They are sooooooooooooooo fine.
While many men seem to believe that trying to date a supermodel doppelganger who straddles the line between Esther Baxter and the chick from the Palm Pre ad is a must-do in life, I’m here to tell you that sleeping with women who sleep with the Hornets is probably an overrated experience. Well, that is if you want anything more than another notch on your belt, like say a future. Here are 10 reasons you shouldn’t date a dime:
1. Lack of depth
Imagine waking up every day knowing that the full extent of any conversation you have will end in words like, “great” “good,” or “I like it when you do good things.” While all dimes aren’t devoid of interests, vocabulary and anything remotely resembling a soul…I give you Beyoncé. Plus, what will you ever talk about, aside from “good things.”
2. Undeveloped personalities
Really attractive women (and probably men too though I’m not sure) have largely been hot all their lives. This means they’ve been catered to forever and two days. Which means that they’ve never had to develop a real personality and sense of self. Can’t blame them. If I was hot as two chimney’s smoking, I’d tell all you regular schmoes to kick rocks and go do that reading sh*t for me. Take my test, beeeyotch.
3. “Every night, I got to prove my love…”
I think this scene says it all.
4. Nobody will give a sh*t about you
Ego and pride are the cornerstone of any man’s existence. Thing is, if you’re dating Halle Berry, nobody, and I mean NOBODY, cares who you are. They’re just amazed you’re dating her. Look at Jermaine Dupri. That smurf has GRAMMYs, millions, and was as responsible for Atlanta’s place in music legend as Gucci Mane, but all anybody could talk about for years was the fact that he somehow, someway, snagged Janet Jackson. And this was on her decline. I’ll bet dudes tried to holler at Janet in front of him like, “I hear you’re slumming these days, well I don’t have sh*t but I look better and am taller than JD and have seen a dentist in the 2000s. What’s up?”
5. You can’t do better
Anybody else you date will probably be a step down, look-wise, and being as men are shallow by nature, that’s mostly what we care about until we’re like 40…and then 50 when we really care again. What this means is that you can’t f*ck it up or you’ll have to hear for the rest of your life how you blew it with the hot chick. And you know what? Because you’re shallow, you’ll actually care. Date 6′s.
6. Jeopardy is out
Not that you know all the answers, but there’s nothing worse than somebody asking you about the questions you already know that you know nothing about. ALL OF THEM. On the flipside, what if your dime knows ALL THE ANSWERS? So she’s beautiful and smart. As much as we all want that, most men who aren’t millionaires don’t have the cajones to deal with a woman who can son them at will. She will turn you to a Jonas, since you don’t need your cajones.
7. Paranoia
All Black men come with a certain level of paranoia. Add a fine woman to the mix and all of a sudden he becomes a jealous imbecile suspecting even midgets of having a chance of stealing his woman. Somehow, men and women forget that losing your mate requires TWO actions, not just one. He/she has to want to go just as much as it requires somebody else pursuing them. You humans, so jealous.
8. Insecurity
Who needs it but along with that paranoia and ego will come some latent insecurities. Possibly. Some of us gangstas don’t have these problems. Then again, I’m a 3. DAMMIT! There goes me projecting. Ho hum.
9. Novelty always wears off
This goes back to #1. So say she’s super fine but dumb as rocks. At some you forget she’s fine and other people will have to constantly remind you. At which point you will ultimately blow it which brings us back to #5.
10. What if she’s nuts?
Dimes deal with the worst of the worst because all men want them. So what if her experiences have turned her into a psycho? But she’s fine. You’re stuck in love with a hot insane woman who you can’t justify dumping because you’re afraid you can’t do better. Life’s a b*tch, homey.
Just date 6′s.
Thoughts?
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka lower.case.p aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3
YEss… First.. I think!!! ( does happy dance, spirit fingers!)… anywayz I cosign on your list…I must add the only way to date a dime without any of these things coming into questions, is date a dime who doesn’t consider themself a dime.. (the joys of low self-esteem). It doesn’t matter if someone comes along and tell them they are a dime..they will still think of themself as a nickel..and since we all know nickels and below always subsitute appearance by developing their personality…you now have a diamond in the rough…a low self-esteem dime with a great personality that wouldn’t leave you because they believe because of you they are more attractive!
@I-think-therefore-I-am,
Love it.
PS why are you up and I haven’t heard from you?
…congrats!
@I-think-therefore-I-am, Or dating someone that just recently came into their fineness. So they still have the mind set and personality of someone not so attractive but now look great.
@I-think-therefore-I-am,
Just…Diabolical!
@I-think-therefore-I-am,
That is so funny. I was just telling my girl yesterday that she needs to find a man who is good looking but think he’s not therefore having personality. It is easier said than done.
You couldn’t have called that one any better.
@I-think-therefore-I-am,
Exactly. Or as my St. Kittitian friend would say “eeeenh heeenh”
Great lil wayne reference. Funny you mention that line, because I actually got to know someone who ‘sleeps’ with a current Hornet, who played his college ball in the mitten state, but shall remain nameless. Girl was fine, but the more I got to know her, the less fine she became due to her lack of, well, brains.
Oh, btw hello and sh*t from NOLA.
@OmarLittle, welcome! *throws VSB glitter*
@Liz,
“welcome! *throws VSB glitter*”
I love the hospitality!!
@Chalkolet,
we try….
i cosign #7. Being with a bad b**tch makes a man real paranoid.
A couple of these can apply to dating attractive men too. I’ve dealt with some attractive men who were just so damn boring, I couldn’t take it! Fine, you’re attractive, but if our conversation is making me want run my fingernails across a chalkboard, then it just won’t work. On the insecurity note, I have a friend who refuses to date fine men because she doesn’t want anyone looking at him lol.
If Hollywood relationships are any representation of what happens when you date 8′s, 9′s and 10′s (RIP Bullock-James and Gross-Marcille
), then I’ll take my 1-7′s (well, no, 3-7′s) and be perfectly content!
@Anike Love, “you’re attractive, but if our conversation is making me want run my fingernails across a chalkboard, then it just won’t work.”
Co-sign! This just happened to me and the guy has both the looks and a PhD, but can’t carry a conversation to save his life. He never had anything interesting to say….
@Leila, good looking and a PhD?? Oh my…we’ve got to find a way to work with that! lol, j/k! But seriously, that’s the worse. I’ll be sitting there trying to make excuses for why he’s technically a good catch, tryna let him pass on things I wouldn’t let some simple dude get away with. But no, it all comes down to fundamentals really, and conversing ability is one of them!
@Anike Love, “good looking and a PhD?? Oh my…we’ve got to find a way to work with that! lol”
Lol! I tried to make it work because a good-looking brother with a PhD is rare! He just completely lacked in the personality dept. He was one of those guys who was just there and had nothing interesting to say or was never up to anything. He had 1 friend and his routine was to go to work and chill.
@Leila, @Anika Love
y’all are preaching that gospel truth…. My first love was a 9.5 and his fineness completely blinded me to all his blatant flaws, like him also dating 3 other women on our 6 to 1 female to male ratio campus….dumb dumb dumb. Give me a 6, with a sense of humor and I’m good…
@Leila,
maybe you were on the opposite end of the conversation spectrum . . . just a thought.
@Anike Love,
Good to know fellas in the 3-7 range still get love….most men generally try to date “up” the scale anyway (a 6 guy will likely try to pull an 8-10 woman)…the reverse, however, doesn’t happen too often with an 8-10 man trying to get at 7′s or below.
As for your friend, I’ve heard several women say stuff like this before.
“most men generally try to date “up” the scale anyway (a 6 guy will likely try to pull an 8-10 woman”
And that’s a damn shame, cuz most of those women aren’t paying these guys any mind because they know they can choose any guy they want!
I don’t even personally use a number system, so I have no idea how a 3 would compare to a 7. To me, if you’re attractive, you’re attractive, numbers aside.
But who gives the girls in the 3-7 range some love if all the 3-7 men are tryna date up?! The 0′s, 1′s and 2′s?! Yikes… lol
@Anike Love,
“And that’s a damn shame, cuz most of those women aren’t paying these guys any mind because they know they can choose any guy they want!”
I don’t know about this….women generally are a lil more forgiving on looks than we are. A 3-7 man is likely pretty engaging (had to develop a good personality…couldn’t rely on looks), and has other stuff going for him aside from looks (i.e., intelligence, humor, demeanor). As evident by some comments I’ve noticed by VSS in other posts, ya’ll give us bonus points for non-physical traits. So it’s quite possible for a gainfully employed, funny, and intelligent avg. looking guy (a 5) to pull an 8 or 9, cuz his intangibles bring him up to a 7 (this is how this was explained to me by diff. women..go figure).
As for the 3-7 women…notice I said that men ‘try’ to date up….they don’t always succeed. And yes, 0,1, & 2 men set their sights high as well….makes the world go ’round…lol.
@Anike Love,
What DG said. Cuz we’re usually all for a fresh approach, aren’t we? A compliment on our intellect, not our ass-ets. A genuine warm smile and greeting instead of the mm-mm-mm sop you up with some biscuits n gravy goatee rub. Displays of interest in your world but not ownership when we’ve only known each other like 10 minutes… be so stunned by the down to earth engagement his physical doesn’t register much til his first act of stupidity. Which, trust, will be along shortly.
“So it’s quite possible for a gainfully employed, funny, and intelligent avg. looking guy (a 5) to pull an 8 or 9, cuz his intangibles bring him up to a 7″
@DG, yeah, I do see that happening. Like how in the hades did he pull her?!? Personality does make a big difference, but like my mom always says, “if you all get in an argument, at least you should be able to turn over in bed and like what you’re looking at” lol.
@Anike Love, I co-sign. I never understood the whole numbers rating system. If you look good, you look good. I will say that if you possess certain traits, like charm and a sense of humor, those things can make you more attractive in my eyes. But if we’re talking solely looks, attractive is attractive. Plain and simple.
@DG, “the reverse, however, doesn’t happen too often with an 8-10 man trying to get at 7’s or below”
In my experience, guys in the 8-10 are less picky than guys <7. I like guys in the 8-10 range because they're more secure and into natural looking attractive girls (less make-up, etc). I've met so many guys in the 4-6 range who say they only date dimes and expect you to be perfect and are so worried about impressing their boys. Their insecurity is tough to deal with.
@Anike Love, Alot of these can apply to dating attractive men! LOL I have dated some of the most gorgeous men ever! But alot of them where so damn boring!!!!!! Plus they had females throwing themselves at them so they treat you like you are disposable.
@Knightnick A lot of men are paranoid anyway even if she is a 5! LOL
“Plus they had females throwing themselves at them so they treat you like you are disposable.”
Eugh, that irritates the hell outta me. And I blame us women forreal! If a man is fine, he already most likely already knows it. At least be the one to make him feel like he ain’t that damn cute lol
@Anike Love, LOL exactly!!!!!!
@Anike Love, lol YES!
Someone needs to check the cuties and let them know “You may be cute but that shyt will only get you so far”
@Anike Love
“Eugh, that irritates the hell outta me. And I blame us women forreal! If a man is fine, he already most likely already knows it. At least be the one to make him feel like he ain’t that damn cute lol”
^I also blame women for giving the impression that the un-cute are a hot commodity. I have talked to the un-cute thinking, “you gotta be cool as phugg ’cause you ain’t cute”. If you cool, got a good heart, I can definitely work with that. Negative! Dudes thought they a*s didn’t stink and that they was finer than they was(not). Now, I know this sounds really shallow and ya’ll please forgive me. I feel bad typing it, but I gotta be honest. I love and respect healthy self-esteem like the next person, but don’t be an a**hole. Especially don’t be un-cute and an a**hole.
