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10 things i learned while in NYC for “the modern day matchmaker live”

definitely didn’t meet on the train

1. i’m not a relationship “expert”

to be honest, i didn’t just learn this in new york city. although i’ve co-founded a relationship-centric website and have benefited personally and financially from this particular “expertise”, i’ve never considered myself to be a dating and relationship source.

sure, i’m aware that (some) people do appreciate my advice and insights, but i’m also aware that this appreciation stems more from my ability to write dispassionately, objectively, and wittily about a subject most can’t be dispassionate, objective, and witty about than any deep reservoir of relationship knowledge.

actually, this dispassionateness is exactly why i’m not an expert. as pleased as i am to be able to help cultivate positive relationship discussion, i’m much more interested in the reaction to my writing than the reaction to what i actually say.

i’m bringing this up because this lack of passion is made even more apparent when sitting on a panel next to people like demetria lucas and kenya stevens, women possessing infectiously palpable energy when sharing their thoughts about relationships. when they spoke, their heartfelt anecdotes and advice and made it seem like they believed they were spreading the gospel truth. when i spoke, it felt like i was speaking on a subject i researched and observed instead of something i’ve lived and felt (which is kind of, but not really true, but more on that later)

2. sister toldja is…a sweetheart

although i was very aware that the uber-angry, man-shanking view some have of her wasn’t true, i assumed she’d be somewhat laconic, sarcastic, droll, and occasionally acerbically funny. basically, i was expecting to meet a womanist daria morgendorffer. sh*t, i even read her blog entries in a voice that can be best described as “what janeane garofalo would sound like if she grew up in brownsville”.

to my surprise, sister t is actually much more, for lack of a better term, southern than i imagined her to be. bubbly, gregarious, and affable, she’s much more belle than bea arthur, and it was bit unexpected to find out that everyone’s favorite feminist is one of the girliest girls i’ve ever met.

3. apparently, new york city is the world’s biggest nightclub

between the 8 dollar toll just to get into harlem (a fact which made my friend remark “i hate this f*cking city” at least 246 times in a 24 hour span), the drunk-acting drivers, the practice of just throwing trash on the corner, the randomly out of place and lascivious white women, and the seemingly perpetual background music (in the 22 hours i was there, i can’t remember not hearing any music for longer than a 30 second span. it felt like i was on the world’s drippiest episode of  sesame street), new york city is exactly like every wamo night in pittsburgh. who knew?

4. saying “hey, dumbasses, don’t listen to me or anyone else on the panel” probably isn’t the best thing to do in a roomful of people who paid 25 dollars to hear you and everyone else on the panel speak.

i won’t go into too much detail, but lets just say that my (paraphrasing) “hey, the problem with us (black people) is that we spend too much time listening to relationship experts” comment went over about as well as a fart on a submarine.

5. new york city is obviously filled with a bunch of dumb ass dudes

i know this seems harsh, but how else can you explain that roughly 15 guys showed up to an event filled with roughly 300 tipsy women practically ovulating by ovary osmosis? seriously, that show was like a sam’s club for single black men. there hasn’t been that many single and sexy black women in one place since wilt chamberlain’s wake

to be fair, i understand why a guy might have been hesitant to attend. while a favorable female/male ratio is a good thing, 15 women to every man shifts the speed from “favorable” to “f*cking ludicrous” and completely changes the approaching/bagging dynamic. also, the brunson factor would have made things more difficult than usual.

to expound, as a straight man, i feel absolutely no shame in saying that paul brunson–the modern day matchmaker–is, well, mr. perfect. why does this matter? well, any guy trying to holler at a woman at one of his events will have to deal with the “wait. i wanted a pocket sized paul to take home, not your mundane ‘i could have saved money and just met your ass on the train’ ass” factor.

when you add this to the fact that i haven’t even mentioned that approximately 10 of the ninjanets most popular black male personalities (brunson, anslem from nakedwithsockson, jozen from untiligetmarried, slim jackson, streetztalk, and seattle washington from singleblackmale and threewaystotakeit to name a few) were in attendance, and each had a sizable fan base present, maybe the black men of new york city aren’t so stupid after all.

