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Dear Black Parents: Please Love Your Children So They Won’t Grow Up To Be Clarence Thomas

My daughter will be six months old in a few days. She is a smiling, rolling, bouncing, and burping bundle of Blackness. She’s amazing, hilarious, and perfect. She is also a minuscule masochist who doesn’t waste opportunities to find new ways to potentially injure herself. (For instance, just yesterday, while holding her while typing, she decided to head bunt my laptop. And then she started crying for 10 seconds. And then I got scared thinking she was really hurt. And then she starting smiling and laughing like “Got you, nigga!“) Which means that my primary parental objective at this point is to make sure she’s still breathing.

She will eventually age out of this slapstick infant stage. And while keeping her alive will always be paramount, other more complex objectives will enter the picture. Like making sure she knows how to recognize a high ball screen and when to hedge on her man. And cultivating a sincere appreciation for pancakes. And sugar on grits. And teaching her the lyrics of Radiohead’s “Talk Show Host.”

But mostly I want her to be in love with who she is. Not a suffocating, consuming, constricting, and narcissistic love where she’s the only meaningful entity in her universe. But a love where she’s able to acknowledge, accept, embrace, and find the beauty and the value in all the things that make her her. A love of herself and her skin and her nose and her lips and her hair and her people and her parents and her Blackness that exists without reservation or shame and permeates and inspires others around her to strive for their best selves.

Basically, I do not want her to be Clarence Thomas.

Because if she were to become Clarence Thomas — a person whose shame of and disgust with himself and his Blackness is so pervasive and palpable and, unfortunately, powerful that it can literally alter history — it would mean that I failed. That I was an abject and thorough disaster of a parent. That something I did or didn’t do turned this smiling, rolling, bouncing, and burping six-month old bundle of Blackness into a joyless and self-loathing schlemiel who grew to rue the day she was born Black.

So whatever I can do to enable this process of self-love and acceptance and to create an imperviousness to self-shame will be done. Because I love her too much to allow her to suffer like that.

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a columnist for GQ.com And he's working on a book of essays to be published by Ecco (HarperCollins). Damon is busy. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't. Whatever.

  • DC Guest

    Standing ovation!

  • Other_guy13

    Don’t even need to read this. I met him TWICE in Savannah and they were not pleasant experiences. His secret service detail was nicer to us young African Americans…He is such a Uncle Ruckus it just makes me sick. He seems to hate is Savannah Roots and hate even more that he is a Black Man…Ben Carson is headed that way but its a slow progression for him. Point is…Ugh to CT…now and forever.

    • Damon Young

      you know, despite how ridiculous the good dr ben is, i never got the self-loathing/self-hate vibe from him at all. i mean, you don’t commission a picture of yourself with black klingon Jesus if you don’t love black people

      • Other_guy13

        Idk…he just lost me after he made a rap song trying to get votes.

        • C. Bizzle

          And that’s how you know he was trying to keep it real… not.

      • Val

        I don’t, Damon. To say that Obamacare is worse than slavery one has to have a certain amount of self-hate.

        • ChokeOnThisTea

          But the fact that he thinks slavery was bad in the first place gives me some hope about him. I get the feeling Clarence thinks slavery was a good thing. lol

          • Cheech

            He did hop out on that Minnesota hate crimes case and write a treatise on why burning a cross is a uniquely harmful act.

            It was an odd moment. And sad that the Court needed Clarence Thomas to explain that.

          • Other_guy13

            Does he really think slavery was bad though?

            • Val

              Exactly. How bad could he think it was if healthcare is worse to him.

              • Mary Burrell

                I thought it was a weird thing to say and from then on I just think of him as a weirdo. He makes some very strange statements. And that craziness about the robbery at Popeyes Chicken that was a crazy.

          • Blueberry01

            Right, he’d be like, “at least the slaves had guaranteed employment for every member of their family. Plus, they had the luxury of enjoying nature all day long…”

        • Question

          How does that statement display a disdain for Blackness?

          • Val

            You’re being obtuse, right? Just for the sake of conversation, right?

            • Question

              Not intentionally….I was focused on the “ObamaCare” part and somehow glossed over the slavery part. My bad. *hangs head*

      • I agree with you. With Ben Carson, it seems to come from a different place. He’s more crotchety old uncle then self hater.

      • ChokeOnThisTea

        Right. He’s super conservative and has some questionable political views, but I just don’t get “I hate my blackness and yours” vibes from him.