Signed,
boogawolf_soul
@Anike Love, not that their not that fionne but that it takes more than that to impress you/lay you/get next to you etc.
cause you ain’t the panty throwing, extra thirsty, crumb snatching press just to be on stand by type LOL
This mofo thought I wanted him to “sweat me like all these others dudes”, when he was totally missing the point, not to sweat me, but match me be my compliment young if you that vicious, be bout me!
@Anike Love,
Thank you.
There is nothing sadder than meeting a fine BLACK MAN who is as dumb as rocks or has no charisma, no personality to speak of. It’s like drinking a FLAT COKE. Horrible.
Reason #10 is the main reason why Reggie Bush just made the best decision of his career post-USC.
Plus, whenever you deal with a dime – you have to deal with “dime decisions” (aka sh*t that only makes sense to fine people and fine people alone) and the majority of these decisions will leave you with your hand in your pockets like Eddie Murphy from Raw. “Okay…”
Which always made me wonder about Amber Rose, because I’m certain she has no personality but tries to use her body AS her personality. Does that even make sense? lol
@Brando, I think I’m gonna need more examples of “dime decisions”.
@sanen85,
A dime decision is one made without any usage of common sense. Constant things that get on your nerves (like breaking of the “relationship rules” for example) but you refuse to break up with them merely because … they fine as hell.
Ex. Best friend of mine used to date this girl who could have been a model on her worst day. Only problem was, she spent money like it wasn’t worth anything and all he could do was tell her, it’ll be okay. Don’t worry.
I almost wanted to slap him myself but then again, he’s 6’1″ and I’m 5’7″ in the shade. He broke up with her after realizing how her silly decisions made him feel stupid.
@Brando, oh, I got you. I just don’t think this kind of decision making applies to dimes exclusively.
@sanen85, the decision making may not apply to dimes only, but the thought process behind it and possibly thinking that you’re going to do what you want and no one is gonna tell you “no” (how dare they?! looking this fine?!) definitely do.
Plus, I guess “dime decisions” have an effect on the people around them too. If the Brando’s boy’s ex was more unfortunate looking, I think he woulda thrown her back into the sea a lot sooner than he did lol.
@Brando, you right about Amber.
@Brando,
“…the majority of these decisions will leave you with your hand in your pockets like Eddie Murphy from Raw. “Okay…””
If only THAT Eddie could come back to this plane of reality, my life would so much greater.
@ComicBookGuy,
Is it a shame that most of the jokes in that comedy special (esp. about relationships) STILL ring true 20 years later?
@Brando,
Man, I hear parts from it on satellite radio all the time and that stuff is still so relevant today.
@Brando,
Actually I think Amber Rose has a personality… Something about her tells me she does.
(could be my girl crush on her….
)
@Sula,
Don’t worry. As much as I question whether or not it exists, I’m looking for one too.
Sorry, she’s probably the only chick sporting the tennis ball whom I’d consider for dating material. Her and Solange.
@Brando,
Yup. Amber is bad.
Co-sign with your list Panama! It’s also really hard to date a guy who’s a 10 too unless you’re really secure because it’s hard to deal with every women checking out/hitting on your guy. I’ve experienced this and getting disrespected and having women spread lies to end the relationship was not cool.
@Leila, co-sign. I have dealt with that same sh*t. I think even the most secure woman would probably have a problem with it.
@Leila, I would think it’s probably even harder for women to date Man-10′s because, in general, women consider Man-10′s to be extremely rare. Plus, alot of women think the rules they enforce on men (don’t oogle me; don’t touch me; leave me alone in the street; etc.) don’t apply to them when they see a guy they like alot. I’ve heard styories about women grabbing dudes’ junk and acting like it was okay, or more specifically, acting like the dude really wouldn’t mind that.
The perception that a “fine man” is a a super-rare thing leads some women to do whatever they want.
I don’t know any 9 or 10s (men or women) in my real life, well at least based on looks alone, but I assume your list is on point.
Ooooh, I just thought of one. The girl who works in the office at my apartments is gorgeous, probably rate a 10 on anyone’s scale. She is really nice, smart, funny, etc. (as far as I can tell), so I guess she is the exception to the rule.
“I give you Beyoncé”
LOL! My sister and I have often discussed how Bey’s favorite word is amazing. I swear… she’d use that dang word to describe a 12 hour long documentary on acid reflex.
@Made In Hawaii,
And she’s not genuine in her reponses, either, which makes it worse. Watching her suffer through an interview is like watching someone on valium read from a fuzzy teleprompter but with a 3 second delay.
Ooooh or the lil girl robot from the old tv show, Small Wonder… what was her name? Becky?
I still have this problem where the guys I am attracted to have horrible personalities/integrity, and the ones I love talking to don’t do it for me (not saying they’re ugly, they just don’t do “it” for me). Needless to say, dimes are the least of my worries.
@Liz, you are not alone in this.
@Liz,
Ditto. Its like the ones I’m interested in, their parents DNA forgot to give them a personality. Just saying.
@Liz,
^I have so been there.
@Liz, ahh you feel my pain. I dealt with and unfortunately cared for a super sexy and handsome narcissist, not a pleasant exp.
Lookwise I haven’t come across anything comparable, but he wasn’t a very nice person as far as treatment of women. Lacked substance was a bit of an asshole, extremely selfish, promiscuous etc
Now I have encountered folks with substantive qualities that would put him to shame, but whose looks left me very cold.
so its tough to find the right mix.
@Liz, girllllll *hugs* why is this? It’s so painful. The phone rings, your heart flutters because you think…it’s…damnit! It’s not Mr. Fine. I haven’t quite figured out this problem yet either :-/
@Anike Love, LOLOL! At least you get calls….
@Liz,
Hey, Liz. My comments aren’t coming up when I type them in at the bottom of the post. Am I saying a bad word or something?
@ComicBookGuy,
Nevermind.
From now on, whoever says I’m a dime, I’m going to feel insulted from this article.
Not saying that people call me a dime, because they don’t. And not saying that I’m fine, although my momma gave me not-quite-Sade-but-still-really-good anti-aging genes.
Just saying. Carry on good people…
@chaoticdiva,
“From now on, whoever says I’m a dime, I’m going to feel insulted from this article.”
Exactly. This is ruining my self esteem. *places hand against forehead dramatically*
What’s the saying? Show me a fine woman and I’ll show you a man that’s
Tired of f!cking her…same can be said for dudes cause fine dudes
Anormally suck in the bedroom. And not in a good way.
My aunt told me this story about a fine dude in the office. She said he had been
Through several of the women and they all bragged about him.
She finally agrees to a date, deciding it was time to get her groove back.
Long story short he’s a shawty with a wack stroke and terrible
Head game. Later she finds out that most of the women who dealt with him
Also felt he was wack but he was so fine! They just lied about the experience
Same thing happens with girls.
@shay-d-lady, LMAO you what that reminds me of this guy that I used to date. He was so gorgeous and all the women wanted him. But when I got him, I threw his ass back to them women! LOL
He was hella wack in bed. Good looks or not I didn’t want him cause he could not lay down the pipe LOL
@shay-d-lady, Now, I think I’m pretty attractive, keep my fitness up, etc., however, the one guy I dated that I was just like “wow, you are so gorgeous”, well, his nickname became “B.D.”, aka Baby Dick because not only was his equipment insufficient, he didn’t know what to do with it like some infant. So , yup, yup, completely agree with you – pretty boys aren’t always the best bedmates.
On the other hand, had a bedroom buddy who was pretty up there on the attractive scale and let’s just say that was not his problem. Rather, he just liked to share his gifts with every damn body which skeeved me out after a short while.
Finally, I have a good friend who is at least a 9, but comes from a wealthy family so is generally perceived as a 10. He admitted to me and some other female friends that he has NEVER hit on a girl before. Like ever. He says he wouldn’t even know what to do/say. He basically has girls falling all over him and he takes his pick. Subsequently, he has never been faithful, despite his best intentions.
@shay-d-lady,
My aunt told me this story about a fine dude in the office. She said he had been
Through several of the women and they all bragged about him.
She finally agrees to a date, deciding it was time to get her groove back.
Long story short he’s a shawty with a wack stroke and terrible
Head game. Later she finds out that most of the women who dealt with him
Also felt he was wack but he was so fine! They just lied about the experience
Same thing happens with girls.
guys do the same thing (get so excited that we’ve boned a dime that the disregard the fact that sleeping with her was like watching paint fuck)
@shay-d-lady, Wow.
I have learned SOOOO much from your post. “Show me a fine woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of f!cking her….” I have never heard that before. Hmmmm. Then again, won’t there be a line of men waiting their turn to hop in those sheets if ol’ dude is tired of strokin’? So, essentially, she’s pretty much all set as far as the bedroom goes because there will always be someone waiting for a turn, correct? No?
I feel like I’ve stumbled across the greatest subject ever. Screw med school.
This is a great post. My friend was telling me that our mutual male friend was breaking down why he’ll pick the cute girl over the fine girl. I just sent her a link to this post. Plus, #4 is hella funny! Dammit if I have never thought JD had a mouth full of baby teeth….
@legitimate_soul,
^Let me add that his discussion of fine vs. cute was not necessarily about features and attributes, but also about high maintenance vs not. For example fine for him was the person who had to be in all fine labels, full make-up, etc. Cute may have the same or similar physical attributes but will go to the game in a team jersey instead of stilettos, for example.
@legitimate_soul,
“Dammit if I have never thought JD had a mouth full of baby teeth…”
LMAO His mouth situation is interesting to say the least.
@miss t-lee,
I think that one relationship pisses off more 6′s and 5′s (and even the 3′s) than any other on the face of the earth. Nobody on the face of the Earth can ever explain to me how JD pulled Janet.
@Brando,
I’m sure he couldn’t even begin to explain how he pulled that off.
I bet he pats himself on the back every morning when he wakes up.
I once dated a fine dude and thought I hit the jackpot. After 3 months, I was ready to gnaw my own damn arm off to get away from him. This cat got mad at me because I used the word, ‘Equilibrium’ in a sentence. “You know I don’t know what them big words mean!” WTF!!!
Pretty people get catered to in every aspect of society, why develop a personality? Why develop any kind of smarts? People are going to fawn over you anyway, so I can see how that would work for them, but in the long run, they might wind up alone.
Reminds me of a fine ex I had. He wasn’t too smart either. He was cool, a protector, and had “physical skill”, but he would lie to kick it. Lie when it wasn’t even necessary to lie to possibly make up for whatever short-comings he felt he had.
@Jade (not a prOn) Star, WOW! This is like the running gag on 30 Rock with Jon Hamm’s character. Too funny!
@Jade (not a prOn) Star, lol @ equilibrium. Lol. I’m sorry you had to go through that. Lol
@Chalkolet, It was hilarious and sad all at the same time. *smh*
@Jade (not a prOn) Star,
“Pretty people get catered to in every aspect of society, why develop a personality?”
Do people really believe this?
@lulu, maybe some pretty people exp this, but all?, not by a long shot LOL…see there is cost sheet for being pretty also LOL
My Dad in his youth was a very handsome guy, what some would call a pretty boy, light skinneded LOL with curly hair etc but my Dad is cool as a mofo fan, he never relyed soley on his looks, his personality was always @ front and center… he passed that trait along LOL.
@OrangeStar616, I doubt you really know what your dad was like in his youth. Just sayin…
@often confused, while I was not there I do know my Dad, LOL well enough to say he never relied on his looks solely…. some would say folk are born with their personalities in tact. just sayin
@lulu,
Yeah, I am not so sure about this either…
Then again, I was never aware of a “rating system” or any such things… I have always thought attractiveness to be a very relative concept… I don’t know… I am a bit confused here.