6. everything sounds smarter with a british accent

i’m not saying that lola adesioye’s accent tempted me to transcribe every word she said the entire night into my gphone, but lola adesioye’s accent tempted me to transcribe every word she said the entire night into my gphone.

7. liz is liz

***debating whether to say anything about liz not attending the show because she didnt want to wait in line…despite the fact that i left her a complimentary ticket and all she had to do was go to the box office and say her name. yeah, i probably shouldn’t say anything about that. i’m sure she’ll attend the next time her friend and business partner drives seven hours through the appalachian mountains to nyc to appear on a panel***

8. there’s a quote from the wire for every situation

i drove up to new york with my closest friend. he coaches basketball in europe and just happened to be in pittsburgh last week, and i convinced him to make the trip with me (i also had to convince my cousin to let us stay with her, no small feat since my man is 6’8′, and most people aren’t too keen on having anonymous giant n*ggas sleep on their couches).

if you’re a vsb regular you probably know how much of a wire diehard i am, but my man (who actually introduced me to the show) surpasses and sh*ts on my wire fandom. seriously, if you asked him to rank the three most influential men in his life, his answer would probably include some combination of his dad, God, and bodie broadus.

anyway, with us two in the car together for approximately 14 hours–the round trip distance between nyc and pittsburghof a 30 hour span, every situation turned into a scene from the wire.

stuck in traffic? quote bunny colvin’s “f*ck you? no, f*ck me!!” from season three.

problems with the onstar system? quote avon’s “little man stay f*cking up” from season one

waitress mixes up your order at IHOP? do your best marlo stanfield “my name is my name!!!”

i could continue, but i get the feeling that the 17 of you still reading this want me to move on.

9. i still get surprised when meeting “regular lurkers”

after the show, i got the chance to meet approximately 15-20 fans of vsb, all people who told me they read regularly but never comment. judging from our stats, only maybe 2 to 3 percent of the people who read participate in the conversations, but i still have a tendency to assume that the only people reading are the ones who comment regularly, and it still shocks me to actually see evidence of how popular we’re becoming.

10. i’m not built for this sh*t…not yet, at least

the “written vs spoken word” dynamic came up in private conversations with sister t, anslem, and nikki “coco” nokes at various points of the night. basically, we all discussed how awkward the shift from “online persona” to “in-person” can be for us and our readers, and how difficult it can be to construct your words when speaking so that they have the same impact they usually do when they’re read.

for some this is a non-issue. panama, for instance, has a bit of a stream of consciousness writing style that allows his messages and insights to be heard the same way they’re read. on the other hand, much of what i write is specifically written just to be read; the types of language and humor i insert in my entries would lose their meaning if heard aloud.

this “problem” isn’t unique. most people who consider themselves to be writers and/or introverts tend to be somewhat underwhelming public speakers. but, in this particular instance, to promote the brand and myself, i’ll have to continue to step out of the comfort zone of my controlled keypad environment. and, occasionally, i’ll feel as unenthused about it as i was thursday night.

hopefully i’ll get better at extemporaneous “shifting” in time, but for now if i’m addressing a large group of people (panels and podcasts included), i need prompts, a script, a timeline, and at least three rum and cokes before i can get completely comfortable.

with that being said, between the pre-show, the interview with sister t, the panel, and the afterparty, i actually did have a great time. i even got to witness a live matchmaking, ate an apple and three mcdonalds double cheeseburgers, somehow managed to actually remember the names of five of the vsb lurkers i met while drunk, and had two of my favorite writers tell me that i was one of their favorites.

not quite an entire wheel of cheese, but still pretty damn impressive.

—the champ

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Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't.

  • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

    A lot of women learned how to properly throw their e-pannies at Slim Jackson via his and Sister Toldja’s vlog. O_O

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      That doggone chat stream in the vlog was HILAR! Approximately 49 pannies got thrown at the screen everytime Slim showed up.

