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A Lengthy Word On Ciara, Russell Wilson, and Baby Future Calling Him “Papa”

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Y’all really got to stop it with the Russell Wilson and Ciara news. And by y’all, I mean anybody who gives enough of a shit about this on-going saga when there are more important things going on to report it and make it part of everyday conversations. In no world should Ciara and Russell Wilson be a part of everyday conversations outside of football season. Ciara isn’t part of any music convos anymore and that’s okay. She took her shots, made a few, and now there’s a new league.

But since we’re here and because you people hate me, the latest Ciara news centers around the fact that Baby Future refers to Russell Wilson, her newly minted husband and Baby Future’s stepdaddy, as “Papa”.

So. The. Fuck. What?

Look, again because you people hate me, we are all aware of the pretty fucked up saga of Ciara and ex-boothang, Future. Future, while making music we all enjoy while sipping our Moscato and vaping, appears via court documents and social media shenanigans to be pretty much an ain’t shit dude. I’m guessing the only reason we haven’t heard from the rest of his baby mamas about how ain’t shit he is is because they’re not famous and he’s the meal ticket. You do not fuck up the meal ticket. And as messed up as what I’m about to say is, I’d bet good money he didn’t exactly sire his legion of children with a bunch of independent women sporting Ph.D.s and such. If I’m wrong, I apologize. From the heart.

Ciara on the other hand is a woman who has her own, and for the better part of the past few years has been in one of the more annoying relationships with one of the more annoying athletes in Russell Wilson. He’s been present for her and her child and it’s been a thing. We all know it’s a thing because social media and virginity pledges and late night talk shows and shit. Future has been playing the public “she’s disrespecting me as a father” card and the truth is probably that she has been living her life the best way she can as a woman who has found a new relationship but the ex won’t let her cook AND happens to be a public figure who comes off as a bit of a dick.

But, let’s remove the famous nature of the people involved and make it about new dad boo and allowing another man’s child to call him “papa” or any reasonable facsimile of “daddy”. I’ve heard via radio and seen via social media several men up in arms about this, as if to imply that Ciara is being disrespectful to Future and his role as Baby Future’s daddy by allowing him to refer to another man in such a fashion. This is pure and utter poppycock.

Let’s delve, shall we? Yes, let’s.

But first, some background on me. We’re about to wade into hallowed waters because we’re going for the “mommy” card here.

When I was six-years-old, my little sister and I moved from the care of my mother in Ann Arbor, Michigan (at the time) to Frankfurt, Germany, to live with my father, a man that I didn’t remember all that well and who my sister had only seen twice before her third birthday though my parents were married for a short time. My father and my now step-mother were living together with her two children, my step-sisters (ain’t really no step in our lives, I’m only referring to her as my step-mother to make a point).

This woman raised me from six until eighteen. Sure, during summer breaks we’d go back to America and stay with my mother and all that jazz. But the fact is, at some point, we started to refer to my step-mother as “mama”. I don’t know when it happened or why, really, but it happened. She is, to this day, “mama” and she is “mama” when she and my biological mother are in the same room. Do you know what I call my biologocial mother? “Mommy.” I have tremendous relationships with them both and they both took part in raising me into the gorgeous individual that I am today. I’ve never asked my biological mother how she felt about calling my step mother “mama”, but she ALSO refers to her as such when speaking of her, as in, “How are your dad and mom doing?”

There’s a level of respect there because the fact is, “mama” raised me, and she knows it. She was there for me when my “mommy” couldn’t be for geographical reasons and its okay. We’ve managed to create this family that works. Do you know what my step-sisters refer to my father as? “Daddy”. Well there’s a caveat: I have a sister who is my same age, and she does. My oldest sister refers to my father by his name most of the time but on occasion calls him “dad”. She was also thirteen years old when my parents got married, and eleven when they moved in together. It’s never been an issue in my house. My sister calls both my father and her biological father dad because both men actively raised her.

My oldest sister? When she got re-married a few years ago, BOTH of her fathers, my dad and her dad walked her down the aisle. And to complete the confusion, when my step-sister’s father died in 2012, I flew out to California to be with the family because you know what, he wasn’t my father, but he was my family and always treated me like a son.