        • Vanity in Peril

          “I hate my blackness and yours” made me spittake this wine I’m not drinking at 3 in the afternoon.

          • Day drinking is perfectly acceptable after 12pm.

            • Mortal Man

              It’s always happy hour somewhere.

      • Cleojonz

        Agreed. He hangs on the street of respectability politics a little too much, but I don’t think he hates his blackness. He seems quite proud of it actually.

        • Other_guy13

          He is proud of a blackness he knows nothing about. He is proud of what he see’s on TV and what his family tells him is black. Sorry…I can’t get down with Ben.

          • Cleojonz

            Oh I don’t like him at all. I think a lot of what he believes is irresponsible thinking and doesn’t align with his medical training at all. I just don’t believe he hates his blackness.

      • Nik White

        And he married a Black woman-a regular brown girl who cannot pass, that needs hair grease and head rags and lotion and such!

        • fxd8424

          I don’t think he hates himself either, but marrying a regular brown girl who cannot pass is not proof. I have some friends that hate their blackness but married black, can’t pass, hair grease and such but still are self-hating.

    • Hammster

      You actually met him? This must have been by force.

      • Other_guy13

        Once as a vale…the other as a student…he gave me the same “your beneath me” look each time.

  • Other_guy13

    I honestly hope he stubs his pinky toe in the middle of the night while he has to #2, steps on a Lego on his other foot, and sits on the toilet with the seat up…..this would make me happy.

    • HoobaStankyLeg

      Or a good old-fashioned paper cut to the eyeball.

      • Other_guy13

        Yikes….remind me never to piss you off.

        • HoobaStankyLeg

          I didn’t say I’d give it to him. I’m just saying I wouldn’t be mad if it happened to him….

          • Other_guy13

            Sure sure

          • Lea Thrace

            your name is everything.

            • HoobaStankyLeg

              Thank you Lovely. ?

      • Tambra

        wut?

        • Other_guy13

          Right..so spiteful.

      • NonyaB

        ?Certified Savage™. Yo’ certificate’s in the mail.

        • HoobaStankyLeg

          ? Well, can’t be mad at that…. At least I’m certified. ?

          • NonyaB

            Folks deserve to know when they’re dealing with a pro. ?

    • Val

      Wow, you’re nice. My wishes for him are a bit more brutal.

      • Other_guy13

        Leave it to Val…

    • Jennifer

      I live in DC. That can be arranged.

  • ChokeOnThisTea

    1) Sugar on grits?! *side eye* Carry on.

    2) Y’all know Samuel L. Jackson’s character in D’Jango was based on Clarence, right?

    3) ” A love of herself and her skin and her nose and her lips and her hair and her people and her parents and her Blackness that permeates and inspires others around her to strive for their best selfs.” <– This. All of this. Mandatory goals for black parents.

    4) More pics of your beautiful daughter, please. :)

    • Damon Young
      • AnswerMe

        Can’t look away from this cuteness.

      • ChokeOnThisTea

        OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!! My ovaries are leaping right now!!!

        Y’all should enter her in some baby pageants or advertisements or something. She’s too perfect.

        • brothaskeeper

          *moves out of the way of Choke’s wayward organ*

          • Tambra

            You sending out a subliminal message?

            • brothaskeeper

              I’m just not tryna get cheek slapped by some errant fallopian tubes.

              • Tambra

                Lol, I think there is only one set of fallopian tubes you should be checking.

                • brothaskeeper

                  You are SO right! And I’d like to think I’m a thorough checker in that regard.

                  • Tambra

                    Hats off

                    • brothaskeeper

                      Thank you! And no diversification is taking place. There’s only one garage for my car.

              • ChokeOnThisTea

                Hey. Ain’t nothing wayward or errant about my tubes. They’re just excited. Lol!

                • Tambra

                  You tell em.

                • Tambra

                  You thinking he trying to diversify his portfolio?

                  • ChokeOnThisTea

                    He bet not be. His portfolio is on lock in Mrs. Brothaskeeper’s hands. lol

                • Mary Burrell

                  She is gorgeous.

              • Jennifer

                The imagery! LOL!

                • Tambra

                  You know . It’s like they are lurking in the bushes, all stealthy awaiting him, and as soon as the opportunity arise * bam*.

      • Val

        Adorableness!

      • LMNOP

        She is so cute!

