- Chicks dig the running game.
“You sure?“, my homegirl replied.
“Yup. Game.” I said. “He has you hook, line, and sinker. At this point you might as well be a f*cking joystick. We say sh*t like that around women with the hope that, a couple days later, you’ll have the exact same conversation we’re having right now with one of your girlfriends, talking about how you can’t really figure him out.”
“So he’s making up all of that stuff about his family and his trust issues?”
“Yes and No. I’m sure he’s telling the truth. He probably does have trust issues. He’s a black man in America. We all have trust issues. Sh*t, I’ve know you for five years and I still don’t trust your ass. Seriously though, you’ve known dude for two weeks. That’s not even three episodes of Jersey Shore. If he was really concerned with you helping him work through his trust issues, he would have waited a bit longer before revealing that he has trust issues. Why? Because he has trust issues, so he shouldn’t trust you.”
“So, what does he want?”
“You to prove exactly how trust-worthy you are by giving him some ass.“
1. “I’m not ready for a relationship right now”
Why it’s game: If you polled every woman who’s ever heard this statement from a man, I’d bet at least 90 percent of them would say they heard it during a variant of the following scenario.
Boy approaches Girl while at National Gout Foundation fundraiser afterparty. Girl is visibly enthralled with the neatness Boy’s full beard, Boy’s Escada Sentiment, and Boy’s proper use of the term “Heteronormative” in a sentence. Boy and Girl exchange numbers, and Boy takes Girl on the best two dates of her post-Facebook life. Girl invites Boy over for “dinner”. After dinner, Boy and Girl sit on living room couch and talk. Girl engages Boy in convo, even though she’s so wet at this point she’s scared she’s going to leave a mark on her couch. Between slips of Sutter Home, Boy nonchalantly mentions that he doesn’t want Girl to get the wrong idea because he’s “not really ready for a serious relationship“.
It’s game because, we’ll, we’re not idiots. We know exactly what we’re doing, exactly how horny you are, and exactly what your expectations were entering the night. But, because she’s already thisclose to “go”, saying “I’m not ready for a commitment” at that moment allows a guy to do commitment type stuff (read: sex) while always having an “Hey, I told you I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship” out whenever she presses him for an actual commitment.
How do I know this? Well, ummm, moving on…
2. “You’re nobody to me”
Why it’s game: Although most men won’t actually come out and tell a woman he’s interested in that he thinks she doesn’t matter, “You’re nobody to me” game occurs when a guy treats a beautiful woman as persona non-grata for absolutely no reason. If he sees her with a group of her girlfriends, he’ll speak to and hug each of them except her. She tells a joke, he mimics a cricket. And, not only does he pretend to not know her name ahead of time (Most beautiful women assume that people already know their names before they’ve been formally introduced . Why? Well, because usually it’s true), he doesn’t even remember it after she tells him.
When it concerns her, he’s basically the guy in the audience at a comedy club who’s bored and silent while everyone around him is cracking up. And, as most stand-up comics will tell you, if you happen to notice the bored guy, you become obsessed with him. Why isn’t he laughing? Is my timing off? Was that joke stale? Did I offend him?
This is game because, well, savvy men know that attractive women are used to men paying attention to them. And, even though they might be attracted to that woman, they know that ignoring her can reverse the seduction script. Now, she’s paying attention to him. Why doesn’t he talk to me? Should I introduce myself? How come he didn’t laugh at my joke? When is he going to approve my friend request? How is it possible that I know this ninja’s name, and he can’t even recall mine? Would fellatio help him remember?
3. “You can be intimidating”
Why it’s game: While it’s true that a very small percentage of women are intimidating to a very small percentage of men, it’s game because well, men don’t talk to women who intimidate them. Why? Because they’re intimidated, duh.
If a man actually tells a woman he’s interested that she intimidates him, he must be talking to her. And, if he’s actually putting the effort into talking to her, he’s not intimidated by her. He’s just saying what he think needs to be said to get her to let her guard down, to get her to prove to him that she’s not intimidating at all.
Also, if she replies “What’s so intimidating about me?”, she’s now given him carte blanche to run off a list of each of her perceived faults right in front of her face. Think about that for a minute. She basically tells him “Hey, I’m not even sure if I’m interested in you yet, but go right ahead and tell me everything you think is f*cked up about me. Also, if you say that I’m “frigid and stiff”, I’ll make sure to show you exactly how loose I can be in the back of your Tahoe later tonight”
4. “A woman like you is out of my league”
Why it’s game: Manages to combine the reverse bagging paradox dynamic of the “You can be intimidating” game with a direct punch to the guilt trip muscle every attractive single woman develops after her 28th birthday. Basically, (from an aesthetic standpoint) she is out of his league, but because of her numerous failed relationships with guys “in her league”, this statement starts an avalanche of re-evaluatory mental guilt caused by the memories of all the mundane dudes she’s overlooked. His faux self-deprecation becomes an intoxicant, putting her under a spell of hownormalcanimakemyselfseem just so he’ll give her a chance.
Basically, this is usually how this…
…happens
5. “I don’t know. I’ll try to fit you in, but I’m just really busy with a few projects right now”
Why it’s game: Ah, yes. The “super busy man” game. He’s super focused, man. This week alone he has 8 projects due, he’s studying for the LSAT’s, teaching a bartending class, attending a Bar Mitzvah, performing an exorcism, and releasing a line of urban professional lounge wear for midgets and new parolees. He’s getting his grind on, and he wishes he could make more time for you, but for now the Wendy’s drive thru and those 15 minutes in his parking lot will do. And, you’re ok with this because he’s a busy man, and it makes you feel even better that this important man is making any time in his busy schedule for you.
It’s game because no man on Earth has ever been that busy. Sh*t, even God had time to hit the strip club the night after he created trout. But, the super busy man knows nothing dries panties quicker than the thought of a needy man, so he gives the impression that he’s the complete antithesis. He could be free the entire weekend, but a well-timed “90 minutes just freed up for me Friday night. You down?” text to six different women will have them biting like Jennifer Freeman.
Anyway VSB.com, can you think of anything else men (and women) say (or do) when they’re just running game? Also, has anyone been gamed into doing something they probably wouldn’t have done otherwise?
Lastly, although this entry presented game in a somewhat negative light, is game a bad thing? Afterall, isn’t romance in general game in its highest form?
The floor is yours.
***Btw, if you get a chance, go over to Clutch Magazine and check out “How to Make Sistas Swoon”***
—The Champ
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Teach me how to dougie!!! All dem snitches love me!!!
AAAaaaaaay!!!!
*Congrats, you finally did it, no sighing needed* throws confetti and waits on someone else to cue music
Congrats Anastasia!
*cue music*
meant to say ‘cues music’
when will ya’ll put an edit button?
I’m 3hours behind you guys but yaaay!! Now I can move on in my vsb life!!!
Maybe?
Mrs. Freeman has been watching too much True Blood…….or Twilight……….or Vampire in Brooklyn.
Or all the above. Didnt she just have a baby a couple of months ago?
She’s always had that “Lifetime Channel marathon” look in her eyes to me. Like, you can definitely imagine her committing a bunch of arsons on the homes of suspected rapists
Another great post!!! Biggest game line ever, “I’ve never flirted with you!”
Another great post!!! Biggest game line ever, “I’ve never flirted with you!”
please expound. don’t know if i’ve heard about that one
“I never flirted with you, we were just having a conversation.”
Im so mad I can’t ever get through the beginning of the post before I’m kilt D.E.A.D… “Boy approaches Girl while at National Gout Foundation fundraiser…” LOL!! really Champ? SMH
What? You don’t know about the annual Gout foundation boatride? Where you been?
Wow G….how is it that I didn’t even notice until reading Beremore’s comment. My brain straight read that as National Girl Scout foundation!!
I damn near spit on my keyboard w/ that one, lolol
I’ve been gamed quite a bit in my youth. I’m a late-bloomer.
I don’t like to play games. I’m bad at it, and it’s too time consuming. However, I think that some men are so used to women who play games that when they meet one who doesn’t, they think we’re uninterested or even worse, uninteresting.
People who complain about potential partners who are playing the game are usually pretty advanced game-players themselves, in my experience.
I think there’s a huge difference between running/spittin’ game and playing games. Playing games, of course, is a negative and has an immature connotation as oppose to running game or spittin’ game which is basically about the whole song and dance of relationships. It’s not necessarily exclusive to romantic relationships as in my dealings, people run game in many aspects of life. It’s kinda like a tactic to sell something. Doesn’t necessarily involve deceit, just one trying to sell themselves or a product.
Nice distinction between the two.
I think there’s a huge difference between running/spittin’ game and playing games.
good point. i’d say that the stuff I discussed today falls under the latter though.
It’s definitely game playing. I don’t know how many men have to do the whole “I’m not ready for a relationship” song and dance before we women wake up and realize that any time said man isn’t interested in said activity….he’s not interested in you any more than the next chick. Recognize game and choose your next move accordingly. Soooooo many women opt for the “dumb” role though and it’s depressing the have THIS convo every third Tuesday with the same female friend for years. Get a clue!
I co-sign this distinction. I think there’s something fun in the “game” of dating (i.e. the chase, etc), but playing games (especially with emotions) is an immature no-no.
I’m with you! Definitely a late bloomer. First serious relationship was in college and then straight afterward, moved to NYC, the GAME CAPITAL OF THE WORLD. I mean, what was I thinking? LOL. I’m at peewee level in terms of romance and now I’m trying to play with the Yankees?
I got gamed SEVERAL TIMES, and got gamed BIG TIME (read: conned, literally folks). I was just too nice and accepting of people’s backgrounds, trying to see the good in all people.
I’m OVER IT, LOL. I’m the opposite of what Champ listed now. Whereas most women were burned by men in their league so they go lower, I’ve been burned by men somewhat beneath me (is that snobby to say?) and will only go my level and higher. Like seriously.
Whereas most women were burned by men in their league so they go lower, I’ve been burned by men somewhat beneath me (is that snobby to say?) and will only go my level and higher. Like seriously
i’ve heard a few women say that before (basically, if all men are dogs anyway, you might as well date high status dogs than broke german shephards)
there’s a joke in here somewhere, but i need to eat lunch first
You need your Wheaties to deliver an appropriate zinger? LOL. Aight, I’ll wait.
You need your Wheaties to deliver an appropriate zinger? LOL. Aight, I’ll wait.
actually, it was salmon and tea today
Well, maybe this is why I’m single….because whenever a man says any of these lines to me, I walk away.
I figured they meant it.
smart woman.
welcome and sh*t, btw
*sigh*
Seems as if most of my interactions with dudes over the last year or so have all been game…*kicks trashcan*
To answer the question, yeah I have been handed that game to stick around in situations I should’ve walked away from…oh well, I’m smarter for it now and know what not to fall for in the future…
Seems as if most of my interactions with dudes over the last year or so have all been game…*kicks trashcan*
that’s what happens when you attend kappa boat rides
Oh HEYAL NAW! lol, Naw champ none of those for me…that’s not what’s hot in the streets…
those are great examples Champ.
Who woulda thought you knew anything about game?
anyway.
I dont think game is a bad thing (well, not unless you fall for it…every single time), its natural, as a woman you have an agenda and so does he, as long as you recognize the “game” and play accordingly its a natural occurrence..
the game I really hate is the lyfe jennings/neo soul male feminist game…
ninja dont school me, school ya brethren… on some old.. see, men out here have trouble recognizing a good woman, like you, they dont know what to do when they come across top quality, you just gotta make sure you pick someone on your level…
NINJA PLEASE….
