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5 thoughts about Rape-aXe, the new female condom with teeth (yup. teeth.)

1. south africa has always been a bit ahead of the curve when thinking of unique ways to deter crime. for instance, as a response to a rash of increasingly violent carjackings that plagued that country in the late 90′s, the “blaster” –an anti-carjacking device that shot flames from underneath both front doors if you were being carjacked– was created in 1998 by a south african inventor who apparently decided to take full advantage the country’s lax flamethrower laws (apparently, it’s perfectly legal to own and carry flamethrowers there. yes, flamethrowers. as in “big ass weapons that spit flames at sh*t”. and you thought america’s gun laws sucked.)

while installing a device that shoots liquefied petroleum gas from your car to ward off potential carjackings is like sharpening your hand into a human meat shank to scare muggers, i understand the mindset that leads to someone inventing that. remember, south africa has only been free from apartheid for 16 years. this is also a country where whites still control roughly 90 percent of the wealth, despite only being approximately 9 percent of the population. when you combine this dynamic with rampant unemployment, lawlessness, and a general sense of sexual recklessness, you have a country that shows you what would happen if you put all of america’s fear-based racial issues on crack, smack, meth, and mushrooms. basically, it’s west baltimore with shanties.

anyway, this is exactly the type of socioeconomic climate that leads to a fear-based reactionary thinking where the impractical and short-sighted seems practical. problem with carjackings? duh, just make cars that burn carjackers alive! that’ll fix em. problem with rapes? duh, stupid! just invent Rape-aXe¹, a device that calls for women to insert a contraption with “jagged rows of teeth-like hooks” in their vaginas.

i won’t pretend to be able to grasp the level of emotional, spiritual, physical, mental, and sexual agony a violent rape has on a woman (or man) or the pressure of living in a place where rape is so prevalent (28% of men polled in a medical research study there last year admitted that they had raped a woman before. 28%!!! can you imaging being in a place where almost one out of every three guys is a rapist?), but there has to be a better solution than giving women portable p*ssy piranhas.

2. for those who think i unnecessarily played the race card in the last few paragraphs, i just don’t think it’s coincidental that the inventors of both rape-aXe and the blaster happen to be south african whites. there’s a certain type of subconscious fear that allows a person to think of something so vile and dehumanizing as a response to vile and dehumanizing acts. and, a place like south africa is a perfect breeding ground for that level of latent terror.

3. out of all of the crimes you can commit, sexual assault is the only one with no possible justification. think about it: you can just about justify anything under the right circumstance (“yeah, judge. that army of five year olds would have killed my wife if i didn’t torture their leader for information“), but there’s nothing you can say to make non-consensual sex ok. it’s the world’s only unconditional wrong. i can’t think of any other deed that would qualify.

4. maybe i’m missing something here, but it seems like rape-aXe doesn’t actually stop the rape.

while it might stop a man from finishing, i haven’t seen or read any evidence that it would stop a man from entering. and, once a woman is entered against her will, it’s rape. plus, i’m no rape expert, but i don’t think most rapists do thorough cavity inspections to check for sharpness before they start raping.

i guess you can say that it would serve as a mental deterrent, but i can only see it deterring someone who got got by the vampire condom from doing it again. basically, he’d have to actually rape somebody to stop him from raping again…which sucks for the women serving as sacrificial deterrent lambs.

5. despite the fact that i think this condom with teeth idea is wrapped in a big-ass gang of wrong, i’ll admit that i’d like to be a fly on the wall of the holding cell where all the rapists with latex hyenas stuck to their d*cks are being held, especially since you can’t remove it or even pee without a doctors assistance.

i guess i’m a bit of a sadist afterall. hmmm, maybe i should move to south africa and invent something.

anyway, people of vsb.com, what are your thoughts about rape-aXe? do you think it’ll be a useful deterrent, or just another medieval invention by someone with african castration fantasies? also, would any of the vss’s actually wear one, and would any of the vsb’s advise a woman they care about to?

the carpet is yours

¹am i the only one who thinks “rape-aXe” definitely sounds like a new and intentionally douchy line of axe body spray? sh*t, i could even envision an ad where ben roethlisberger or kobe are standing in a bathroom stall while a voiceover says ” rape-aXe…where “no” means “no problem”

—the champ

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  • santa monica

    Sorry Cheeks.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      lmfao, no worries.