@Sula,
I was wondering too because I am considered to be an attractive female and I haven’t seen any special ‘catering’ done to me by society. But then again I:
a. prefer to highlight my personality
b. live in a bubble where I take ‘catering’ as someone just being nice to me.
c. have too much pride to allow catering to happen even as it is in effect.
d. my nose tends to be buried in a book, and with my glasses off, I can pretend not to notice all the men staring at me on the subway. so awkward! one day I am going to give a salacious wink, just to see if any one of them has the good sense to be embarrassed.
Ok so I consider myself attractive and while this sounds bad I usually don’t date men as attractive or more attractive than me because I like being the gorgeous one in the relationship
Yessss I know, I’m working on fixing that lol
But I def cosign with the your list Panama, for the most part
I’m actually friends with this guy who’s FINE and even has a pretty damn great personality. Can hold a conversation (whats more an INTELLIGENT conversation), in school, good taste in music, religious, and soooo fine (I know I already said it) lol
So while not dating a dime is for the most part a good rule of thumb there are exceptions
@SimplisElegance (Formally lh),
so why are you together and sh*t?
@The Champ,
You mean why are we together if he’s not as attractive as me?
Cause I luuuuuvs him haha
No seriously, cause despite not being a 10 he’s a wonderful person. Smart, funny, caring, goal-oriented, patient (which is very important cause I have my “crazy” moment”)
I mean, lots of reasons and sh*t
@SimplisElegance,
i actually, that was a typo. i meant to ask why aren’t you with your friend who’s attractive, smart, a free-mason, etc, etc?
@SimplisElegance,
Mainly cause I’m already in a relationship and all
But also (but not so much) cause of my previously stated rule about dating someone less attractive than me.
@SimplisElegance (Formally lh), OMG I do this too. I like to be the fine one
I’ll take a funny 3-6 any day. But he can’t be short. I just can’t take a short man seriously.
i mean, i guess, panama. but i love how you’ve taken this “3″ thing and just run with it. lol
i think, as a woman, i don’t have the problem of having to avoid “dimes” because their fineness might get in the way of intellect and conversation. i don’t think women really get that mesmerized by just a man’s looks. so in order for him to be a dime, he would already have to have a good personality and smarts and all that stuff factored in. cuz, dude, you could be fine but you could be the crackhead from down the street. or you could be fine, but you could just be wack. or you could look handsome in a photograph, but your body could just move weird in real life (true story). and in those instances, i don’t care what you look like. for you are not a dime, my friend.
although, according to my friends i tend to go for less-than-cute guys anyway. so maybe i’m just all wrong in the game. what i do know is, though, that i need to take my broke ass to the city and get with me some Hornets. ok, i’m kidding. ok……i’m not.
@charli skipper,
took the words from my mouth. i don’t think i’ve ever been able to assess a number to someone just based on looks. i always think about something about their personality or something i’ve heard about their personality.
@Muze,
i don’t think i’ve ever been able to assess a number to someone just based on looks.
I said the exact thing above. I don’t even have a number system! Do I need one? Is that bad, doctor?
@Sula,
i honestly think this is just more of a guy thing. from “who’s better kobe or lebron?” to women, we like to rank and assign numbers/ratings to things. just saying someone is cute or hot isnt enough.
@Sula, I don’t either. I wonder where I fall on one… I think I’ll take a poll LOL ?
I do however have some sort of mental scale, although comparing people is often like comparing apples and oranges.
@Sula, @Champ
yeah, i think it’s def a guy thing. i had the unfortunate experience of being only one of three women in a group of 10 that went to NY for new years. oooomg if i never hear another sports/food/video game convo that starts with “so what you give it on a scale of 10?” it will be too soon.
and evvverything was a sports analogy!! like, how can you relate everything in life to sports? like, everything. one guy was talking about the birth of his son and said “man i felt like the 6th man. came off the bench and only got to hold him for a few minutes after everybody was done with him. PT was mad limited yo,”
what is this. lol
@charli skipper,
i don’t think women really get that mesmerized by just a man’s looks. so in order for him to be a dime, he would already have to have a good personality and smarts and all that stuff factored in.
Ding, ding, ding!
@charli skipper,
or you could look handsome in a photograph, but your body could just move weird in real life (true story)
this literally made some nantucket nectar lemonade come through my nose, which is really strange since i’m drinking a milkshake
@charli skipper,
**i don’t think women really get that mesmerized by just a man’s looks. so in order for him to be a dime, he would already have to have a good personality and smarts and all that stuff factored in**
nah I think women get mesmerized. Maybe not as much as men because we’re not as visual and looks aren’t our highest priority in a mate.
What I’m trying to say is I can recognize a guy as a dime on looks alone, however I probably don’t want him. I’m just enjoying the eye candy. To me it’s the difference between fine and attractive/cute. You need to have the personality, charisma, intelligence, etc to be an overall dime.
3. “Every night, I got to prove my love…”
Anything that references The Five Heartbeats gets kudos from me. Carry on, lol.
@BSQUARED86, lol, agreed and indeed!
Ps. Heeeeeeeey boo (said in Regan voice!)
@Chalkolet,
LMAO, hey doll!
@Ashley,
LMAO, Can’t nobody sang like Eddie Kang!
@BSQUARED86, why did I just get a visual of eddie’s drunk a$$ in that silver jumpsuit with the blue collar singing “nights like this….i-i wish…rain drops….would…fa-a-a-a-aallll…….”
good times.
but you know who is a dime based solely on looks, though? ocho cinco. chiiiiiiiiiiiiiile, how he doin?
@charli skipper,
Love him! And his attitude! And he’s not as dumb as some may think. Just sayin! I’d give him an 8 or 9 though…
@charli skipper,
You see them pants he was wearing on dancing with the stars?
I know I did. *thumbs up*
@charli skipper,
I love Chad just as much as the next woman…but there’s something…that is a little off in the face…and I can’t figure it out b/c in every pic he looks different.
@LaBakir,
You notice I didn’t mention that face right? *snickering*
@miss t-lee, LMAO….point taken :p
@LaBakir,
his face kinda looks like an old dog puppy face. but i like it….
@LaBakir,
I actually don’t find him that “fine”… Like you said, there is something odd going on in the face area… maybe symmetry or some such… but I don’t think I would give him a second look… if he was not who he is.
@Sula,
Lol, I feel you
I think I’d give him a second look though…he looks like he’d have that “ball player” walk (in regular clothes)…where he looks slightly bowlegged…oh yeah…if I bumped into his arse while running on the track…I’d have to lay my game down quite flat…simply b/c he’s not hideous…I can work w/ it.
Hell…I just dated one like that *dry face*
@charli skipper, he is a big BAMA tho and his bamafied behavior overrides his looks @ best he is a 7.5
@charli skipper, agreed!!
I’m not much into football so even though I heard about all the ocho cinco nonsense, I had no idea what this dude looked like until DWTS. Let me just say…wooo! Not what I had expected.
To me he’s a great example of someone who’s fine. For’eme and my girlfriends fine simply means the bodys right. So you can be either fine(great body), attractive(face-to some extent personality) or (rarely) both.
@charli skipper,
see, i refuse to see a man that legally changed his name to spanish numericals as fine. i just can’t. it’s as hard for me to separate looks and idiocy as it is for america to separate church and state.
@Muze,
i refuse to see a man that legally changed his name to spanish numericals as fine.
Maybe that’s my deterrent as far as ole boy is concerned…. He is on another level of crazy or is it stupid?!
@charli skipper,
Y’all should read ESPN mag more. “The Chad” was in the buff covering his jewels with his book, which was covered with his pretty face.
Body… *makes oddball hand gesture and jaw drops*
this is interesting.
i was having this convo about how looks relate to personality with my closest friend the other day. she’s a 10 on anyone’s scale (though she doesn’t think it anymore, and she’s going to kill me cause she reads this blog as well. lol) and seriously, the prettiest person i’ve ever known in person… since like 6th grade. she is definitely an exception to most of these rules though, because she’s veryvery intelligent and can probably debate any VSB under the table in any subject. not even joking. i know. i hate her too. lol
anyhoo, we were discussing careers and life goals, and she was saying how although she is intelligent, she still has absolutely no idea what she wants to ‘do’ in life. i mentioned that maybe this is the time where she needs to focus on self, because she’s never had to. there has ALWAYS been some man with a load of money begging to take her out, so she has much more ‘life’ experience’ than the average woman her age, meaning she’s been exposed to a whole lot, but she’s never really focused on cultivating her talents or gifts and now finds herself mid-twenties and still undecided.
her response to me saying she’s never had to focus on life goals because of her beauty, was to rebuttal with the fact that both her sister and i are very pretty and still pursue/pursued degrees and have talents and such. in essence, she was saying she doesn’t have any. and being her best friend for the last 18 years, i know for fact it isn’t true. i had to explain to her that there is a difference between being gorgeous and being drop dead light-skinneded videovixen gorgeous. to men. lol. and that’s what she is. so if since the age 17 you’ve been offered to be ‘taken care of’ by guys, and all your needs are constantly being met, you don’t look to the future and think “how will i get my dream house/dream car.” you’re already driving that. so time goes by without you realizing it.
so yeah, i think it’s a bi-product, as your list implies… but it’s not always the desired effect of said dime. lol
…and this has nothing to do with anything, but if i had a dime for every time a black man told me i’d BE a dime if i just gained some weight… what do black men have against being thin? dang. i’ve been this way since 7th grade… gained about 10 pounds during college, and after… went right back down. i don’t think it’s going to change. blame DNA and volleyball, dammit.
sorry. rant over. lol
@Muze,
while I haven’t been taken care of by men…I understand what your friend is going through. Except I KNOW I have talents and interests in many things. I just don’t know how to narrow it down. And it can be a huge source of frustration on my part when the “ego” starts kicking in and telling me I’m not where I NEED to be.
Anywho…I always wondered about that “lifestyle”…having dudes who hold you down, etc. I wouldn’t be particularly comfortable with that…but sometimes I do wish I had a little help..lol….sue me. But in the end, I know I’m stronger for doing what I does solo.
@LaBakir,
yeah… as much as we’re alike tis the one thing she and i have always had different thought processes about. i’m like you, i like to have my own ish… by way of myself. she doesn’t see anything wrong with accepting if offered. lol. i constantly beat myself up about not being where i think i should or where my former college peers are in life right now.
…but hey, she drives a BMW. i drive a Honda. soooo… i say she wins. lol.
@Muze,
*high fives* I drive a Honda too!
One of life’s mysteries. That’s like my associate who’s been out of work going on a year….”dances” from time to time…is a tad bit on the big side (but to each his own)..and has been out on more dates in the last 2 months than I have in probably all of last year…*insert confused Scooby Doo noise*
@Muze,
“…and this has nothing to do with anything, but if i had a dime for every time a black man told me i’d BE a dime if i just gained some weight… ”
Based on your Avatar and your blog image I say those gents are mis-guided. Do you.
@Caballeroso,
I c/s Caballeroso on this one…
Ninjas be buggin…my roomie’s “dude” told her she’s thick and all…but she needs to gain some weight…now this comment got the side eye from me b/c…she’s 207lbs…I mean really?!!! I refuse to be w/ any ninja that wants me to be the size of a small tractor trailer. Have me looking like the newest Autobot..no sir
@LaBakir,
“Ninjas be buggin…I refuse to be w/ any ninja that wants me to be the size of a small tractor trailer. Have me looking like the newest Autobot..no sir”
Funny…I’m a visual thinker, so I just imagined some skinny dude like Eddie Cain trying to feed you:”Just have one more rib, girl…I likes ‘em thick!!!”
@DG,
LMAO…nah, he actually looks like Mike Tyson…and that’s my roomie’s man talking that shit. He’s the one buying her pizza @ 10pm.
