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10 Reasons Not To Date Dimes

They are sooooooooooooooo fine.

While many men seem to believe that trying to date a supermodel doppelganger who straddles the line between Esther Baxter and the chick from the Palm Pre ad is a must-do in life, I’m here to tell you that sleeping with women who sleep with the Hornets is probably an overrated experience. Well, that is if you want anything more than another notch on your belt, like say a future. Here are 10 reasons you shouldn’t date a dime:

1. Lack of depth

Imagine waking up every day knowing that the full extent of any conversation you have will end in words like, “great” “good,” or “I like it when you do good things.” While all dimes aren’t devoid of interests, vocabulary and anything remotely resembling a soul…I give you Beyoncé. Plus, what will you ever talk about, aside from “good things.”

2. Undeveloped personalities

Really attractive women (and probably men too though I’m not sure) have largely been hot all their lives. This means they’ve been catered to forever and two days. Which means that they’ve never had to develop a real personality and sense of self. Can’t blame them. If I was hot as two chimney’s smoking, I’d tell all you regular schmoes to kick rocks and go do that reading sh*t for me. Take my test, beeeyotch.

3. “Every night, I got to prove my love…”

I think this scene says it all.

4. Nobody will give a sh*t about you

Ego and pride are the cornerstone of any man’s existence. Thing is, if you’re dating Halle Berry, nobody, and I mean NOBODY, cares who you are. They’re just amazed you’re dating her. Look at Jermaine Dupri. That smurf has GRAMMYs, millions, and was as responsible for Atlanta’s place in music legend as Gucci Mane, but all anybody could talk about for years was the fact that he somehow, someway, snagged Janet Jackson. And this was on her decline. I’ll bet dudes tried to holler at Janet in front of him like, “I hear you’re slumming these days, well I don’t have sh*t but I look better and am taller than JD and have seen a dentist in the 2000s. What’s up?”

5. You can’t do better

Anybody else you date will probably be a step down, look-wise, and being as men are shallow by nature, that’s mostly what we care about until we’re like 40…and then 50 when we really care again. What this means is that you can’t f*ck it up or you’ll have to hear for the rest of your life how you blew it with the hot chick. And you know what? Because you’re shallow, you’ll actually care. Date 6’s.

6. Jeopardy is out

Not that you know all the answers, but there’s nothing worse than somebody asking you about the questions you already know that you know nothing about. ALL OF THEM. On the flipside, what if your dime knows ALL THE ANSWERS? So she’s beautiful and smart. As much as we all want that, most men who aren’t millionaires don’t have the cajones to deal with a woman who can son them at will. She will turn you to a Jonas, since you don’t need your cajones.

7. Paranoia

All Black men come with a certain level of paranoia. Add a fine woman to the mix and all of a sudden he becomes a jealous imbecile suspecting even midgets of having a chance of stealing his woman. Somehow, men and women forget that losing your mate requires TWO actions, not just one. He/she has to want to go just as much as it requires somebody else pursuing them. You humans, so jealous.

8. Insecurity

Who needs it but along with that paranoia and ego will come some latent insecurities. Possibly. Some of us gangstas don’t have these problems. Then again, I’m a 3. DAMMIT! There goes me projecting. Ho hum.

9. Novelty always wears off

This goes back to #1. So say she’s super fine but dumb as rocks. At some you forget she’s fine and other people will have to constantly remind you. At which point you will ultimately blow it which brings us back to #5.

10. What if she’s nuts?

Dimes deal with the worst of the worst because all men want them. So what if her experiences have turned her into a psycho? But she’s fine. You’re stuck in love with a hot insane woman who you can’t justify dumping because you’re afraid you can’t do better. Life’s a b*tch, homey.

Just date 6’s.

Thoughts?

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka lower.case.p aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

Damon Young

Panama Jackson is pretty fly for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future.

