Ask A Very Smart Brotha: Is Head Really That Big Of A Deal For Men?
I have a question for you. Some guy I know said that head is overrated. It shocked me cause I never heard I man say that before. Do more men feel that way, or is he just crazy?
Asking about Oral
Iâ€™m not sure exactly when and where it startedâ€”My best guess would be sometime after hearing Akinyeleâ€™s â€œPut It In Your Mouthâ€ for the first timeâ€”but I remember being obsessed with the idea of someone going down on me. Actually, obsessed isnâ€™t even the right word. This was an effing mission. A calling. AÂ duty.Â Iâ€™d daydream about it while falling asleep in physics, wonder about it while waiting for the bus, and fantasize about it while at the foul line. Unfortunately, I was in high school at the time and I only dated black girls so, umâ€¦letâ€™s just leave it at that.
Anyway, I finally was able to complete my mission when I got to college. And, while it felt very good, it was underwhelming. (I remember one of my teammates once remarking that it felt better than sex. After hearing that, I couldnâ€™t help but think â€œWhat type of wack sex are you having?â€) I thought this unremarkable experience would get better once I dated/hooked up with/slept with more women. But, after over a decadeâ€™s worth of oral sex, I can tell you that my feelings havenâ€™t changed. Basically, I happen to personally agree with your friend. Receiving head is great. But, itâ€™s not the end-all-be-all of sex some people make it out to be, and this makes it (slightly) overrated.
(Interestingly enough, while I do think that head itself is overratedâ€”I can honestly take it or leave itâ€”I couldnâ€™t be with a woman who didnâ€™t enjoy doing it. The will/want to do it is more important to me than the actual act.)Â