      Reasons Why I Wasn’t First:

      1. Brian White
      2. The title of this post.

      I hatechu, Champ. Not for number one, though. You didn’t have anything to do with number one. Just gotta clear that up. No, I REALLY have to clear that up. lol

    • santa monica

      It doesn’t stop rape, it just identifies the rapist cuz the teeth can only be removed in a hospital setting, unless you really hate your wang so much you would try to remove them yourself.

      It’s not really much in terms of protection and awareness but it gives a big ole EFF YOU! to any “successful” rapists, and if used enough am sure it can act as a deterrent as well.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “It’s not really much in terms of protection and awareness but it gives a big ole EFF YOU! to any “successful” rapists”

        thats my point: its more focused on punishment than actually protecting women

        • wooooooosah

          Punishment works too. I’ll take it.

        • Yeah…So

          how can you stop someone from raping? Mace maybe… point is punishment is good, especially that of an immediate nature.

        • An Island

          Haven’t read all the posts, but isn’t that just something rapists will now look for and (forcibly) pull out? I mean there has to be a way for a woman to pull it out of herself. So why wouldn’t he do the same? I just don’t get it.

          • bryant

            Umm…what if the rapist is a um small guy? Or if he starts off big and it shrinks back down? Leave you with a pissed off small fry…with an even smaller fry.

        • Ryan

          Last I checked it protected againgst HIV, which I am pretty sure still causes death.

    • Jhane Sez

      This is why I won’t visit any country where a coup starts when you add water.

      (speaking of water if Oprah’s hotel got hers turned off everyday at 3:00 when she visited Africa then where am I gonna stay)

      So I will address other points.

      “3. out of all of the crimes you can commit, sexual assault is the only one with no possible justification. think about it: you can just about justify anything under the right circumstance (“yeah, judge. that army of five year olds would have killed my wife if i didn’t torture their leader for information“), but there’s nothing you can say to make unconsentual sex ok. it’s the world’s only unconditional wrong. i can’t think of any other deed that would qualify.”

      Rape is a fear that every woman lives with… I have never been raped but am afraid.

      And that fear isn’t just for ourselves but our babies, our children, our friends, our mothers, our sisters…

      We don’t dwell… but we KNOW.

      Ironically I believe that one of the reasons that women are so critical of public rape victims sometimes…

      Bcause there is a desire to figure out how to keep yourself safe.

      Oh she was a ho/wore a short skirt/was drinking/walking alone late at night/skanky/pretty… black.

      Yes I believe that black women fear more…

      Afraid of being blamed, not believed, not protected… damaged.

      There is a man shortage after all.

      And this harsh criticism protects us.

      When the fact that most of us live with the illusion of safety and think there but for the grace of God go I.

      I needed to say that because its easy to derail the conversation by saying its buck wild “over there” and to distance ourselves from the thing that is every womans worst nightmare.

      We are just lucky that we don’t have our noses shoved in it.

      Fear can’t afford the luxury of thinking of some violators humanity when spirit is at stake.

      Real talk…

      I have to ask myself what would I do to protect me and mine against such stagging odds.

      You know rape stats are like roaches… for everyone you see you got another hundred hiding behind the walls.

      This thing with teeth and hooks is a talisman with no real magic.

      But before you begin your conversation bear in mind the need to feel protected.

      Even with bad magic from white devils ~JS

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        this comment read like a spoken word performance. i’m not saying that to be snarky either. i can almost imagine ursula rucker or someone reading it.

        • Jhane Sez

          “this comment read like a spoken word performance. i’m not saying that to be snarky either. i can almost imagine ursula rucker or someone reading it.”

          (blushing) aww shucks and sh*t

          Thank you… we did an e-mail tag thing a few weeks ago about real chicks with dude tendencies.

          I need to find time to slam and read more cause its starting to infiltrate my postings.

          Thank you for giving me an outlet.

          Thank you twice ~JS

      • superwoman

        (speaking of water if Oprah’s hotel got hers turned off everyday at 3:00 when she visited Africa then where am I gonna stay)

        if by ‘Africa’ you mean SOUTH Africa – i have but one response….you DO know that this is a bald-faced lie, right? coz i know where Oprah stays when she’s here. and NOTHING gets turned off at ANY time. plus, she’s built herself a mansion on her property adjoining her school…. and nothing ever gets switched off there, i assure you.

        sorry if i sound pissy, i’m just so sick of ‘dark, malfunctioning africa’ sentiment….

        • Jhane Sez

          I feel you… and I apologize for any cultural insensitivity… all I can say is I have been in the burbs too long.