  • I-think-therefore-I-am

    YEss… First.. I think!!! ( does happy dance, spirit fingers!)… anywayz I cosign on your list…I must add the only way to date a dime without any of these things coming into questions, is date a dime who doesn’t consider themself a dime.. (the joys of low self-esteem). It doesn’t matter if someone comes along and tell them they are a dime..they will still think of themself as a nickel..and since we all know nickels and below always subsitute appearance by developing their personality…you now have a diamond in the rough…a low self-esteem dime with a great personality that wouldn’t leave you because they believe because of you they are more attractive!

    • JumpOnIt

      @I-think-therefore-I-am,

      Love it.

      PS why are you up and I haven’t heard from you?
      …congrats!

    • Deeds

      @I-think-therefore-I-am, Or dating someone that just recently came into their fineness. So they still have the mind set and personality of someone not so attractive but now look great.

    • bittersweet’s baby

      @I-think-therefore-I-am,

      Just…Diabolical!

    • Keesha

      @I-think-therefore-I-am,

      That is so funny. I was just telling my girl yesterday that she needs to find a man who is good looking but think he’s not therefore having personality. It is easier said than done.
      You couldn’t have called that one any better.

    • M.E.L.

      @I-think-therefore-I-am,

      Exactly. Or as my St. Kittitian friend would say “eeeenh heeenh”

  • OmarLittle

    Great lil wayne reference. Funny you mention that line, because I actually got to know someone who ‘sleeps’ with a current Hornet, who played his college ball in the mitten state, but shall remain nameless. Girl was fine, but the more I got to know her, the less fine she became due to her lack of, well, brains.

    Oh, btw hello and sh*t from NOLA.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      @OmarLittle, welcome! *throws VSB glitter*

      • http://Www.Twitter.com/chalkolet Chalkolet

        @Liz,

        “welcome! *throws VSB glitter*”

        I love the hospitality!!

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          @Chalkolet, :) we try….

  • knightnick

    i cosign #7. Being with a bad b**tch makes a man real paranoid.

  • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

    A couple of these can apply to dating attractive men too. I’ve dealt with some attractive men who were just so damn boring, I couldn’t take it! Fine, you’re attractive, but if our conversation is making me want run my fingernails across a chalkboard, then it just won’t work. On the insecurity note, I have a friend who refuses to date fine men because she doesn’t want anyone looking at him lol.

    If Hollywood relationships are any representation of what happens when you date 8’s, 9’s and 10’s (RIP Bullock-James and Gross-Marcille
    ), then I’ll take my 1-7’s (well, no, 3-7’s) and be perfectly content!

    • Leila

      @Anike Love, “you’re attractive, but if our conversation is making me want run my fingernails across a chalkboard, then it just won’t work.”

      Co-sign! This just happened to me and the guy has both the looks and a PhD, but can’t carry a conversation to save his life. He never had anything interesting to say….

      • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

        @Leila, good looking and a PhD?? Oh my…we’ve got to find a way to work with that! lol, j/k! But seriously, that’s the worse. I’ll be sitting there trying to make excuses for why he’s technically a good catch, tryna let him pass on things I wouldn’t let some simple dude get away with. But no, it all comes down to fundamentals really, and conversing ability is one of them!

        • Leila

          @Anike Love, “good looking and a PhD?? Oh my…we’ve got to find a way to work with that! lol”

          Lol! I tried to make it work because a good-looking brother with a PhD is rare! He just completely lacked in the personality dept. He was one of those guys who was just there and had nothing interesting to say or was never up to anything. He had 1 friend and his routine was to go to work and chill.

      • http://Www.Twitter.com/chalkolet Chalkolet

        @Leila, @Anika Love

        y’all are preaching that gospel truth…. My first love was a 9.5 and his fineness completely blinded me to all his blatant flaws, like him also dating 3 other women on our 6 to 1 female to male ratio campus….dumb dumb dumb. Give me a 6, with a sense of humor and I’m good…

      • thatdude

        @Leila,

        maybe you were on the opposite end of the conversation spectrum . . . just a thought.

    • DG

      @Anike Love,

      Good to know fellas in the 3-7 range still get love….most men generally try to date “up” the scale anyway (a 6 guy will likely try to pull an 8-10 woman)…the reverse, however, doesn’t happen too often with an 8-10 man trying to get at 7’s or below.
      As for your friend, I’ve heard several women say stuff like this before.

      • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

        “most men generally try to date “up” the scale anyway (a 6 guy will likely try to pull an 8-10 woman”

        And that’s a damn shame, cuz most of those women aren’t paying these guys any mind because they know they can choose any guy they want!

        I don’t even personally use a number system, so I have no idea how a 3 would compare to a 7. To me, if you’re attractive, you’re attractive, numbers aside.

        But who gives the girls in the 3-7 range some love if all the 3-7 men are tryna date up?! The 0’s, 1’s and 2’s?! Yikes… lol

        • DG

          @Anike Love,
          “And that’s a damn shame, cuz most of those women aren’t paying these guys any mind because they know they can choose any guy they want!”

          I don’t know about this….women generally are a lil more forgiving on looks than we are. A 3-7 man is likely pretty engaging (had to develop a good personality…couldn’t rely on looks), and has other stuff going for him aside from looks (i.e., intelligence, humor, demeanor). As evident by some comments I’ve noticed by VSS in other posts, ya’ll give us bonus points for non-physical traits. So it’s quite possible for a gainfully employed, funny, and intelligent avg. looking guy (a 5) to pull an 8 or 9, cuz his intangibles bring him up to a 7 (this is how this was explained to me by diff. women..go figure).
          As for the 3-7 women…notice I said that men ‘try’ to date up….they don’t always succeed. And yes, 0,1, & 2 men set their sights high as well….makes the world go ’round…lol.

        • bittersweet’s baby

          @Anike Love,

          What DG said. Cuz we’re usually all for a fresh approach, aren’t we? A compliment on our intellect, not our ass-ets. A genuine warm smile and greeting instead of the mm-mm-mm sop you up with some biscuits n gravy goatee rub. Displays of interest in your world but not ownership when we’ve only known each other like 10 minutes… be so stunned by the down to earth engagement his physical doesn’t register much til his first act of stupidity. Which, trust, will be along shortly.

        • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

          “So it’s quite possible for a gainfully employed, funny, and intelligent avg. looking guy (a 5) to pull an 8 or 9, cuz his intangibles bring him up to a 7″

          @DG, yeah, I do see that happening. Like how in the hades did he pull her?!? Personality does make a big difference, but like my mom always says, “if you all get in an argument, at least you should be able to turn over in bed and like what you’re looking at” lol.

        • Hershey’s Kiss

          @Anike Love, I co-sign. I never understood the whole numbers rating system. If you look good, you look good. I will say that if you possess certain traits, like charm and a sense of humor, those things can make you more attractive in my eyes. But if we’re talking solely looks, attractive is attractive. Plain and simple.

      • Leila

        @DG, “the reverse, however, doesn’t happen too often with an 8-10 man trying to get at 7’s or below”

        In my experience, guys in the 8-10 are less picky than guys <7. I like guys in the 8-10 range because they're more secure and into natural looking attractive girls (less make-up, etc). I've met so many guys in the 4-6 range who say they only date dimes and expect you to be perfect and are so worried about impressing their boys. Their insecurity is tough to deal with.

    • http://myfingersarentbroken.com/ GinaMarie

      @Anike Love, Alot of these can apply to dating attractive men! LOL I have dated some of the most gorgeous men ever! But alot of them where so damn boring!!!!!! Plus they had females throwing themselves at them so they treat you like you are disposable.

      @Knightnick A lot of men are paranoid anyway even if she is a 5! LOL

      • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

        “Plus they had females throwing themselves at them so they treat you like you are disposable.”

        Eugh, that irritates the hell outta me. And I blame us women forreal! If a man is fine, he already most likely already knows it. At least be the one to make him feel like he ain’t that damn cute lol

        • http://myfingersarentbroken.com/ GinaMarie

          @Anike Love, LOL exactly!!!!!!