      • Ari

        She’s just lovely. I told you – she knows things!

      • IsitFridayyet?

        ajdflasdkf! She’s gorgeous! I wonder what she’s thinking about in this picture.

        • Val

          Conquering the world!

        • Nik White

          She’s thinking about saying, “No daddy, I didn’t do it” when she gets to be about 2 or 3.

      • Cheech

        She must just rule you with those eyes.

      • Deeds

        Awww she’s too cute!..this pic makes me wanna have one..almost.

        • Ari

          Almost.

          • Jennifer

            Barely.

      • Damon Young

        thanks and sh*t everyone.

      • brothaskeeper

        Oh yeah. She gets whatever she wants in your house. Whatever. She. Wants.

        • ChokeOnThisTea

          Right?! I know she’s running sh it.

      • Kas

        To paraphrase Mike Tyson, everyone thinks their baby is the cutest, until they see a really cute baby.

        • Tambra

          She is going to break hearts.

          • Kas

            Makes me want a daughter.

            • Tambra

              Well do your do. You know the drill.

              • Kas

                Rh incompatibility. Each ensuing kid is harder to carry to term. Additional kids would require in utero blood transfusions. 2 is it for us (both boys, sigh).

                • Tambra

                  Yikes, sorry to hear. You can adopt.

                • Other_guy13

                  Adopt a Kas….I support this.

                  • Kas

                    We’ve discussed.

            • fxd8424

              Give it your best shot.

      • Ess Tee

        She’s adorable! Those eyes are asking, “Y’all about to get in formation, right?”

        • ChokeOnThisTea

          I thought they were asking, “so, who should I mesmerize next with my adorableness?”

          • Ess Tee

            That’s how she gets them into formation lol.

      • minxbrie

        Be still my beating ovaries! She is so beautiful with her big eyes and I already peep the natural arch in them brows, yaaasss!!

        • Raven

          RIGHT!!!!!! I was just about to lock my hubby in our room to get things started…and then our 15 year old rolled in with his 15 year old phucked up ‘tude and then our 10 year old came in claiming to be a REAL Jedi…so nawl…no more kids!!!!

          • Mochasister

            Sometimes I am really glad I don’t have children.

      • Niecy

        Ouch. My ovaries.

      • Other_guy13

        There is a lot of cuteness going on here….must…look…away…not…time…to…impregnate…bae…..

      • miss t-lee

        Ahhh!!!!!! She’s too precious, Champie.

      • mssporadic

        Those eyes are captivating! How do you get anything done?

      • Cleojonz

        Oooh if my baby shop wasn’t permanently closed…

      • Momofuku O’Murphy

        SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! (that’s the noise I’M making right now)

      • Mary Burrell

        She is beautiful.

      • Jo ‘Mama’ Besser

        That face and that button those and the pudgy little arms, ahh! She’s so adorable it’s almost offensive.

      • rikyrah

        Man, she is SO your boss?

      • dmcmillian72

        Damn! There go my ovaries again… *sigh*

      • lissa_the_cocoa

        OMG, look at this adorable preciousness. I don’t even want kids and my ovaries started humming,

    • Cheech

      I thought Samuel Jackson’s characher was based on Uncle Ruckus.

      • ChokeOnThisTea

        Uncle Ruckus. Clarence. Same difference.

    • brothaskeeper

      #1.) *double side eye*

      • Jennifer

        1) *triple side eye*

        This is my second convo about sugar on grits in 24 hours. Some things need to die…like sugar on grits.

        • ChokeOnThisTea

          Just all the side eyes. I know that has to be grounds for automatic Black Card revocation or something. Lemme check my handbook.

    • Nik White

      Up vote all of this but especially #2! He immediately came to mind! Are we sick massa?type of joka!

  • AnswerMe

    Yes to everything in that second paragraph.

  • Mortal Man

    Besides his self-negation of his Blackness, he also does not believe in the rights of the accused or of the prosecuted.

    • Cheech

      Well, he believes in their right to be in jail, to stay in jail, and to shut up about it. And their right to be killed by the state. Without meaningful review. In a hurry.

      • Mortal Man

        Folks, it’s muy importante you know your legal rights when encountering police. I was a civics teacher for seven years so here’s the rundown:

        You need to give your name to a police officer if he or she asks.

        You have the right to determine the nature of the police encounter- it’s either a hello, a detention, or an arrest. Your rights change with each encounter, so always ask which encounter it is.