          I have been considering visiting Africa… Rwanda not SA but I know people who have traveled there and it is breathtaking… judging by the pics.

          But the water thing is real for me… cause I’m a night owl and I don’t like to get up until noon and then I want caffeine and a shower

          Thanks for clearing that up ~JS

  • I’ll give it a try

    It’s a terrible situation all around. The fact that you even have to come up woth a device w/ teeth in it to try and “combat” rape is terrible.

    And that poll might say 28% of men in the study admitted to raping someone, I think it’s much much higher than that.

    Even worldwide, victims of rape are always seen as the ones at fault. i don’t even know how you would begin to change people’s mentality…

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      Even worldwide, victims of rape are always seen as the ones at fault. i don’t even know how you would begin to change people’s mentality…

      thats the main criticism that the rape-axe has been getting, that it puts the onus on women to protect themselves

      • Deeds

        But isn’t the onus to protect myself from any crime put on me. If I take a self-defense class, if I’m just extra aware of my surroundings at night, if I lock my house and car, in all of these measures, isn’t the onus put on me.

        • Mo

          Exactly. Self awareness/protection isn’t the same thing as the dreaded notion of “cover thyself so he won’t lust.” It’s being mindful that things can and do happen and being aware of how not to seem more like a target.

  • http://www.iamyourpeople.com I Am Your People

    Watched a special on South Africa recently. 1/3 SA women will be raped in her lifetime. Furthermore, there is a widespread belief that having sex with a virgin will cure AIDS. Consequently, toddlers and 100 y/o old maids have been victimized. Truly sad.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Furthermore, there is a widespread belief that having sex with a virgin will cure AIDS”

      i knew this was going on somewhere in africa, but i wasn’t sure if it was south africa or not.

    • MzPW

      Watched a special on South Africa recently. 1/3 SA women will be raped in her lifetime. Furthermore, there is a widespread belief that having sex with a virgin will cure AIDS. Consequently, toddlers and 100 y/o old maids have been victimized. Truly sad.
      __________________________________________________
      Whoa whoa whoa whoa now…..see, the problem with these type of “specials” and whatnot is that they tend to ALWAYS overhype the negatives going on in the country. I’ve lived there….lemme tell ya, there are some areas in the country that put Orange County to shame, just like there are places there that make you thank the Lord you live in Compton, y’know? I think it’s really important to take the info they offer to you in those “specials” with a large grain of salt. Some of that stuff is true…but then again, some of those “facts” are simply overhyped statistics that merely reinforce the whole “big, bad, Black Africa” image many people have.

      Just felt the need to put that out there and to encourage folks to do their own determining….

    • MzPW

      …one more thing….the “belief” that having sex with toddlers will cure AIDS tends to be more of a rare belief held by folks in certain areas. I would dare say that many folks do NOT hold that belief (can’t really speak about the belief about sex with virgins, as I’ve been told different viewpoints by native residents of the country)….ok, I’m done.

    • IJstDntUnderstand

      “1/3 SA women will be raped in her lifetime.”
      …That’s really a sad thing to know and it almost makes me sick to my stomach. Rape is a disgusting thing and needs to be stopped. rape-axe may not be the perfect prototype or even the perfect idea, but it’s headed in the right direction. We need something that may even inflict more pain on these disgusting people instantly…
      sorry I got upset for a second there…

      • ShelbyGoodwin

        Hey ya’ll, I’m just a lurker but I really wanna add on to the folks trying to put these stats in perspective…
        THIS IS REALITY IN THE USA TOO. Right now.
        –One third of American Indian women will be raped in their lifetime (and for 70% of them, there attacker is NON native)
        –One in four, 25%, of college-aged women will be raped. This is reality for every VSS in school right this second. Actually, take that back– it’s WORSE for sisters because Black women are statistically more likely to be raped.

        Another thing to remember: Rape and war and colonization all go hand in hand (check back to the stat for American Indian women). So, with that in mind, think about the fact that the US has the highest incarceration rate in the world (1 out of 100 US citizens is in jail right now) then think about WHO is most likely to be incarcerated, and the fact that “dropping the soap” is a culturally accepted joke for prison rape… Yeah. I do not believe the situation in South Africa is unique or uniquely monstrous. For colonized people, for people in militarized zones (Reservations, every ghetto, the US/Mex border) rape and sexual violence is standard procedure. Wherever THAT shit is goin down, you can bet sexual violence is a normal part of life.

