but i get you

      • Yeah, we should wait to get facts before judging. We also live in a world flush with facts. All it takes is a few keystrokes to get the info you want concerning any case, which should reduce our opinions being guided by our biases.

        I automatically hold any police action in suspicion due to all the evidence gathered that they will lie and close ranks to protect themselves. While we don’t have video, there is plenty of evidence to show that patriarchy is structural and circumscribes the lives of women in meaningful and terrifying ways. In light of that reality, doubting the accuser’s statements seems unfair.

    • Medium Meech

      Read like sneak disses because of the Nate Parker thread. If that’s the case, why not come out and say it?

      • I’m not trying to diss anyone in this thread and apologized to those who I did directly diss in the last one.

        I’m also acknowledging his piece isn’t written in a vacuum.

  • LadyJay?

    They don’t want to be saved don’t save em.

    • #YesJayCole

      • Ice Jones

        see, i must be old (or ratchet) because i instantly started singing the project pat version

        • miss t-lee

          That’s the only version I sing.

          • Ice Jones

            love me some jermaine but that’s pat’s version is really the only one that matters lol

            • miss t-lee

              I’m not a J. Cole fan.
              First he’s reworking ‘Kast lyrics…now Pat?
              Trash.

              • Ice Jones

                the crazy part is if you google that line, j. cole’s version comes up first. the nerve!

                https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-VcA7C6meg

                • miss t-lee

                  The nerve is right.

              • Coco

                Yeah, but at least he gives credit where it’s due, unlike a plethora of other artists. http://genius.com/4577127 (It’s under the song “No Role Modelz” if you weren’t already aware.)

                • miss t-lee

                  I don’t listen to J Cole, so I wasn’t aware.
                  I guess it’s cool, he’s giving credit, but most folks of a certain already knew that it was jacked.

              • Has Project Pat ever gone platinum with no features?

                • miss t-lee

                  bye…

        • Deeds

          Shoot, I don’t know the J. Cole version. Only the Project Pat one.

          • miss t-lee

            Thank you.
            This is the first I’m hearing of a J. Cole version…lol

            • ALM247

              Me too….My mind went directly to Memphis.

          • Ice Jones

            forgot about this one too!

        • I’m old enough to love both, and realize the kiddies on her might be like “Project Who?”

          • Ice Jones

            oh i love jermaine’s version too, but my inner twerker just defaulted to pat

    • charisma_supreme

      I preach daily about the wisdom of Project Pat

      • LadyJay?

        I don’t know what or who Project Pat is, kindly expound. Thanks.

        • miss t-lee

          He’s a rapper.

          • LadyJay?

            Thanks girlie!!

            • miss t-lee

              *daps*

          • Ice Jones

            and where j cole probably got his line from

            • miss t-lee

              It’s exactly where he got it from.

        • charisma_supreme

          Oh, baby, please allow me!!!!!!!

          https://youtu.be/gQEkn6VIiJI

          • miss t-lee

            I was gonna link it, but you beat me…lol

          • brothaskeeper

            Thanks, Charisma. Now I’m gonna be humming that all throughout professional development.

            • miss t-lee

              Also…the rest of the day this will be an earworm.
              I might even break out “Chickenhead” and “Good Googly Moogly.”

              • Jennifer

                Happy to recite all the words to Chickenhead right now if you want them.

                • Reemo
                • miss t-lee

                  AYE!!!!
                  “Stay at ya mammy house, and keep a smart mouth…”

                  • Jennifer

                    “It’s Project Pat, Memphis Tenn, represent the South”

                    • miss t-lee

                      I love you, girl…lol

                    • charisma_supreme

                      Me, upon coming back and observing yalls interaction…

              • brothaskeeper

                “That just the meter broke, yown’know chu’talmbout!”

                • miss t-lee

                  “Should’ve paid ya light bill, you bought an outfit.”

            • charisma_supreme

              Just a humble servant, doing good works…..

          • Jennifer

            Yep, that’s stuck in my head.

          • A short vignette about urban codependency…

        • charisma_supreme

          There is much much more premium Memphis Ratchetry where this came from. Please let me know if you’d like any further edutainment.

          • LadyJay?

            Rap is not my cup of tea. Let me sip on what you gave me first.

            • charisma_supreme

              Okay, okay. I got excited. Imma calm down. Just lemme know when you wanna explore though. Here to help. Lol

              • LadyJay?

                Will do hun?

      • miss t-lee

        He really did spread the gospel.

    • Brooklyn_Bruin

      The irony

  • Sageyk3

    Champ gently contrasts racism with misogyny. I agree with what sentiments he conveyed.

    My only caveat is how most people do a very poor job of knowing exactly what they feel. But, where did I get that notion? Can we just call it instinct? If not, that’s okay too. My opinion is one penny in a swimming pool filled with pennies and I’m okay with that.

    The point I am getting to is when does “Doth protest too much.” come into play? Ultimately, that’s what Champ is striking at. The point where opposition goes from a reasonable restraint to “this person definitely despises your ability to seek justice for the ills perpetrated against you.”

    The underlying argument is that people do not know when they have crossed that line.