        • SimplisElegance (Formally lh)

          @Anike Love, lol YES!
          Someone needs to check the cuties and let them know “You may be cute but that shyt will only get you so far”

        • legitimate_soul

          @Anike Love
          “Eugh, that irritates the hell outta me. And I blame us women forreal! If a man is fine, he already most likely already knows it. At least be the one to make him feel like he ain’t that damn cute lol”

          ^I also blame women for giving the impression that the un-cute are a hot commodity. I have talked to the un-cute thinking, “you gotta be cool as phugg ’cause you ain’t cute”. If you cool, got a good heart, I can definitely work with that. Negative! Dudes thought they a*s didn’t stink and that they was finer than they was(not). Now, I know this sounds really shallow and ya’ll please forgive me. I feel bad typing it, but I gotta be honest. I love and respect healthy self-esteem like the next person, but don’t be an a**hole. Especially don’t be un-cute and an a**hole.

          Signed,
          boogawolf_soul :D

        • OrangeStar616

          @Anike Love, not that their not that fionne but that it takes more than that to impress you/lay you/get next to you etc.
          cause you ain’t the panty throwing, extra thirsty, crumb snatching press just to be on stand by type LOL

          This mofo thought I wanted him to “sweat me like all these others dudes”, when he was totally missing the point, not to sweat me, but match me be my compliment young if you that vicious, be bout me!

    • http://nearandfar.wordpress.com The Tall One

      @Anike Love,
      Thank you.
      There is nothing sadder than meeting a fine BLACK MAN who is as dumb as rocks or has no charisma, no personality to speak of. It’s like drinking a FLAT COKE. Horrible.

  • http://dayandadream.com Brando

    Reason #10 is the main reason why Reggie Bush just made the best decision of his career post-USC.

    Plus, whenever you deal with a dime – you have to deal with “dime decisions” (aka sh*t that only makes sense to fine people and fine people alone) and the majority of these decisions will leave you with your hand in your pockets like Eddie Murphy from Raw. “Okay…”

    Which always made me wonder about Amber Rose, because I’m certain she has no personality but tries to use her body AS her personality. Does that even make sense? lol

    • sanen85

      @Brando, I think I’m gonna need more examples of “dime decisions”.

      • http://dayandadream.com Brando

        @sanen85,

        A dime decision is one made without any usage of common sense. Constant things that get on your nerves (like breaking of the “relationship rules” for example) but you refuse to break up with them merely because … they fine as hell.

        Ex. Best friend of mine used to date this girl who could have been a model on her worst day. Only problem was, she spent money like it wasn’t worth anything and all he could do was tell her, it’ll be okay. Don’t worry.

        I almost wanted to slap him myself but then again, he’s 6’1″ and I’m 5’7″ in the shade. He broke up with her after realizing how her silly decisions made him feel stupid.

        • sanen85

          @Brando, oh, I got you. I just don’t think this kind of decision making applies to dimes exclusively.

        • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

          @sanen85, the decision making may not apply to dimes only, but the thought process behind it and possibly thinking that you’re going to do what you want and no one is gonna tell you “no” (how dare they?! looking this fine?!) definitely do.

          Plus, I guess “dime decisions” have an effect on the people around them too. If the Brando’s boy’s ex was more unfortunate looking, I think he woulda thrown her back into the sea a lot sooner than he did lol.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      @Brando, you right about Amber.

    • http://jdiva.wordpress.com chaoticdiva

      lol!

    • ComicBookGuy

      @Brando,

      “…the majority of these decisions will leave you with your hand in your pockets like Eddie Murphy from Raw. “Okay…””

      If only THAT Eddie could come back to this plane of reality, my life would so much greater.

      • http://dayandadream.com Brando

        @ComicBookGuy,

        Is it a shame that most of the jokes in that comedy special (esp. about relationships) STILL ring true 20 years later?

        • ComicBookGuy

          @Brando,

          Man, I hear parts from it on satellite radio all the time and that stuff is still so relevant today.

    • Sula

      @Brando,

      Actually I think Amber Rose has a personality… Something about her tells me she does.

      (could be my girl crush on her…. ;))

      • http://dayandadream.com Brando

        @Sula,

        Don’t worry. As much as I question whether or not it exists, I’m looking for one too. ;)

        Sorry, she’s probably the only chick sporting the tennis ball whom I’d consider for dating material. Her and Solange.