The neosoul game! You nailed it, lmao.
“woman you have an agenda and so does he, as long as you recognize the “game” and play accordingly its a natural occurrence..”
Preach. Nothing wrong with a small caliber of gamesmanship if both parties are competitive. Keeps the dance interesting.
Cause rest assured, the ladies run game as well…
lmao @ Who woulda thought you knew anything about game?
wow. good one.
@shay_d_lady,
“I dont think game is a bad thing (well, not unless you fall for it…every single time), its natural,…”
I concur. When it’s recognized, it’s cool in a way.
“the game I really hate is the lyfe jennings/neo soul male feminist game…ninja dont school me, school ya brethren… on some old.. see, men out here have trouble recognizing a good woman…”
Yeah, the hatin’ on the next man and blowing smoke up a woman’s ass has always been uncool.
I dislike Lyfe Jennings and I always felt out of the loop because that ninja annoys the hell out me for the reason you stated and every girl I know seems to be gaga for him. I’m like seriously? He seems like the kind of guy who reads poetry at poetry readings to get girls, but because he actually enjoys poetry. We alllll know that dude!
I don’t really respond well to ninjas running game because my bullshit detector just won’t allow me to fall for it. The one thing i’ve been getting more recently is “you’re very mysterious” line. *shrugs* Flavor of the week maybe?
I don’t really respond well to ninjas running game because my bullshit detector just won’t allow me to fall for it
you never know and sh*t
For some strange reason, whenever I see Lyfe Jennings on television, whether if it is on a music video or concert showing, I think of him as a “magic Negro”. He has the magic negro look going already: the shaggy/scraggly appearance, the guitar, that “whiskey and one pack of Newports a day” voice. All he needs is a harmonica and he is ready.
Like if some movie director was looking for a black actor to portray a character that has magical powers and he aids a lot of 2520′s out of their problems, Lyfe Jennings could possibly be the perfect person. Not unless Will Smith or Michael Clarke Duncan isn’t busy…
“those are great examples Champ. Who woulda thought you knew anything about game?”
ah yes, another backhanded compliment from shay-d-lady. #signsitmustbetuesday
those are great examples Champ. Who woulda thought you knew anything about game?”
ah yes, another backhanded compliment from shay-d-lady. #signsitmustbetuesday
you love it tap!!
Common legion of female fans if proof that The Neo Soul game is effective. Any man who calls a woman who he first met queen is full of it. Royal designations must be earned.
Women are also adept at using the Neo-Soul game. I have seen many a man hoodwinked and bamboozled by The Anhk.
Yep…Ick.
Save. It.
Agreed to the fully on the neo-soul game and that all game is not created equal! I’d like to add Musiq Soulchild’s “We can just be cool, no pressure” frontin’ behind because if you was “friend” material he wouldn’t even be talkin’ to you or even noticed you. Game recognize game.
Yeah after I got hip to the “I’m so busy” game I started calling kats out on it. Telling them “yo’ azz ain’t that busy…stfu!”. Or, I would just peace out and play the busy game as well. Works both ways indeed.
That intimidating line is for the birds–after stating that dudes are usually given a jumbo eyeroll and an express ticket to voice mail heaven. I can’t.
“yo’ azz ain’t that busy…stfu!”
LMAO – I hope that ain’t your foreplay talk!
Haha, not quite. I’m just saying when you recognize it’s game, you have to make your point clear so they understand that you cannot be played.
LMAO – I hope that ain’t your foreplay talk!
lol, i can imagine a night with miss-t-lee just being filled with throat punches, side-eyes, and put downs. basically, it’s exactly like a comedy central roast
Love you too Champie…lmao
I love voice mail heaven lol
I dunno know voicemail always feels like heyll to me
LOL!!! Can’t take credit for that. It’s a lyric from Z-Ro “Call My Phone”.
It’s so apt though.
Here’s one that’s overused:
“I normally don’t do this, but there’s something about you___”
lol, that’s definitely one that should be filed under “common things women say when they’re running game”
Good post Champ! Sadly 1 and 5 seem to be the go to reasons (read: excuses) the LA eligibles have been throwin my way this summer. I would like to add these ‘reasons’ often come after I tell them I’m live in SD and therefore am only visiting for the weekend. Which leads to the another game line, ‘You live so far, I wouldn’t be able to give you all the time you deserve’… Word, brotha? O_o
… this is why I stay singlin and minglin in S. Cali, since I no longer fall for the game (and to answer the question you posed, sadly I have fell victim a time or two to one more experienced in G than I) I keeps it pushin.
‘You live so far, I wouldn’t be able to give you all the time you deserve’
lol, yeah. this is a combination of the “i’m not ready for the relationship” game and the “projects” game. seems quite efficient.
lol @ efficient… yea I suppose. Either way its sign enough to bid adieu to the situation. ‘on to the next one’
6) I am too mature and have too much respect to feed you lines. Everything I am saying to you is genuine/Ginuwine.
haha YES!!!!! i love when guys say this. because it causes me to instantly laugh in their faces. and a good laugh does a body and soul good.
i especially love when this is preceded by “im not like other guys, i am not trying to spit game to you, im too mature for that” NINJA…. PUHLEEZ!
I have found that line to be effective if properly. Though I abhor being dragged into a game-off with women.because instead of getting to know them, the fledgling relationship becomes about me being victorious.
“instead of getting to know them, the fledgling relationship becomes about me being victorious.”
This is the number one reason why I don’t like when folks run game. It becomes about the trickery and not about the actual people involved. More worried about bagging the other person than actually being with them. (this is all concerning relationships & things of that nature, not jumpoffs, lol)
“instead of getting to know them, the fledgling relationship becomes about me being victorious.”
This is the number one reason why I don’t like when folks run game. It becomes about the trickery and not about the actual people involved. More worried about bagging the other person than actually being with them. (this is all concerning relationships & things of that nature, not jumpoffs, lol)
“I am too mature and have too much respect to feed you lines.”
lmao…and it’s a line in and of itself. Which, makes me laugh at him even harder than just using one of the more general lines.
If that was game, all of it was weak. That just sounds like dumb ass excuses to avoid a woman in my book. If this is “game” then, clearly, we are talking little league here.
If that was game, all of it was weak.
is this a shot at the men who do it, the woman who fall for it, or both?
Both, and unfortunately, an uneven ‘both’…
The men using this lame, basic level of game, shouldn’t be allowed to sit on the bench in their warm ups.
The women falling for this dreadful, base level game, are born to be played.
Man Game that I’ve heard:
1) “I’m 45 and never married because I haven’t found the right person” (Are you serious?)
2) “the condom is too tight, it squeezes my schlong”
3) “We’re just now starting to get to know each other, why are you trying to rush a relationship” (After 6 months of consistent dating.)
4) “I was no longer happy anymore”. (I’ve heard this from several men after leaving their wives and multiple kids for another woman)
5) ” She tricked me into thinking she couldn’t get pregnant” (At 25 years old)
People who fall for #2 or #5 aren’t being gamed. They are idiots.
Gaming requires some amount of playing along by the other side. It’s only a game if both teams are playing.
People who fall for #2 or #5 aren’t being gamed. They are idiots.
LOL
What is it called when one side is gaming and the other side is falling for it?
america
What is it called when one side is gaming and the other side is falling for it?
A Love Connection
Bwahahaha!
I’m gonna be honest here, I have fallen for everything except for #2. Why? Because I:
1) was caught-up
2) was naive as hell
3) believed everything that he said
4) didn’t know any better because my daddy failed me. #tmi?
But I will say this, after I figured out that it was game and I won’t say how long that took, I moved on permanently. And all of them got b*tchslapped by karma. And I mean b*tchslapped. Every last one of ‘em.
Thank you and goodnight. *curtsy*
@ kamakula a$$$$$$$$hooooooooooole.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXRBELZpKak
Yes FP…if you’ve never been married at 45, something is wrong.
@SFG – I live in Atlanta! Girlfriend you would be surprised as to what kind of Foolywang is going on down here.
“I’m too busy with work” means ‘you’re not worth more than the future I’m about to embrace’ or ‘I can’t see you next to me when I succeed’ because I only really only want to hit it and keep it moving because I am actually to busy with work to upgrade you.
“A woman like you is out of my league” is the saddest BS I ever heard. If a guy said that self depreciating BS, I suggest you run the other way. Game or truth, that’s corny.
“You can be intimidating” – means you are way too bitchy for life, and I need you to go away – or – my other chicks don’t complain about anything as hard as you do, and I need you to get with the non-complaint team.
“You’re nobody to me” means “You’re nobody to me”.
“I’m not ready for a relationship right now” means “I’m not ready for a relationship right now” or I’m too busy with other women who don’t complain about my lifestyle, and get in where they can fit in”. Because, in all honesty, single men hold the cards.
“I’m not ready for a relationship right now” means “I’m not ready for a relationship right now with you“.
Here is where it gets tricky:
1. That could change in the future and they’ll be ready with you
2. That may never change and they have no intention of it changing
3. That may never change but they are interested in seeing where things may go.
People always seem to forget about the implied “with you” that comes in with all personal conversations. Then are for some reason surprised and hurt – when they see the person in whatever situation they wanted to be in with someone else – because they then feel lied to or mislead when really we withhold that “with you” to soften the blow*.
* I don’t soften the blow. I give it straight and hard.
“* I don’t soften the blow. I give it straight and hard.”
note to self…. lol
The “with you” is the way to go, seriously…I keep that in my head all of the time , learned the hard way sadly.
, but ever since I learned it, it stays in my head all of the time, like you said it does come with all personal conversations excellent point !
@Bajanflchick…I completely agree with your whole post. I learned the hard way too, and ever since then, I take a man at his word and know that when he’s talking to me about relationship stuff, he’s talking ABOUT me as well.
I mean really….who else SHOULD he be talking about?
it seems so simple….in hind-sight that is…:-)
Therein lies the crux.
I don’t a relationship right now MEANS from both men and women, that I am waiting for something better to come along, or you just don’t fit my vision of the relationship I would like to have. Quite simple.
They can then meet someone the next day who blows their socks off and be in a relationship with them… and it’s only fair.
@Sula- “They can then meet someone the next day who blows their socks off and be in a relationship with them… and it’s only fair.”- Truer words were never spoken..
Chuuch
re:5
my momma told me a long time ago, people make time for who and what they want.
period. point blank.
if he aint willing to make time for you, and your not an unreasonably needy tpe of mutha f!cka?
he’s just not that into you..
you betta say that, shay!!!!! i tell this to dudes all the time who try and come at me with that bullshyt. and the worst is when guys try to turn it around and use me being busy as an excuse as to why they cant get they shit together—”well you’re just so busy i dont know how youll have time for me” ninja what?? get outta here with that. i make time for what i wanna make time for. and as of now, i dont have time for yo a$s.
Preach. Church. Tabernacle!!
Preach!
“my momma told me a long time ago, people make time for who and what they want.”
Big effing co-sign.
That’s the point – they are making time. . . a small amount of it – solely for you. Which intensifies the idea that you are important, because he is so busy but yet finds that small amount of time just for little ol you.
You’ve heard the term absence makes the heart grow fonder. There is another way to generate those same emotions w/o playing the I’m super busy game. Just spend time with them as you’d normally want to do and from time to time be suddenly and completely unavailable.