        • ShelbyGoodwin

          Also…I didn’t realize this thread was as old as it was (in internet time). Woops.

  • http://www.twitter.com/ethiopianboy That Damn African

    I’m no rapist, but my d*ck was in pain while reading this entire post. That picture just sends chills down my spine. Therefore, I hate the Rape-aXe for making me feel like a potential rapist.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “I’m no rapist, but my d*ck was in pain while reading this entire post.”

      ummm, thanks for sharing

  • MsEsquire77

    I’m so glad you wrote a post about this! I heard a snippet about it on the Tom Joyner show this morning and I was baffled as to what they were talking about. Anyhoo, here are my thoughts:

    1) This invention is stupid and it’s only purpose is to profit from people’s fear.

    2) Instead of trying to come up with gadgets to deter rape more needs to be done to change the attitudes about rape. If the psychology of the culture doesn’t change the issue will continue to be prevalent.

    3) This reminded me of a movie called “Teeth”. I haven’t seen it but I love the Wikipedia synopsis: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teeth_(film)

    • SaneN85

      I recommend that movies to high school white boys all the time. I’m not sure why, to be honest. It was unintentionally hilarious though.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      lol, i heard of that movie, MsEsquire. I actually saw it on this screenwriting magazine. I looked at the poster like, “Buh?”

    • tnt_ftw

      i immediately added this to my netflix que based on the wiki synopsis

    • Lanieanna

      But is there anything that can “deter” rape? I don’t think that there is. LIFE is always going to present an scenario where a person is vunerable and can be taken advantage of. It’s not like here where … lonely woman walks into parking garage… hears a noise… perpatrator jumps from behind an SUV…. Or, girl goes on date, starts to feel dizzy, and wakes up bukk naked. I mean there are plenty of scenarios where a “rape” can occur, but in South Africa, from what I understand rape has become an uncontrollable problem, and happens randomly quite often, by complete strangers. (versus most sexual assults happening with assailants who the victim is familiar or has been familiar with at one point) When rape in a community becomes as common as jay walking, what do you do? Me personally, If i lived in S.A., I would probably just go and get me one of those legal flame throwers, and travel with it everywhere I went, but I can see how a woman wearing the killer condom would feel more secure. When a woman is raped ( even though i have never been a victim of this crime.. thank GOD) I don’t think it is the penatration ( unless she is a virgin ) that women are afraid of. I think the real damage from a rape is knowing that you have no power. That a person could take something so personal by force, and go on living their lives like aint shyt happened, no punishment, no concequences, no damage done, while you live paranoid that it could happen again at any time. Women have sex all the time, we don’t fear sex, we fear not being able to protect ourselves, we fear vunerability, we fear getting thrown in the raper man van with a pillow case over our heads, taken to a place we dont know, and left for dead, with no one to care for our children… That is what we fear… I think the condom can give the woman wearing it a secure feeling, but then would it be rape… I could imagine a woman thinking …” U want this *&^^%?…. U want some of this &%^$%^? Come get this *&^&^% then…. and at that point… would it still be rape? For some reason, I believe the vicitm of the new “penile pulverizer” is going the be Umuoru.. the villiage ladies man.. while Mklenha is at home tending to their 13 children, all under the age of 13, cooking, cleaning… watching the sun come up while she waits for Unmoru to come home, she hatches a plan to teach her lovely husband a lesson…

      And is there an online site where I can get me some of these things? Perfect novelty to give as gifts to my girlfriends on our next ladies night out!

      • Sula

        Totally agree with the analysis. Well said.

      • Zionstyles

        Is there a deterrent for rape,,,,,, I think so. Death!!!! Here in the USA many years ago, settlers had a problem with horse thieves. The law was unable to handle most cases in the newly growing western frontier. It ran wild and without mercy, thus the name of the Wild West. After some time, they passed into law to steal a horse was punishable by death. It came to a grinding halt!!! Rapist must die!!!

        The liberal minded would argue the fact that this could be used in the worst way of settling old vendettas and creating new ones as well. I would agree to a point in this logic. There is one thing however that I choose to believe beyond all else. If every man on this earth knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if convicted of rape, He WILL BE KILLED, statistics would drop so fast it would make our heads spin. Would it stop all together, maybe not but most wouldn’t risk it.