@LaBakir,
“I refuse to be w/ any ninja that wants me to be the size of a small tractor trailer. Have me looking like the newest Autobot..no sir”
i think i just died. lmbo!
RIGHT. it’s like, i’m not THAT dang thin. really, i’m not. i don’t think a size 4-5 is when you start calling Anorexics Anonymous. really. my ex was the first black man i’ve ever encountered that preferred small women over thick. like, ever.
i’ve gained like 5lbs since last year and was all excited about my ‘booty boost’ and a friend of mine totally deflated me, saying “you still small as h*ll. eat a steak or something.”
booo him. lol
@Muze,
:p
Nah, a 4/5 isn’t not super small. That’s a cute size. Hell we all have to embrace our sizes. We’re all different, ya know?
Oh, and it’s probably you’re height too. People think I’m smaller than what I am (size and weight) probably b/c I’m 5’9.
@Caballeroso,
thank you sir. i certainly do me. a man will not stop talking to/dating a woman bc she’s thin… at least not in my experiences, but he WILL tell her she needs to gain weight. …goes in one ear and out the other to me. blah. lol
@Muze,
“and this has nothing to do with anything, but if i had a dime for every time a black man told me i’d BE a dime if i just gained some weight… what do black men have against being thin?”
You can be thin as long as you are thick in the right places.
@Humble_One,
see, i’m not necessarily ‘thick’ in anyplace. lol. but my body is proportioned and i do have (small) curves. a Beyonce body i will never have. nor do i want. the average woman with average money that has that coke bottle figure pre-baby, without access to the finest nutritionists, trainers, and cooks, will most likely tip into the fat range as soon as she gets preggo. and then that same dude that was worshiping her thickness will be telling her she needs to lose weight asap, making her feel unattractive, thus ultimately lowering her self-esteem. lol.
i know i went IN, but i’ve seen it happen. and it sucks.
@Muze,
I can dig it…but I’ve witnessed the opposite
The chicks that were sizes 3/4 in high school…and had babies…are now certified Lane Bryant clients. Blows my mind.
But I think the over all issue is chicks don’t work out. No matter what your size…it’s not a good look.
And then they try to predict my future saying I’ll be the same way…..bullsh*t.
@LaBakir
you know, i can see that happening too. black women as a whole just seem to opposed to any type of physical activity that doesn’t involve nakedness. lol. and i’m just saying this based on detroit stats and mine own eyes, and with us being one of the fattest cities in the country. lol.
but yeah…i hate when people say “yeah when you reach age ___, it’s going to catch up to you.” like the fat monster is after me or something. lol
@Muze,
LMAO! For reals! Don’t push your fatness on me! People can be so rude…yes, I have hips…but some folk can be mean saying I’m gonna spread after I have kids like I’m a damn tub of Country Crock.
If I were really rude, I’d kindly remind them, that unlike them…I have good genes and I work out so I wouldn’t allow myself to get to a place where I’m not comfortable physically.
@Muze,
but if i had a dime for every time a black man told me i’d BE a dime if i just gained some weight…
Your rant is so cute… I could hear my sister. She is 110 lbs soaking wet and 5’7… The other day she was looking for a suit because she has started her round of interviewing (graduating in May) and the sizes 0 were too big on her… Poor Child.
And contrary to popular belief, it is very hard for thin women to get bigger if their DNA is just manufactured that way… And no, she does not exercise AT ALL.
@Sula,
THANK YOU.
see, i’m nowhere near as small as her, and only an inch taller,and i still get these comments. errgh.
i see why she doesn’t exercise… poor thing would probably disappear! my freshman roomie in college wore a 00. and used to get mad when stores didn’t carry it. lol. i’d never even heard of a double 0 before. gosh.
@Sula,
That’s that bullshi*! You can’t win! I’m nowhere near a zero, and was about to have a mental breakdown the other day shopping for jeans. My theory was you have to be extremely thin or Precious Jr. to find clothes that fit.
Damn my hips and ass!
@Muze,
“anyhoo, we were discussing careers and life goals, and she was saying how although she is intelligent, she still has absolutely no idea what she wants to ‘do’ in life. i mentioned that maybe this is the time where she needs to focus on self, because she’s never had to. there has ALWAYS been some man with a load of money begging to take her out, so she has much more ‘life’ experience’ than the average woman her age, meaning she’s been exposed to a whole lot, but she’s never really focused on cultivating her talents or gifts and now finds herself mid-twenties and still undecided.”
At least she is noticing this when she is young. I’ve seen women well into their 30s and older that still haven’t caught on to this.
@Humble_One,
right. that’s what i said.
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I will be giggling about this sh*t all day. Thanks!
Although I won’t necessarily generalize and say all “dimes”, entitlement issues is what I have seen as one of the biggest problems.
I will say though it’s better to be with or date a dime than a woman who THINKS she’s a dime but is not. Those are the worse.
@Monk,
LMAO cause I was reminded of that broad Kanisha from tough love 2 (aka London Dupree)…. I was annoyed with her the entire show. Ugly as the day is long talkin bout I will only date athletes and entertainers. You will be alone, bish!
@RocktheCatbox, She got on my nerve too! I am like she is sooo basic but sayin how he got to have this and that. Too funny!
@Monk,
OMG COSIGN!
This makes me want to simultaneously cry and smack the crap out of said person
On one hand I envy/admire that someone can have such confidence in themselves that they think they are just the best thing since sliced bread
BUT
If you really aren’t you should probably tone your declaration of being a “5 Star Chick” down because you might end up getting your feelings hurt.
I feel like more often then not the beautiful girls have low self-esteem and think they’re not that attractive and then the women who
look like God was drunk and blind when he crafted themare ugly are the most stuck-up women you’ll EVER meet.@SimplisElegance (Formally lh),
“I feel like more often then not the beautiful girls have low self- esteem and think they’re not that attractive and then the women who look like God was drunk and blind when he crafted them are ugly are the most stuck-up women you’ll EVER meet.”
This happens 94.8% of the time.
@Monk, Those are funny as hell. My brother dated one of those. Well it was funny to me anyway. I am still laughing @ him.
There’s also a great chance of gettin yo’ ass whooped when someone inevitably grabs her ass in public… and she expects your 5’6 ass to come to her defense…
Last time it happened, I just finally stood up to her and just said, “No. It’s not fair. Just because you wanted to come out the house in stretch jeans.. now I got to get my ass whooped at the club again”.
From here on out I just date ugly chicks. My girl now can go to the club completely naked and the only thing guys say is… “Man, you should get some clothes on her before she catches a cold”.
Ugly Bitches Rule!!!!
@Brettandthecity,
FOOLISHNESS… Luvs It!
@Brettandthecity,
Dude, you are funny.
@Brettandthecity, TOO FUNNY!
@Brettandthecity,
LMFAO! You just made my morning
I feel bad cause this situation happens when I go out with my guy sometimes.
I like to look cute (but for me not really for anyone else) and there have been multiple times where dudes have just gone TOO far
And yes, I did expect my guy to defend me lol
Eventually he was like, “It’s unrealistic for you to expect me to try and check EVERY dude that disrespects you. I love you but I’d like to live a little longer too”
@Brettandthecity,
LMAO!
@Brettandthecity, LOL Yes, it’s extremely difficult dating a hot chick when you constantly have to defend her honor.
Truthfully, it ain’t worth it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten my ass whooped at the club. The funny part is I would try to act like I didn’t see the guys grab her ass and she would yell out loud, “Oh Hell naw.. I’m bout to have my man fuck you up..”.
I would look at her like, “Heffa you and I both know I’m bout to get my ass whooped up in here”.
That’s why Ugly Bitches Rule should be the title of next blog on Brettandthecity. LOL
@Brettandthecity,
This is awful. Once dated this decent looking dude who for some reason every man in the room SONNED when we were out. I mean dudes straight up acted like he was invisible, some would put an arm between me and him and ask for number. Not because I’m so fly (well…eheheheh)…or half nekkit, Id been fully clothed with no spandex or midriff in sight.. Not because of his looks or any gay vibe he gave off. This only happened with this particular guy. Weird thing is, it pissed him off…get this, not because it happened, but because he was shocked that he didn’t know any of the dudes who rolled up on me (he’s one of these neighborhood cats who swears he knows everybody). He laughed it off, said it was weird but made sure to give me angry sex. We had a weird relationship.
@RocktheCatbox,
“I mean dudes straight up acted like he was invisible, some would put an arm between me and him and ask for number”
This sounds like that one episode of Seinfeld.
@Brettandthecity,
lol. you sure you’re not really kevin hart masquerading as a blogger?
@The Champ, LOL LOL No Champ… I’m definitely not Kevin Hart although I’ve often wanted to fight him.
I think I have reverse Napoleon disease. Anytime I see another short guy… I just want to fight him. It’s like that old TV show Highlander. I can always tell when another short MF is within 5 ft cause just get a head ache. And when I see them I just want to fight that lil mutha fucka to the death. LOL
@Brettandthecity,
In the words of Lil’ Duval….I bet you can’t beat MY a$$!!!
“Lack of depth”
Yep. I once was chillin’ for a couple months with a super fine gentleman who was about as deep as a puddle.
It was trade off for the 6 pack, redic pecs and arms, and that velvety chocolate skin.
My friends thought I was crazy for cutting it off, because “girl, he’s so fiiiine”.
Ugh, whatever. All that means nothing if you can’t have a decent convo about anything, and the mofo is a bit off his rocker.
@miss t-lee,
I agree with you on this. I once traded lack of depth for an oh so fine brother. His body was just hmm, ahh, ooh,, wow..yeah umm he was fine. But after a few months of him constantly saying “what that mean” And silent nights with him just glued to ESPN, I had to let that go. The late bloomer fine brothers are pretty bad too. If they got dissed all through high school and the early college days, but suddenly came in to their sexy chocolate, that usually spells trouble.
@HeLovesMe,
” But after a few months of him constantly saying “what that mean… I had to let that go.”
LOL!! You understand completely. My dude had the personality of a potted plant.
Ay dios mio!
I’m on the fence about this post cuz there are plenty of very important reasons to NOT date a 5 or below which inlcude:
1. (‘specially true if you are NOT a dime) Gene pool. Your kids could wind up looking like Wanda.
2.(‘specially true if you are a dime) Ugly/average looking people–at least the ones with low self-esteem—are paranoid that you’re going to leave them, and tend to be clingy (they know you’re the best they can do, and won’t allow themselves to be dumped, even when you spell it out for them). That gets annoying.
3. Run into your last dime with an ugly on your arm and you get that condescending look of pity.
4. Bad tables at restaurants. People are just nicer to pretty people. It’s not right, but it’s ok.
5. Ugly people overdo it in clothing, hair and accessories…nobody wants to show up to a wedding with Bootsie Collins or that guy from Earth Wind and Fire who looks like the Crypt Keeper.
I have very few/no issues with average looking men, since height, build, education (sometimes), personality (most times) and usefulness (shout out to the average lookers who helped me move, fixed my car, put my entertainment center together, sent me to dinner with girlfriends and paid my rent. I may give you the ass someday) can take a 5 straight to an 8. But straight up fugly-in-the-face should be avoided at all costs. Think of the children!
@RocktheCatbox,
Can I like cyber-high five you are summthin? LOL Co-sign
Especially with #2, I haaaaaate it when that happens. Whether it be to me or a friend or something. It’s like you’re a dime but the guy/girl you’re with isn’t that particularly attractive but you love him/her all the same. Because they’re not that attractive and they know it and you know it they start acting clingy and the dime starts feeling smothered and all that ends up ruining what could have been a REALLY good thing…..