Then become available a day or two later as normal. And don’t apologize for it and don’t make it predictable (you habituate someone to something and you need a stronger dose to get the same reaction – go too far with this and you may run them from missing you to wondering if there is anything to miss).
my momma told me a long time ago, people make time for who and what they want.
period. point blank.
My mommy told me the same thing along with “it’s best to be with a man who loves you more than you love him” but that’s a different topic….
“My mommy told me the same thing along with “it’s best to be with a man who loves you more than you love him” but that’s a different topic….”
Yup my moms told me the SAME thing… the older I get and more experiences I have, the more I see the truth in this.
*nods* Type that troof, Shay.
I learned the same thing and I totally cosign.
One question, though: What’s “unreasonably needy”? I feel like some people run into problems with this qualifier because they don’t know what’s too much contact. Just curious…
“Unreasonably needy” takes on several forms. It can be the male/female who texts all the time and doesn’t get an answer…only to take that as a sign that they need to text MORE often to ensure that their point is made/they are noticed.
It can be the person who pops up randomly to “surprise/i.e. check up on their mate one too many times.
Or it can be the person who just doesn’t know when to quit. For example, when someone says “I’ll call you later,” and you call them 3 or 4 times over the course of a few hours, then you’re unreasonably needy. EVERYONE should have something of substance to occupy their time while their significant other or newest interest handles business. And if you don’t…it’s wise to pretend you do as not to annoy the hell out of the person you’re dealing with.
@Mo (VSS)- We must be on some “same isht” today girl, cause this right here spoke to me LOUDLY “EVERYONE should have something of substance to occupy their time while their significant other or newest interest handles business”- nodding hard in agreement FO REAL
I wish more people knew/accepted/lived this… seriously. It will cut off a lot of my time doling out advice to folks who STAY making excuses for disappearing acts Ninjas and Ninjettes. *smh*
Truff!
Game is quite alright if you’re in the mood to play. Whether we admit it or not, I think many are drawn to it in some form or another. The thrill of the hunt, the ambiguity of it all…because most people feel that lust, infatuation, “extended friendship”, love and everything in between is something you have to work up to. I really don’t think *anyone* would be 100% comfortable if these things were handed to them on a silver platter with no questions asked: not the person running game, and not the person being played. People want to feel special, they want to feel as if they’ve won something, slayed some dragon to get their bounty, even in these matters. It is an age old dance, and there are very few unwitting players.
And the “Reply of the Night” award goes to….
To me of course. But it’s nice that you anticipated that before I even wrote a single post.
LOL, I quit you kamakula.
Game is quite alright if you’re in the mood to play. Whether we admit it or not, I think many are drawn to it in some form or another. The thrill of the hunt, the ambiguity of it all…because most people feel that lust, infatuation, “extended friendship”, love and everything in between is something you have to work up to
i agree. like i mentioned in the blog, seduction and romantic are each heightened forms of game, but neither of these have negative connotations. game only becomes a negative when you lie, or allow people to fall even though you know there’s no future
…but neither of these have negative connotations. game only becomes a negative when you lie, or allow people to fall even though you know there’s no future.
True, game in and of itself is not inherently a bad thing, just a reflection of human nature, which itself is not all good. It’s unrealistic to enter any game/sport without considering both the possibility of winning and losing (if only for the purposes of strategy). This is the risk we all run when we choose to play. You learn the rules (good defense AND offense) one of two ways: 1) you’re a natural-born contender and you excel from start to finish or 2) you lose a few (or many) rounds and learn what not to do. Either way, we’re all in this, trying to be “the one” to someone.
Man im so happy that im married and not single anymore!
Whether its positive or negative, that shit is TIRING!
the ambiguity of it all
I think I realize that’s why I don’t quite like the whole “game” thing or never felt particularly attracted to it… I do not do ambiguity AT ALL. I can’t stand ish… As a recovering control freak, I did not (still don’t) handle well variables about me or my life I have little to no control over… Ambiguity is just straight NOT appealing to me. Ugh. Lol.
And that applies to everything, friendships, business partnerships (ask my homeboy who got dropped from one of my projects
), etc…
“If you’re warm, I’ll spit you”… run and tell dat, homeboy.
I feel this way about some of my closer friendships…but do you think it’s possible that *not* playing the game is, in itself, a form of game?
PS-I dig ur avi/username. It’s one of my fave literary endings. Messes me up every time.
I don’t think #4 is running game, it’s just a polite way to end a relationship. You want them to think you’re the problem, not them
You want them to think you’re the problem, not them
and this isn’t game?
I get that one often…. and I am aggressive and direct, but it is still game, because my attitude is not something I spring up weeks or months later, it is all me. So, I think it is just a cop out for either he’s not that into me or he knows for sure I aim not gonna take any crap and he is too b*tch made to deal with that….
I meant to say I get the “You can be intimidating” one often….
The intimidating thing is strange. Yes, people can be intimidating. . . but only to people who actually care.
My It’s Academic coach was a person who could have a very abrasive personality. Just about everyone found him intimidating. He’d yell, insult, smack the table and bully people into doing what he wanted. It generally worked. The funny thing is that those of us who never took it personally or went home crying or gave up or talked of giving up were essentially the group of the best players.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve tried to convince people that Tyson was mostly all bark and no bite. That it was his way of showing he cared and trying to motivate you. That when Tyson actually consistently treated you nicely and never criticized you, it probably meant he’d given up and stopped caring – and that was something that you didn’t want.
If someone is interacting with you, there is either love or hate, like or dislike. That is something you can work with. People who are indifferent to you don’t use the energy to intimidate or affect you in any way.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve tried to convince people that Tyson was mostly all bark and no bite. That it was his way of showing he cared and trying to motivate you. That when Tyson actually consistently treated you nicely and never criticized you, it probably meant he’d given up and stopped caring – and that was something that you didn’t want.
are you referring to mike tyson or tyson chandler?
smh, SOLD NOT TOLD
But if we’re giving away the 2005 manual, let me break something from the 778 BC scrolls.
The foundation of the black man’s game is SELLING THE DREAM.
1) You got to have the approximation of “potential”. I.e. you have gainful employment, or you’re in school, or you’re a mildly successful slam poet.
2) she gotta be kinda young, naive, or her biological clock is right about to expire. Like the African plains, the predator seeks the weakest in the herd.
3) smell good (body and breff!) and wear nice shoes.
With those 3) things, you make sure you hit up either
1 a.) a Tyler Perry let out – i.e. accidentally bump into shorty with her gaggle of friends as you were coming out of The Expendables.
1 b)) CHU’UCH. (which is approximately the same thing as the TP flick, and about the same cost when you consider tithes)
As they thinking about Idriszel ChestnutDiggswashington, you have to make your VERY public approach.
- if she’s vaguely boho and you dreadlocked up – hit her with Queen
- If she’s your standard Michelle Obama wannabe – Miss
- otherwise, “say red or say big thighs, lemme hollatchu” will suffice.
Hit a chick with the, “I love your presence and I feel something about you, and just had to come talk to you”
- something kinda vague, kinda complimentary
- a little bit mysterious
But you gotta be so earnest with it that it don’t come off corny (like it do 99% of the time) And don’t mention nothing about her phat assets or big EYES. (the eye compliment is akin to the red roses – cliche, played out, doesn’t make her feel special) Indeed, I know some of you people have disgusting fetishes and no broa…respectable young lady needs to hear bout how her right capella looks ripe for nibbling.
Make sure you greet her friends appropriately, and ask the biggest most hornery one if you could borrow her for a sec
- if pitbull says no – you’ve got to jump in the middle, and say something about, “I love a woman with strong friends that care for her” – anything to defuse the situation
Then hit her with that jay z/excuse me miss/respectable holleration with a just a tinge of “if I take this dress shirt off, you’ll see my abs and my kinda criminal past that i’ve moved on from”.
Get the digits.
Call for the date, (industry standard is 2 days, but shoot for a date on Wed/Thursday)
*plan something creative* – yes this is the worst part. They all think they’re some special little flower deserving something spectacular like a balloon ride, sneaking into an ice rink, or upsizing the fries AND DRINK (that’s 59 cent!) . The ideal player date is drinks at a spot close to your home, so you can *forget* your umbrella, or you can show her the pictures of the homeless hedgehog that you saved from the Aryan Organization that you and the Black Fist liberated.
But since you’re selling the dream, especially to a chick who doesn’t see it coming, you’ve got to do some razzle dazzle.
Whatever it is you do, it’s got to peak and climax. It’s got to be a roller coaster
It’s the come down that you’re after.
All of this theater the set up for the one opportunity.
the CONVERSATION. <- you been talking all night, but THE CONVERSATION is different.
- start with admitting some vulnerability, but don't self deprecate
- tell a few interesting stories of you saving kids in Harlem from faulty xbox 360's
- get a text from your etrade account letting you know that your value stock has reached the buy level.
All that good stuff.
And once you've demonstrated you're on top of your game, and she's going back and forth with you normally, you lay out your vision.
Of course you've been making mental notes on how she wants to leave her 80k job @ Ernst and Young and raise children and sell her designer hats made by a Gambian women's collective – so you start feeding that kind of framework back to her.
"would it be nice if…"
"c'mon, imagine with me"
then you start
"I can see myself doing something
somewhere that's not here
building something
Something different that what is we're doing here…
On some Leonard Decapitation steez, you create a nice little world, where there are dogs and singing birds, life can be hard, but it all eventually works out,
she sees herself in it, with you….and you can only get to the promised land….TOGETHER.
You've got this little fantasy world, that you and her have built.
This is the dream.
At this point, a lot of chicks might w/hold the P, cause now you're someone special. But 2 dates later, the let me anoint you with some egyptian oils trick, will seal the deal – and you've got her for life or until you notice all of her annoying habits and constant need for attention and validation.
This comment may be longer than the actual post. Kudos.
YOU KNOW!! i got confused for a minute there, all lost, like – ok, is this a part of the post i missed, or am i still in the responses??? ha ha ha – and how ARE YOU, luvvie-cakes! see you had a good ol’ time at blogher – oddly enuff, a high school friend of mine now resident in the US also attended!
That sounds like a lot of work for a text only man like myself.
Texting is really all that is required if you know how to pick ‘em.
No Bullsh*t
How do men get away with text-only? What woman is saying, “Nah, I don’t need even a five minute conversation. His texts are deep.” I’m seriously curious about this game ’cause I’ve had men try to pull the text-only on me and I corrected them straight away.
Being text only requires combination game. Not everyone can pull it off. Here is the equation.
I Am Too Busy + You’re Nobody To Me + I Am Not Ready For A Relationship (Confidence)/(Desperation For Some Kind of Intimacy Text Only X Sexiness)= Text Only
LMFAO! Wow. That sounds a little too complicated for me, lol. If a guy was pulling all that on me, I’d just assume he wasn’t interested. A voice is a turn-on for me, so if I can’t hear your voice, then you’re not really doing it for me.
Yes Dash, the text only brotha is all of the above. Cosign.
lmao i <3 WIA. he makes VSB a brighter place.
and he ALWAYS paints a pretty picture. imagery is everything. and if he's sellin, im buyin.
I’m sorry, but who does any of this ^ stuff up here work on
(confused)
A dude can approach a woman with Queen, Miss, red (?), or big thighs (?????? side eye????????), but a simple ‘HELLO’ will always work or at least open the line of conversation…
Le fcukin sigh……..
Wow!!! ….yup that’s all I got wow!
How you can tell that you are trying too hard to get a woman: Your comment is longer than 4 ‘graphs and you aren’t halfway done. SMH.