Our family is a mixed bag and probably not the norm. I recognize this, but the fact is a bunch of adults had to recognize that they were raising kids as a group and what kind of sense would it make for these children who’ve been actively raised by other people to call them by their names and not “dad” or “mom”.

Let’s make this MORE personal.

My daughter’s mother was recently married to a man whom I respect greatly because he loves my daughter and treats her as his own. We have a blended family and he respects that. He respects me and I respect him. My daughter still refers to him by his first name (or at least she does when I’m around), but I wouldn’t be surprised if at some point if she were to call him “dad”. I will forever and always be her “daddy”, but this man will be there and has been there for a significant part of her growth and development. This is my life and at LEAST it’s a man who has shown me respect as her father.

But in no way  would it be disrespectful UNLESS her mother is TELLING her that she has a daddy now and that I’m just the sperm donor or some such ACTUALLY disrespectful shit. Look, to a degree, I can understand why men in particular feel some type of way about their child calling another man “daddy”. Especially when you’re in a co-parenting situation. Then again, if it was co-parenting, this wouldn’t be a thing. So if you’re in a situation where there’s a lot of tension and aggravation and anger, and somebody is being petty and trying to use the kid against you, then yes. Be pissed. Be angry. But I’m guessing the kid calling another man who has been in his life consistently “daddy” isn’t the main issue, it’s just added to the list of issues that need to be addressed. It’s rough when you feel powerless to make changes and when it seems like the person you created a child with is being difficult and attempting to erase you and you role out of your child’s life. That’s what court is for, though. When people talk about fighting for your kids, that’s the time.

But Baby Future calling Russell Wilson, his step-father, and a man who has clearly taken an active interest in his life, papa? That’s nothing. Is he supposed to call him Uncle Russell? Or Russy? Now, perhaps if Future and Baby Future are out playing invisible or something and Baby Future says that he plays this with his dad all the time, then absolutely, he should convene a pow-wow with Russell and Ciara and they should all talk about who or what roles people are playing and how to address perceived sleights, especially for a child so little. It might ALSO be time for Future to, you know, step up and spend more time with his son if he’s worried about losing his spot.

And do we even know if Future is hot about this? From the little I do know, I wouldn’t be surprised, but it could also be pride talking.

Now, if Baby Future runs up on Future and calls him…Future, THEN, y’all can pull out the pitchforks. But the truth is…

…it will probably be Future’s fault anyway for being exactly who he seems like he is right now.

Panama Jackson

Panama Jackson is pretty fly (and gorgeous) for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. He refuses to eat cocaine chicken. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future. You can hit him on his hitter at panamadjackson@gmail.com.

  • HouseOfBonnets

    Finally shenanigans.

    • panamajackson

      You’ve been waiting on the shenanigans huh?

      • HouseOfBonnets

        You know it, I’ve been loving the other articles don’t get me wrong but shenanigans take my mind off the anxiety from the last week.

        • MsKey

          Been waiting on that LHHATL review. Something guaranteed to make me laugh.

          • Holly Berwick

            <<o. ???????????????????????????????????????????????????:::::::!bw552p:….,….

          • Nik White

            I’ve been looking for the one on the VH1 Ladies of Hip Hop.

        • can’t keep letting distractions take away from what we should be focused on right now

          • HouseOfBonnets

            Did people suddenly lose the ability to focus on multiple issues?

            No offense to your comment but people love puling out this trope that you have to be focused on one subject 100 percent of the time 24/7 to show that you care and that simply is not the case. Everyone in our community processed the last week differently(mentally, spiritually, and physically ) some can stay on the front line and push/sacrifice but others cannot and that’s ok. Even those on the front lines invest in self care/ casual distractions when needed especially on the inter webs where ignorance, hate and stupidity seems to know no bounds. We can converse about LHH, Ciara and the hip hop honors while still keeping the focus on BLM and the horrendous levels of police brutality…..our brains give us that capacity.

            Also I’ve said before but it bears repeating and we have seen it in droves over the last week: Tweeting/retweeting a hashtag doesn’t mean you’re down with the cause.

          • Mary67890

            People can focus on more than one issue at a time

        • Mochasister

          It is kind of nice to read about unimportant and trifling mess. Especially in light of everything that’s going on.