Saaaad, saaaad day…
OK Rant done
@RocktheCatbox,
“Ugly/average looking people–at least the ones with low self-esteem—are paranoid that you’re going to leave them, and tend to be clingy (they know you’re the best they can do, and won’t allow themselves to be dumped, even when you spell it out for them). That gets annoying.”
I’ve personally noticed that the dimes tend to be clingy. I’m a 1.5 and am far from clingy.
“Run into your last dime with an ugly on your arm and you get that condescending look of pity.”
One of the man law rules is to always upgrade or maintain the same level.
@Humble_One,
“One of the man law rules is to always upgrade or maintain the same level.”
This is #16 in the Man Law Handbook…
@Humble_One,
Probably right, I’ve also noticed this with plain insecure people (pleasedontleavemeyouaremyerrything!)
And I refuse to believe you are a 1.5. I just refuse.
@RocktheCatbox,
“And I refuse to believe you are a 1.5. I just refuse.”
Why can’t a brotha be a 1.5?
@RocktheCatbox,
But that’s easy to settle, ain’t it? Both of y’all do live in Detroit. *grins*
I mean and just as much as the VSB rules insist upon empty statements with no photo attached for the ladies, we (the VSSs) also want to assess those 1.5 statements… We designate RocktheCatbox as faithful reporter… so there…. go meet up and CatBox come report. Case solved.
@RocktheCatbox,
Well then, I may just have to get on my investigatin’ then.. the main reasons I think you are suspect, I don’t believe you, you need more people are:
1. the texture of your posts and comments about your dating experiences; it does not sound convincing that you would be so low on this sophisticated scale of attraction we’re using here.
2. you seem to be choosy about women (you for damn sure do not date other 1.5s) in both looks, education and personality, and someone who spent their life as a 1.5 would be EITHER happy to get any woman they can, OR are completely blind to actually being a 1.5, and you just said you were one, consequently making your admission false.
3. If you are lacking so much in the looks department and live in in this town, you would need to be a hood star, pimp, athlete or ostentatious wearer of your wealth in order to pull your average Detroit lady. Orange suits don’t seem like your speed.
3. Any man who volunteers that he is a 1.5 …AIN’T!
What you got to say now?!!! LOL. I’m speculating like a mo’fo but I don’t care, I’m going with my gut on this one.
Yeah, number 10 gets more and more likely the more she’s is unlikely to date someone like yo kind of like, grandpa and the crazy wolf chic on The Boondocks.
“Date 6’s.”
Word to Game Theory…
I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed the Palm Pre chick…she’s a bad bish with a mean walk and her hair is hella cute too!
*carry on*
@numbah 5,
Boys is really geeked about her, and for good reason. I swear I stop what I am doing when that commercial comes on. She is bad.
@numbah 5,
that commercial is proof that ad agencies hate men
I dated a vertically challenged 5 and convinced him he was a 7. WORST. MISTAKE. EVER. After he got his self-esteem up (due in part to me) dude thought he was a hot commodity, ended up cheating qué será será.
I’d consider him a 5 not because of his looks but a combination of traits. Sure he was short, but he was attractive and physically fit. Thing is, dude dropped out of community college and I’m working on my masters. We didn’t run in the same circles and when I could convince him to hang out with my “bougie” friends I feared for what he might say. I wasn’t always so paranoid until his pr0n addiction of which I was previously unaware came up in a casual conversation of mixed company that included my sister, friends.
Sorry if I can’t get excited that his Jordans collection is up to 51 pair and I have absolutely no desire to see the newest installment from West Coast Productions.
Oh, yeah dead at # 3 *makes mental note to find old copy of the 5 Heartbeats.*
@AtypicalLibrarian,
I have absolutely no desire to see the newest installment from West Coast
speak for yourself
@The Champ,
*snickering*
@The Champ, I know this is late but I feel special to get a comment from Mr. The Champ himself, especially since I didn’t get the patented “welcome and sh*t” from either of the VSBs!
I don’t know how I failed to mention that co-workers were present during the pr0n addiction admission. Sadly, I dated dude for far too long and know far too much about the adult entertainment industry.
I just came in here to comment on the chick in the Palm Pre ad…
Yes, yes, I’ll take one of those, please!
@SouthernCharm,
I absolutely love the layout of your blog!
@LaBakir,
‘Preciate that! Subscribe and don’t be scared to leave a comment sometime!
@SouthernCharm,
I subrscribed! check mine out when you get a moment…I fell off for a minute, but I’m back on it,lol
@SouthernCharm,
Hey, I liked your “Sitting by the phone” post. It was good food for thought AND reminded me that I need to finish watching 2012 and get that joint back to the video store.
cleverly written. As with all though, there are exceptions to the rule. There are dimes that are brilliant, just look at some of the women in Obama’s cabinet. He has black women that graduated from Harvard and could easily be in some black mens magazine if they chose that lifestyle. and ur only in the shadow women dont think u are as attractive as the woman u are with, otherwise yall are equal. the step down thing is true though….so damn true. I look at one of my ex’s, then i look at some of my last weeks…and i’m like….i gotta learn to be more consistent.
@undressingHER,
He has black women that graduated from Harvard and could easily be in some black mens magazine if they chose that lifestyle
name names and shit
Not all folk that are considered dimes fit this profile P, there are exceptions.
@OrangeStar616,
True!
This is why there’s hardly ever any 7.5′s – 8.5′s (that’s B, B+, A- range) free on the open market. A critical mass of good looks, minus most of the nonsense that comes with chicks at the peak of the food chain, plus a higher level of attainability for most guys. I get extremely excited when I connect with an 8. If I get a dime’s number (it doesn’t happen as much as I’d like, but it does happen), I’m skeptical and always waiting for the other shoe to drop, adn it always drops (not necessarily because I’m skeptical – she just realizes she isn’t interetsed in me.)
That’s whay most of the chronically-single-agaisnt-their-will black women I know are either unfortunate looking, or the finest woman I’ve ever seen in my life. Very few in between.
@Scipio Africanus,
That’s whay most of the chronically-single-agaisnt-their-will black women I know are either unfortunate looking, or the finest woman I’ve ever seen in my life. Very few in between.
interesting point and shit
@Scipio Africanus,
**That’s whay most of the chronically-single-agaisnt-their-will black women I know are either unfortunate looking, or the finest woman I’ve ever seen in my life. Very few in between.**
I’m hoping that i’m one of those very few that are in between cuz in not cocky enough to believe I’m that fine and I did not think i was unfortunate looking :-/
I can only equate Dime Dumbness to Dyckmatized Dumbness. Maybe cuz I’m a woman, I’m more cognizant of the dumb shii dudes seem willing to endure, withstand and even perpetuate to sorta be with somebody they & their boys can get their jollies from the thought of her. Cuz from what I hear, llots of em are too cute to bleeeep. So he’s gonna be givin himself a hand as much if not more than before cuz he’s close but no cigar.
And I don’t believe in the Dyckmatization of America, but guys constantly point to this phenomenon. So maybe there’s an eensy bit of substance to the theory. So when I think chicks are holding on just to have ‘somebody, anybody’, the male psyche can see what’s really going on. Cuz even the best of my skeletons wouldn’t be worth consistently bad decisions or jumping thru hoops doing some dumb sh!t just to claim he’s my beau.
Its okay to be luvin those who are luvin you, people.
@bittersweet’s baby,
this was a very colorful comment and shit. i have nothing else to add
Panama, thanks for the endorsement!! I’m sure my fellow 6′s everywhere thank you as well!!
But this list can apply even if your just a dime in his eyes. I dated a guy who thought I was the best thing smoking, but he would never fully commit cause he always accused me of being with someone else or wanting to be. When we were out together he would always notice others looking, but an hour glass figure always gets looks, shouldn’t he be proud and not paranoid.
I guess this list can apply to guys too. I never dated the “hot” guy, I was just friends with them. Their EGO’s are HUGE, and that’s a turn off, I like laid back, real down to mars guys, ya dig.
@TiP, alot of male ego’s are out of control not soley based on being handsome either.
Actually…..I don’t really like OMG FINE guys….seriously, give me a ‘ugly’ dude and I;m on fire. I’m not talking trollish, I just like guys who are not conventionally attractive. Examples: Jeff Goldblum, yum. William Dafoe, yes, please. The guy who played Claire Fisher’s druggy boyfriend on the first season or two on Six Feet Under…Andy Samberg from SNL….the list can go on. I like guys with big lips, noses, eyes…all the not so cute features.
@Dee, You sound just like my best friend. She’s absolutely gorgeous but insists on dating fat and/or ugly dudes. Her last boyfriend looked like the spawn of Lil’ Wayne and Mr. Frodo with Jermaine Dupri-esque orthodontic tendencies!
@AtypicalLibrarian,
I think Lil Wayne can be kinda cute sometimes…
(/small voice)
JD looks like a mouse…if you notice…all the guys I listed have some sort of over-sized something….some features on a man make me feel like I’m with a child.
I think I’m very pretty, but I got too much junk in the trunk to be a all around ’10′….and I have the old school VW trunk placement. The headlights do distract you from that however.
@Dee,
“I think I’m very pretty, but I got too much junk in the trunk to be a all around ‘10?….and I have the old school VW trunk placement”
***paging humble one***
@Dee & The Champ
“I think I’m very pretty, but I got too much junk in the trunk to be a all around ‘10?….and I have the old school VW trunk placement. The headlights do distract you from that however.”
I am not sure if you are aware of the VSB rules. Comments like this are not allowed without a pic to support said comment.
*thanks for the alert Champ I’m on the job*
I’m glad I’m not the only person who finds Beyonce’s speech pattern painful. The army should dub her interviews into Arabic and force terrorists to listen to that sh*t on a loop for a few hours.
When I first read “Palm Pre Ad” I thought you were talking about the pasty Skynet looking 2520 chick from the original ads, but thanks to your Youtube hyperlink I have been enlightened. That’s a bad mamma jamma in that ad… I think i need to go to the Sprint store.
Another reason not to date a dime is …
Flakiness. Hot people don’t have to be reliable. Lord help you if flakiness is combined with numbers 10, 8, and 6.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
*dead*
“I’m glad I’m not the only person who finds Beyonce’s speech pattern painful. The army should dub her interviews into Arabic and force terrorists to listen to that sh*t on a loop for a few hours.”
@LaBakir,
I feel the same way. I am not one of these Beyonce hater either. When I hear her talk it seems like something is missing. I get that same feeling whenever I hear someone that isn’t too sharp speak.
@Humble_One,
Yeah, I actually like Bey….that’s my homie. But it hurts to hear her talk. Perhaps she should sing during conversations….like a musical. Maybe that would help? :/
@Humble_One & @LaBakir
I think it’s because she’s trying to hide her accent. I caught a glimpse of her actually being herself once in an interview (extremely rare) and she sounded REAL country. Kinda like a female T.I. lol I’m like wait, is that the same person? It was really charming….but America’s pop princess can’t sound like that so… :-/
@LaBakir, Bey acts kind of dead behind the eyes when she talks. I wonder what a conversation between her and Jay sounds like? I wish she would own up to her being country then she would come off less robotic.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
The way Beyonce talks is the reason mofos don’t believe I’m from Texas when they hear me speak…lol I always get, “no really, where did you move from?” FOH
That ish is painful to listen to. You’re right, her voice could be used as a torture tactic.
Great list… Typically, while everyone is ogling over the dimes, I go for the 7′s & 8′s who are “dimes” in the ruff. I’ll still take a brickhouse, foxxy mama, betty, dime, 5 star chick, winner, or whatever they’re called these days.