But what do I know, I’m just a judge at the Playa Hater’s Ball.
Hate! Hate! Hate!
If you can’t be yourself, make yourself better and then just be yourself.
- if she’s vaguely boho and you dreadlocked up – hit her with Queen
- If she’s your standard Michelle Obama wannabe – Miss
- otherwise, “say red or say big thighs, lemme hollatchu” will suffice.
What in the world???
I thought that was hilarious… he can’t be serious, right? No, of course not
And the “potential VSB intern” award goes to…
Seriously, though…this comment was entertaining. I felt like I was watching a blockbuster movie with Will Smith as Hitch narrating. Not “Hitch”, though. Some other movie where Hitch is the main character.
That was long, but worth the read. I laughed the whole time while wiping away tears. Thanks for making my morning.
Cosign… WIA!
*Sidenote* Dis sh!t don’t work!
Yeah,,,So- we know that isht don’t not work but for comic genius alone I’mma have to go ahead and give WIA a big ole high five….pure comedy I tell ya
LOL… no, I know. I just had to clarify dat for any silly VSB out there that might think dis isht could work. #denied
Next week with WestIndianArchie: How to plan out your 401K!
@WestIndian Archie
Its funny that many ladies on here aren’t buying, but I can’t imagine your spelling out your MO in detail without having tested and confirmed it to work in many cases. I see it every day…..women (very smart ones) who buy into the dream. No one is invincible enough to dodge every bullet. Those that managed to, have never really dated or been in a relationship.
In regards to today’s post: The only solution is to have game of your own, and like others have mentioned it can be entertaining at times. But in order to have REAL game, you must be willing to sacrifice someone you really want to get to know. For example, if a ninja tells me he’s too busy…….I tell him “Oh, I understand. Just hit me up when things slow down”. Then I disappear completely (no calls/texts/FB). For ladies, this can be tough, but that is when you spend more time with your girlfriends, hit the gym more and participate in other activities that will occupy your mental space (less time to analyze = taking the situation for what it is). In most cases, he will reach out because you’ve treated him as if he doesn’t matter (the male ego doesn’t likey) If he doesn’t reach out, then you really don’t matter to him (Sacrifice Him). But, if he puts forth more effort to contact and/or see you….then let the games begin. Men WILL make a move when they are seriously interested. Otherwise, chalk it up and on to the next one.
@ CNotes. I agree whole heartedly with your post my approach is that my daddy told me when I was in highscool, that the fear of loss is one of the strongest fears out there. I DON’T run game, I’ve just developed a very high tolerance for experiencing loss.
My game is this: ninja, as long as I have an 11 inch hip to waist ratio, straight teeth, college degrees and hair all down my back – getting another ninja ain’t nothing but somethin to do.
Don’t you ever get to thinking you’re irreplaceable #Beyonce
@The Frog Princess
“I’ve just developed a very high tolerance for experiencing loss”
Its no fun, but we all have to.
I see it every day…..women (very smart ones) who buy into the dream.
Exactly. I BELIEVE in the dream and would have bought it on credit even.
If I was dating right now, this is exactly where a ninja might caught me HARD…. Thank God for actual dreamers (to the point where I am actually the voice of reason imagine that… 
)
@Sula
“I BELIEVE in the dream and would have bought it on credit even.”
LOL! Me Too! Ninjas gaming me has taught me well (and still I could “get got” for the dream). SMH @ myself. : -)
Hilarious… as usual.
And this –> you can show her the pictures of the homeless hedgehog that you saved from the Aryan Organization that you and the Black Fist liberated. Golden!!!
And I’ll admit to being a sucker for someone who can “dream” with me dreams of leaving my corporate job for the wilderness of nonprofit ventures…. in Gambia!
…. Good thing in 2005 (that’s the year of the manual right? Lol!), I was not in them streets… I would have fallen HARD for the okey doke!!! 
this was the funniest shT of the year yo
“…or upsizing the fries AND DRINK (that’s 59 cent!)”
LMFAO!! Good read, though I think it would only work on stupid girls, LOL. I’m loc’d – if a dude walked up talking about “Queen” he’d get nowhere, too corny!
*fangirl alert* and this is the kind of stuff that makes VSB award winning, besides Liz that is
You and VSB-P have been SO on point lately.
thanks and sh*t, wise diva. i stay on point like a scoreboard and sh*t. #lazysimileday
i like a man who can run game and make me wanna talk to him more because of it. even if his game is kinda corny, it just cant be predictable or sloppy. i appreciate good delivery more so than the content. its definitely in HOW the game is laid and not exactly what is said (though this can be important as well).
ive had game run on me numerous times and most of the times guys get all tripped up when i run game back or call them on their bullshyt (i usually do this to guys who im not initially interested in to see how they handle themselves). and i respect any guy who can keep up with me and not let me make him start fumbling like mark sanchez. im more likely to give a brotha a chance if he runs his game well and adapts to my interjections.
so brothas, practice in the mirror before you run your lines down on a girl. you gotta know what kinda faces you make when you are talking. sometimes yall look pathetic and unpolished. lack of confidence and doofiness just makes you a target for laughs on twitter after the encounter *shrugs*
i definitely did NOT mean to type mark sanchez lol. wow, idk how i managed to mistakenly insert a mexican QB into my post, but…. i guess its all this talk of deportation and illegal internet-immigration that has me all confused. *sigh*
That’s what I tell my friends.
The trick to being where you are not supposed to be is acting as if that is where you belong. Same applies when the location is inside someone’s pants.
Have you ever been out somewhere and hear some guying saying something that is absolute BS and makes no sense but the girl is eating it up? I tell people it doesn’t really matter what you say or what you talk about, just the way you do it. You want someone to be interested in you, you talk and act as if what you are saying is interesting and fun. You could be saying nonsense baby talk and she’ll still be playing with her hair and giving you the wide open eyes (DDD to those in the know – which those in the know also know that when you get ddd, you should move on to kclosing her or at least #closing).
while i agree that the delivery is MOST important, dude cant be just spittin nonsense babble mumbo jumbo. what he says has to be interesting to the person listening. again, for me, it can be corny. corny doesnt offend me or turn me off. its jsut about the delivery. but trust and believe im listening to EVERY word. and if your language game is weak and you’re straight up whack? im no longer giving you the option to take me for a spin.
“so brothas, practice in the mirror before you run your lines down on a girl. you gotta know what kinda faces you make when you are talking. ”
LMAO, this cracked me up for a good 4 minutes. It’s so dayum true. Like, don’t be spittin’ game and your facial expression is that of a hedgehog holding a fart.
dead @ your facial expression is that of a hedgehog holding a fart.
why am i hollering laughing???
THE funniest thing i heard all day! the hedgehog part that is…
sometimes yall look pathetic and unpolished. lack of confidence and doofiness just makes you a target for laughs on twitter after the encounter *shrugs
with the right body language you can say anything. i’ve even seen “you look good. i look good. lets f*ck” work
i wasnt exactly considering what works on chicken heads and hood rats but ok….
lol, if i told you who did this and who it worked on, you’d be singing a different tune
OMG!!! I’ve got a super busy guy!!! LOL!! Guess I’m getting gamed. Its funny because while I was reading it I was saying a silent hooray when none of them added up to the guy I was dating until the end… *le sigh*….
lol, don’t fret and sh*t. he might be telling the truth.
welcome and sh*t, btw (i think)
LOL!!!! Wait a minute! You can’t be telling girls to watch out for “super busy guys” then saying the “super busy guy” she’s dating might ACTUALLY be busy, lol. This is how we get caught, ladies. Hoping that instead of game, he’s the exception.
Hmmmm. I feel another post is in order. One about telling “the exception” from just another game-player. Hmmm….
I don’t know why I’m being a fountain of knowledge tonight but. . .
If you really want to improve your game but don’t have time, patience, or feel too embarrassed to learn from outside sources because you feel that this is something you should somehow be born with, here is a trick of the trade.
After you have sealed the deal, ask her “When did you first know you were going to sleep with me”? I have never known responders to that question to not tell the truth – you can use that to learn what you are doing right, or at least what works for you.
After you have sealed the deal, ask her “When did you first know you were going to sleep with me”?
wouldn’t it really be game if you say that before you actually sleep with her?
And with that, VSB gets added to my blogroll like i should’ve ages ago when they had me hollering offa something else. “You’re nobody to me” resonates. “How can you not adore me? Can not compute. Let me test your resistance with body parts.” Delightful foolishness.
Game hurts sometimes but it’s hella funny to find out when you’re a victim & choose to play or check another court. I’d add the projection game to the repertoire. It’s a deeper game that takes place after a few dates or some fluid exchange that’s used to secure the often unreciprocated exclusivity of your prey. Tell her you’re concerned about her straying and she will do her durndest to prove otherwise you. She’ll never wander. Said ruse provides special insurance for an advanced gamer while allowing him to engage in other pursuits. I don’t mind game as long as it’s fun & you laugh with me when I call you out as I often do. Then there are those that I don’t care if I smell the controller on your fingertips, I just wanna play with you…Dang
And with that, VSB gets added to my blogroll like i should’ve ages ago when they had me hollering offa something else
what took you so long?
welcome and sh*t, btw
I know…I be takin’ my sweet time…
*typing this on BlackBerry*
I have a question!
This is my last night in Las Vegas. (Yes, I’m in Fremont street for the third time) and my SO is here but I want to make sure I get buns(yes this is my third time at La Bayou and I had those talls cups)
Any advice(P.S. I saw lion king n two Cirque du Soleil shows)
I paid for them all!
P.S.S my bad champ. I was drunk n playing slots, then I remember to read the new post n comment.
You JUST reminded me to buy my tickets for The Lion King in September. That bish is returning to Chicago after I missed it last time and I’ve never seen it. I ain’t gonna make that mistake twice.
In other words, thanks. For reminding me.
Its worth every penny, hope they make another Disney classic into a play
I can’t NOT go. The Lion King is my fave Disney film evah of all time, in the history of lions…so missing it was a huge FAIL on my part. Hooray for second chances.
take her to the zoo. that always works for me and sh*t
The Zoo is DEPRESSING!!
I hate the zoo… All those animals emprisoned. Ugh. Yeah, I don’t know if that zoo thing is failproof, homes.
I don’t have game…I’ve also been called a dayum liar, among other things. I really believe I don’t have game, but I’ve also been told I need more people.
This has also been referred to by some doubting debbies as “I don’t have game” game.
@Shay
I was gonna say, that’s your game right there lol. Not saying this is you, but guys with a slight nerd quality (cool nerd though, not full-out geek) who seem really sweet, genuine, and a little clueless will definitely get theirs. Think Drake, or B.O.B.
@Champ
I like that last question…game is not a bad thing at all. Everyone has, or should have, at least a little.
As for the list, men and women both do the “not ready for a relationship” game…I’ve been the victim and the perp before. I don’t think of it as game though; just being honest. And I hate to admit it, but #2 is gold. That ish works. The others only work on rookies. I’m not too familiar with #5…probably because it only works for about 2 seconds and then any woman with options will lose interest.
I’m trying to think of things women say when we’re “running game,” but I think game for a woman is different from a man’s game. For one, the only thing most of us need to say in order to get some is “yes.” So I think we use game not to pull anybody but just to keep our options open while we’re choosing.
Oops, wasn’t done…I meant to give an example. For instance, holding out on sex. Some women (not all, some) will say that they’re trying to wait for the right time to give it up to you, or that they have those “good girl” rules, when really they’re either deciding which one on the roster is gonna get it or someone else is already getting it. That kind of thing.