      • http://www.nicknotnikki.blogspot.com Nick_L_Odeon

        LOL!! i kept mine on, thankyouberrymuchotacobell..
        it WAS quite obscene!! and swalton was in there “what the sam hill is going on!? i’m gonna need another man to show up!!”
        poor thing..

      • http://www.nicknotnikki.blogspot.com Nick_L_Odeon

        LOL!! i kept mine on, thankyouberrymuchotacobell..
        it WAS quite obscene!! and swalton was in there “what the sam hill is going on!? i’m gonna need another man to show up!!”
        poor thing..

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      That doggone chat stream in the vlog was HILAR! Approximately 49 pannies got thrown at the screen everytime Slim showed up.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      lol, slim was actually the first guy i met at the preshow (him, anslem, and i were the only ones on time). he’s a cool dude. super laid back.

      • http://threewaystotakeit.com Seattle Washington

        Don’t want to jump on an unrelated thread, but if I post now I’ll be in Guam.

        Thanks for the shout out and great meeting you in real life man. Best of luck with those public appearances. I tried to make a debut myself, but UStream shut me down.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          You weren’t there, Seattle…I don’t believe it. :P

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          You weren’t there, Seattle…I don’t believe it. :P

      • http://threewaystotakeit.com Seattle Washington

        Don’t want to jump on an unrelated thread, but if I post now I’ll be in Guam.

        Thanks for the shout out and great meeting you in real life man. Best of luck with those public appearances. I tried to make a debut myself, but UStream shut me down.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      lol, slim was actually the first guy i met at the preshow (him, anslem, and i were the only ones on time). he’s a cool dude. super laid back.

  • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

    A lot of women learned how to properly throw their e-pannies at Slim Jackson via his and Sister Toldja’s vlog. O_O

  • http://lizburr.com Liz

    How did I know I was gonna be on this list?

    Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate. Sorry to chicks who were there, maybe I am not talkin about you specifically, but you get enough chicks together it only takes one to ruin the whole pack (i know this from experience, and me nor any of my friends would agree to attend such a “situation” lol). I was actually quite surprised that the male ratio was so bad. Not that I was lookin for a man or anything.

    Anyway, I’ll catch you next time Champy. Lest we forget Panama has never met you in person. I don’t want to overexpose you to too much of my side of the VSB team lol.

    • legitimate_soul

      I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate. Sorry to chicks who were there, maybe I am not talkin about you specifically, but you get enough chicks together it only takes one to ruin the whole pack (i know this from experience, and me nor any of my friends would agree to attend such a “situation” lol).

      ^I can’t knock this reasoning at all.

      • miss t-lee

        I can dig it as well. :-)

        • coldsweat3

          Had I known the spot would be so nice I would have told ALLLL my homies in NYC to roll through!

        • coldsweat3

          Had I known the spot would be so nice I would have told ALLLL my homies in NYC to roll through!

      • miss t-lee

        I can dig it as well. :-)

    • legitimate_soul

      I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate. Sorry to chicks who were there, maybe I am not talkin about you specifically, but you get enough chicks together it only takes one to ruin the whole pack (i know this from experience, and me nor any of my friends would agree to attend such a “situation” lol).

      ^I can’t knock this reasoning at all.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      “Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate.”

      Said yet valid. But if we get a bunch of VSSs from here and get together, maybe it won’t be so desperate? It would be more fun to be had than desperation. VSSs don’t seem like desperate chicks, right? Right?! lol

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        Nuthin wrong with being desperate! I just don’t wanna be confused as such if I can help it lol. I’m always happy to hang with VSBs and VSSs though ;)

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        Nuthin wrong with being desperate! I just don’t wanna be confused as such if I can help it lol. I’m always happy to hang with VSBs and VSSs though ;)

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      “Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate.”