        I’ve traveled to several countries and observed many cultures. Loosing your tong for lying, your hand for stealing, your foot for running and the list goes on. In japan, if you’re caught drinking and driving under the influence of alcohol, you’ll be driven out of town and forced to walk back under gunpoint and batons (small bats).

        Women or men should never be subjected to sexual assault but it’s here and if laws don’t get real teeth that make a differences, then it keeps on going and the risk becomes greater. People can rationalize anything to satisfy what they want, but if the laws changed to what I am proposing, then it wouldn’t be a matter of doing time but rationalizing their own death.

  • legitimate_soul

    This is horrible. A lot of horrors here: The horror of protection coming at the level in which a rape is actually committed. The horror of actually considering anyone putting anything with sharp teeth in their most intimate area (you got to rely on quality craftsmanship, first of all) . Then there is the horror of other elements of a sexual assault beyond actual penetration. My thinking is that the rapist will punish a woman for such a contraption. Will he try to scar her in the same way or worse? Scar her beyond the attack and the rape itself? The victim is at the mercy of her assailant if the assailant could get that far to be harmed or hurt by such a contraption. The entire product and line of thinking is foul, horrific and terrible. I also agree with Champ in terms of questioning in the very least the mind of someone who thinks this ‘ish up? In none of this is prevention, protection, education, victims rights, services… anything? This is all types of foul on so many levels.

    • Shay

      This is conjecture, but if I’ve got spikes embedded in my d*ck, I’m not going to be doing much of anything but crying. I understand adrenaline is powerful, but my understanding is the more you pull away from the device, the deeper it becomes embedded.

      That made me grimace just typing that.

      • legitimate_soul

        I see your point, Shay, but wouldn’t someone sick enough to commit rape be sick enough to attack again and try to retaliate? I hate thinking about it, but I seem to recall victims saying they got bashed in the head or had a gun pointed at their head if they tried to clamp down on an assailant during forced oral. This is so disturbing…

        • Shay

          I’d like to think the shock would give the chick a moment to escape/bash the guy over the head with something, though this made me think of something else…

          Rape, sexual assault, acts of these nature aren’t necessarily about lust- then they are about power and control. Sex offenders who have been chemically castrated can still assault a person….with objects and stuff of that nature.

      • http://WWW.ITSSAULEWRIGHT.BLOGSPOT.COM Saule Wright

        goodness, made me tear up a little just reading that.

        There probably isn’t a way to explain those scars away either. “Well see Fabeni, I was once a troubled man. I did some bad things. I’m a new man now and those scars just remind me to …..Fabeni? Fabeni? Come back….”

        I’m trying to laugh at SOMETHING to keep from crying…cotDAMN that’s gotta hurt.

    • http://www.twitter.com/courtney_mcg Courtney

      That was my first thought as well. If a rapist gets a miniature bear trap stuck on his penis, what are the odds he will severely injure her or kill her? Probably fairly close to even. I imagine even get caught with one these contraptions could invite a beatdown and punitive rape if they were to become popular enough.

      I’m not suggesting that women just bear the horrific crime that rape is, nor that women shouldn’t take preventative measures to protect themselves, and not even that women shouldn’t want to or be able to exact some type of revenge on their attacker, but the most effective change agent has to come at an institutional level.

      • Lanieanna

        but how would it ever get to the “institutional” level…. Rape has got to be one of the most difficult crime to punish.. it is hard here, so one could imagine how difficult it would be in south africa

  • Shay

    I thought this was old?

    I actually spoke about this back in ’06 as part of a paper assigned to me to get to know South Africa better prior to doing research there.

    With the prevalence of rape in SA and the threat of HIV/AIDS, I can understand where it comes from. While I was in South Africa, I ended up dating one of the Zulu nurses we worked with, and she confided in me that she feared being raped more then death. Her words verbatim were “If they were going to rape me I’d prefer they just kill me instead so I don’t have to live with it.” My understanding while I was there was that rape was a much more frequent occurrence then suggested by that statistic.

    As mentioned before, the spikes are curved and can it can only be removed in a hospital setting, so it identifies the rapist, in a country where often where these types of crime are unreported or not followed up on.

    • MsEsquire77

      @Shay

      First, welcome back! I don’t think I’ve seen you in a while.

      Second, as much as I want to visit South Africa I can’t imagine living in a place where I’d be in fear of rape on a daily basis. The notion of it alternately enrages me, turns my stomach and breaks my heart.

      • Shay

        Thank ya kindly…crumb snatchers have been running me ragged. Between that and my corner on Georgia Ave, I’ve been busy lately.