I’m trying to think of things women say when we’re “running game,” but I think game for a woman is different from a man’s game.
how about “it’s yours”?
how about “it’s yours”?
Exactly lol
and BTW- Jennifer Freeman just looks HUNGRY, I am sure that is why she bit homeboy, she needs a meal, and quick *that is all
yeah. she definitely looks like she’s been on the winehouse diet
I swear the hunger bug seems be going around. Just a few days ago my homegirl bit her husbands ear off, reason ninja was cheating.
seriously???? surely you jest
Nice post really
But what men want women to know? Men are simple, just learn how to understand them, for some tips check out —> this
I think the above is an attempt to gain more points on that S.I.T. from yesterday.
i’m just mad this made it through our spam filters
Haven’t finished reading the whole thing yet. I just wanted to ask, what’s with all the capital letters in your last two posts?
life changes and sh*t
You VSS’s should feel offended when you are in an approachable situation and not one single guy tries you.
You don’t have to bite on their game but you really need to appreciate it. It means you still got it. When they stop trying to holla…its over for you
Besides, depending on the guy, he already knows by your mannerisms and other body language whether or not to approach. If you are giving off the right signals, consciously or otherwise, the guy could walk up and say d@mned near anything and get the cell number.
Game is overrated. All one has to do is pay attention. Of course I can only speak for myself.
No Bullsh*t
“You don’t have to bite on their game but you really need to appreciate it. It means you still got it. When they stop trying to holla…its over for you”
Naw, if you live in a big city, there’s always that homeless guy who sits in front of the huge corporate building to make you feel special. It’s never over in a city of homeless dudes.
Hey Cheekie! You rectify that situation yet?
What situation do you speak of? I have a lot of situations. My abs is not one of them, FYI.
@Cheekie
“if you live in a big city, there’s always that homeless guy who sits in front of the huge corporate building to make you feel special”
Yep!! The homeless dude near Union Station tells me I got it Every Single Day!! (lol…but I’m serious)
Wait. Union Station? You in Chicago? I might have known this in the past. I obviously forgot.
@Cheekie
Oops!….Union Station in D.C.
lol…dammit. It’s hilarious how many things the Chi and D.C. have named the same.
@CNotes…I feel ya…I take the red and orange line on a daily… so I can only imagine the the stuff you hear,
see,smell,encounteron a day to day basis.@Jai
Yep! Gotta love hearing you’re beautiful from a guy who smells like he’s pissing ammonia. SMH
After reading only the title and the intro to this post. I just had to say Thanks Champ for enlightening us VSSs to the games men play.
I have almost fallen for the “I’m not ready for a relationship” and I’ve definitely been confused by the whole. I’m to busy nut I really want to see you thing. I mean if you didnybeant to see me wouldn’t you be DO busy that you can’t see me. Say that twice and I’m out it’s the whole I’ll squeeze you in thing that gets me.
Sigh!!! This is why I’ve given up. I’mma go get some more yorkies and br the dog lady.
Sigh!!! This is why I’ve given up. I’mma go get some more yorkies and br the dog lady.
#bestialityisnevertherightoption
LMBO!!!!! bwahaha! You know what i mean. The dogs would br my companions. Wait….that didn’t help, did it? Oh well…
I’m mad that you use sh*t, God, & trout (pause) in the same sentence….
This post completed me because not only was it true, you found a way to work Sutter Home into the mix!
Perfect example of #2:
My Friday night consisted of my friend picking me up and taking me pack to his place. He knows that I am going thru some things so he let me lay down on the couch and commenced to rubbing my feet. Dude damn near put me to sleep with them majestical (yes, majestical) hands. Then he was like…’why don’t you take off your clothes, go lay on my bed and get comfortable and I will give you a full body’. I immejiately gave him the ‘I know what the hell you tryna do’ side-eye. He laughed and was like…put on one of his tshirt and shorts. So as I lay on his bed in his oversized shirt and shorts he massaged me with the oils till I drooled. Just when I was like fcuk dis, Im bout ta strip up in here and get into some debauchery, he pulled my shirt down and was like ”do you feel better” (can girls get blue nuggets ?). He then said…it’s getting late, let me take you home. I’m sitting there like wth…he could get da business (and he knew it). He took me home and all I could do was think about him. I ended up calling him at 7:45 am on Saturday and spent the entire day with him. I made sure the makeup, hair and outfit were perfect because I almost felt rejected and I needed him to want me. It’s all apart of his game and it’s working.
Yep, Im fitna make that man mine
!
Le sigh….
*YAY for you Jai….and LMAO @ blue nuggets
damn, i hate game, but I have to give that dude a round of applause. he got you good…..
LMAO @ your leather-vest-wearing-in-the-summertime-a*s avatar
Ok, actually just read your comment. Girrrrrrrrl….
@Cheekie…did I forget to mention that he was rocking a wifebeater and some basketball shorts (again… Aye Dios Mio!!!! drool). all we needed were some candles, *Sutter Home and some Luther (I’m lying…I didnt need all of that …all I needed was the opportunity…le sigh)
LAWD!
That’s wild- one of the VSB’s on here detailed that same exact ploy in the comments of last week’s tease post. I wonder if that’s where your friend got it from, lol!
can girls get blue nuggets
Yup. And it’s doesn’t feel sweet at all
Jai you are hilarious!! Yes we can. This kind of game works and will work on even the most snotty woman. It’s 100%. That is why I don’t feel guilty about a little teasing now and then because men play sooo many games. You’re good. I would have drugged him and gave a few love pokes from my shank.
Just when I was like fcuk dis, Im bout ta strip up in here and get into some debauchery, he pulled my shirt down and was like ”do you feel better” (can girls get blue nuggets ?). He then said…it’s getting late, let me take you home
***this week’s nominee for the VSB “gamer of the year” award***
That sh!t there, works every time. Ol’ boy knows what he is doing and you are eating it up. Good to see you happy, girlie. And yes, women can get blue nuggets, and I have paid for it before, and I mean that in the best possible way.
@Jai
Game at its finest! Love it!
“You can be intimidating”
Do guys actually say that to women? Seems pretty weak to me. I get the mind-trick but would a woman of substance respect a man who let that BS escape his lips?
I’m sincerely surprised with this one. I thought this was a thing we womens (wrongly) assume about men who aren’t into us. lol I’ve never heard a man actually express it. Interesting…
The ‘I wouldn’t do that…I’m a gentleman and I respect you’ is one of the biggest
crocks of shytgames that men love to play.***sidebar All of these games can and will backfire if not executed properly.
Now you know and knowing is half the battle.
G.I. Joe
All this sh*t is old hat, might work if you are a youngin/green *orange crush shrug* esp ignoring a highly attractive person or acting aloof etc LOL
now on the contrary someone who delights, pleasantly surprises,and can stimulate the mental first, is the order of the day…….
I recently met the “I’m not ready for a relationship”, “Super busy” guy. I kept it moving, cause if you’re too busy then I’m not going to chase you. I don’t have to.
What about the guy who sends you a text at 4:30 am to say that his life is meaningless without you, after you’ve been broken up for six months. Now, that’s game.
What about the guy who sends you a text at 4:30 am to say that his life is meaningless without you, after you’ve been broken up for six months. Now, that’s game.
actually, this is just pathetic
1. “I’m not ready for a relationship right now”
This may or may not be game. If a dude is trying to get himself together or has a lot on his plate bringing a woman into the fold would not be fair to her. If he know he can’t give his all why lie about it?
2. “You’re nobody to me”
I’ve been accused of doing this. I don’t do it on purpose. I just assume all women that are highly physically attractive see me the same way. If I get a vibe from you that you are on some BS then I will act this way toward you also.
3. “You can be intimidating”
This isn’t game. This is pandering punk ish plain and simple. Men are winning by telling them this? The fcuk do I look like telling a woman she can be intimidating? Nah, son. Not me.
4. “A woman like you is out of my league”
Ninjas get draws saying stuff like this? Even as a 1.5 I would never tell a woman this. Even if it’s true. Once again women are giving dudes play for pandering, brown-nosing, punk ish?
5. “I don’t know. I’ll try to fit you in, but I’m just really busy with a few projects right now”
This is game for men and women. If someone wants to make time they will plain and simple.
LOL
I agree with your commentary on #3 and #4 wholeheartedly. If someone actually feels like this, they should fake it until they make it regarding confidence.
If he know he can’t give his all why lie about it?
theres a difference between saying that when you first meet a woman, and when she’s straddling you on your couch.
I really would like to send this to some women but:
1) They don’t want to hear this from me, you or anyone
2) Even if they did, your blog is too close for comfort. I found out in real life, a lot of my circle reads your whole effing blogroll. For this, I hate both of y’all. See what I did? I made this about me! Ego centrism is fun!
For this, I hate both of y’all. See what I did? I made this about me! Ego centrism is fun!
you’re not trying to game me here, are you?
Game recognize game and you lookin kinda unfamiliar…couldnt help myself
I wanted to quote Riley so bad! Great minds!
Yeah, this comment thread is nothing without this quote. Good look, Jai.
#4 only works if you feel like she’s kind of feeling you already. If she’s not feeling you, and if that’s how you really do feel, she’ll drop you quick fast and in a hurry after you say that.
NONE of it works unless she is willing to tango honey….she has to already want the dude in all cases LLS!
#4 only works if you feel like she’s kind of feeling you already.
you could, though, make her think that she wants you. it’s the jedi mind trick luke did on leia in the xxx version of the empire strikes back
#5 “…I’m just really busy” speaks to my heart. Unfortunately, I don’t know if my ex used this as game or if he really believed his own hype and thought he was that busy. I realized it was game when he tried to turn it on me noting my busy schedule (his words not mine).
He used to go on and on about how he was handling his business and doing what he had to do to which I had to refrain from offering him a cookie (no Steve Harvey) for meeting his obligations. I remember explaining to him that people do what they have to do because duh…they have to do it and what matters is what people do on their own free will. In the midst of my explanation I had a light bulb moment, recognized game, and chunked the deuces. Oh, and I’m pretty sure I intimidated him
In the midst of my explanation I had a light bulb moment, recognized game, and chunked the deuces.
you took a sh*t on him? thats nasty and impressive at the same time
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=chunk+the+deuce
I actually thought about the other use of the phrase and while I did not take a sh*t on ol’ boy he did in fact deserve it.
For some reason, nonchalance from a woman is some mean game. Like, let’s say you break up and TRULY break up. Like, no contact whatsoever. Dude ends up being the one constantly calling
and stalking. WTF gives?mmm hmmm
Not even in just breaking-up but on some regular getting to know type stuff… maybe I’ll return your phones, maybe I won’t depends on if I’m in the mood… lol ninjas be SOOOO pressed. Hilarious!!!!
Yeah, on the regulah tip it definitely works. I just put the breaking up part because it’s so extreme. Like, even if it’s a mutual break up. Especially if he was the one in the wrong…
Even better when THEY call it off you be hella nonchalant… Get this joke… I had a ninja give me the “let’s slow down, isht is moving fast so I’m just gon fall back” line (whaa, he ain’t even see how the booty work yet, but ok) and I was like “Ok great, dat makes perfect sense, yeah you do that… so we just cool, right?” Ahhaha Next thing I know dude calling and calling talmbout “Why you don’t call me no more? You just disappeared”… O.O My ninja it’s been ONE WEEK- 7-effing DAYS, is you serious? Ugh!