    • ALM247

      A man doesn’t know that calling a woman a b, w, or h after he’s been rejected is “crossing the line”?

      • DBoySlim

        That’s definitely crossing the line.

  • skinnynow

    This is so beautiful, I want to print it out and hang it on my refrigerator. Was this just off the dome or have you been sitting on this masterpiece, waiting for the right hotep moment to shine the light on these cockroaches? Whatever the reason, good job Champ!

  • Val

    One of the problems with misogyny is that it’s a societal thing. Unfortunately both men and women learn to not like women, to varying degrees, from the world around them. Which means the only way to really make a difference is to challenge society.

    I mean, we’ve just seen a display of misogyny mixed with racism (misogynoir) in the criticism of Gabby Douglas. Which adds the complicating element of intersectionality into the mix. The media was complicit in this by highlighting the attack on her without condemning it and calling it what it was.

    So, while it’s easy to call out individual men for being misogynists that doesn’t seem to be the most effective way to fight misogyny. We need to take on the systems of misogyny that make it acceptable and even promote it.

    Also, am I the only one who only eats their pop tarts cold?

    • Epsilonicus

      I also eat my pop tarts cold

      • Quirlygirly

        Yuk to pop tarts cold or hot

        • Kas

          Fed

          • Quirlygirly

            *takes notes to raid Kas home later

            • Kas

              The room upstairs with the grow lights is for orchids.

              • Ess Tee

                “Orchids.”

              • Quirlygirly

                Good to know- so you won’t mind if I take a few “orchids”

                #CrookedFed

        • brothaskeeper

          Narc.

          • Kas

            Or possibly Trump supporter

            • Quirlygirly

              Take it back!!

              Call me a Fed or a narc but a Trump supporter- that is just low!!

              • Kas

                That was low. I will delete. I’m getting soft in my old age.

                • Val

                  How do you delete comments?

                  • Kas

                    Click on the triangle to the right of your post. It gives you an option to delete.

                    • Val

                      Wow, cool, I did not know that. Thanks, Kas. Deleting comments should come in handy for you. Lol

                      I just couldn’t resist.

                    • Kas

                      I have broad shoulders. I can handle you snipes.

                    • Quirlygirly

                      Oh snap- You done taught me something

                    • Kas

                      Glad I could be of service. Can I have my, ahem, orchids back now?

                    • Quirlygirly

                      What chu mean “have them back?” That is my payoff *cough* ahem gift for keeping my mouth shut. #CrookedFed/Narc

          • Quirlygirly

            BK – you too!

            *plants evidence on BK and writes him up on charges

            • brothaskeeper

              That’s a fern that I’m keeping for a friend while he’s overseas in Amsterdam.

    • Kas

      Ditto on pop tarts cold

      • brothaskeeper

        Kas. I thought we wuz homies.

        • Kas

          I like cold pop tarts. We ain’t cool no more?

          • brothaskeeper

            Well…….what kind of pop tarts?

    • LadyJay?

      Nope, Val. I eat them cold. My favorite one is, shoot can’t remember.

      • Val

        I only eat strawberry because those are the only ones that are unfrosted. I hate the frosting, too sweet.

        • LadyJay?

          How you been???

        • Brandon Allen

          They got the brown sugar unfrosted I believe.

          • Val

            I hear stories about all of these unfrosted flavors but all I ever see is strawberry.

    • Freebird

      Stay real V.

    • AnswerMe

      As long as they don’t have frosting…and are strawberry or preferably blueberry.

    • TeeChantel

      Hot or cold. As long as it is the strawberry kind, life is good.

      • Kas

        Gotta try the birthday cake

        • PinkRose

          A big ‘ol crusty negro eating a pop tart, ROTFL???

          • Kas

            A box of pop tarts to be exact. Also I’m 1/32nd Cherokee on my dad’s side, so I don’t consider myself black.

            • PinkRose

              LOL, I’m 1/32 Cherokee too, sup Cuz?

          • Val

            Crusty tho. Lol

      • miss t-lee

        Blueberry or nathan.
        And it’s gotta be toasted.

        • brothaskeeper

          *downvotes the flavor, but upvotes the choice to toast*

          • miss t-lee

            LOL

        • Chinasa

          Brown cinnamon sugar ALL DAY. cold. no need to waste time w/ a toaster…

          • miss t-lee

            ha!!
            They’re good, but not my fave.

    • Damon Young

      “Also, am I the only one who only eats their pop tarts cold?”

      just you and other people molded in the darkness

      • Val

        According to the comments below there are quite a few of us. Lol

        • Kas

          Damon is still trying to deal with the fact that he has atrocious taste in tennis shoes (may actually be nurse shoes). Go easy on him.

          • Val

            Huh? Lol

            • Kas

              Damon mentioned in a post that he bought these

          • Yoles

            Leave nurses out of this thx…

            • Kas

              No insult to nurses. Some my best fanta . . . loses signal.

    • It’s members of the groups who are being attacked who often parrot the actions of the attackers. In relation to gender there is nothing more painful than listening to a group of older ladies drag younger ones.