      • PhlyyPhree

        I was seriously considering writing a fake question for Aggie. SOMEthing.
        I mean, I know things needed to be said, but I needed a little brevity too.

        • cakes_and_pies

          I’m mad a whole website made us this thirsty.

          • Other_guy13

            Worse than a groupie on NBA All-Star Weekend

            • HouseOfBonnets

              Accurate, right down to the gofundme page lol

              • PhlyyPhree

                THEY MADE AGATHA A GOFUNDME?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
                Ya’ll lieeeeeeeeee

                • HouseOfBonnets

                  No, although someone made one to go to all star music.

      • NonyaB

        Uh, yeah?! Given up on the Agatha G.von Savage column but now squinting at the horizon, waiting on High Priestess of Ratchetry Dhiraj’s next gospel AKA LHHATL review to show up.

    • Cleojonz

      Yes! It was time for a light hearted moment.

    • I stolt this .lol

    • cakes_and_pies

      Between this and Awesome Luvvie’s Blaxit having Dwight Peeple beg to go with us, I needed this.

      • NonyaB

        Did you see the sequel, in which her “My Melanin-Deficient Readers Respond to Negotiate Terms of #BLAXIT”? ?

        • Mochasister

          Blacks are too nice. I would leave erry nary non Black behind. Sorry not sorry. I would leave every single white person because I am sick and tired of them screaming about how they want their country back and how Blacks ruin everything. Let them stay minus Black contributions. I would leave other non whites behind as well. Let them see how it feels to deal with wypipo without the n***** race as a buffer between them and wypipo.

          • NonyaB

            LMAO. You have a point there. Let it be strictly Blaxit first then after a while, maybe consider other minoritahs.

            • Mochasister

              The other minorities would have to stay for the same amount of time that we went through Mid Atlantic Passage, slavery, Reconstruction, Jim Crow, the Civil Rights Movement, and the Reagan administration. They gon’ learn what it’s like to be dealing with wypipo. Only this time THEY will be at the bottom of the racial hierarchy. Let them feel the full and undiluted wrath of white people with no other race to soften the blows. Maybe then some of them will be a little more woke and not so quick to talk slick about Black people. Am I being petty and unmerciful? Yes. Do I care? No.

          • GirlMelanie86

            That last line just took me out

      • HouseOfBonnets

        Same, I follow her of FB and her comments are hilarious.

    • will_the_thrill

      Chile these comments were exactly what I needed in my life today

  • Bravo!!!!! Parenting has nothing to do with blood… there are some birth parents who should be banned from reproducing…. all children need are ppl who will love and support them. PERIOD.

    I’m here for Russell.. he is a better man than Future will ever be.

    • Proverbs31WIFE!

      I like em both. He severely lacks chess appeal, but God still sits at His throne.

      • Lex


      • MsSula


      • Mochasister

        Wait, which one? You don’t mean Russell, do you? There’s something about his big ole man hands…..

    • Blueberry01

      They don’t hear you, Negra! Dilo otra vez, por favor!

  • And yaaaaaay for them finally getting it in!!

    • He looked ROUGH after. Lmao

      • miss t-lee

        Didn’t you see the Ride video?


        • Cleojonz

          Ride is my ish (the video anyway). I was so impressed with her after that video.

          • miss t-lee


      • Tyrell Holmes

        lmao….she used them dance moves on poor Russell

        • Bah Debo

          I wish I was that “poor”

      • You KNOW she wore him out!!! Lmao

  • Mizwest

    I didn’t even finish reading the article, THANK YOU!!!! “So. The. Duck. What?” My sentiments exactly. * Goes back to read the rest*

  • Sparger

    Its quite obvious to anyone with 1/2 a brain that Future is mad that Ciara doesn’t need him like the rest of the mothers of his kids. Some of them may not really need him either, but they aren’t famous and no one cares who the date or marry.

  • Val

    The moral of this story, Ciara and Russell’s that is, if you have a child with an idiot expect a minimum of 18 years of ridiculous drama and other assorted nonsense.

    And I’m with you on the ‘step’ thing, PJ. I have a step sis but in my whole life I’ve never referred to her as such, she’s just my sister.