Wait, I should add I kinda swindled him into phone chex, then he wanted to slow it down… lol… I’m sorry, what was my point again?
lmao…that sounds like some dude I was talkin to. He left on some whiny ish saying we should be just friends and I was like…ok (I mean, after the back and forth arguing…I just ended with ok lol). He texts me like a week later talmbout…”what, you don’t F*ck with me no mo’?!!”
O_______________O
I’m like, “Naw, we cool.” lmao
LOL… ninjas get hella emotional when they get lightweight rejected- bwahahaha
Cosign! I never ever ever ever sweat a man. I try to maintain and give a slight challenge until I’m ready to ATTACK. lol No, seriously but yes. And guess what? It works. Call it a game but men respond so much better to a woman with reservations.
Champ, I may have to begin excommunication procedures on grounds of treason. You have any idea how many guys are just getting their license and this is the only training that they have? You just turned the game into hamburger hill! THE HUMANITY!
In all seriousness though, I’ve been all up and through this mess (HU grad, and not through experience, but vicariously) so trust, this nonsense is just the tip of the iceberg, except for number five which is an accurate claim. You can’t hate on a brother for trying to get his grind on and every dude I know that has ever said this, has meant it (at least to my knowledge), including myself. It’s true that you will make time for what you want to make time for, but every second that a brother truly on his grind spends with a/his girl is literally taking something away from him. To the ladies: I’m not saying that there aren’t brothers that will try to get you with this, but if your really after a dude and he tells you this, maybe you should ask him what he’s doing like that.
You have any idea how many guys are just getting their license and this is the only training that they have? You just turned the game into hamburger hill! THE HUMANITY!
lol, like i said on twitter last night, those saying today’s post is giving away too many “secrets”, if your game only consists of “5 Things…” you need to step your game up.
I will never understand this…“I’m not ready for a relationship right now.” So why even date if you’re not ready for a relationship? I think it’s just time wasted on both parties.
So why even date if you’re not ready for a relationship?
ego and the potential of wet penis
Dating is an activity in itself… getting to know different people, go to movies with someone we find interesting and funny… etc… etc… Dating does not necessarily mean “leads to a relationship”… At least, in my mind they imply very different obligations, duties etc…
#1: Pure unadulterated truth.
#2: If seen my friends try this and it works some of the time. The idea just backfires too much IMHO to be used. Besides, most women that get hooked by that tactic seem to be way too self-centered anyways.
#3:Now there might me 1 area in a woman’s life where she has her stuff together and you may still be working on it. That may be intimidating, maybe. If this is meant as a blanket statement about a woman born of another woman, the man saying it is soft as Charmin. Real Talk. Cue Riley Freeman.
#4. Ugly guys try this and it works. Kudos to them but I don’t need it.
#5. More pure unfiltered gospel, ladies. Relax and take notes. Biggie Smalls.
The Champ’s snitch game is so proper right now. Sammy The Bull.
“The Champ’s snitch game is so proper right now.”
Yeah, just wait ’til e-StringerBell hears about this…
#2 works on most women my friend. Pretending like you don’t want it makes her wanna give it.
@SFG
It certainly does my kitty. It certainly does.
Muuhahahahaaa! *devilishly twiddling my villainesque mouthstach*
p.s. Regarding your post below, from doggy to froggy in one swift stroke.
‘Froggystyle’ by Nuttin’ Nice. Remember that early 90′s jam.
A dat mi seh…jus collapse pon it. LOL You so bad I can see you running this game mixed with word play. I remember that song though. 90′s love jams kilt it. Lmao.
I don’t have game, I have charm.
There’s a difference.
Co-sign, my friend. People think I have game and I tell them I don’t. I am just charming and a fairly strapping young lad. With game, there is usually an agenda involved. With charm, you just go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may.
@Mr SoBo and CBG
“I don’t have game, I have charm.”
“With charm, you just go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may”
Boooo dats GAME!
o_O…Whenever I see CBG and Sobo comment together, I think “Choo Choo”. I love trains. lmao
J/k!!!!
@Yeah…So
It’s the 3C’s baby.
Charm, Confidence and Charisma.
Who needs game when you have all 3 in your possession?
@SoBo PUH-Leez… Y’all unicorn mafia ninjas is summa da most game runningest mofos on here #Iseeyouninjas
@SFG
So long as I’m the conductor on that train, you got yourself a deal.
But only after I thoroughly inspect the cabin in and out from the front to the rear of the car, that I will finally blow my whistle, and yell, “All aboooard”. At which point I CBG is more than welcome to enjoy his passenger rights.
@Yeah…So
Don’t let me bring my Unicorn Horn over to you so you can see how magically fast your pants get charmed off that @$$.
So that’s what it’s called! And here I thought it was just being friendly.
@Mr SoBo… see dats that isht! SMH… well, unless you gon do it
@Sobo
All aboard? Not everyone has a ticket! I don’t even know why I play with you.
SMH you are nasty.
@SFG,
You are such a pervert….but it is so sessy. lol Sobo reminds me of some of my friends that I grew up with that say things with reckless abandon, but do it with class and intelligence. I’d be his wingman anyday. Less work for me.
@Yeah…So,
Boooooo, no it’s not. It’s just me. If women fall for me with all of the uber-geekiness I possess, then all of those years of rejection and dry wang would have been worth it.
@Mr SoBo,
You’s a fool, my ni@@a, but I will be the conductor on that train. SFG is a bad influence. lol
@CBG “dry wang” lol… wutever, dis conversation is done.
FYI… I can peep “geek turn chic” game a mile away!
@CBG
Everytime I read Sobo’s comments, I realize I could never date my equal. i loved the fact that I was nastier than my ex. If a guy was as nasty as me, I would be scared…seriously. I’m glad you’re a sessy gentlemen…and big…and strong…with glasses…and you can be agressive…and tease me yeah I liked to be teased. Oh, what? Good night.
“I don’t have game, I have charm.”
Tshirt?
No chain around his neck but watch out for the charm
Agreed.
I wholeheartedly disagree.
You pretend not to want me = you don’t want me ==> I don’t want you. Period.
You always disagree with me Sula but I still heart you! lol Actually #2 works on more conceited girls who think all men must want her, right?
And consequently, #2 does NOT work on women who don’t think they’re beautiful….because the men’s behaviour will reinforce her opinion.
It’s healthy debate… and that’s always good.
I really don’t know who it does work on, what I know for sure is that it doesn’t work on me… and that’s the only authority I can speak on.
If seen my friends try this and it works some of the time. The idea just backfires too much IMHO to be used. Besides, most women that get hooked by that tactic seem to be way too self-centered anyways.
that’s why this only works with extremely attractive women who are used to guys being at their beck and call. the vast majority of women don’t get that type of perpetual attention, so they wont even notice that a guy isn’t paying them any mind
I absolutely love this article. I’ll be reading your stuff from now on! Are you on Twitter?
-Devin
o_O
http://twitter.com/VSBdotcom
I had someone not to long ago kick the ‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ line to me recently. When I responded with the swift..’oh well it was really nice getting to know you.’ dude thought I was joking. Five years ago I would have rolled with it with the mindset of ‘well you never know, lets just see where it goes. I learned that lesson, no need to take the class again.
practice makes perfect and sh*t
I agree Suga
My daddy told me when I was in highscool, that the fear of loss is one of the strongest fears out there. I DON’T run game, I’ve just developed a very high tolerance for experiencing loss.
My game is this: ninja, as long as I have an 11 inch hip to waist ratio, straight teeth, college degrees and hair all down my back – getting another ninja ain’t nothing but somethin to do.
Don’t you ever get to thinking you’re irreplaceable #Beyonce
ignoring the beautiful woman is the best swindle of all time. play her inflated ego against itself. this could also backfire. depending on her attitude towards men she might take this as a slight and cause her not to like you at all.
“who does this dude think he is that he can’t even remember my name. eff that n*gga.”
ignoring the beautiful woman is the best swindle of all time. play her inflated ego against itself. this could also backfire. depending on her attitude towards men she might take this as a slight and cause her not to like you at all
this is probably the most successful game technique out of the ones listed. it even partially explains why men in relationships become more attractive to some women
After reading a dozen or so comments, I have come to the realization that I am a sh*tty best friend. For every “game” that was mention on that list, I have a dumb a$$ friend, who fell for it. Now, back in the day, I did care. In fact, I was known through my social circle as a board-certified CB-er (c*ck blocker). I was known as Captain CB, by my friends. I stopped my evil reign of giving men cases of blue ba**s and empty wallets, after a former friend of mine had bump uglies with an ex of mine. Apparently, according to her, if he was so great for me then she should have a crack at him.
Now, I am one of those people who believe if another person (especially if it is another woman) cannot recognize the bull-hickety that is coming out of a guy’s mouth, then why should I intervene and shoot this man’s game down.
Now, I am one of those people who believe if another person (especially if it is another woman) cannot recognize the bull-hickety that is coming out of a guy’s mouth, then why should I intervene and shoot this man’s game down.
so basically, you’re like j-woww and snooki on jersey shore (in regards to sammie)
Yes, in a nut shell…
Except I don’t have the orange skin and I hate house music…
Methinks a certain amount of game is necessary in life. Keeps it interesting, as long as the joke’s not on you. Whether running game is part of someone’s defence mechanism is another conversation…
And some of these work for women too, you’re right. I use/ have used 1,2, and 5…
Sadly, a lot of people get it confused, as it’s been stated above, people make time and effort for that which is important to them.As my mum likes to say there ain’t that much busy-ness in the world.
Wait a minute, stop the presses! Men play games? Nawww, get outta here. You mean they don’t mean what they say and say what they mean? So a sista imposing rules for herself aint that crazy then huh? I thought men don’t like games? They want us to follow through on what we say. SMH I won’t beat a dead horse so moving on…
I think the real question is WHY do men play games like above? I think it’s to maximize on the punny potential cause let’s face it…until a man feels like he’s running out of time, he isn’t the biggest fan of being committed. The men that play these line games are simply trying to avoid the “boyfriend” title until they are ready…whenever that is.
I don’t get too many lines, I get the “pretendos”. The guys that pretend to be a prince then I discover they’re really a frog. That takes alot of work for a woman. Lots of reading in between the lines, pickiness, and yes RULES. (Unless you’re a frog yourself then you both can get into one of my favorite positions.
froggy
I really hadn’t thought about it like this. I mean I wad gonna say kiddies to champ for admitting mean play games. But I love how you directly tied this to the fact that women NEED rules to make sure they don’t get played!!!
Excellent!!!
Thanks!!
Co-sign.
@SFG: sorry, i somehow missed your post before i posted my comment! or maybe i was seeing red..
either way.. we are e-sis’s for this reason..i co-to-the-motha-effin-sign. 99 and 3/4% guaranteed. kid, you’ll move mountains.
if we’re crazy – we’re crazy for a reason. and if the a$$ to waist ratio is nice, they’ll bypass the crazy.
damned if we do. damned if we dont.
Wouldn’t a better defense against ‘games’ simply be a healthy dose of common sense? ‘Rules’ don’t work for the same reason that laws don’t: everybody is a special case, and everyone is different. You’ll probably never know how many solid brothers you missed out on that didn’t want to play by your ‘rules’. I’m not saying you should do what makes you uncomfortable, but in this situation, it seems that this one size fits all thing rarely fits anyone.
It hasn’t failed me yet. I do what works for me and me only. There is no solid rule nor do I wait a specific amount of days. It’s just an idea that I will try my hardest (pause) not to let go and give every part of me without fully knowing the man…because I (as in me not speaking for other women) would regret going all the way with a man who wasn’t serious about me.