      They’ve done Gabby dirty. *smh*

    • Other_guy13

      I too eat cold pop tarts

    • Brandon Allen

      You can eat them hot or cold. No importa.

      • brothaskeeper

        Importa.

    • QueenRaven23

      the brown sugar ones, yes!

    • LadyJay?

      Val, check out Lanita Smith. She is a singer. I particularly like her song, I love you. I’m recommending her because I thought she might be your type. Song is cool doe. I need you to have options, other than AK (just in case she do you durrrrrrrrrry)!

      • MsSula

        I like how we all k now Val’s type now. Val, you have been VSB profiled. Lolll.

        • Val

          Yeah, it amazes me too. Lol

    • Buster Cannon

      Also, am I the only one who only eats their pop tarts cold?

      Are you eating them cold because the struggle is real and you didn’t have a toaster/microwave on hand, or is it a preference?

      • Val

        Lol Look at Buster throwing shade. I like them cold.

        • Buster Cannon

          Lol I’m just saying, I’d always eat them warm if given the opportunity. I can do the cinnamon and brown sugar ones either way, those are clutch!

          • LMNOP

            Those are a lot better than I expected.

        • No worries I only eat mine cold too! I despise them hot! Strawberry UNFROSTED is the nectar for the GAWDS!!!!

    • Detroit Skater

      sitting here enjoying the conversation in the comment section as always and can’t stop thinking about strawberry pop-tarts. mama noooooooooooooo! whyyyyyyy! *clutches pearls* I’m trying so hard to get my sugar life together… thanks, val! *my thanks Obama voice* LOLOL

      • Nick Peters

        Reading @ 12 AM west coast time…I went to San Francisco, bought a $20 bag of salt water taffy and am losing my mind

        • Detroit Skater

          that sugar thang is real…. LOL

    • Most are better warm, but in a rush they are acceptable cold. The two exceptions are frosted brown sugar and frosted strawberry, which taste better cold. Pop tarts was life back in the day. I’ve given this much thought.

    • JamesInstagram

      For years, I thought Pop Tarts were only meant to be eaten straight out of the wrapper.

      • Kas

        You are a wise person. Ignore the doubters on this thread.

      • LMNOP

        If you have a toaster around, why eat a pop tart?

    • Andrea

      Cold poptarts throw me into some sort of hyperglycemic mania. Team toasted over here.

    • No. My ex wife loved them cold.

      • Val

        Lol Don’t hold that against the cold pop tart.

        • I won’t. I just knew she ate them by the box.

    • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      I do eat pop tarts cold. I haven’t microwaved a pop tarts in a long time. Also, great points about the structure of misogyny. We have to always understand that understanding intersectionality is a must in order for us to have real freedom.

  • Vanity in Peril

    Everytime we (women, women who hate women, men, men who hate women…) let a fuckboi comment or behavior slide without checking them w fact and reason a Hotep gets its wings.

    (Psst…don’t tell ’em that’s actually Isis)

  • Jbjbjbjbj

    I’ve stayed around this place for years just to watch the diva dude bichazzness. They drink mint julips and smoke virginia slim 100s. I refuse to share the puzzy pool of today with these manipulative lying piles of mule stool.

    • MsCee

      So…you hate women? Or nah?

      • Jbjbjbjbj

        I had to trace the lines and make sure this was for me. I hate people. There. Hope you skeet to that.

    • LadyJay?

      What’s your drank of choice doe?

      • MsCee

        QTNA lmfao.

        • MsSula

          For real, we need to know! Loll.

          • LadyJay?

            How did the gallery opening go?

            • MsSula

              Still working out the kinks and panicking!! Due saturday after next. Thanks for asking!

              • LadyJay?

                Don’t panick!! I love art galleries, especially with art that makes sense. Splashing paint on a canvass to me is pure idjiocy

                • MsSula

                  Well, they will tell you all art is good art. We try to promote local artists mostly. Those who can’t afford to be shown at established galleries.

                  • LadyJay?

                    I know they will tell me that oo. So me too oo, I’m artist-mschew!!!!

                    Love it!!

      • Jbjbjbjbj

        Man look. I could go to talking about smooth highland single malt scotches served up like crown and coke…or icehouse. I even like merlot and chardonnay. I’m a recovering alcoholic so…anything wet. Medical marijuana is my personal and intimate savior. I might go get some chivas regal…

        • LadyJay?

          Chardonnay too sweet no?
          Wish you the best in your recovery process!

    • Vanity in Peril

      Provocative.

    • Jennifer

      The imagery! You, sir or madam, must be a writer.

      • Jbjbjbjbj

        No. Just a little off.

        • Jennifer

          Same difference.

  • Ice Jones

    this is so perfect. i want to print it out, laminate it, frame it and hand it to all the hoteps i know, including an ex who tried to go toe-to-toe with me a few months ago about the same thing. insists he loves women yet constantly refers to his son’s mother and every other woman who pisses him off as “bitch” and always posts about “females.” when i called him on it, he told me that the deltas had gotten to me (since i had crossed after we stopped dealing) and that they were why i had these thoughts in my head.

    • charisma_supreme

      …. thoughts of…. mutual respect? I just….

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