@SouthernCharm,
you forgot the bust it baby
As a guy who grew up being rejected, laughed at and used by women just because I was a nice guy, I can say this: amazingly pretty, absolutely gorgeous, magnetizingly beautiful women are just not worth it. All of the aforementioned adjectives are great to have in describing the woman (or man) that you think want, but just in my experience, women like that have not been worth. They can be the definition of pretty, but can be dumb as a rock. Because I never really got any play from women like that, the ones that every guy that you know wants, I never really went after them. On the occasions that one gives me the time of day and I try to converse with her, I realize “Oh, that is why I don’t date girls like you”. Now don’t get me wrong. That kind of woman would be good to have my arm and if she drop her drawers in front of me I won’t go King Kong on her, but after awhile, that gets old. Plus, I grew up in a family full of educated, intelligent women and we are raising one now that is my niece, so if I brought home a pretty girl that is dumb as a rock, that’s my ass. I should know better. I hate drama, so much that if drama was human, I would carry a gun just for sole reason of killing it. Give me a girl that is a 6-8 with a personality and mind that makes her a 10+.
Now this doesn’t apply to the VSS that are amazingly beautiful and intelligent at the same time. I know where Panama is coming from because he lives in a chocolate city. Living in the H, and going to an HBCU near the H, fake, pretty b**ches are everywhere out here, walking around like they sh*t don’t stick. That got old real quick. Give me a country girl with a degree any day.
Ok, I’m done, before I start rambling.
Oh yeah. F*ck Beyonce’. Give me Kelly any day, especially in the “Baby By Me” video. (50 Cent, you lucky bastard)
@ComicBookGuy,
Agreed on Kelly vs. Beyonce. Matter of fact I almost threw Rihanna into that conversation up until the time her third album came out and the appeal just died to me.
Matter of fact – this entire list is the reason why I avoid dating those “physical” dimes in the first place. I’ll take a seven or a six and dream my ass off for a nine with a slight imperfection. Trust me, you have not lived until you’ve seen a perceived dime fall off her perch by simply opening her mouth and talking for 15 minutes.
She was still a 7ish until she let this yearbook quote leave her lips: “Well if you feelin’ froggy, say ribbit!”
@Brando,
Dude, I have been through that a lot, whether it is on the phone or in person. It hurts my heart sometimes to have a beautiful woman open her mouth and say something so bad that you feel embarrassed for them.
@Brando,
I thought Letoya was cute one in the group before she got 86′d. I think Keri Hilson is underrated as hell, but that’s just me.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
People be hating on Keri like she ain’t cute. Just because she from Atlanta don’t me she has to have a huge ass. I’m a tall dude so I like tall, pretty women. Keri is tops in my book. Letoya, too. You can see her out and about in the H sometimes.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
the original DC has to be the only group where THREE of the four chicks would seriously find themselves on anybody’s top ten.
…and the only group where dudes would perfer the “other” girls over the lead singer.
@Brando,
You are so right. To me, Beyonce was a’ight when they first came out, but it was all about Letoya with me.
@ComicBookGuy,
Keri is beautiful….she’s just so WHACK to me. Like she’s trying too hard to be “cool”, “down”, whatever you want to call it…it’s unatural.
@La Bakir,
I think Keri is an undercover geek. If she truly is a geek, her sexiness will go up a bit more.
@ComicBookGuy,
“I know where Panama is coming from because he lives in a chocolate city. Living in the H, and going to an HBCU near the H, fake, pretty b**ches are everywhere out here, walking around like they sh*t don’t stick. That got old real quick.”
This must be common in big cities with a signifcant black population. Here in Detroit these type of women are a dime a dozen.
@Humble_One,
What up doe? Big ups to the D. I got good people from there and I’ll be up there in few weeks to holla at some customers.
Yeah, I think it is common in big cities with a significant black population. I would say it is the same in Dallas, but that’s home and when I go home, I know who and who not to f*ck when it comes to chicks. Plus all the bad ones my age live in the burbs.
@ComicBookGuy,
What up doe? I can’t believe Dallas and Houston is like that. I’ve heard nothing but good stuff about the women in Houston. I know you will always have your “pieces of work” around. But the vibe I got from most of the dudes I talked to were that the women there were pretty down to earth. Houston is on my list of possible places to move to.
@Humble_One,
I really can’t put it on all women in Houston. Like you said, there are plenty of “pieces of work” down here. I just met a lot of fake chicks from Houston when I was in college, and I am not saying that as a guy that rejected but as a guy when you got to know people, you find out what you like and don’t like. Houston has some cool people but because it is such a big and a viable place to live and make money, some people get paper and act kinda fooly sometimes, but for real, that shouldn’t stop you from ever thinking about moving down here. I used to swear on a stack of bibles I would never move to Houston after I graduated, and now I have been here two years and even worse, I own a house.
@ComicBookGuy,
“F*ck Beyonce’. Give me Kelly any day, especially in the “Baby By Me” video. (50 Cent, you lucky bastard)”
Been saying this for years…Kelly is, and always has been, the truth….Beyonce’ just has better marketing….
@ComicBookGuy, Mmmmmm don’t take for granted that we all have our ugly stages. Some just last longer than others.
I was NEVER the little girl the boys wanted in class. I mean light-skin with long hair was def in as I grew up late 80s early 90s. I was brown, short hair, glasses and a gap that lingered til I was 8. <—I eventually blossomed. Don't judge me. It wasn't until college that 'my type' became 'acceptable' in the realm of beauty.Or maybe it was the first time black men were exposed to variations that met the mark across many boards. idk…..Nonetheless, as I grew into myself it was always up to me to know that I am a 10. Whether it be I'm a forreal solid 8 plus my smarts, personality, etc makes me a 10 OR I'm like @PanamaJackson and a 3 and have to work harder to be a 10. <— I'm kidding P. You're a solid 10 in my book. Hands down……Either way, what a person looks like should not be a deciding factor as to whether you date them or not.<—- Wellll you know what I mean. No Shabba Rankin's apply. ……I think we all agree it's the personality, level of intelligente and all that jazz that truly makes a 10 a 10. Unless well, you are Beyonce. <— I'm a stan. sorry. 
@Daydreamer,
Believe me, my dear. You are preaching to the choir. Took me a hell of a long time to grasp that I can be a higher number than I thought. I am at the point in my life where I’m like f*ck it, just don’t bore me. If I talking to you and making a effort to show interest in you, I think you are attractive physically. Getting into your head and your heart is what I trying to work on if I am talking to you. If you are pretty but dumb as a bag of rocks, I’m chucking deuces. Ain’t got time to be sweating a chick that sounds like talking to a 14 year old.
@ComicBookGuy, What’s not to like about Ms. Hilson? Big eyes, eight miles worth of legs, great body, and even better smile. I’ve instructed all Agents of M.E. to bring her in for questioning if they cross her path.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
Let me sit in on that meeting. I read an interview with her in Complex Magazine and her class and poise is unbelievably sexy to me. Her smile would have ya boy doing sh*t to get me arrested.
@ComicBookGuy,
Will do. I’ll e-mail you the location of the Helicarrier where we’ll conduct the Keri’s questioning.
@Wuyoung Agent of M.E.,
Helicarrier. Good one.
Panama I can’t believe you left out “princess syndrome” out of those 10. That should at least be in the top 3. I agree with this totally except for 7 and 8. I was never paranoid or insecure with being these chics. And I’m not even a 3 I’m a 1.5.
I try to give the benefit of the doubt to the high 8′s-to-dimes but they always seem to disappoint me with their personality. While I am still attracted to them I already know that I can’t take them serious. I want the nerd chic with an @ss. It seems like that type of woman is like a unicorn. The only women I’ve met that were highly attractive and well rounded(physically and personality wise) were women from other countries.
I’ve dated a few 8-10′s and was in a 5-year relationship with this type of woman. I told myself never ever again. I had to deal with everything listed except for the two I mentioned above and I’m straight on it. It use to frustrate me so much that I couldn’t talk about things of substance with the woman that I lived and slept with.
@Humble_One, I’ll take that Princess nod. Not because of the dime relevance but it’s just coincidental I refer to myself as Princess Day because I can- and my Daddy made sure I was his Princess.
@Humble_One,
I want the nerd chic with an @ss.
I am so dead and weak at this description!! Bwahahaha!
@Sula,
I know there has to be a nerdy woman with a sick @ss-to-waist ratio. I have a hard time swallowing a chic with noassatall.
@Humble_One,
“I have a hard time swallowing a chic with noassatall.”
Although I know what you mean, folk, this statement could be misinterpreted like a mofo…lol
@ DG,
Good to know it wasn’t just me with a dirty mind.
@DG, @miss t-lee,
Y’all weren’t the only ones who thought that. Hilarious.
@Humble_One,
“The only women I’ve met that were highly attractive and well rounded(physically and personality wise) were women from other countries.”
HOLLA!!!!
Hahahaahahaha! Well when I read an article about Desiree Rogers being hated on not because she was AMAZING as first black woman to have her job at the White House BUT because she was in fact beautiful AND SMART I got it immediatley! Men and society alike can’t handle beautiful women who are also intelligent. It’s like the ultimate oxymoron or something. o_O
Granted there are those who quantify either end of the beauty vs. brains specturm- ie Beyonce or Sheryl Underwood or Whoopi Goldberg.<—I'm sure you can figure out which end each lady goes on. BUT then you have the ladies that I know all too well, including moi, my Mama, Michelle Obama, Desiree Rogers, my circle of girlfriends and so many others who meet both expectations without pause. Yet we get hit with lists like these! o_O Really?! But it's ok for men to be FINE and SMART- ala Barack Obama. Ain't nobody hating on that brotha!; including me, I heart him! But we too should be celebrated with the same energy.
As far as I'm concerned #s 4, 5, 7 and 8 are the male gender's issue not ours. And while you're at it kick #s 1,2 3,6,9 and 10 out the window because they don't apply here. Beauty and brains are a well packaged deal boo! Take it or leave it!
@Daydreamer,
“Well when I read an article about Desiree Rogers being hated on not because she was AMAZING as first black woman to have her job at the White House BUT because she was in fact beautiful AND SMART I got it immediatley!”
I don’t think she was hated on for either aspect.
Um…smart yes, she’s very intelligent. I don’t know if I’d exactly call her beautiful though.
“But it’s ok for men to be FINE and SMART- ala Barack Obama”
Barack? Smart as the day is long. Fine? Eh….
@miss t-lee, The basis of this article made a lot of sense re: Desiree. She is quite attractive and not for nothing extremely fabulous! Hands down. People can’t handle that. Either you’re smart and average. Hi Condelezza. Or you’re beautiful and a rock. Hi Naomi.
re: Barack…. mmmm yeah that man is a nice tasty piece of lunch meat. When he walks in the room says Hello.
@Daydreamer,
Let’s just agree to disagree.
@miss t-lee,
Barack suffers from Oprah syndrome. He can be smart as three Einsteins running the country, but looks will never the be the reason you actually date him.
@miss t-lee,
“Barack? Smart as the day is long. Fine? Eh….”
This is what I referred to upthread….women gauge men’s attractiveness on a collective scale. He’s prob a 10 to many women, but not based solely on looks….he obviously has some other characteristics that women find attractive (and if nothing else, he’s the most powerful man on the planet). If he was just that ninja Barry O working at the car wash, would women still consider him a 10??
@DG,
Bingo. Bango.
@DG,
If he was just that ninja Barry O working at the car wash, would women still consider him a 10??
Survey at the car wash with identical-ish looking guys says “No!”
@DG, Totally agreed. Barack’s fineness goes beyond looks. He’s not an ugamug but he’s quite the 7.5-8 without all his other attributes. With them his a bonafied 10!