      Said yet valid. But if we get a bunch of VSSs from here and get together, maybe it won’t be so desperate? It would be more fun to be had than desperation. VSSs don’t seem like desperate chicks, right? Right?! lol

    • Officer Ricky

      Anyway, I’ll catch you next time Champy. Lest we forget Panama has never met you in person

      Word? Like really… WORD? I’ve been out here 2+ years and never could’ve imagined. then again, ain’t no gaddamn thang to see in the Burgh, make yo way to D.C son.

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        Yeah they’ve never met. They probably never even talked on the phone during the first year of VSB. Everything was done over IM and email. Cuz we’re all old school like that.

        • MsEsquire77

          @ Liz

          Did you notice that you’re in one of the tags for this post?
          “missing opportunities to hug liz and liz’s boobs”…priceless!

        • MsEsquire77

          @ Liz

          Did you notice that you’re in one of the tags for this post?
          “missing opportunities to hug liz and liz’s boobs”…priceless!

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        Yeah they’ve never met. They probably never even talked on the phone during the first year of VSB. Everything was done over IM and email. Cuz we’re all old school like that.

    • Officer Ricky

      Anyway, I’ll catch you next time Champy. Lest we forget Panama has never met you in person

      Word? Like really… WORD? I’ve been out here 2+ years and never could’ve imagined. then again, ain’t no gaddamn thang to see in the Burgh, make yo way to D.C son.

    • OftenConfused

      WHAT?!?! Shut the Front door!!!

      I don’t know why this is wrong or why I’m surprised, but it is and I am. Champ and Panama seem like old friends.

      • http://www.shesoflyy.blogspot.com Muze

        right. i really can’t believe they’ve never met. wasn’t the first friggin matchmaker thing in DC? doesn’t panama LIVE in/near DC? how does this happen? lol

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @Muze, i do live in DC. the weekend that he was here for that event….i had a family event out of town. LOL.

          • keisha brown

            *jaw drops.

          • keisha brown

            *jaw drops.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          @Muze, i do live in DC. the weekend that he was here for that event….i had a family event out of town. LOL.

      • http://www.shesoflyy.blogspot.com Muze

        right. i really can’t believe they’ve never met. wasn’t the first friggin matchmaker thing in DC? doesn’t panama LIVE in/near DC? how does this happen? lol

    • OftenConfused

      WHAT?!?! Shut the Front door!!!

      I don’t know why this is wrong or why I’m surprised, but it is and I am. Champ and Panama seem like old friends.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women”

      lol, you make it sound like it was an audition for “for the love of ray j”. but seriously, thats why n*ggas invented comp tickets, so their friends dont have to stand in line and sh*t

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        I KNOW. comp tix should mean u skip the line, but no dice. and i didn’t feel like arguing to get into a place packed with women ready to audition for the love of ray j lolol. it was futile.

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        I KNOW. comp tix should mean u skip the line, but no dice. and i didn’t feel like arguing to get into a place packed with women ready to audition for the love of ray j lolol. it was futile.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women”

      lol, you make it sound like it was an audition for “for the love of ray j”. but seriously, thats why n*ggas invented comp tickets, so their friends dont have to stand in line and sh*t

    • D.R

      I was actually AT the event and I felt the exact way you are describing. I contemplated hard and long before going, but honestly it was decent. Now if you went looking for a man, then that was not the place, but I think alot of ppl went to just meet their fav bloggers.

    • D.R

      I was actually AT the event and I felt the exact way you are describing. I contemplated hard and long before going, but honestly it was decent. Now if you went looking for a man, then that was not the place, but I think alot of ppl went to just meet their fav bloggers.

  • http://lizburr.com Liz

    How did I know I was gonna be on this list?

    Srsly dawg. I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate. Sorry to chicks who were there, maybe I am not talkin about you specifically, but you get enough chicks together it only takes one to ruin the whole pack (i know this from experience, and me nor any of my friends would agree to attend such a “situation” lol). I was actually quite surprised that the male ratio was so bad. Not that I was lookin for a man or anything.

    Anyway, I’ll catch you next time Champy. Lest we forget Panama has never met you in person. I don’t want to overexpose you to too much of my side of the VSB team lol.