        • Sula

          @Brando,

          Yup. Amber is bad. :)

  • Leila

    Co-sign with your list Panama! It’s also really hard to date a guy who’s a 10 too unless you’re really secure because it’s hard to deal with every women checking out/hitting on your guy. I’ve experienced this and getting disrespected and having women spread lies to end the relationship was not cool.

    • http://myfingersarentbroken.com/ GinaMarie

      @Leila, co-sign. I have dealt with that same sh*t. I think even the most secure woman would probably have a problem with it.

    • Scipio Africanus

      @Leila, I would think it’s probably even harder for women to date Man-10’s because, in general, women consider Man-10’s to be extremely rare. Plus, alot of women think the rules they enforce on men (don’t oogle me; don’t touch me; leave me alone in the street; etc.) don’t apply to them when they see a guy they like alot. I’ve heard styories about women grabbing dudes’ junk and acting like it was okay, or more specifically, acting like the dude really wouldn’t mind that.

      The perception that a “fine man” is a a super-rare thing leads some women to do whatever they want.

  • sanen85

    I don’t know any 9 or 10s (men or women) in my real life, well at least based on looks alone, but I assume your list is on point.

    • sanen85

      Ooooh, I just thought of one. The girl who works in the office at my apartments is gorgeous, probably rate a 10 on anyone’s scale. She is really nice, smart, funny, etc. (as far as I can tell), so I guess she is the exception to the rule.

  • Made In Hawaii

    “I give you Beyoncé”
    LOL! My sister and I have often discussed how Bey’s favorite word is amazing. I swear… she’d use that dang word to describe a 12 hour long documentary on acid reflex.

    • bittersweet’s baby

      @Made In Hawaii,

      And she’s not genuine in her reponses, either, which makes it worse. Watching her suffer through an interview is like watching someone on valium read from a fuzzy teleprompter but with a 3 second delay.

      • bittersweet’s baby

        Ooooh or the lil girl robot from the old tv show, Small Wonder… what was her name? Becky?

  • http://lizburr.com Liz

    I still have this problem where the guys I am attracted to have horrible personalities/integrity, and the ones I love talking to don’t do it for me (not saying they’re ugly, they just don’t do “it” for me). Needless to say, dimes are the least of my worries.

    • sanen85

      @Liz, you are not alone in this.

    • http://jdiva.wordpress.com chaoticdiva

      @Liz,

      Ditto. Its like the ones I’m interested in, their parents DNA forgot to give them a personality. Just saying.

    • legitimate_soul

      @Liz,

      ^I have so been there.

    • OrangeStar616

      @Liz, ahh you feel my pain. I dealt with and unfortunately cared for a super sexy and handsome narcissist, not a pleasant exp.
      Lookwise I haven’t come across anything comparable, but he wasn’t a very nice person as far as treatment of women. Lacked substance was a bit of an asshole, extremely selfish, promiscuous etc

      Now I have encountered folks with substantive qualities that would put him to shame, but whose looks left me very cold.

      so its tough to find the right mix.

    • http://anikeunscripted.wordpress.com Anike Love

      @Liz, girllllll *hugs* why is this? It’s so painful. The phone rings, your heart flutters because you think…it’s…damnit! It’s not Mr. Fine. I haven’t quite figured out this problem yet either :-/

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        @Anike Love, LOLOL! At least you get calls….

    • ComicBookGuy

      @Liz,

      Hey, Liz. My comments aren’t coming up when I type them in at the bottom of the post. Am I saying a bad word or something?

      • ComicBookGuy

        @ComicBookGuy,

        Nevermind. :)

  • http://jdiva.wordpress.com chaoticdiva

    From now on, whoever says I’m a dime, I’m going to feel insulted from this article.

    Not saying that people call me a dime, because they don’t. And not saying that I’m fine, although my momma gave me not-quite-Sade-but-still-really-good anti-aging genes.

    Just saying. Carry on good people…

    • lulu

      @chaoticdiva,
      “From now on, whoever says I’m a dime, I’m going to feel insulted from this article.”

      Exactly. This is ruining my self esteem. *places hand against forehead dramatically*