    • panamajackson

      We grew up together as wee kids. Shucks, my “step” sisters half brother and sister are just my brother and sister. My family is a complicatedly beautiful piece of art that is worthy of a documentary.

      • Illumina

        My family is so complicated that my sis did a diagram at work to explain to some of her co-workers. Poor souls

        She asked a question at the end and no one got it right.

        • Blueberry01

          Straight up flow chart, huh?

          • Illumina

            Yep. It was hilarious. She did an entire tree on the white board.

            And it’s not just outsiders that are confused. The youngest of my dad’s siblings are the same age as his kids, and now those siblings have kids. Getting them to understand that I’m their cousin, not their aunt is a lesson in futility. One of them even has me as his aunt on Facebook. I’ve just learned to go with it.

            • Blueberry01

              Interestingly enough, I’ve seen this breakdown in my father’s family.

            • Blueberry01

              Illumina, in response to OG galvanizing the VSBs to have SLJ avitars, EYE think we should fight back with our own revolution! Feel free to join – and spread the word!

      • Val

        I have so-called half siblings too, three of them but I’ve never thought of them or introduced or described them as being my half siblings. So, yeah, a lot of us have those type of families.

        • Mr. Mooggyy

          Same here! I have 3 “half siblings!” I don’t call them half a anything! Them my folk! Blood! But it’s weird when you are filling out paperwork for a security clearance and they break down so that you have to name them by Sister or Bother, Half Sister or Brother or Step Sister or Brother! It felt weird the first time I had to do that!

          • PhlyyPhree

            Is half siblings a thing? I’ve never really heard anyone call a sibling a half.
            I have a half brother and he’s always just been my brother.
            Step? Yes. When my parents first got married, my brother was my step-brother, but if we share a parent I never delineated.

            • Jocelyn

              Half v. whole blood only counts when you’re trying to split up an estate. Some states’ probate codes treat half and whole the same. Most folks don’t differentiate unless they don’t like their siblings – LOL!

            • J’aime les hot cheetos

              I’ve only ever heard 2520s say this. They’ll claim a step sibling before a half one!

        • cakes_and_pies

          I say I’m an only child even though I have 3 half-sibling.

          • Val

            Did you spend much time with them when you were young?

            • cakes_and_pies

              Nope. We lived in 2 different parts of the state and when I did see 2 of them, it was supervised. Mom didn’t even tell me about the 3rd til I was 16. But that’s a whole nother story.

              • Val

                Although we lived in different households my “half” siblings and I pretty much grew up together, so maybe that’s the difference.

        • Aly

          I sometimes forget that my siblings are half siblings because I’ve never thought of them that way.

          • Val

            Same here, Aly.

      • PhlyyPhree

        So produce it.
        I know a lot of people who could benefit from the example.

      • Blueberry01

        I never knew you lived in Germany! Do you speak any German?

    • Blueberry01

      When you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes.

      • Val

        Mind if I steal that?

        • Blueberry01

          All is fair in love and shade.

  • RaeNBow

    wait, were Ciara and Future married? *goes back to finish reading*

    • Aly

      I don’t think they were married.

    • panamajackson

      Nawl. Corrected.

  • Aly

    What does “playing invisible” mean?

    • panamajackson

      You know, kids pretend to be invisible and stuff. My daughter used to love that sh*t.

      • Aly

        Oh ok. I thought it was a code phrase for something else. You literally meant playing invisible lol.

        • panamajackson

          I shole did. And I suspect that when my sons are *this* many years old, they’ll play that game too.

        • I thought it might be a video game lol.

          • Aly

            I was so confused!

      • HA! Mine still does.

      • Michelle

        The “Invisible Game” was the way I learned about an ‘ain’t sh** guy’ that I was courting, four years ago. I was playing with my 1yr old niece and she was invisible. It was at a dinner party, about fifteen people. Now every adult, teenager and child played along. None of them had seen her. Then this dude goes “Now y’all know she’s under the coffee table! Why are y’all playing this game?”

        I cut ties with him on that night.

        • MsSula

          Best decision you made! This dude might be on the psychopath spectrum! Loll.

  • Dmaclee

    I lived this…was told that I was disrespectful and should be more like the ghetto girls that respect their baby fathers. Le sigh…

  • Negro Libre

    Being famous ain’t worth it.


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