        As much bad press as SA gets for crime (specifically Joburg), I would move there in a heart beat. A guy I befriended while I was conducting research offered me land in Swaziland, and I plan to take him up on his offer after I’m a fancy a*s doctor and sh*t.

        I wondered around South Africa and spent Christmas there in ’06 alone (while catching up with friends I had made while doing research). I’ve got fond memories.

      • sisanda

        If i were you, living in a far away country whose only perspective of South Africa (or any other African country it would seem) is media reports, loosely strewn stats and Oscar-hungry renditions i too would be hesitant about moving here…let me just say, pay S.A a visit then tell me afterwards you’d never even consider moving here.

        • superwoman

          If i were you, living in a far away country whose only perspective of South Africa (or any other African country it would seem) is media reports, loosely strewn stats and Oscar-hungry renditions i too would be hesitant about moving here…let me just say, pay S.A a visit then tell me afterwards you’d never even consider moving here.

          EXACTLY!!

          in fact, the more i think about it, the more i’m reckon VSB owes south africa a shameless puff piece about what a gorgeous holiday destination it is, and lovely place to live, etc etc.. heh heh….

          i know these are important issues to talk about. it just tires me that the conversation in the media space about SA is ALWAYS about the crappy sh!t that goes on. That’s a large part of why i comment on forums like these, to show people ‘look at me!, i’m a south african, living in south africa – and having a perfectly normal life!! it’s not all bullets, famine, crime and rape like you see on telly! i too, stress about ‘normal things’ like growing my business, i take my sisters kids to the zoo, go on dates with exciting new prospects, meet up with my girls over chardonnay and strawberries, b!tch and moan about trifling men, etc etc…”

          and despite that the stats say i stand a high chance of getting raped, believe it or not, i do NOT live in fear, this is NOT on my mind 24-7…. there’s a WHOLE LOT more to SA than this, i promise

        • MsEsquire77

          @sisanda and Superwoman

          To be clear I didn’t say I wouldn’t visit South Africa. I just said I wouldn’t move there. I’m not scared to travel and South Africa is still in my top 5 must-see places. Every country has its problems and I recognize that.

          Sorry if you were offended by my comment because that wasn’t my intent.

          • sisanda

            @ MsEsquire66 don’t be silly man, i’m not offended at all…infact here i’ll even offer to rub your nipples (that’s a traditional thing we got going here to resolve misperceived shots)

            like i said, if i were in your position sheeeeeeiiiit i too would be a little scepticle, i don’t care what the Travel Lady says i’m still not considering going to visit Iraq.

          • Sula

            infact here i’ll even offer to rub your nipples (that’s a traditional thing we got going here to resolve misperceived shots)

            This made me die of laughter… :lol:

            I usually am exhausted trying to “rectify” any ideas someone might have of my place of origins… Stereotypes and preconceived ideas die hard… and like Sisanda said, with the elements most have to go about/on, yes it makes perfect sense to “fear” moving to any country that is not the US of A…

            Ultimately, the only testimony I can give about my place of origin is to be me to the fullest extent… People who will get to know me (and my place of origin…. he he he, I like that phrase) will eventually realize that it’s not all darkness and sh*t… Then again, the darkness IS a reality, just like the inner cities are a reality or racism is a reality… And rape unfortunately happens all over the place…

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      I thought this was old?

      I actually spoke about this back in ‘06 as part of a paper assigned to me to get to know South Africa better prior to doing research there.

      its been in the works for a few years (decades actually), but now it’s actually being sold to the public

      • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

        its been in the works for a few years (decades actually), but now it’s actually being sold to the public

        A few decades?!?! How about educating men on why it’s f***ing wrong to rape rather than develop this crap for a few decades. Me confused.

        • Yeah…So

          like men don’t know rape is wrong *side eye*

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

            @Yeah…So
            ***Ducking side eye via James Bond dive roll. Adjusting tux.***

            Oh they know it’s wrong but the police, elected officials, mommy and daddy, and who ever the f*** else needs to step up and instill the value of women to little boys. That’s what I meant. This sh** can be stopped if the proper effort is put forth. 28% isn’t a problem it’s a f***ing epidemic. Reactionary efforts like booby traps (which is what this is) don’t solve epidemics…

          • Yeah…So

            yeah I get it Wu… my issue really is that people always think they can solve a problem… sh!t like racism, terrorism, rape… serious you really think you can stop TERRORISM WTF?(that’s another post) I’m sorry to say this but uh the mere fact that we’re even discussing remedy like it’s a cold or something is belittling the state of the very very F!CKed up human condition. People are sick creature point blank. Rape has been going on for a long time, much like murder, stealing, adultry… everything we come up with is just gonna be a bandaid. I say be a good person, teach your kids to be good people (maybe buy your daughters an aXe condom) and pray for the best.