        If you are being detained, you need to show ID if the police ask.

        If you are being detained, it is best to state immediately that you consent to no searches without probable cause or a warrant (4th Amendment). In fact, if you are in doubt you are being detained or the MOMENT the police confirm you are being detained, say this immediately.

        If you are being detained, you do not have to answer any questions beyond giving your name (5th Amendment). Not answering questions is not something they can arrest for as the burden of proof is on them.

        Depending on your state, you may or may not record the encounter. This right is being debated through various circuit courts. Go do some homework. It’s best to begin the recording the moment you are stopped using an app like Bambuser or Facebook Live (which streams the encounter to the cloud; even seizing the phone won’t get rid of the evidence). Then put your phone in your pocket. Removing it from your pocket is a search, which the 4th Amendment prohibits without probable cause or a warrant.

        Police can lie in order to establish probable cause. Again, the 5th Amendment is your best friend. Also- “Am I being detained or am I free to go?” This should be a broken record.

        • Cheech

          All of this. And police definitely can and do lie to you. This idea they can’t is a dangerous myth.

          • Mortal Man

            People confuse investigating with entrapment.

            Effective investigators trick people to admitting truths. That’s like me saying “How many did Curry put up last night” when you darn well knew I expected you to work late at the office. Underhanded, but whatever.

            Entrapment is when police trick you into committing a crime and then try to prosecute you for it. So if a cop tells you to run a red light, you do so, and then they give you a ticket…that’s a no go, bud.

        • brothaskeeper

          That’s news you can use, frfr!

        • Ess Tee

          Here’s where I get caught up on searches and probable cause. I’ve seen many a car pulled off on the side of the road, with young Black or Brown folks seated on the side of the road. What are the things police officers can say (in what I imagine is a CYA tactic) to say they have probable cause to search a car?

          • Cheech

            They fit the profile of a drug courier. Because they were speeding. Or driving too slow. Or driving exactly the speed limit. Or acting nervous. Or being too calm. Or eyes darting around. Or staring straight ahead. Or the car being beat up. Or the car being too clean. You get the picture.

            They also don’t have to say anything there. They can just search it and see if it holds up in court later. But usually they’ll try to get consent (eg, by telling you that otherwise you’ll have to wait for the dog, or have to wait for the warrant ….). Once you consent, they’re off the hook and anything goes.

            • Ess Tee

              A friend of mine had an experience with Metro PD a few years back all because of *their* (MPD’s) error. The officer driving behind her pulled her over saying that her tags didn’t match the car. She and her boyfriend at the time were made to get out of the car and she was asked all these questions.

              In the end, it turned out that the damn cop had put in the wrong plate number (either the number with the wrong locale (because her tags were out of state tags) or the right locale but still messed up input).

              • Cheech

                Yep.

                At least it wasn’t a case where they serve a warrant at the wrong address (by busting in with no warning) and someone or their dog gets shot.

            • Mortal Man

              If they call for K-9, get on camera your rights are being violated because you did not consent to a search. Having the dog anywhere near your car is a search.

            • Mortal Man

              Never tell a cop what speed you were going. Politely plead the 5th. They either caught it on the radar gun or they didn’t, in which case they’ll give a warning instead of a ticket.

          • Mortal Man

            If you have a dirty car, they can say your trash and junk obscures their vision and thus had to search to make it safe.

            Police may say they smell weed from the car.

            They can say they saw an empty Ziploc bag and thought it contained drugs.

            Keep your car clean. Only roll down your windows enough so they can hear you. Keep your AC on. Buy a nice air freshner. Nobody answers questions except the driver. Everybody records. The driver consistently asks if they are being detained or if they are free to do. The driver answers no questions beyond name, ID, and the detention question.

            • Ess Tee

              I think this is what frustrates me about it all. Your tips were very clear and I think they are helpful, yet at the end of the day, it feels as though the average citizen really doesn’t have any recourse. Or rather, they theoretically do, but in the moment, the police can harass and come up with some flimsy excuse on the spot to reach their end goal–searching.

              • Mortal Man

                It sucks to be Black in the American Experiment. Our tools are few and weak. But fight we still.

                The 5th Amendment is so important. Say your name, give ID, and respectfully refuse to ask any questions. Consent to no searches.

                And when the police ask you a question, your response is always “Am I being detained or am I free to go?”