This absolutely applies to men too! Although my personal dime rating for men is a composite score made up of looks, personality, intelligence, and all that other stuff. Looks only account for about 25% of the score, so they’ve got to have a lot going for them in other areas to get the dime rating. A great personality can actually help boost a not so stellar looks score because an average looking guy looks so much cuter to me when he has a good personality. I usually knock a few points off a really fine guys dime score until I see proven evidence of a personality.
@klysha,
You are right. I definitely know some male bimbos. I see girls go stupid over some guys. If they only knew that the best he may be for this is arm candy.
Side note: I’ve resolved two fine people just aren’t meant to be. The planets just clash: Halle and Eric. Eva and Lance. BUT look at Forest and Keisha….together forever. He knows what he got when he married her and vice versa.
@Daydreamer,
Two dimes together results in a disturbance in the Force…kinda like trying to bring together magnets with the same polarity….two 10s repel one another.
@Daydreamer,
I am so sad for Eva and Lance though… They were so good looking!
*sad face*
@Sula,
Eva and Lance are done?!!
That’s like I don’t think Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kudjoe don’t make a cute couple, but seperately they are attractive
@La Bakir, Girl yeah. So sad. http://necolebitchie.com/2010/03/24/eva-and-lance-call-it-quits
@La Bakir, Nicole Ari Parker Looks weird to me too… I can’t be the only one
@Sula, Maybe I am the only one on earth who thinks that guy looks weird. I don’t know what it is…
@Daydreamer,
damn…shame and a scandal
I’m a 7-8 chick. Waking up, I’m a 7. When I try (which is usually everyday, unless it’s period week, ha!) then I’m an 8. This is what the guys I’ve dated and other have said about my looks. But, what makes me a 10 is my personality. I ALWAYS get this compliment. When I write blogs online (via facebook) dudes are always like “damn ma…I didn’t know you were that deep.” I used to be offended when people said that too. It always kills me when I hear that because my first reaction is “damn…what did you THINK?”
What I notice though is that women who are above a certain number of the attractive scale (which is subjective, but still) AUTOMATICALLY get placed in some variation of the “dumb” category. It’s only until you prove that you’re not stupid, that people begin to look at you like you’re an alien or from another planet (cuz no woman with that combo can be from here *sarcasm) That’s my complaint. When a women is smart and pretty, don’t treat her like she’s a hot commodity or a rarity. We’re not. I can easily name about 10-12 of my friends who are pretty, smart and have great personality. I’m sure most women in this same category can too.
So while the 10′s in the looks department may be shallow, not all women who are pretty are dumb or devoid of personality and conversation. And when you treat the 7-8′s with personality and intelligence like they’re some rare jewel, over time, those women begin to assume they are more unique than they really are and begin trying to act like the dime with nothing to prove. Sad situation for us all!
@Mo,
This is what the guys I’ve dated and other have said about my looks.
Really? That’s what boyfriends and girlfriends discuss these days? How they rate on the beauty scale? Interesting…
@Sula, Ha ha…Granted, these conversations took place in high school and at those house parties gone wrong in college (you know, the ones where you linger for a bit too long and folks drinks have set in an the “anything” goes convo starts happening…I know I’m not the only one who experienced that), so take it with a grain of salt.
The situation remains the same though. Do not treat 7/8 women who are intelligent and have great personalities like they are yellow diamonds or some other rarity, because guaranteed over time they will try to pass off into the dime category and thus subscribe to all the dime-like attributes listed in here…and then we all lose
i can agree with number 2. a lot of times you see women who are told they are beautiful their whole lives, so that’s all they go on. they don’t have interesting hobbies and they’re shallow.
now i don’t ever see myself dating a dime. would i go after 6′s. nope. i think 8-9′s are more my speed.
@Tunde,
“now i don’t ever see myself dating a dime. would i go after 6’s. nope. i think 8-9’s are more my speed.”
8-9′s are dime-lites or diet-dimes. I think you will still end up dealing with the same ish.
@Humble_One, well then i’ll just deal. lol i’m not going to actively seek out 6′s.
@Humble_One,
LOL @ “dime-lites”…If you like dimes, try me! Same great taste, less headache.
@LaBakir,
Dead at your dime-lite commercial!! Bwahahaha!
@LaBakir,
LMAO
“and my girls aint dimes/not even close to nines/more like 5′s and 6′s/with scars and stiches/type of bitches, to spit in your face like alomar/broke hoes without a car stealing food from a salad bar”
possible free vsb t-shirt to the first person who can tell me what song that’s from (without googling it)
@The Champ,
*drawing a blank*
@The Champ, I dunno but I can show you her on the 5 train on my way home.
@The Champ,
I believe it is a Redman song?
@Humble_One,
nope. (although, you’re kind of in the right part of the rap universe)
@The Champ,
Bangs?
@The Champ, This is a shot in the dark but Sean Price?
@The Champ,
Real familiar…DMX maybe?
@The Champ, soooo crazy I JUST asked on twitter today who remembers the Life in 1472 cd! I was listening the song with Mase & Lil Kim but this song is on my ipod too! that was my jam…
Get Ya Shit Right….the line is from the Mad Rapper.
I know I’m late but…what I win?
Interesting….”To Date or Not to Date – A Dime?” A dime according to whom? Him or me?…he or she? Those who THINK they are or is it in the eye of the beholder? Because I can tell you right now, I find it hard to get a bird’s eye view of one’s (self) perceived beauty by just looking from the outside in. Don’t get me wrong, just by glancing I can tell you if I find them physically attractive – in my eyes…but that’s about it.
I can’t quite say I’ve ever really been able to pick my lips up and say (even to self) that “I got me a 10″….even if “brova man” was the cat’s meow. Which brings a particular ex to mind…because once I began to observe and got a closer look on the situation, it all became clear…and the more he began to realize, his outer shell didn’t have shyt on his inner shell, which was the key component of what was needed to keep an individual like me around…which is a person who’s a bit more humble and grounded with “her blessings”. So if he truly wanted me on his team, it was crucial that he disciplined himself on how to balance it all out. However, I can honestly admit, it still was not the cause due to the demise of the relationship.
But back to the original topic, the phrase “dime piece” alone… it just carries a heavy odor filled with arrogance masked as confidence. Is it a must that some campaign so hard? …might want to be real careful with that, ’cause backstroking is prohibited once you’ve made a promise on delivering to the masses. Ummhmm.
And even after that particular revelation and whatnot…whether its proven or not : the blessing and the curse of attractiveness…I’ll always remain cordial, just not extra with it.
But naw, I don’t think those who are considered the total package (be it geniune or not) should not be treated as lepers…they need love too! LoL …its just for some (with deeply embedded issues), it will take awhile to find as well as MAINTAIN a healthy relationship, since its likely (but not always) that they attract what they truly are.
@Ms. Butta’sWorth,
“since its likely (but not always) that they attract what they truly are.”
…and actually I don’t necessarily think its who they attract, but rather who they are drawn to and/or embrace.
@Ms. Butta’sWorth,
Because I can tell you right now, I find it hard to get a bird’s eye view of one’s (self) perceived beauty by just looking from the outside in. Don’t get me wrong, just by glancing I can tell you if I find them physically attractive – in my eyes…but that’s about it.
THIS!
And you’ve actually well articulated my whole ambivalence towards this topic. Again, when am I going to see a show (or at the very least a blog???)
@Sula,
I’ve been seriously brainstorming since this morning, since some of you keep mentioning it.
Got me feelin’ as if I’ve been slummin’ it. It just may be time to be a little bit more proactive with my thoughts…I guess I just never thought it was that serious…just the latest fade. And at times, I can be real stubborn if I want to when it comes to “the latest trends”. Heyal, I refused to create a facebook/myspace/twitter page. I have this unusual feeling its all a conspiracy for the “gubment” , secret agents, spies and the like to keep up with my whereabouts and isht. If that makes sense…lol.
But you will definitely be one of the first that I inform…
If anyone watches, How I Met Your Mother, the Hot/Crazy scale sums this post up perfectly.
Observe: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zADosF3XoQ
@SouthernCharm,
Um, BEST. SHOW. EVER!!!!!
Barney is my white Jesus.
@RocktheCatbox,
Word.Life.
I love me some Barley’s something FIERCE! If the DVR doesn’t record my HIMYM or my sis assumes I’ve already seen it and thus deletes it, my entire week is SCREWED.
Yep, I, too, pray at the altar of Barney.
This topic is a bit discriminating. So, some men see what THEY think is a dime and automatically start making assumptions. She thinks she’s this and that, she probably has drama, she is an airhead, yada, yada, yada. Basically talking yourselves into not getting to know the woman better. How can you think all this when you probably only know her name, and sometimes not even that much?
So let’s say you do start to talk to this “dime” and now you make the girl work overtime to prove your light weight theory wrong. From that point any minor thing she does, you may amplify it just because you think she’s a dime and is bringing trouble. Mind you, she hasn’t said this or really done anything suspect, but you’ve heaped all these negative assumptions on her. Now she has to “measure up”
because you read a post on VSB by a man who is a 3!@Ivyette,
It’s not men making assumptions on first site. After you deal with people male or female that have the same characteristics you start to notice things. I didn’t notice that “dimes” had al these flaws until I was around them, had friends that dated them, and I got in a relationship with one. You talk and everyone has the same story.
Random side-note inquiry
How do I get a cute little avatar to show on my posts like you folks?
But yeah….about that list, Panama….I’ll say this…
(I’ll go along with the terminology for today)
Those who THINK that they ARE INDEED DIMES, but have funked up attitudes:
*Mentally weak – finding it difficult to think for themselves because they’re so focused on what the next mofo thinks.
*Emotionally unstable – claiming to keep their guards up cause the whole world “be hatin” on their sexy, success and their other materialistic pile of horeshyt. (Naw, it IS really because your attitude, views/perspectives IS THAT jacked up and real folks don’t care how you decipher that).
*They don’t like or rather not experienced with rolling up their sleeves and getting their hands a little dirty or A LOT (if the situation calls for it). Instead of cleaning up their own shyt (whatever that may be), they’d rather just pay someone else clean up THEIR OWN shyt FOR THEM.
*The men that fit the above description aren’t real sure how to change a tire (if need be)…he’d rather wait about an hour more or less for the AAA man…and for some the ladies who fit the bill, she can’t afford or rather refuses to budget her funds better (but she spent her last on a pair of Jimmy Choos) and so she doesn’t have roadside assistance…don’t matter her peeps paid their yearly fee of $60-70 to AAA, so she good.
*She expects her man to treat her out to dinner, but will hardly ever returns the favor.
*He spends about just as much time in the mirror (if not more) than his lady does.
@Ms. Butta’sWorth,
“She expects her man to treat her out to dinner, but will hardly ever returns the favor.”
I must say, even though I do believe in paying for most meals/outings, one of the most attractive things a woman can say is, “Baby, don’t worry ’bout the check…you paid last time, so I’ve got this one.”
Grinnin’ from ear to ear, I tell ya…
@DG,
“I must say, even though I do believe in paying for most meals/outings, one of the most attractive things a woman can say is, “Baby, don’t worry ’bout the check…you paid last time, so I’ve got this one.”
Grinnin’ from ear to ear, I tell ya…”
Its a good feeling to put a smile on your ‘ol man’s face…especially when he least expects it.