  • meka

    Sounds like a great event! I hope to make the Chicago Modern Day Matchmaker event. Although I have a feeling the male-female ratio in Chicago will be worse than NYC. A lot worse.

    • http://blockedwriter84@yahoo.com Cheekie

      Though I’m excited about going, I have a feelin’ too…*grumble*

      Lemme keep positive, though. lol *therewillbehellamenthere*

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Cheekie, Though I’m excited about going, I have a feelin’ too…*grumble*

        this sounds like a Lil Wayne line

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          “this sounds like a Lil Wayne line”

          I would say I wish I knew how to quit you Panama, but I found out…

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          “this sounds like a Lil Wayne line”

          I would say I wish I knew how to quit you Panama, but I found out…

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Cheekie, Though I’m excited about going, I have a feelin’ too…*grumble*

        this sounds like a Lil Wayne line

    • http://blockedwriter84@yahoo.com Cheekie

      Though I’m excited about going, I have a feelin’ too…*grumble*

      Lemme keep positive, though. lol *therewillbehellamenthere*

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      Naw son! The chicago event will have wayyy more men. Why? B/c some of these negros are PARCHED (beyond thirsty). Watch. I shall be there so I will count lol

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

        lol, good point, luvvie. Hopefully they thirsty enough to hop on the CTA…

        Or no…not the niccas on the CTA, actually… better yet, catch a cab. #bougie

        • coldsweat3

          not to sound parched(i dont even stay in chicago) but when is this event?

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

            @coldsweat3,

            No EXACT dates yet, but I saw the upcoming cities on Three Ways to Take It:

            Philadelphia (June)
            Chicago (July)
            Atlanta (August)
            Boston (September)
            Los Angeles (October)
            London (November)

            The Chi one is in my birfday month! *does the running-man*

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

            @coldsweat3,

            No EXACT dates yet, but I saw the upcoming cities on Three Ways to Take It:

            Philadelphia (June)
            Chicago (July)
            Atlanta (August)
            Boston (September)
            Los Angeles (October)
            London (November)

            The Chi one is in my birfday month! *does the running-man*

        • coldsweat3

          not to sound parched(i dont even stay in chicago) but when is this event?

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

        lol, good point, luvvie. Hopefully they thirsty enough to hop on the CTA…

        Or no…not the niccas on the CTA, actually… better yet, catch a cab. #bougie

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      Naw son! The chicago event will have wayyy more men. Why? B/c some of these negros are PARCHED (beyond thirsty). Watch. I shall be there so I will count lol

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Although I have a feeling the male-female ratio in Chicago will be worse than NYC. A lot worse.”

      unless you have 500 women and one eunuch in attendance, this is impossible.

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

        “unless you have 500 women and one eunuch in attendance, this is impossible.”

        *DEAD*

        What I say yesterday?! Stop typing!

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

        “unless you have 500 women and one eunuch in attendance, this is impossible.”

        *DEAD*

        What I say yesterday?! Stop typing!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Although I have a feeling the male-female ratio in Chicago will be worse than NYC. A lot worse.”

      unless you have 500 women and one eunuch in attendance, this is impossible.

    • 05girl

      umm, try ATL, home of the “successful, single” black woman.

      • coldsweat3

        I miss Atlanta so much….Cincinnati women just aren’t the same caliber. Slim pickins.

        • 05girl

          Aw I know Cincy very well (my fam’s hometown)… know enough to know I would never, eva live there lol. Just come on down 75 to get your fix!

          • coldsweat3

            hahha oh trust after law school I will be OUT!!!! I try to hit up ATL as much as possible cuz I went to school down there and alot of my friends stayed after undergrad.

          • coldsweat3

            hahha oh trust after law school I will be OUT!!!! I try to hit up ATL as much as possible cuz I went to school down there and alot of my friends stayed after undergrad.

        • 05girl

          Aw I know Cincy very well (my fam’s hometown)… know enough to know I would never, eva live there lol. Just come on down 75 to get your fix!