                • MM, I think you’re giving cops the benefit of the doubt when it comes to sanity. Cops that wanna jack you up will do so no matter how respectful you are. “Am I free to go?” is the same as “Fuq the police.” in a cop’s brain.

              • Brooklyn_Bruin

                Just be rich and white or invisible.

                Cause if you ain’t blue eyed (c) Kam

                • Val

                  Yep, like all the White guys walking around NYC caring serious weight in their backpacks who never get stopped and frisked by NYPD.

                  • Brooklyn_Bruin

                    Plenty of Edward Norton types are moving weight.

          • Val

            The problem is that probable cause is in the eye of the beholder. If a cop wants to search, he can easily create it on the spot.

            • Ess Tee

              Exactly. And that’s the part that gets me all the way effed up.

              • Blueberry01

                But, you can (and should) say, “I’m not giving you consent to search my vehicle.”

                So, if it’s deemed later that they did not have probable cause or sufficient reason to search your vehicle, the police would be wrong.

            • Mortal Man

              Most Americans don’t understand probable cause and therefore fall for traps. Probable cause is a high standard in which they have reasonable suspicion you have committed a crime. An officer will start asking questions and requesting a search to establish probable cause. Americans screw up because they don’t remember their 4th and 5th Amendment rights.

              Ask the officer to state what specific crime you are suspected of committing. Then shut up. Refuse all searches. And answer every question with “am I being detained or am I free to go?”

              • Blueberry01

                Exactly.

        • I agree people should know their rights, but it really doesn’t matter
          what you know if the cop you’re dealing with DGAF about the law. Knowing your rights doesn’t
          protect you from a cop.

          Earlier this year, some NYPD officers arrested a postal worker for yelling at them because they almost hit his mail van.
          http://www.wsj.com/articles/video-of-postal-workers-arrest-puts-spotlight-on-nypd-unit-1459418402

          They assaulted another postal worker for unknowingly giving directions to the men who later killed two cops.
          http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/nypd-detectives-charged-assaulting-postal-worker-article-1.2608423

          If these officers feel entitled enough to assault federal employees, you really think they care about regular folk?

          • Mortal Man

            From what I understand form the first article, those officers were suspended from duty. Furthermore, as a federal worker, the postal worker has legal insurance; trust me when I say the federal government is going to make the NYPD pay for that.

            The officers were charged in the second one.

            I believe #BlackLivesMatter and that many police don’t. I also believe you still must assert your rights. Police, at the end of the day, must document their arrests. If there is a clear evidence trial that you asserted your rights and the police violated them, you have a good chance of having the case thrown out. If you do not do these things, you’re starting a trial six feet under.

            • Brooklyn_Bruin

              The point of the postal story is that cops gone cop. They were in the wrong and still hemmed a uniformed postal employee up.

              They can’t be reasoned with in a tense street situation ( of their own making)

            • I picked those cases for a reason. If those were regular people, nothing would’ve happened. The only reason there WAS pushback was because federal employees were involved.

              We’ve seen huge differences between what the cops write down and what really happened when the video gets released six months later. You know who went to jail right after the death of Eric Garner? The dude who filmed it. I believe they called it “interfering with a police investigation.”

              • Mortal Man

                Garner’s friend has been harassed to the ends of the earth and has the makes of a major civil case. He needs to link up with #BlackLivesMatters and get some justice.

                Because justice is not irrepressible. I told brooklyn_bruin upthread that as an educator I’m never going to tell my students to do nothing. I’m sorry your experiences make you feel the way you feel. But I’m always going to teach the young to push.

        • Brooklyn_Bruin

          The place to assert your rights is at the court house not on the street.

          • Mortal Man

            The place to prove your innocence is in the court. Trials are beyond the pocketbook of most Black folk. You prevent it from going to court in the first place by asserting your rights in police encounters.

            • Brooklyn_Bruin

              You have not dealt with enough officers if you think you can easily come to some sort of understanding.

              A lot of those street cops are hopped up on testosterone and steroids. Riding around getting that war mentality, only ever seeing the worst in people.

              When you encounter cops, you need to de-escalate them on an emotional level. Please believe me when I say you can’t logic them out of that emotional state.

              Like trying to reason your way into romance with a chick.

              It’s like they become demons when they put on their uniforms.