Because you know from some ladies (like the one I described), if they do decide to pick up the check, its at y’alls little spot. You know…those little hole in the wall joints, but food’s so fiyah it taste like they put their big toe in it!….but it probably won’t be nowhere near what some may consider five “starra” treatment. In their minds, that type of shyt is reserved strictly for their benefit (and if he’s planning on getting the overall presidential experience later that night)…and to top it off, you may have even treated your lady into getting her hair touched up, but you couldn’t run your paws through it later on that night for the “full experience” either. LOL
I remember I had just gotten the-do fixed…and the following evening, I was in such a good mood, I let my ex mess it all up while we were being intimate…window to the wall..to the shower and all. He said he thought that isht was sexy as hell…cuz its rare that a black woman will let you ucfk up her freshly done mane. Hahahaaaa! For me to let him do that was the icing on the cake… It takes me dayum near 2 hours to dry….hair so damn thick! But that was my nig’…
Let’s say you’ve gotten everything you’ve ever wanted
- fine as all out doors
- freak in the sheets
- Chef Boyardee in the kitchen
- Martha Stewart on the cleaning
- mba/jd/phd having
- ride or die chick, ready to scrap if need be
Now that you’ve got your Rosa Acosta (is that what you kids like nowadays?) in the passenger seat, what next?
Having been to the mountaintop twice, I’m still at a loss as to what i’m supposed to do, or how i’m supposed to feel.
Yay, I won!??
@WestIndianArchie,
Ha! Guess that’s why they call ‘em trophies. Once you get them, there’s that feeling of, “Was it even worth it?”
It’s like you have two options then:
Settle down, marry, and breed with her or…
Let the relationship/fling run its course, find another one, rinse & repeat… bagging and smashing various chicks in the process.
@WestIndianArchie,
“Chef Boyardee in the kitchen”
Chef Boyardee? Chef… Boyardee? LMAO.
Come on, man…that dude serves his slop in a can…I take you’re fond of his overstuffed raviolis?
How about cooks like Patti (LaBelle, that is)…or Paula Deen or somethin’ ??? ….or whips it up in the kitchen like G’ma and ‘nem?
But Monsieur Boyardee is no chef…at least not to me!
LOL
@WestIndianArchie,
…I say, be grateful and recognized that you are/were very blessed to find all six in one. Realize its a rarity these days, much like the use of common sense, but your were favored to find one.
Oh and humbleness goes a long way, so try not to boast. What takes a lifetime to build, can be taken overnight. Slowly chew on that.
Oh and congrats, if you both are still maintaining!
@WestIndianArchie
smh. excuse the errors, please. Lawd.
@WestIndianArchie,
Well, your boys are supposed to envy you and remind you that you won. Daily. Your entire family is supposed to pressure you to marry her, and you work hard to keep her because, whether you believe it or not, she’s your fuckin’ everything.
Right? LOL Very few men actually want to end up with a woman who embodies perfection in all things because they start having to work harder to stay intrigued by that laundry list of externals. “Wow, you made another steak and five pies from scratch. Super, you opened the can of Chef Boyardee with your teeth. Look at you, writing another dissertation. Wow, we never argue. Great, you’re greeting me bucket naked with stilettos again.”
Men never know what to do when they actually get “the package,” we all know satisfaction comes only in the pursuit for some of you douchebags. Men in general, even the rich and famous, end up with the ok lookin chick that’s known them for a long time or who is just there for them after spending half their lives alternately being exhausted by rejection or being bored boning the women they think they “really” want. They haven’t the slightest idea what to do when they get the holy grail after their first premature ejaculation on Ms. Dreamgirl (and since she’s so perfect, she doesn’t even complain that your first time was a Fail). Some men learn that ending up with someone who isn’t everyone’s ideal isn’t the same as settling.
@WestIndianArchie,
Hmm…well, if you have been to the top of the mountain (2x) and finally realized that you made it up there, I think the next step is to secure yourself… make sure another hiker doesn’t come along and push you off the peak, plummeting to your death, if you know what I mean…..
The Sasha Fierce representaive at me is side-eyeing this Bey-snark. But Ill let that slide.
*puts House Of Derrion bedazzled shank Miss Tina’s VIP Edition squirrel trimmed zebra print purse*
Moving On—->
I can understand the whole being weary of 10′s thing.
Personally I hate ratings. They make me cringe.I’ve been told im a “Dime” or at least an 8 in the looks department, and most are surprised that I actually have a personality, diverse interests, and a sense of humor. But I am super-critical of my appearance, a bit of a narcissist at times, and my husband was only the second guy I took out on a date.
Maybe I am a dime! or just cheap and vain……Ill go with cheap and vain.
I think the male dimes are a bit up for debate. Since there doesnt seem to be a “typical” aesthetic that all women go for. I have never liked pretty boys.But you can add “Superstar Jocks” to the list.
I dated atheletes in High School and conversed with a few second-string profesionals in adulthood. They all had the personalities of roof shingles!
One guys idea of a “compelling” conversation was detailing his workout routine, and discussing how he shampoo’s his hair, to achieve his 360 waves.
To top it off he called his penis the “Anaconda”. Even in High School, I couldn’t take it. My Mom always told me athletes are for dating, not for serious relationships. Maybe the same can be said for “Dimes”?
@Misty Knight,
Mom is a very smart woman.
I dated a footballer (what we called the f.b. players) in college who went on to be a pretty successful NFLer…got himself a SuperBowl ring and everything. But I refused to tell anyone that I was seeing him while I was in college….it was only in these past few months that I admitted to my friends the he and I used to kick it. Lemme tell ya, as cool as he was a person, his conversations extended all of 3 minutes and, oftentimes, were focused on how little sleep he was getting because of his morning workouts. I coulda stood on my head and sang “Single Ladies” in Thai and he still would have responded the same way….”damn, I’m tired. I need a nap.” SIGH.
@MzPW,
I. Am. Screaming. In. Laughter!!!!
FML! I forgot to close Firefox on my lunch break when my backup covers me. Back to work…
Okay this is weird for me, but here goes. People come up to me all the time to just tell me they think I’m beautiful – I’m really tall (5’10″). I’ve got a ton of curly hair and I’m black and Native American. It’s very flattering, but it sometimes makes me pretty uncomfortable. I’m about as secure/insecure as the next 25-year-old, but there is definitely a different level of insecurity when it comes to my looks.
To explain further, imagine walking down the street and people literally stare at you everywhere you go. And if (and that’s a big IF) a man does approach you, he’s 1) shocked that you actually have a personality, 2) amazed that you are smart (I’m a business writer) and 3) is doing everything in his power to impress you with how much money/power/expensive stuff he’s got which he can give to you. And it’s not like it’s some regular guy working at FedEx Corporate in the marketing department — it’s the sports agents, Fortune-500 vice-presidents and the CEO types who are about as shallow and forward as they come.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that the way I look is always on the forefront; people make it the topic by just the way they act. So when all some guy wants to talk about is the way you look (and subsequently parades you around like you’re the MVP trophy), I can see how it is hard for some people to develop a personality because others never let them do so. And if you do have a brain and a sense of humor, a lot of men/women can’t handle that. It’s a catch-22.
@ashley, you’ve got a good point…and yeah, the “higher-up” fellas (the CEOs, agents, etc.) are usually the ones who are the “lowest” when it comes to dating criteria. I guess it’s just a matter of letting that personality shine thru more than anything else and letting that other individual learn how to deal with it…..
Now wait a minute……..QUESTION.
I’ve read over and over about how men are more likely to use a number system to rate a woman’s looks (and I won’t go in on how incredibly sexist this is) and all, but are ugly men allowed to use the rating system? Just sayin’…..for example, I got into a little bit of a tiff once with some random fella on my campus. Now I’m no Beyonce but I gotta say, I’m a pretty damn awesome catch for a fella. When this fella had the nerve to try and call me ugly (all 5’4″, pre-pubescent, Betty White voice-havin’ bit of him), I doggone near fell over in laughter. Did I break the system rules or somethin’?
What about the late bloomers or the ugly ducklings that are now swans in their adulthood? The “late dimes” I guess you would say. This list wouldn’t apply.
Secondly, I tried to find merit in this list but no points are substantial. About 99% of the people I come across are attractive and extremely smart, down to earth and funny. If we made an opposite list would it say, date unattractive people because they are all super smart, nice, sane, no issues and hold great conversations? That’s completely unfounded. It depends on what that individual deems important, getting by in life on their looks or actually being more than one-dimension of “pretty.”
@Dash,
I believe that you have officially (well, for me anyway) shut down this post by giving a profoundly wise answer. I see that you too were raised well. Rock on.
I hear alot of hateration these days toward attractive women. that being said: Looking better than other women isn’t that hard nowadays because alot of women are currently looking a mess. Not only looking but acting a mess. With America getting fatter and the recession creating some super sales on beauty products being a dime is easier than it has ever been. If you’re attractive past a prime number and have ever read a book I would consider that woman a dime. If you know your way around Sephora and master cleanse bi-monthly that woman might be considered a dime but maybe she’s just a catch. Maybe you just have your ish together and so many women around you are dropping the ball that you seem like a dime but really you’re the standard women used to be and are supposed to be. Of course there will always be dumb broads who look good but a dumb broad is a dumb broad not a dime. So instead of thinking of dimes as ditzy model types why can’t a dime just be slang for a woman thats a catch? Im just sayin’
this is HILARIOUS!!! unfortunately, it won’t get the men i know to stop tryin to get the dime (while they themselves are a “4″) but it’s nice to know that someone has the foresight to at least put it out there.. so that my #4 friends can’t claim ignorance..
i love jeopardy.. play it at home.. and usually dust those that try to challenge.. it’s a good look.. my best look.. (that, and my love for PTI on ESPN) and think that any chick should at least be able to come with some mental skills.. seeing as how beauty fades.. however, the chicks down here don’t seem to think that.. and the dudes down here act like they don’t know it either..
thus the door continues revolving..
Nick
You can only go downhill from the looks. They may look awesome, but be stupid, ignorant, or just an all round horrifying person.
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Hello! New to VSB and LOVE the love and honesty circulating here!
I just HAD to comment on this post. First, I am a “dark skinned” woman with very long natural hair. I have always been told I was “model gorgeous”, but lacked the self- esteem to see what others saw in me, much like some women mentioned in earlier comments. I concur with just about everything that was previously said.
I am very intelligent, have my own, well mannered/tempered, etc. However, I find that men don’t seem… interested (?) as it is usually ME who first shows interest in others! (After reading more topics on VSB, I know this too, is Taboo!) So, for those saying those Blessed with looks may have a better shot at (superficial) social lives, I beg to differ. All of my girlfriends are gorgeous, college educated 7s at LEAST! (I think, anyway) and they don’t seem to have any qualms. Either they know how to “date down” and live comfortably financially with heel nipping pups or “date up” and get their hearts broken and time wasted with heel nipping pups! (Power of the P, perhaps?)
Now…. I do tend to ONLY attract light skinned, “pretty” haired pretty boys. I mean, hazel eyes, tall, athletic, pretty, PRETTY guys. Like, I couldn’t PAY an Ocho Cinco-esque King (lmao @ posts with the aforementioned) to give me the time of day! So, men are surprised when I show any kind of interest, in which case usually ends, when I knew it prolly shouldn’t have begun in the first place. (I am single!)
Which leads me to the last leg of my first rant and comment EVER on any site
When these “men” find out “Awwww shoouhn, she’s fooine, funny, can cook AND … intelligent?” They run like orange facecake makeup in Arizona summer heat! It’s almost like women, especially well rounded women of COLOR, can’t win for losing, or, in my case, win for winning.
All that and I still forgot my original thought! lmao
LOL. Thanks for commenting, and welcome to the site
Once i get myself together and start looking for a boyfriend again, part of my fear is that men will look at me and wonder why am I single. I might even have to lie about how long it’s been since I had a man, just so they won’t run. hard times.
What’s your definition of a dime? I can’t speak for men since i’m not one, but I would think that dating a woman who has a bangin’ body, a pretty face with a cute smile, is intelligent and anti-apathetic would be enough…correct me if i’m wrong.
and she can partially cook.
and she has a lucrative job.
and she has more than one degree.
what does that translate into?
HA! So funny. Yet so true.
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