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

            I agree it can’t be stopped but the it’s the prevelance that’s bothering me. Great analogy with terrorism btw.

            ” say be a good person, teach your kids to be good people (maybe buy your daughters an aXe condom) and pray for the best.”

            I agree with this too but if I ever have a little girl I’d rather have a knife. So she can give any dude who attempts it the jig-saw puzzle treatment.

          • Jhane Sez

            “I agree with this too but if I ever have a little girl I’d rather have a knife. So she can give any dude who attempts it the jig-saw puzzle treatment.”

            Why did this remind me of the protection scene in Face Off.

            Butterfly knife in the thigh sweetie… remember to twist so the wound won’t close.

            Real talk… not a bad idea ~JS

          • Yeah…So

            @ Wu Young… or you could teach her how to be a BA assassin like Kick Ass (which was a great movie btw). THAT would be awesome!

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

            I can hear myself saying “No Lily(future daughters name), never stab a man in the ribs. Your knife will get stuck.”

          • Sula

            @Wu Young,

            This sh** can be stopped if the proper effort is put forth.

            I keep reading this, and I want to know what is the proper effort?

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

            @Sulu,

            “I keep reading this, and I want to know what is the proper effort?”

            I’m good at owning up to my own bullsh**a** opinions and I’ll do so right now–I don’t know what the “proper effort” is but what I do know is that 28% of men admitting that they’ve raped is not acceptable. Those are Mongol Hoarde numbers and it’s 2010! Someone, somewhere in the South African gubment who gives a damn (maybe no one does) needs to find and put forth a proper effort! A barb studded female condom is as much as a “proper effort” as BP shooting old tires and golf balls at that oil well. That’s all I have for you Sula.

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young

            I meant @Sula not @Sulu

            ***Kneeling, hanging head, awaiting ring to kiss.***

          • Yeah…So

            @ Wu Young… Bwahahaha @Sulu… Phew I needed that.

  • http://keepittrill.blogspot.com/ Kit (Keep It Trill)

    Of that 28%, I wonder how that breaks down to stranger rapes vs. rapes of someone they know, ie close or extended family member, date rape, a friend, a boarder, a lady friend’s daughter, etc.

    Realistically, unless a girl or woman is setting a trap for someone she knows who has raped her before and knows he’ll do it again, I can’t quite see a young woman spending the money on a new axe condom every day in case a stranger rapes her, although I must say that in a gender-mixed homeless shelter or refugee camp, she might if there’s a big rape problem there, and she could afford it.

    I also am concerned that a rapist would kill a woman once the pain hit, and depending on the circumstances, make up a lie (such as she was a prostitute who planned to rob me) and that it was consensual. In that scenario, the paternalistic courts might dismiss the murder charges if he even got caught.

    What a sobering story. Guess I won’t ever visit there, not that I had planned to anyway.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      Of that 28%, I wonder how that breaks down to stranger rapes vs. rapes of someone they know, ie close or extended family member, date rape, a friend, a boarder, a lady friend’s daughter, etc.

      good question. i don’t know if the dynamics of rape there mirror the ones here (from what i understand, the majority of rapes are done by people the victim knows). does anyone have any info about that?

    • superwoman

      Guess I won’t ever visit there, not that I had planned to anyway.

      what a pity. ours is a fantastic country, and we’re about MUCH MUCH more than rape. check out all the ‘OMG, South Africa is sooo great, we had nooo effin’ idea!” coverage from the Soccer World Cup tourists.

      we have our problems, but they pale in the face of the magnificence of our country…. as someone downthread below said in response to my post, “SA sounds very much like detroit”. these issues are not unique to South Africa, guys….

      • wooooooosah

        Co-effing-sign! Been to SA (how beautiful is Cape Town BTW?). *And* I know I barely scratched the surface. On the one hand, it’s reasonable to be skeptical about a place when all that seems to be reported is negative.
        On the other hand…. there is soo much news from a first hand perspective on and from SA that reports on what SA is like (warts AND good stuff).

        But! more importantly- will it be Algeria or will it be the USA? The tension! The tension!!!!