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          “I miss Atlanta so much….Cincinnati women just aren’t the same caliber. Slim pickins.”

          i have found memories of my first weekend in cincinnati

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          “I miss Atlanta so much….Cincinnati women just aren’t the same caliber. Slim pickins.”

          i have found memories of my first weekend in cincinnati

      • coldsweat3

        I miss Atlanta so much….Cincinnati women just aren’t the same caliber. Slim pickins.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @05girl, i’m real curious as to how that event will go considering the majority of single, successful women that aren’t in NY or DC are in ATL.

        • 05girl

          Yeah. I swear Paul released a schedule with all the city dates, that of course now I can’t find. Wish I knew the date, I think it was slated for Aug/Sept.
          Given the feedback another commenter wrote below, the forum/panel really needs improvement, or else the ATL show would easily slide into foolywang status.
          NYC had the advantage of many bloggers being at the panel (maybe I’m biased, but many where bloggers that I read). Not sure who they would select from ATL.. necole bitchie?

        • 05girl

          Yeah. I swear Paul released a schedule with all the city dates, that of course now I can’t find. Wish I knew the date, I think it was slated for Aug/Sept.
          Given the feedback another commenter wrote below, the forum/panel really needs improvement, or else the ATL show would easily slide into foolywang status.
          NYC had the advantage of many bloggers being at the panel (maybe I’m biased, but many where bloggers that I read). Not sure who they would select from ATL.. necole bitchie?

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @05girl, i’m real curious as to how that event will go considering the majority of single, successful women that aren’t in NY or DC are in ATL.

    • 05girl

      umm, try ATL, home of the “successful, single” black woman.

  • meka

    Sounds like a great event! I hope to make the Chicago Modern Day Matchmaker event. Although I have a feeling the male-female ratio in Chicago will be worse than NYC. A lot worse.

  • meka

    @Liz–I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate.

    So maybe I’m not going to the Chicago event. Damn Liz.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      LOL. Well, I heard in the past the gender ratio was carefully looked after during ticket sales period but when I arrived and saw so many women i was confused. Others reported it being roughly 99% women too, so it wasn’t just me.

      • 05girl

        Why does it matter what folks think of you? Especially since there were few men there to judge you as “thirsty”? and especially since you would have been there to support a friend?

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          It doesn’t it’s more of how I feel in those situations, obviously.

          And “friend” is a term I use loosely with the champ LOL. There were enough people there for him to be supported.

          • http://natashasjourney-natasha.blogspot.com Natasha

            “And “friend” is a term I use loosely with the champ LOL.
            There were enough people there for him to be supported.”

            WOW! In 2010 Liz is telling us how she really feels LOL.

          • http://natashasjourney-natasha.blogspot.com Natasha

            “And “friend” is a term I use loosely with the champ LOL.
            There were enough people there for him to be supported.”

            WOW! In 2010 Liz is telling us how she really feels LOL.

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          It doesn’t it’s more of how I feel in those situations, obviously.

          And “friend” is a term I use loosely with the champ LOL. There were enough people there for him to be supported.

      • 05girl

        Why does it matter what folks think of you? Especially since there were few men there to judge you as “thirsty”? and especially since you would have been there to support a friend?

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      LOL. Well, I heard in the past the gender ratio was carefully looked after during ticket sales period but when I arrived and saw so many women i was confused. Others reported it being roughly 99% women too, so it wasn’t just me.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      “So maybe I’m not going to the Chicago event.”

      YES. YOU. ARE.

      We gonna have to have a VSB fam meetup at this event. It was typed.

