Ah man, you mean i CAN’T make generalizations about men? That’s no fun.

Just last week I was hit on by a married man… I told him he scared me because now my belief in the above idea is pretty much shot. He told me that it should be because that idea is one of the greatest myths women believe about men. He basically told me that he was a whore before he was married and he still was…whoring is not a phase, it is a part of a person’s nature. At this point, I think that it’s he that is the very smart brotha about this and not you, my dear Country-In-Central-America-with-the-canal-that-used-to-be-ours.

“For the record a man over 35 with getting the panties as his only knowledge of women is super wack. When whoring around you tend to practice relating with no intention of positive growth”

and what i ment was if a man only knows how to get the panties off but not how to date, have an adult conversation, share his passion about a life goal with a woman he is an emotional mess and damaged goods. I will not take that back.

My point, that was not well stated, is that it takes alot to mature therefore we have to practice it all not just the sex part. I am not saying that if a man is unmarried at 35 with no kids he’s damaged goods, maybe he is not ready to settle down and that’s ok. but if he is 35 and has never had atleast on substantial relationship what is he dating for? Sounds like an ass hunter to me. It would make me think twice maybe three four times.

We all are sums of our life experiences and when that only (please note the only) experience that you have to is I can get the panties in one nite or you can make my eyes roll to the back of my head makes you a penis with a man attached to it. And no grown ass woman wants that. Just my opinion.

Maybe it’s that I’m doing this summer program here in Atlanta and there are all these 14 year old mothers who’s baby daddies are all 35 and older (did it in two other states also). It’s more common than you think. What is the most common in most of the said baby daddies is that they are men who have practiced being whores for so long that the only females that they can relate to are the ones still rolling around in puberty. They were looking for the right one too. Sad.

I’m a realist. Maybe because I was made to talk to several grown azz men who could not, would not take adult responsibilty I got a little over the top so for that I apologize. I’ll keep my frustration over here with all this damn paper work that seems to not be going away no matter how much time I spend on VSB in hopes that it would just evaporate. Here is where I find my love for black folks again. I’ll just go back to being a lurker, maybe I’ll get more work done.

But understand @Genius, D and most of the brothers on this board are a rare breed. I’m sure with your mind and intent that you can have a hit and run every now and again but please include something else more meaningful that doesn’t involve marriage (i like marrige it’s kinda cool, but not for everybody and I understand that). I wouldn’t consider yall damaged goods; I’m sorry if it was offensive. Ok I am judgemental but consider the source. I’m older than 35 and I’m married. I hear alot of bullshit all damn day.

fa’ real I changed mine three times since the vsb launch

gobm’nt is no joke