              • Mortal Man

                I’ve been on the receiving side. The fear is real. But the point of aggressive policing is to quickly overwhelm you so they can pin something- anything- on you. Part of the deescalation is calmly and assertively letting the officer know that you know your rights. An aggressive police is going to do what he or she wants, regardless; better you have a case that your rights were violated when police do so.

              • Mortal Man

                I was a young’n heading home from high school- Brooklyn Tech, NYC- years ago. I rode the G train. Always crowed; it was the primary corridor for kids who lived in Queens to get school. My main plan was always to let 3 or 4 trains pass by so I could get a seat for my hour long commute.

                After the second train, a cop yelled across the platform for me to get on the next train. I didn’t. He yelled at me to stay where I was and came and was belligerent and angry and oh-so terrifying. I was 14 and a man with a gun is threatening to put his hands on me- to push me to the floor and bind me- for not listening.

                Like a ghost, a dreadlocked man from the tunnels came out. Helmet, reflective vest; an MTA worker doing maintenance. He walked to the police, zen-like, and said “Young man paid his fair. Doesn’t look homeless, which means he’s in transit. So he can wait long as he wants.”

                This went on for five minutes, a yelling police and a calm transit worker. Finally the police left.

                “Learn your rights and stand for them.” The transit worker floated away, back to his job.

                • Brooklyn_Bruin

                  The cop couldn’t intimidate a grown man who was a witness and a city employee, but could a high school kid.

                  We all saw a man tell cops he couldn’t breathe and then die as a result.

                  They can be rabid dogs.

                  There are no magic words.

                  • Mortal Man

                    I’m only speaking from my experiences as a youth and as a teacher. I’m never gonna tell my students there is nothing you can do. I can tell from your experiences you’ve had bad experiences. I’m sorry. In a better world, you would have been treated better.

                    I posted my story to show why I feel my tips are helpful. If there is no disagreement with them, I’m not sure what else to say.

          • Cheech

            Well, but saying nothing and not giving consent are key. And asking whether you are detained or free to go. As long as it doesn’t appear tbey’re going to kill you.

        • Nik White

          This was so worth not doing any work right now!

        • Mary Burrell

          That didn’t help Sandra Bland.

          • Mortal Man

            What happened to Bland was a horror.

            And I’ve already argued the rhetorical points to brooklyn_bruin and Akaria Gale. I’m closing the book on having any more of those. Go find what I told them.

        • Blueberry01

          Good stuff…

        • fxd8424

          This all looks good but you have no rights the cops are bound to respect in Philly.

    • LMNOP

      Being a Supreme Court justice and not believing in the fundamentals of the legal system is like being an elf who doesn’t believe in Santa.

    • Brooklyn_Bruin

      Sotomayor doesn’t either. That’s what happens when you appoint a career prosecutor

    • On a more philosophical level, he just doesn’t believe in the concept of individual rights. Clarence Thomas is a State-Righter, and that seems to be common theme in most of the choices he makes. There was an article out a couple years ago where Clarence Thomas showed support for official state religions I believe. Many of his stances have made some of his own peers shake his head, but for all intents and purposes, Clarence Thomas many times, has the attitude of a pre-60’s White Southern Democrat who viewed the Civil War as nothing more than an act of “Northern Aggression.”

  • Stanley

    The level of Sambo Niggadom that emanates from Clearance Thomas is breath taking. How can one man hate his self and his people so much?

    • Val

      It’s more than just hate and self-hate though. His place on SCOTUS means he can do more harm in the long-term than all the evil the KKK has ever done. Now that is truly breathtaking in its implications.

      • Stanley

        and he takes pride in this! It’s almost scarier than the idea of Trump becoming President.

        • It’s way scarier than Trump. Trump lasts for 4-8 years. SC is forever.

      • Brooklyn_Bruin

        A lot of them ignore reality in order to stay consistent. Breyer would at least bring in social science

    • Mary Burrell

      It’s borders on sickness of the soul and mind. I never understood those type of black people.

      • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

        I agree.

    • fxd8424

      Sambo Niggadom”

  • Laydeeblue

    IDK what the deal is with this “sugar on grits”. Aint that Cream of Wheat? I consider myself as SOUF as they come. My grits are ALWAYS buttery, with SALT and BUTTER, and CHEESE!! (The yellow kind, not the white kind cuz that’s just CRAZY!!) P.S. my pancake game is FIRE!!!

    • Multi-Hundredaire

      Coulda saved myself some keystrokes, had I scrolled further down. Same thought! Just get cream of wheat if you want sweet breakfast…..porridge.