      • bougiefruit

        When is this lovely event? I need to know when to run and grab a trenchcoat, fedora, big sunglasses, and a giant notepad.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          (Only info known so far)

          Philadelphia (June)
          Chicago (July)
          Atlanta (August)
          Boston (September)
          Los Angeles (October)
          London (November)

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          (Only info known so far)

          Philadelphia (June)
          Chicago (July)
          Atlanta (August)
          Boston (September)
          Los Angeles (October)
          London (November)

      • bougiefruit

        When is this lovely event? I need to know when to run and grab a trenchcoat, fedora, big sunglasses, and a giant notepad.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Cheekie, that’s right let ’em know. i’m gonna be teleconferenced in with 5 shots of tequila in front of me and an all green pimp hat (no sacrilege).

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          That’s how 3’s roll in the Chi, homie.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          That’s how 3’s roll in the Chi, homie.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Cheekie, that’s right let ’em know. i’m gonna be teleconferenced in with 5 shots of tequila in front of me and an all green pimp hat (no sacrilege).

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      “So maybe I’m not going to the Chicago event.”

      YES. YOU. ARE.

      We gonna have to have a VSB fam meetup at this event. It was typed.

  • meka

    @Liz–I didn’t wanna stand in line with 200 thirsty-lookin women. Not cool to stand with a bunch of chicks who look desperate.

    So maybe I’m not going to the Chicago event. Damn Liz.

  • http://abelleinbrooklyn.com belle

    First off, thanks for the love. my medium is discussing dating/relationships, but it’s just a thinly veiled guise to get women empowered. you start taking control of your romantic life, it spreads over into everything else. that’s where the passion stems from. tap in and find out what you’re doing this for. i’m a writer, so i know you don’t do this every day all day (or take 30 hr roundtrips) just for the self aggrandizement. that wears off after awhile. be still and think about it.

    there is a wire quote for every situation. i don’t remember the question from the panel, but i was choking back quoting McNulty’s “when you play in dirt, you get dirty” and Stringer’s “that’s like a 40 degree day.” My top 3 dead or alive are probably God, my father, and a tie between Lester Freeman and Bunk.

    *dead* at your observation about the city having a soundtrack. funny, as I was typing this, i heard the bassline to a song outside my window and realized it was The Dream’s “she needs my love” before i heard the music or lyrics.

    God, I love this city.

    • http://www.nicknotnikki.blogspot.com Nick_L_Odeon

      i lurk on your site.. and i think you are exactly that.. a belle.. unless someone asks you something wack on formspring!!

    • http://www.nicknotnikki.blogspot.com Nick_L_Odeon

      i lurk on your site.. and i think you are exactly that.. a belle.. unless someone asks you something wack on formspring!!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “My top 3 dead or alive are probably God, my father, and a tie between Lester Freeman and Bunk.”

      i’d have to bump bunk and keep lester in there, even though he’s just holding the spot until michael gets old enough to run for mayor.

      seriously though, thanks for the advice. doing “this” gets easier when you have a clear goal in mind, and should stop bs-ing in regards to mine.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “My top 3 dead or alive are probably God, my father, and a tie between Lester Freeman and Bunk.”

      i’d have to bump bunk and keep lester in there, even though he’s just holding the spot until michael gets old enough to run for mayor.

      seriously though, thanks for the advice. doing “this” gets easier when you have a clear goal in mind, and should stop bs-ing in regards to mine.

  • http://abelleinbrooklyn.com belle

    First off, thanks for the love. my medium is discussing dating/relationships, but it’s just a thinly veiled guise to get women empowered. you start taking control of your romantic life, it spreads over into everything else. that’s where the passion stems from. tap in and find out what you’re doing this for. i’m a writer, so i know you don’t do this every day all day (or take 30 hr roundtrips) just for the self aggrandizement. that wears off after awhile. be still and think about it.

    there is a wire quote for every situation. i don’t remember the question from the panel, but i was choking back quoting McNulty’s “when you play in dirt, you get dirty” and Stringer’s “that’s like a 40 degree day.” My top 3 dead or alive are probably God, my father, and a tie between Lester Freeman and Bunk.

    *dead* at your observation about the city having a soundtrack. funny, as I was typing this, i heard the bassline to a song outside my window and realized it was The Dream’s “she needs my love” before i heard the music or lyrics.

    God, I love this city.

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