Btw, if all women had to do was turn on the “common sense” when they met a man they liked…we wouldn’t have half the problems we do and it would be called “game”. The stuff Champ mentioned above works. That’s why I try to be on guard as to not get played by this game. Trust my D is right and I got a fabulous Tight End. Go team go…and sh*t.
I agree with the first part but disagree with the second. I’m so glad to hear that you’re not one of those that have this ridiculous notion that if you wait some predetermined amount of days to give it up you are somehow ‘unplayable’.
Now, for the second part: is it not common sense that if someone is very attractive (for whatever reason) and eligible that they will have many suitors/suitresses? So, wouldn’t common sense inform one that they should be very careful when dealing with issues of commitment/exclusivity from that person? I’m not speaking of you in particular as it appears that you’ve already become somewhat versed in common sense, but for the hypothetical sista’, wouldn’t just that observation, if realized, lead women to “play the game” in a different manner?
Absolutely! That’s how it should go. We should excercise judgement and discretion with all people, not just those who are attractive. I’ve met some ugly players, trust me. My point was that most women are emotional by nature. When we like a man, sometimes we tend to justify the obvious red flags or see what we want to see…especially when the man is fine. It’s also safe to say that some people are just really good liars. In the beginning, you do not “see” everything. For example, you will probably only meet him. You will have no idea where he lives, meet his friends, or his family until he decides to committ to you. In the beginning, a person can show you all of their good qualities while the bad ones do not come out until an arguement of some sort. It’s not always this way but I do realize that even the smartest person can get got. No one is immune to trickery. It’s common sense that tells me it takes TIME to get to know a man. So I give myself time before I do certain things. This doesn’t make me “unplayable” but trust me when I tell you it drastically decreases the amount of times I’ve been played by a man.
Wouldn’t a better defense against ‘games’ simply be a healthy dose of common sense?
I would say…. but you know what they say: “the funny thing about common sense is that it’s not that common…”
The thing is though… Does it really 3 months to figure out that someone is spiting BS? Shouldn’t that appear very early on?
There’s no specific amount of time. 90 day rule is just a theory to me. It could take forever. For example, I was with my ex for 10 years. I trusted him and he did something in the 9th year to lose my trust. So the 3 month is null and void. I personally, just like to get to know men before I get intimate but I have no problem discussing intimacy on the vsb blog.
Unfortunately, game is necessary because there is always someone out there running it.
It’s the mating dance on steroids. Unfortunately, many mofos (men & women) out there take it too far with deception and gross misrepresentation of oneself to the point people get hurt.
But I digress,……anyways…..
Here is one to add to the list. It is not game per say, but oddly enough, it generates positive results.
Informing the other party that you are involved or have a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Unavailability makes an individual that much more desireable. We all know how much more attention we get once we reveal we are ‘off the market’. Strangers want to get to know you. Folks that weren’t interested all of a sudden can’t seem to get enough of you. Other folks from the past come out of the woodwork. Over the top flattery and sweet nothings rain down upon you from the storm clouds that are their lips. Extra sweet and disgustingly sugary compliments come flying your way along with moist panties and sprinkled droplets from the honey pot. A phenomenon I call, honey dew.
Yes, being involved or saying you’re seeing someone will surround you with more @$$ than a donkey farm.
Yes, we have a word for the type of women who want a married man: Chicken Head. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but there are alot of women out there and all kinds at that. The women you are speaking about, you shouldn’t want anyway. Btw, I will find a way to use “honey dew”. LOL
Perhaps. But like hoes, chickens gotta eat too.
“Said I throw me corn. But me no call nuh fowl.
I saying, cook-cook-cook. Cluck-cluck-cluck.”
#DEAD! yaad man
I never liked the idea of trying to run game on girls.. Feels dishonest.. Cuz literally it’s preying on a woman’s weak points and attempting to manipulate her into doing what you want.. And of course if you do it right and she’s inexperienced, you got her. That’s not me..
Ha!! Now there’s running game for you. The only way to avoid it, ladies, is to not believe a single word a man says (and take your time, no matter what).. Cuz as you learn more about the game, the game continues to evolve.
classic! smh
Hmm…I was gonna say that first paragraph sounded like game to me.
Bullsh*t detector: functional
Score!
I kind of mad now, because even when I’m not running game, I’m apparently running game.
EXACTLY!
lol dayum, this comment was pretty clever.
As an avid user of these lines and others I don’t think the Champ’s list counts as game, because most women (read: mature women that have fell for these lines before) know about these tricks of the trade, yet they still deal with men who use them because they’re desperate or they just let good d*ck cloud their judgement.
On of my favorite lines is telling a chick that, I’m already involved but I’m unhappy. This whole line is a lie, because I’m single. I usually drop this line after taking them on a nice date and saying all the right things. Like I said this works well on desperate females … mostly the ones that will fall for a guy with a nice smile.
This works because females respect me more for telling the “truth” about me having a girlfriend. Second, they already view me as a nice guy and since they’re so desperate to find a man, they have a hard time of letting me go … and don’t let me get a chance to lay the pipe … because then it’s a wrap. This also works in my favor because since they believe that I have someone, I don’t have to spend a lot of free time with them. This works just like Champs “Busy man” line.
And when I get tired of them, I use the line that I want to make things work with my Girlfriend and that I can’t be fooling around with you anymore.
That’s some cold isht eff yo couch! Cold-blooded. Rick James.
um.. eff you eff yo couch. i hope someone throws your couch in the dumpster and you have to sleep on a floor.
that is all.
wow. that’s f*cked up. like really f*cked up. but help me understand this line, “they have a hard time of letting me go … and don’t let me get a chance to lay the pipe … because then it’s a wrap.”
if you’re not given the chance to the lay the pipe, what are you doing all of this for? companionship? was this a typo. my initial thought that you were in this for the p*ssy, but apparently not. is it for hand-holding?
nevermind. i had to read this in my sista girl voice. “shhhhheit, and don’t let me get a chance to lay the pipe, *sucks teef* because then it’s a wrap”
do you roll your neck when you say that too?
p.s.- i hope your effin’ couch has bedbugs. kisses.
lol
This probably cracked me up more than anything today.
eff yo couch -Just sayin, whenever dudes brag about their “pipe-layin”, they only do, because none of the women will,,,now that’s a wrap *zing
Why is it fcucked up though? Why is someone trying to “help a man be happy” if he has a girlfriend? I say they get what they deserve… But *shrug* that’s just me…
See now, this is what happens when someone stumbles onto a conversation about some real game somewhere , but walked away and has not been properly shown how to use it.
The whole declaring what The Champ has said in this post as not game, is half-assed trying to achieve the same goal of “putting it all out there”, because I know about it all.
See , where you messed up was, (and this is because you didn’t receive the true sanctioned game) is you confused the knowledge of this information as “Playing games”. Your not supposed to “Expose” the game, and then come down and play the game yourself. Your supposed to John Madden play-by-play from a Skybox pimpin.
The fact that you employ what only works on desperate women, has severely limited your caliber. Desperate women are down 20% this month in the Dow Jones index.
Now that you know you should be in the Skybox, elevate your Game. This one’s on the house.
This makes me sad because I have no game (even though I’ve been accused of running game before…but does it count if you don’t even know that’s what you’re doing???) and I’ve probably fallen for all kinds of game…possibly even some variant of at least 3 items on this list. And I’ve even fallen for the I have no game game…
dating sucks.
Don’t worry, girl….you’re not alone. I’m pretty sure I have no game, and if I do, I’m not aware of it (does that qualify as the ‘I have no game’ game??). All you can do is keep your eyes and ears open before you decide to open your heart…
“All you can do is keep your eyes and ears open before you decide to open your heart…”
Awww DG… dat was sweet (GAME!)
” I’m pretty sure I have no game, and if I do, I’m not aware of it (does that qualify as the ‘I have no game’ game)??”
Yup, at it’s best.
My daddy told me when I was in highscool, that the fear of loss is one of the strongest fears out there. I DON’T run game, I’ve just developed a very high tolerance for experiencing loss.
My game is this: ninja, as long as I have an 11 inch hip to waist ratio, straight teeth, college degrees and hair all down my back – getting another ninja ain’t nothing but somethin to do.
Don’t you ever get to thinking you’re irreplaceable #Beyonce
“ninja, as long as I have an 11 inch hip to waist ratio, straight teeth, college degrees and hair all down my back – getting another ninja ain’t nothing but somethin to do.”
hmmm… you seem intimidating and/or out of my league… whichever one works! lol
LOL – As a Caliornia-Belle (From Cali, resides in the south) I would NEVER tell a man this. It just goes without saying. Discretion always.
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LOL… that’s a great attitude to have though. i carry myself knowing that I will NEVER have a problem meeting, pulling, or getting women.
Advice given to me by my Aunt about the FIRST INTIMATE ENCOUNTER
ROCK THAT NINJA’S WORLD…. Instead of being reserved and pretending you are not as freaky as you really are, be your all out Appolonia Nasty Girl. Do everything you think that man could only dream about in his wildest fantasies. Give him the time of his life, every ounce of passion you can muster up. DOMINATE!!! I am pretty sure that most of us are respectable women that don’t outwardly express our sexuality and desires visably on a level of that being only what a man sees when he sees you… Doing this will totally mess his head up. AND THEN………
Don’t answer the phone. No communication is allowed.. as a matter of fact, straight up dissappear for 2 days. Don’t facebook, post on vsb, answer your phone, or any txt messages for him. Then, after that time has passed politley take his call, let him know that you have been really busy at work ( or what ever ) and that you had a wonderful time. Then tell him you will call him on Thursday.
I have only had the oppertunity to try this once, and that was almost 2 years ago….. FYI He is still around, and Thursday night is date night
Supreme Game:
~Having a blog called Very Smart Brothas that appeals overwhelmingly to the female psyche with entries such as “5 Things Men Say (and do) When We’re Just Running Game” that is guaranteed to keep (indeed, add to) the number of female readers coming back for more day after day after day…
(I see what you doing, Champ…well played, sir…well played)
Lmao! we’re jeopardizing the work/corporate game for this vsb game. Now that’s messin wit my money!
Ok let me say this….
i met this guy and we were dating for quite a bit and just when i thought yeah it looks like we about to get together something pops up ( he said to me im just not ready for a relationship) so anyway i saw him recently at a family friend anniversary and i was looking all that lol give it a week later i find out through facebook ( yes through facebook) he’s in a relationship with a girl can i mention she was a 2520 so yh i was vex but in some kind of sick way i felt like this was coming and i wasn’t too surprised could that be my conscience, that felt i was being played
I have been reading VSB for the past couple of weeks and have become an avid fan. However, I have read many references to “2520″ and I have no idea what that is! Can someone enlighten me?
@briteeyez
2520 = a white person. why or how..i dunno. no one has ever explained it to me either.