    • Julian Green

      We have to remember, Damon is from Pittsburgh. They don’t know any better up there.

      • Flojaune G. Cofer

        Disagree. I am from Pittsburgh. We eat grits savory–cheese, shrimp, salt, pepper, butter. NEVER sugar. I won’t have him out here improperly representing my city. He’s brought shame on us all.

      • lissa_the_cocoa

        I’m from the South and I have been known to put sugar on grits myself. They can be sweet or savory.

    • GayRobotsRUS

      I signed in just to comment on this very issue. Sugar does not belong on grits. Salt, butter, cheese, maybe some sausage.

      Sugar belongs on cream of wheat and oatmeal.

      • Sweet Potato Kai

        Church.

      • Aye Bee

        Amen!!!!Grits are meant to be savory. Cream of wheat is to be sweet.

    • Salt, pepper, butter, cheese (optional), grease (optional).
      Ketchup and/or sugar = #FuqNo

      • ChokeOnThisTea

        Standing ovation for the Ketchup shade.

      • Question

        Ketchup? Wait…what??

    • Mia

      PREACH!!!

    • Babaaaay – if it ain’t salt, pepper, sharp cheddar and some andouille sausage – just take me down to funeral home!

      Let’s trade pancake recipes – I fancy myself as a pancake afficinado ?

      • Other_guy13

        I just heard food….hey y’all

        • Hey boo ?

          • Other_guy13

            We e-married now…bring the ribs ;-)

    • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      What about syrup on grits.

      • Laydeeblue

        That’s for Oatmeal. Or pancakes. Or a base for bbq sauce. NOT GRITS!

        • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          To each its own. I like syrup on pancakes too.

  • Ari

    Sometimes when I read pieces about Clarence Thomas in this day and age I say to myself, “why bother?” But given the latest…yeah, we’re due for another reminder. I still can’t bring myself to watch that HBO special about Anita Hill.

    • Cheech

      I wonder if that weird hotel arrest is Wendell’s karma for playing him.

      • Ari

        See, I forgot Wendell played him.

        • Mary Burrell

          Kerry and Wendell were great and Jennifer Hudson play the other woman who knew of CT’s nasty creepiness

    • Deeds

      I’m the same way about that HBO movie. I want to see it, but then I just don’t know if I can stomach him.

      • Ari

        I cringe just thinking about it. Stuff like that is just too painful for me to watch.

        • Mary Burrell

          Kerry Washington made me feel bad for what Anita Hill had to go through. I cried with her.

      • Mary Burrell

        You could it wasn’t that bad Wendell did a great job.

    • brothaskeeper

      It was so good. It also reminded me of how old I am, because I remember having a roundtable discussion about sexual harassment in my US History class my senior year of high school. It was the hot topic.

      • Ari

        I believe A Different World came out with a message episode around that same time when Whitley went on an internship and was s e x ually harassed by her boss. It was in those two instances that I learned about my place in the world. I was just a pre-teen at the time.

      • Cheech

        I remember being glued to those hearings.

    • Val

      Yep, not only is he the Uncle-est of Toms, he’s a perv too. Smh.

      • Ari

        It seems like those two things always go hand in hand: Ethnic self-hatred and misogyny.

        • Mary Burrell

          The film played up his misogyny.

      • There was someone recently who said that both Anita Hill AND Clarence Thomas were lying during the confirmation hearings, but they had to play a role to keep their position. I wonder what came of that story.

        • Val

          Really? Sounds like propaganda at this point unless they have some serious receipts.

          • I’m not sure. Who would benefit from having both of them lie? If they had the receipts, that would be huge.

          • Wise Old Owl

            His ex girlfriend, who is Black said it and she has plenty of receipts about both of them. Read her book for a more detailed account of the matter.

            • fxd8424

              What’s the name of the book? Anita didn’t even want to come forward if I remember correctly.

              • Wise Old Owl

                Lillian McEwen is his former Black girlfriend. Research her and her receipts. Her book is D.C. Unmasked and Undressed. She is also a former Federal Prosecutor.

    • Mary Burrell

      It was very good.

  • Joe Mo

    More Damon, less Clarence. I just had a daughter, I’ll work on making her like . . . well, pretty much any of the ladies on the Supreme Court, actually. Also, I hate to be a nit-picker, but I was born this way: it’s headbutt, not head-bunt. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Headbutt

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