        • superwoman

          On the one hand, it’s reasonable to be skeptical about a place when all that seems to be reported is negative.

          YOU SEE THIS, VSB???? YOU SEE, YOU SEE??? there’s a real point there – reminds me of chimamanda ngozi’s speech about ‘the single story’. watch the magnificence on http://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story.html

          i want to introduce a new story about South Africa into the media space, i swear…. so tired of the ‘rape! crime! political instability!

          you guys owe South Africa a puff piece!!! START A NEW STORY!!!

          • wooooooosah

            Yeah. So I don’t want to flog a dead horse. Or be an apologist for stuff that is not right, but what irks me is that people don’t often unpack news from “Africa” (shotgun in mouth, kill me now!) . We unpack news from the USA and we weigh it and figure out what it means to us e.g. since B-more has already been singled out, I’ll go with that. Reading “Murder Ink” in Baltimore’s free paper, I am still able to be aware of the fact that Baltimore is NOT Towson, neither is it Ellicot City. And I am also still able to distinguish that while it may be imprudent to visit some parts of B-more, I can still watch a movie at the Charles Theater. And I’m not too sure what we’d make of a Canadian who was Montana-bound being scared of drive-bys. We’d consider him or her ???? (fill in the gaps).

            The only generalizations I can make is that the continent is not the country. And the country is not homogeneous. Just like the US is not homogeneous. So yeah, in all things be prudent. But also look at the whole- and not just aggregated info.

          • Lanieanna

            Don’t be so sensitive about the “HOME TOWN BASHING”, Hell, I live in NEW ORLEANS righ here in the United States of America …. Hellooooooooooo. When was the last time you heard anyone say anything that refers to New Orleans in a positive fashion outside of music and food??? Anybody? Any takers?? Hello? Even before Hurricaine Katrina and the Gulf Oil Spill, New Orleans has always had a reputation for crime and corruption, a place where all dirty deeds can be done. I am not in denial, and there is a lot of truth to those horrific stories that the media potrays about N.O. My roots are in this town, and if it wasn’t for the insurance paying off my home and rental proerties, I would have never come back after the “storm”. New Orleans has always been a Renissance city, full of cuture and beautiful things, but that doesn’t have anything to do with the school system being one of the worst in the country, the city having the highest per-capita murder rate, and wether or not anyone would want to pack up and move here.

            Besides that, no one is Africa bashing, but lets not pretend that any person of color would not have better oppertunities. in the western part of the world. A black woman still doesn’t mean much in America after civil rights have been legalized, womens lib movements and affirmative action has been established to protect our rights. So no thank you, I’m not ready to move to South Africa, BUT I have been looking for a a nice place to travel, and have holiday with my daughter…. I have always wanted to visit South Africa

          • Sula

            @Laneianna,

            but lets not pretend that any person of color would not have better opportunities. in the western part of the world.

            I am not sure how accurate that sentence is… I think the “any” is what bothers me… Because as an Ivorian woman (that’s in Africa for those who don’t know), I do think that my chances at a more fulfilling life are greater on my home soil… and that I will make a greater impact on my home soil than I would in the US… Thus, I am eagerly going back on the home soil… and trust me life has been good here as well, but it’ll be better on my home soil… and there is no “insurance” and government paid rent awaiting me either…. But…maybe that’s just one exception to the rule (or 2 if you want to count Super Woman)…

            Does the western world in general have better infrastructure, and access to education, and access to fair trial and all those other indicators of a “developed country”? For sure, they set the indicators… Does the western world provides me (Sula or Sulu as Wu has rebaptized me) with better opportunities at happiness than my home country would? Nope. So let’s not wet blanket based on our understanding of a place garnered mostly through media and documentaries… It reduces the dialogue and contrives the very important discourse happening….

  • sexywinergirl

    I’d wear the Rape aXe. As a matter of fact I’m going to track down the inventor and order a years supply. Yangs BEWARE!!!

  • miss t-lee

    I just read this in my post birthday party drunken stupor, and the “portable p*ssy piranha” line has done me in :-). But seriously I wouldn’t want that thing anywhere near my nether regions, but I think it’s a great invention, like your tag says that truly is getting mideval on somebody’s azz. Rapists are truly lower than low.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      lol, i’m sorry for deading your birthday high. i probably should have warned everybody yesterday that this was coming

      • miss t-lee

        It’s all good. I won’t throat punch you.
        Today that is…lol