*the more you dont know shooting star
Game is a two-way street… how many times have any of my ninjas heard any of these… “I dont usually do this” (despite more than average happenstances of performing said ‘this’) or “I can’t cook” (despite providing for 3 younger siblings in a single parent household where mom worked 2 or 3 jobs) “I’m not romantic, I’m just not good at being flirtatious” (despite being being CEO/President of RomanceKits.com aka owns picnic basket, massage oils, poetry books, 20 different scented candles and assorted accessories)
been off with a kicka$$ migraine, playing catch up at work today..
this post makes bugs bunny-type of steam come outta my ears.
why?
how many posts have i read on vsb saying that men are straightforward, simple, dont read more into what ive said because i mean what i say and i mean what i do creatures? doesn’t this entire post fly in the face of this?
we (females) are made out to be overly emotional, over-reactive, crazy -when CLEARLY there is a reason. If I am to take a dude at face value, how/why can you turn around and call me stupid for doing just that? I can only make a judgement based on what I see and know. I’m not going to make a judgement on what I hope to see. THAT would be crazy.
in the end, all i really want (and this post does just that), is acknowledgement that men DO NOT always speak the simple truth, that some DO run game for the (hell/fun/sadistic pleasure) of it all, and maybe just maybe when a chick decides to slash your tires or swallow a whole bunch of pills – she’s doing that because of YOUR actions. she might have been a crazy psychotic bish before you decided to play inception on her heart, but chances are she wasn’t.
please no tomatoes..im wearing white pants and i have a date this evening. the expected boos, hisses and jeers are fine.
You caught that too huh? Read my comment. That’s why I really have to laugh sometimes. Of course men play games, tons.
It brings me back to when the tomatoes were being thrown at me when we were talking about 90 day rules, etc. I even remember some silly VSSs cosigning with the men. All I was thinking to myself is these foolish women are the ones who constantly get played. Not I. I use my head. Pun.
As someone who enjoys tomatoes, ya’ll (keisha and SFG) are making me hungry. Rude.
LMAO @ Cheekie.
*takes tangent…so you aren’t supposed to put ketchup on a hotdog in Chi..can you answer WHY?? Isnt a tomatoe a derivative of ketchup?? My sis and I asked like how many people, and no one could answer the question. lol. I NEED to know!!
thanks,
management.
Yeah, naw. Chitown hotdogs are without ketchup. Like, if you go to some places and ask for ketchup, they’ll straight get mad at you. No lie. It’s silly, really. But, maybe that’s because I’m kinda “meh” about hotdogs anyway. Like, they good, but I can take ‘em or leave ‘em. And only really eat them when I have a taste for them.
And yeah a tomatoe is a derivative of ketchup, but without all the sugar. That’s my answer. *@kanyewest shrug*
Ion’t even know why y’all bother… deez ninjas don’t know what they want one sekkint to the next! #ninjasbye
I always tell the truth, even when I lie.
@Shay
LOL me too
Did the post mention somewhere that all men do this? Because I seem to have missed that.
DAYUM, Sula. lol
But, actually I agree. Especially reading the comments. There are still men who are saying they mean what they say when they say the quotes above. I think ultimately there are men who play games just as there are women who do. And anyone who says otherwise is on some Pinnochio ish. Men nor women are a monolith, yadda yadda yadda…
I need a drink.
I need a drink.
Don’t we all?
couldnt have answered Sula’s q better myself. thanks Cheekie.
forgot my disclaimer that not all men are a$$es and not all women are crazy. e__O
Miss Keisha, good point
Game that the women-folk run:
1) “Hi friend…” – any sentence, phrase, or question that begins with these two words is evil and should be avoided like Karrine Steffans at an All-Star after party for any major sport.
2) “You’re so silly!” – Your humor makes her tingle.
3) “Sooo… what do you have up for the weekend?” – if you respond, “Nothing much,” then you just fell into the trap. she’s fishing for any holes in your plans or free time you may have while wondering why you haven’t made plans to marry her or take her out.
4) She offers to cook for you? Game! She knows that signature dish of her’s is gonna leave a lasting impression.
*If she’s from N.O. or the Carribbean, there’s a 99% chance there’s something in the food that will have you proposing marriage by the night’s end and/or semi-stalking her.
5) [You're such a good man] Why aren’t you married/taken/boo’d up yet? – Meaning, “What’s wrong you? There’s gotta be a reason you can’t maintain a good relationship. You got kids? How many babymama’s you got? Seriously, what’s wrong with you?”
Yeah I’m a serial “Whaaa, but we friends” killer… duh well.
Lol. yeah that phrase is a jedi mind trick… that a sith would use!
Uhn huh, exactly… I liken it to
1. “I’m not ready for a relationship right now” game
2. “You’re nobody to me” game
and
6. “I don’t have game” game
all nicely rolled-up and packaged into one.
if this comment were a big booty redbone named Rhonda, I’d marry it.
“I have no game it’s just some b*tches understand my story.”
Classic.
@Southern Charm
“If she’s from N.O. or the Carribbean, there’s a 99% chance there’s something in the food that will have you proposing marriage by the night’s end and/or semi-stalking her”
(Using “white out” on the “birthplace” line of my Birth Certificate) : )
“*If she’s from N.O. or the Carribbean, there’s a 99% chance there’s something in the food that will have you proposing marriage by the night’s end and/or semi-stalking her.”
this made me laugh out loud. thanks for that!
oops. this was supposed to be a reply to Southern Charm.
*hangs head in shame.
emm…champ, there’s some men in black suits from the M.E.N council who wanna have a word with you…
I don’t sell dreams. I grant wishes.
Game!
My magic wand begs to differ.
*In Best Comic Book Guy from the Simpsons voice* “Best post E-VERRR!”
Anyway VSB.com, can you think of anything else men (and women) say (or do) when they’re just running game?
^Yes, a dude telling you after you two weren’t in touch for a bit that it’s your fault because “you got scurred”. Or that you were dodging him.
Him: You were dodging me. Next time, know you don’t have to be scurred.
Me: e_O . You got jokes…. * rolling eyes*
Also, has anyone been gamed into doing something they probably wouldn’t have done otherwise?
^Yes, but I spoke on that before. I was younger and isn’t it a ‘right of passage’ as you grow?
forgot to add: *rolls eyes and walks away*
1. “I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”
I’ve never used this as game. Anytime I said this to a woman, I meant it. But more specifically, I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship with them.
In my mind, everyone is “ready” for a relationship if the right person come along.
2. “You’re nobody to me.”
It works. A lot. Especially on the chicks that think you owe them something by being allowed to stand in their presence. If you fall for this swindle chances are that for one, you’re horribly insecure as evidenced by the fact that you only notice people that ignore you.
And two, YOUR attitude is the problem, and whatever you get as a result for falling for this you likely deserve.
3. “You can be intimidating.”
To me, this is a simp move that said simp will likely follow up with “let me buy you a ____.” Only a man absent of any kind of self-worth, and who truly cannot think of anything better to say would dare break this one out. Should you really be that intimidated by women, I’d suggest you slam a shot (or two) back before approaching them.
Or grow some nuts.
4. “A woman like you is out of my league.”
Another simp move of epic proportions. I’m embarrassed to say that I actually know a dude that would say this to women. And not once, have I seen it work. Usually they’ll give him an awkward stare before saying something to the effect of “yea….you’re probably right.”
5. “The busy man.”
This has been used to characterize me before, and it’s something I never got. My thing was I didn’t see a point making appointments that I wasn’t sure I’d be able to keep.
She saw it as game, but I saw it as being honest.
Now, if six months after you met dude he still hasn’t had time for you, then it’s time to apply some common sense.
That is, he’s not that into you and you should move on.
To me, the concept of “game” is overblown. “Game” is what people with no other redeeming qualities need in order to attract the attention of the opposite sex. And as men, we tend to place a premium on this bulls**t.
The easiest way to grab the attention of the ladies is to be CONFIDENT, and be yourself.
Do that and you’ll have no problems whatsoever.
Now, if six months after you met dude he still hasn’t had time for you, then it’s time to apply some common sense.
Word.Life.
I think when people use strong language that they are workin up some game. If I do it it’s to start a fight. & that’s game in itself cuz I usually say something like “so long as you touching me baby” upon the threat of physical violence. Basicly I think sttong language is lieing and if they are any simlance of a human being they’ll refute. See weed out & attn. in one sweet small package. *Full nelson camel clutch flex on yo monkey ass*.
I’ll say this game for fools *Jamie Lidel stand up*. You want to play go play. But you want to get into a relationship that lasts. Get to the good part already…
really dude? i’ll say it if nobody else has…sir…you are a damm snitch. you are upsetting the balance of the universe…for web hits…scum.
twas funny to see it spelled out though…
This is extremely tactical though. Big picture is there are lots of ways to make black women swoon. I used to specialize in being different with a business focus. Travel, foreign languages, politics, etc. Women saw an ambitious guy who made a little money, was well-spoken etc. They didn’t see me as the guy they hook up and have fun, they saw me as potential husband and take him home to mother. Which always confounded my attempts to be a “player” in the past and meant I had to play games far more often and with much greater risk.
Also, I’ve learned humility takes women completely by surprise. They see it as negging, the guy not being interested. I see it as using their insecurity against them twice. Once showing disinterest, twice showing I could be a “good guy.”
At any rate, from a broader strategic perspective, I think making women, in particular black women, swoon is about projecting a humble ambition, strength of purpose and confidence in creating the next step for her to be comfortable mentally, emotionally and physically.
This shit is chess it ain’t checkers. (c) Denzel in Training Day
LMAO @ … releasing a line of urban professional lounge wear for midgets and new parolees …seriously Champ this is sickening uproarious
*sigh..i finally get to use that word*
Moving on…well here is one that I has been used on me one so many times. “I am just tryin to help u advance your career. I am mentor many sistas and I just see you as my protégé’
Dude….what are you doing?!? You broke the #1 rule of the Game!!! The game is sold…. NEVER told! You just TOLD the game, my brutha! You just TOLD the game! *lowering head and placing palm of hand over my entire face in shame and disgrace*
@The Champ ,
Alright Champ lol, game recognize game. While some people may freak out and say “Why did The Champ give up so much game? Why are you doing this! Your killin us!” , other people sit back, be coo, and say nothing because…
*Warning, real game spoiler ahead*,
Some of us have found out, through privileged information, that REAL game is having NO game at all, and even going as far as exposing as many of other people’s game as possible to make your game stronger. I call this game “The Terminator”. And no, there is no way to stop it. You can only build more Terminators.
So when you recognize another Terminator in action, go over and give that man an atta boy pat on the back!
Keep up the good fight!
I don’t know about “Terminating” other dudes… that sounds kind of harsh! LOL
But seriously, I do agree that it’s best to just be yourself…but be the BEST you that you can be. Everything else will fall into place.
This is a great list. I’ve never done #4, so I’m not sold on that one, but the rest are spot-on! For those taking notes LOL, It should be said that #3 has to be used ONLY after the point that it’s clear she’s attracted to you and the conversation is in full swing. Otherwise, it could potentially backfire. Then again, that’s why the call it “game.” There are fundamentals involved LOL
That’s why I don’t love them ho**! yes, thats right…I’m walking at the first sound of all the above and any other garbage I hear from men who are looking for a pacman loving old school atari playing girl who loves the with joystick….well because….My JOYstick is better than his……and its battery operated!
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Nice read, but I despise game even more after reading all this!! lol
Sigghhh…Number 5.
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Great blog post. Over time I’ve learned female meta-game. What’s more important than identifying and rejecting game is responding to it without looking bad (like an angry black woman) to higher caliber suitors. The best thing to do is to politely respond to everything but never give him your number. Rejection doesn’t have to make you look like the bad guy & you’ll gain nothing from pridefully calling him out.
You forgot one Champ…………..It’s not you, it’s me! Duh, IT IS YOU!
damn… i still feel “played” behind “the guilt trip muscle every attractive single woman develops after her 28th birthday.” im 29..u couldnt b closer to da truth!!! lmao r we THAT obvious??